rSlash - r/AITA for Calling Cops on a 11-year-old?

Episode Date: December 23, 2025

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So about a week and a half ago, my son's phone was taken from his bag at primary school. I managed to track it using Find My iPhone, and it led me to a house. From that house, I banged on the front door, and it was answered by a mother. I explained that I tracked my son's phone to this house, and from this, there discovered her son and two of his friends had just been there. She calls her son and then I follow her in my car to a second kid's house. At this house, all three kids are there and I tell them, I don't care who stole it, just hand it back and it's done. All three kids swear black and blue that they've never seen it and know nothing about it. I exchange numbers with the mom from the

first house and the dad from the second house. Then I have to leave, knowing full well one of them has it. I get home and receive a call from the mom from the first house. She checked the security cameras from her house and discovered the kid from the second house who swore they'd never had a phone is miraculously holding a phone in the footage. This footage has already been sent to the dad. The next minute, I get a message from the guilty kids mom asking if she can come to my house. Her and her son arrived teary-eyed and apologetic. I just ask for the phone back and she shakes her head saying that he smashed and destroyed it. It was only an iPhone XC, so it's not expensive. But as a single mom working full-time, that was my means of communication with my son.

She asked if she could buy me a phone now. I ask if she could just give me $100. She agrees and is happy to pay that. It's been over a week now, and she stopped replying to my messages and won't answer any calls. Last message I sent was me saying if I didn't receive payment, I would report and charge her 11-year-old son. So am I the butthole if I charge him for theft and destruction of property? Also, as a side note, I have camera footage, admission of guilt in her text messages, and agreeing she would pay as well as her son admitting to the school that he stole it as well. So we have enough evidence to go forward. You know, if that mom didn't want her kid to be charged, she had an out. You offered her an out. Just fork over the money, buy a new phone, and everyone can just move on from

But she dug in her heels, so, you know, actions have consequences for both the kid and the mom. O.P., I'd do it, because if you don't, what would stop the kid from just stealing the next phone from your son as well? O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving the others 2.5 out of five buttholes. Also, down in the comments, we have this very relevant story from your alien. I've been through this with my daughter. We sent the police. Never happened again. and the offender left all my daughters alone after that. Am I the butthole for telling my wife that I'll lose respect for her if she doesn't apologize? My wife and I have three kids.

Thursday, my wife was helping our nine-year-old with her homework. She was supposed to fill in a chart with the timetables. That was a hectic day. Our four-year-old threw up and I was trying to clean him up. And my wife was having trouble getting our nine-year-old to focus on what she was doing because she kept looking at me. Our nine-year-old hates math. and is pretty bad at it, which annoys my wife, who was usually fantastic at math.

My wife asked our daughter what seven times seven was. Our daughter said she didn't know. My wife kept telling her to try to think of any answer. Our daughter kept saying she didn't know. My wife was getting frustrated. Our daughter finally guessed 37. My wife said, close, 47. Our 13-year-old then said,

No, mom, it's 49. My wife snapped at that point and told him to shut up and go upstairs. He went to the backyard instead. My wife took a deep breath and then went to our room. I finished with our 4-year-old and then went outside. I tried to talk to my son, but he didn't want to listen. He kept saying, but dad, 7 times 7 is 49. I told him that his mom just got frustrated and didn't mean to yell at him. He kept insisting that 7 times 7 is 49, which I'm aware of, so I got nowhere. I went back inside to talk to my wife. She said she knew she shouldn't have yelled. She said she was frustrated because he was distracting her, and that's why she made the mistake.

I pointed out that she made the mistake before he said anything. She started crying and asked why I was being so critical. I apologized, oh, come on. Oh, man, I'm not even married to this woman, and I'm three paragraphs in, and I'm already exhausted by her. And I told her I loved her. We hugged it out, but then I asked her if she was going to go and apologize to our 13-year-old. She said no, because he shouldn't have interrupted her. She said that he was rude and needed to learn not to interrupt.

I told her it's not okay to tell him to shut up. We went back and forth. And finally I said that I won't be able to respect her as much if she doesn't apologize. That really hurt her. She said she needed space. She hasn't said a word to me or him since Thursday. I know that what I said is harsh, but I can't respect someone who won't apologize when they make a mistake. Am I the butthole? My sister says I am because I'm not being supportive and our 13 year old is a lot.

People who can never be wrong are just so soul-sucking. This woman tried to gaslight O.P. And O.P. was like, oh, actually, that's not true. This other thing happened instead. And she blows up at O.P. And O.P. has to apologize when he's the one who's right, when she's the one who's wrong. God, these people piss me off. Giving your son the cold shoulder for damn. days because he was right about a math problem? He wasn't even snarky about it. O.P., your wife is a word that starts with the letter B that I can't say on YouTube. But she is. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. Your obnoxious wife gets three out of five buttholes.

