rSlash - r/AITA Coworker Hates Me for Saving Her Life

Episode Date: January 26, 2025

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and had us attend a day-long presentation about our goals for the next quarter. We're in sales and it's highly competitive and the group consisted of mostly older employees with me being the youngest. After a full day of meetings, a few of us decided to get dinner at a restaurant down the street from our hotel. We carpooled and when we arrived, one of the older ladies, Deborah, who's in her 50s, was already there standing at the bar. We invited her to join us for food, but she declined, and we moved on with our night. I had two beers with dinner, so I'm not judging, but as we finished our meal, it became clear that Deborah was plastered. She was stumbling, even though the ground was level and was slurring pretty badly.

As we left, Deborah came outside with us and reached for her car keys. I immediately stopped her and said that I would drive her back to our hotel. She agreed, but as she went to grab the passenger door handle, she missed and fell straight back onto the pavement, hitting the back of her head. I don't mean to sound gross, but it sounded like someone dropped a carton of eggs. I checked and not only was she passed out, but she was bleeding from her head. Everyone panicked and I grabbed my phone to call 911. One of the younger guys stopped me and said,

Help me get her in the car. We'll get her room key out of her purse and just put her in bed. I was bewildered and said, but she has a head injury, she's bleeding, what if she cracked her skull? I'm no doctor, but if you go to sleep with a head injury, don't you not wake up? I'm pretty sure I learned that in school and some of the other employees agreed with me so I called an ambulance. Paramedics took Debra to the hospital and she survived, though she was in really bad

shape when I checked on her the next day. Here's where I might be the butthole. Our managers found out that Debra was hospitalized for overdrinking while technically at a work function and they fired her on the spot. Everyone also found out that I was the one who insisted on calling an ambulance. The older employees are all saying that I did the right thing and that she could have died. But the younger ones are calling me a snake saying that I got her fired on purpose because

she was competition. Am I the butthole? Well, I'm also not a doctor. But I heard someone talking about boxing or like mixed martial arts, and I believe they said that punching someone on the back of the head was a really big no-no because you can seriously screw someone up in some way. Basically, back of the head head injuries are especially bad. Apparently.

I mean, regardless, regardless of where the head injury was, if someone's bleeding from the skull, front, back, top, whatever, if someone's bleeding from the skull, front, back, top, whatever, I think you're totally justified in calling an ambulance. Yo, she could've died, OP. And also, she was the one who made the decision to get completely plastered at a work function, so I think you're totally in the clear, OP. Actually, I think you did the right thing here. You get zero out of five buttholes.

I guess, look, if Deborah... one out of five buttholes. I guess I'll give Debra one out of five buttholes. She's not really a butthole. She just made really questionable choices. And I'm giving the manager zero out of five buttholes too. I probably would have also fired Debra in that situation. If she gets that drunk at a work function, it's safe to reason that she would get that drunk in front of clients as well. Am I the butthole for telling my 19 year old daughter that she'll have to move out of

my house if I get divorced because of her lies after her stepdad saw her naked? My husband and I have been married for a little over 5 years now. I will say that my daughter and my husband have an okay relationship. Not exactly father and daughter, but more of like a advice giving relationship basically. I never picked up anything weird from my husband towards my daughter, and my daughter has never said or insinuated anything at all as well. On Thursday, me and my husband were watching a movie in the living room. We paused the movie because he had to go use the bathroom.

I heard him knocking on the door twice. Literally, three knocks each time on the door a couple of seconds apart. Literally… It was loud enough for me to hear him knocking from the living room. place. Literally, three knocks each time on the door a couple of seconds apart. Literally it was loud enough for me to hear him knocking from the living room. The next moment I heard screaming. I rushed to the bathroom and saw my daughter completely naked covering herself and yelling at my husband to get out. I didn't see everything that happened, but what I saw after I heard yelling was that

my husband literally fell over his own feet struggling to get out of the bathroom and close the door. I asked my husband what happened and he said he knocked, nobody answered, so he went in and my daughter was naked in front of the mirror and he tried to leave. After my daughter calmed down, I asked her side of what happened and she said that she was changing and all of a sudden my husband walked into the bathroom I asked her why she didn't answer him when he knocked. She said he didn't knock I told her I heard him knock so I'm sure that he did

She said she didn't hear it because she had earpods in listening to music We got the situation sorted and my husband did apologize to her and explained that he thought the bathroom was empty and walked in. She even gave him a hug and apologized for yelling at him. The problem now is that my daughter got family members involved and they're now calling my husband a creep. I got a call from my sister berating me for still having my husband in the house. I asked what she meant and it came out that my daughter spun a whole other story and left out the fact that she was listening to music with her earpods and is telling everyone that she answered him and he still walked into the bathroom to look

at her. We have cameras in our hallway that proves that my husband did knock. I sat my daughter down and asked her and she denied saying anything like that or that she told anyone anything. I got mad and asked, and she denied saying anything like that or that she told anyone anything. I got mad and asked, then how does your aunt know what happened? And she went silent. She said that she talked to her niece about it and she must have told her mother. I asked her why did she lie about what happened and made my husband look bad when he did nothing wrong.

And she again denied lying about anything and I told her what my sister told me. She just started to cry and say sorry. She said that she was just talking and making up scenarios with her niece. The whole day yesterday I got calls and texts from my family members as the story spread. The wrong story is spreading and my husband is looking like a creep to everyone. I sat my daughter down again and had her read some of the things being said about my husband and told her she has to fix this because her lying caused it. She refused saying that she didn't spread this and she only told her niece and doesn't

want to say anything to anyone because they'll think badly about her. She said they know my husband and this will just blow over. Everything blew up when my husband walked into the living room with his bags packed and said he was going to stay with his parents for a while because he doesn't want to be in the situation anymore, where he's made out to be this kind of person. My daughter broke down and apologized repeatedly and said that she'll fix it, but my husband still left. I told her that if I get divorced because of her lies, she'll be moving out of still left. I told her that if I get divorced because of her lies, she'll be moving out of my house. I told her she better fix what she did and tell everyone what

really happened because I will not be losing a man that loves and actually cares for me like my husband does over lies. She asked me to help her and I told her no, she's not a child anymore and her lies for attention did this. This is on her. I already tried and now I'm also being accused of taking my husband's side and not providing a safe space for my daughter. Then OP posted an update, which I'm going to summarize because she just kind of repeats herself for most of it. But the gist of it is that OP's husband asked for a divorce.

OP's family has been harassing him, calling him, all sorts of terrible things, and the news has even gotten to his work, which is risking his job. Then my daughter came running down the hallway into the living room, crying because I think she was listening to our conversation. Before she could get a word out, my husband jumped up from the couch, put his hands out and asked her not to get near him. He said, before you say anything, I'll have to record this conversation now and took out his phone.

I think I saw something break in my daughter's eyes at that moment at the realization of everything hitting her all at once. She asked my husband to forgive her and she never meant for things to get so out of hand. She was just making up scenarios with her cousin and her cousin was the one who ran with it. My husband asked her, why didn't you clear it up immediately then? She said that she didn't think that it would go this far and thought that it would just blow over because everyone knows him.

He showed her his phone and asked her to read some of the messages my family sent him and my daughter went completely silent. We talked for about four hours and at the end, my husband said that he would give us three months to move out of the house because it's his house. My daughter can keep the car because it was a gift and he'll finish paying this year's tuition but won't pay for anything going forward. He said he hasn't gotten a lawyer yet but he told me to get one, that he would like to do this without a lawyer but if I to, I can get one. He said that he'll be fair in the divorce and doesn't harbor anything against me, but he can't stay in the relationship.

My daughter was just sitting on the floor, looking like a ghost. My husband was talking like the last five years meant nothing and it was just easy to move on. The best way to describe it was like he was returning something to the store. He left the house and I just sat on the couch. I don't know if I was crying, talking or what. I can't remember much because everything was muffled around me. Until my daughter started to full on cry saying, sorry, sorry, sorry over and over again laying

on the floor. I don't know how long I sat on the couch, but when I got up, I saw my husband's car still in the driveway. I looked out the window and I could see him full on crying in the car. Seeing that completely broke me. My daughter and I haven't talked since my husband was here Friday. Not a word to each other. My family members have showed up to the house to apologize because apparently my daughter

has all of a sudden now cleared everything up and she herself shared the video from the camera with the family members. Every time they show up, I just close the door in their faces. I've gotten Facebook, Instagram, calls and texts from them, and when I block them, they keep making new accounts or use different numbers. I don't want to lose my husband, I really don't. This is the first man I've ever met that has actually treated me with kindness, respect, and love, and now it's all over. I've tried to talk to him and tried to convince him to go to counseling with me,

but every time I've tried, he says that I can't. I can't take the risk. Then OP posted another very long update, which I'll summarize. First off, things are kind of grim and sad, and the daughter moved out of OP's house. OP is also staying with a friend. OP's daughter tried to talk to OP's ex and he got a restraining order against her, which she violated so he got her arrested. OP says, I don't know what went on in her head. I tried to talk to her, but she admitted that she'll fix everything. But like I said,

my ex has a restraining order against her and then he had her arrested when she kept going to him. OP says, My daughter will have to drop out of college because my ex is now refusing to continue covering everything else for her and retracted his offer to continue paying. He sent me a message saying he's done. That I didn't respect his wishes so I had to get out of his house immediately and my daughter also went against his wishes so he's retracting everything from her as well.