Am I the butthole for refusing to financially support my parents and explaining why when my brother asked? I'm a 38-year-old woman, and I've been living in a different state from my family for over 10 years. I've supported myself the entire time and rarely asked anyone for help. I didn't grow up with my parents. My grandmother supported and raised me, and I never had a close relationship with them. Last year, I went on vacation with my siblings. During the trip, I found out that my youngest brother, who's 29, who makes the most money out of all of them, has been paying the mortgage and most of our parents' living expenses.

He asked me why I wasn't helping financially. Since he asked directly, I answered honestly. I told him that our parents didn't support me growing up and that I still remember when my grandmother asked me to write them a letter requesting financial support for my education. My mom wrote back to my grandmother saying she should teach me not to ask them for money because what my dad earned was just enough for them and my three siblings. My grandmother let me read that letter, which I don't think my mom knows.

I told my brother that I contributed financially when we immigrated and that I paid rent when I live with them for two years. I also used whatever money I earned to help support my grandmother, who actually raised me until she passed away. After I moved to a different state, I've been completely on my own with zero financial help. Because of that history, I didn't feel responsible for supporting our parents now. Apparently, my brother told my mom,

she confronted me via text and accused me of being disrespectful as a child. I explained my side and the experiences that, shape my feelings. She mentioned times that she believes I was disrespectful, including verbal and physical conflicts. I explained that these incidents didn't happen in isolation and were often triggered by her actions, such as trying to persuade my grandmother to send me somewhere to dance for money. What? Strip Club? Or deliberately ruining my school uniform by putting soy sauce on it? I told her she hadn't treated me like a mother should when I was growing up. The conversation didn't go well, and afterward my mom stopped talking to me. Eventually, the rest of my family did too. Now I'm

basically no contact with all of them. I feel like I told the truth and set a reasonable boundary, but somehow I'm the one who ended up alone. O.P., why on earth should you have to pay people who didn't raise you, and instead told you to go work in a strip club? Screw them, they can pay their own mortgage. OP, you get zero out of five buttholes. The fact that they cut you off and went no contact is honestly just a bonus. Am I the butthole for dropping my kids off with my wife when she was with a grieving friend? My wife's best friend, Jesse, lost her husband about a month ago. My wife has been at Jesse's home almost every day since. My job has me on call some nights, and money is tight, so I can't not be on call. I know Jesse is struggling, but it's stressing me

out a ton to be basically a single parent since my wife is never home. I've talked to her about cutting back, but that ends in an argument about me being heartless. Yesterday I was on call and I actually got called in. I couldn't leave our two daughters home alone, ages six and nine, so I called my wife telling her she needs to head home now and I need to leave. She told me no and to figure it out. We don't have money for a sitter, my parents live too far away, her parents aren't allowed near the kids, they suck. And my friends had their own lives and families. So I packed up the kids and on my way to work, drop them off at Jesse's house. My wife was pissed that I did that. When I got back, we got into a huge argument and I told her that she actually needs to be a parent, that I'm very

sick of her playing house at Jesse's house and we have our own kids. She thinks that I'm a heartless effing man and I told her to be a parent to our own kids. I'm going to read this top reply from Virtual Map. A day with the grieving friend is needed. A week is kindness. month when you have kids at home is bizarre. You know what I'd like to know is, would O.P.'s wife be okay if O.P. quit his job, or at least took time off, and spent the entire month not working with Jesse as well, also offering emotional support, of course. Because the wife can neglect her side of things. Is it okay if the husband neglects his side of things? She keeps calling him heartless, but you know what else is heartless? The bills! The bills don't care if you're

grieving or if your friend is sad. You got to pay that stuff or electricity Get shut off, man! O.P., I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your neglectful wife three out of five buttholes. Will I be the butthole for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving? My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kid. Roughly 20 to 25 people, including kids. My family is only two people with one six-month-old baby. In the group chat, it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he brought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responded that every family has to bring $100 worth of food minimum to help my nephew pay for the meat. I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset. The following day in the group chat, my sister said. Option one, bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself. Option 2. Help Thomas pay for the meat. $100 per family. Option 3. Help Dad pay the water bill. $200 per family. Choose wisely. Upset. I responded with option 4. Don't show up. Am I being a butthole if I don't show up at all in protest to this $100 minimum rule?

Yeah, I think the sister's being a little overly picky here. This is just a potluck. It's not a big deal. If O.P. wants to bring mashed potatoes, it's fine. There is some fishiness going on here because $100 per family among 25 people means that Thomas would get paid back like a thousand bucks. Opie, I think the power play is to buy $100 worth of potatoes and, you know, butter and whatever else, and make $100 worth of mashed potatoes. Anyways, Opie, I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. That was our slash am I the butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.