She's on her own. He said that if I or my daughter continues harassing him, he'll open up a case against my daughter for defamation. I don't want anything. I just want him back. Even with everything that happened, I still want my husband, the kind, caring, sweet man that I had.

I want him back. I need him to come back." I told him that my daughter moved out of the house and asked again if we could try to fix our marriage. And he didn't even respond. I can definitely understand why OP is so torn up about losing her husband because the husband in this story seems like a really stand-up guy. But yo, this relationship is over. He is intentionally burying his feelings. This marriage is dead. And your daughter killed it, OP. Am I the butthole for not bringing my wallet to dinner with my friend to teach her a lesson?

I'm a 28 year old woman and last night I went to dinner with a close friend and decided to leave my wallet at home. My friend has a habit of forgetting her wallet when we go out, leaving me to foot the bill. I thought this time if she conveniently forgot again, it might finally push her to take responsibility. I felt like I was being taken advantage of and I was completely fed up. As expected, when the check came, she padded her pockets, rummaged through her purse and said, Oh my god, I forgot my wallet. Where the hell is it? It's the same song and dance every time. I simply responded, me too. It was really awkward.

She looked at me with the most disgusted expression I've ever seen. But then I could tell she started to panic. She was upset with me for putting her on the spot, but I was frustrated by her repeated behavior. She told me I was a horrible person for publicly humiliating her. I didn't think that it was fair to keep covering for her without saying anything. She was able to use Apple Pay, thankfully, and I could tell that she was embarrassed. Oh, she had Apple Pay. What a funny coincidence. You mean she could have paid her half

with Apple Pay all this time, but she just conveniently forgot? Interesting. OP, you get zero out of five buttholes. Your scamming friend gets one out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my ex's mom why we broke up? I'm a 27-year-old woman, and I broke up with my 33 year old boyfriend a few days before

Christmas. His mom reached out to me right after Christmas saying that she missed me and I hoped that I was feeling better and that she'd see me soon. I was supposed to go to his parents for Christmas, but obviously didn't since I broke up with him. That's when I realized that he must not have told them that we broke up and even lied that the reason I wasn't there was because I was sick. I reached out to him and told him. That's when I realized that he must not have told them that we broke up and even lied that the reason I wasn't there was because I was sick. I reached out to him and told him. He said that he hadn't told his parents yet and it's not their business. Fast forward to a few days before New

Year's Eve and his mom texted me asking if I was coming over to their family party. I told her no and said that we had broken up. When she asked why, I told her to ask her son. Later, my ex texted me flipping out saying that he'd already said it wasn't their business and to leave his family alone. I told him that she was the one who reached out to me and the only reason I told her was because I didn't want her to keep texting me. I told him I didn't tell her why and told her to ask him. Last weekend, I heard through a mutual friend that my ex was going around telling people that he broke up with me because I'm crazy. I was upset that he had the nerve to be bad mouthing me and lying trying to make me look like the bad guy

when I was keeping my mouth shut on what really happened. In reality, he got blackout drunk and got physical with me. So I told the mutual friend the true story, including photos of my injuries. I then also forwarded the same photos and story to his mom. I said, just so you know the true reason we broke up. I heard he's spinning the story against me. Your son is abusive and has hurt me on numerous occasions. I wish you the best, but I wanted to clear up whatever he may have told you. His mom was super apologetic and took my side.

Then my ex blew up my phone flipping out saying what happened between us was no one else's business. I had no plans on sharing that with our friends or his family, but when I heard that he was calling me crazy I felt like it was only fair to say what actually happened. Did I cross the line though? I feel like maybe I was the butthole for saying that to his mom instead of just telling her mutual friend. OP, why do you care about the opinion of abusers? He's upset?

Oh no, oh not the abuser being upset, Oh, whatever we're gonna do. Who cares, man? You took the high road here, OP, but keep in mind, when you take the high road, that also means I've got the high ground, Anakin, which just makes it that much easier to deliver the finishing blow. That was R slash Amai the Butthole, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast

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