rSlash - r/AITA for Calling the Cops on my Whiny Husband?

Episode Date: June 15, 2026

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Welcome to R-slash Am I the Butthole, where O.P. calls the cops on her own husband. Am I the butthole for calling 911 about my husband's suicide threats, even though I knew they weren't real? My husband and I were in a fight yesterday. When our fights get really bad, he threatens to hurt himself. I have to talk him down every time. And then he brings up how I almost brought him to commit suicide or self-harm every fight for the next few months. Over years of this, I've caught on that it's a control tactic when things aren't going his way in a fight, and he especially does this when I talk about leaving him.

I've wanted to leave for years, but he always talks me out of it or threatens self-harm. Yesterday we were driving, and he got angry because I told him to stop being so harsh with our autistic toddler who was having a meltdown. My husband pulled over and started walking and told me to leave him alone. Reactions like this are common with him. He wants me to follow him and beg for his forgiveness. I am so done with his games, so I didn't follow him this time. I just hopped in the driver's seat and kept driving to my destination. Long story short, when I didn't react the way he wanted, he texted me saying that he was a danger to himself.

Of course, that got my attention. I have friends and family who have killed themselves, and I'm terrified of the one time I stopped taking it seriously being the one time at actually. actually happens. So I took it seriously and turned around to look for him. He called me and said that he just attempted to kill himself. Long story short, I found him completely unharmed, but I took it seriously and took him home. The whole way home, he threatened to kill himself at home. We have a gun at home. And if I don't take him home, he'll call the police and say that he's being held against his will. We had our three tiny kids in the back of the car, and I was trying to keep things as calm as I could for

them so they were watching a movie. I took him home, hoping he was bluffing, and he immediately ran into the house and locked us all out. I decided enough was enough and called 911. Four cop cars came. It was a whole scene. They separated us and talked to us out on the front lawn. We live on a busy street, and it felt like the whole city was watching. People were making U-turns to go back and forth to watch us. The cops said that there was nothing they could hold him on because he was suddenly acting casual and fine. I knew deep down that this was most likely another performance, but I've had enough, and I wanted him to see how serious this was.

Now my husband is angry with me. Very angry. Our entire neighborhood is texting him asking what happened, and he says that I ruined his reputation and caused him more stress. He says I made things way worse. I'm very curious to see what the comments say, but before anything else, I just got to say, having a suicidal person and a gun in the house seems very stupid.

O-P, I wouldn't sweat it. Either he's serious, in which case you should call the cops, or he's lying, but how can you know he's lying? And if he is lying, he deserves to be called out. So you get zero out of five buttholes. Your husband is an absolute whiny man baby. You need to take and or hide and or destroy the gun, get rid of it somehow, and then leave this man immediately.

He's acting, honest to God, like a petulant-old who throws a temper tantrum whenever he doesn't get his way. Am I the butthole for refusing to donate a kidney to my stepdad who raised me and paid for my college? So my stepdad, who's 56, has severe kidney failure and is looking for a transplant. His immediate family isn't compatible, so my mom told me, a 27-year-old guy, to get myself tested. I'm a bit wary of the risks of a kidney transplant, so I was hoping the whole time, that I would not be compatible. The results came back and turns out I was. Even though I'm afraid of the transplant, I was considering it for a while as my stepdad is a great guy. He joined our family while I was in high school and took me in like his own. When he married my mom, he told me that he'll

take care of my tuition and other living costs for me. I told my mom the results, but specifically asked her to keep it quiet for a few days so that I could have some time to process it. At the same time, I was also hoping another donor would come in to help out. Alas, literally the next day, the whole family was texting me and giving me their thanks already. I didn't want to cave into the pressure, so I told them that I'll not be doing it. My stepdad was incredibly graceful and just said that he understands. The problem is that my mom and other family members went absolutely ballistic. They called me all sorts of names and said that if it weren't for my stepdad, we would have been out on the

streets. I do think that she's right regarding that, but at the same time, I'm just not ready to go through the whole operation. Also, it left a really bad taste in my mouth, how I feel like they just expect me to do it as if it's the easiest thing to do. Meanwhile, they don't have the same pressure put upon them because they're all incompatible. Anyways, I might still go back on my decision, as I do have time, but right now, I'm just not so sure. Then down in the comments, we have an amazing reply from Sweet Lobster. If you live in the U.S., there are donor programs where anyone can give one of their kidneys to a stranger, and in return, they receive a voucher to give to the person of their choice to bypass the waiting list. So anyone in your family or friend circle can save your stepdad. It's not

solely on your shoulders. Yeah, O.P. I'd love to be in the room when O.P. shares that little piece of information. Actually, you're all compatible. So, which one of you is it going to be? Am I the butthole for telling my date off for treating it like a job interview? I'm a 25-year-old guy, and I met this 29-year-old woman on Bumble and went out with her yesterday. It's been a few months since I went on a date, and to be honest, I just wanted to get myself back out there, so even if I wasn't 100% sure about this person, I decided to go in with an open mind and see what happens. Unfortunately, it felt less like a date and more like she was interviewing me for a position. Throughout the whole date, which was over drinks and dinner, she asked specifics about my job, such as what I do,

how much I make, etc. She looked disappointed when I told her that I was entry level and had only been working for a year, which I don't get why she's shocked. That's pretty normal for a 24 to 25 year guy in Canada since we mostly graduate at 23 here. It hasn't even officially been two years since my convocation yet. She also kept asking me how I'd react to certain scenarios such as, what if my kid expressed a certain train of thought, etc. And she also asked when I was planning on having kids, which isn't something I'm even thinking about right now. None of my friends are, to be honest. My final straw was when she asked how much I make exactly. WTF? At that moment, I started laughing and disgust and told her, I think it's time to end the date and I got up. When she asked and tried

getting me to stay, I told her she reminded me of my HR department and I told her that it was the worst first date that I've been on in five years. It really actually was. She was shocked and I took that opportunity to simply pay my tab and leave without saying anything more. Looking back, I feel a little bad. She looked really sad when I told her that, and I wonder if I went a little too hard. You know, I can kind of sympathize with the woman here. I assume that she just doesn't want to waste time. You know, she doesn't want to date an F boy or a guy who isn't serious about the future and waste the next six months figuring it out, so she wants to figure it out on the first date. However, the way that she's going about that is really wrong. A normal way to approach it is like,

what are your career goals and aspirations, you know, not sign this NDA and, you know, not sign this NDA, and pee in this cup so I can do a drug test, and let me see your tax return. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving her 0.5 out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my sister that she is the common denominator in her failed relationships? I'm a 28-year-old guy, and my sister is 31. She's always struggled with dating. She takes pride in her appearance, has a good job, and has owned her house for years, so she can start dating people easily. Unfortunately, after a few months, the relationships always start to collapse.

In her most recent relationship, she met Tony, who's 34, on a dating app in January, and they hit it off. She was immediately spending weekends away with him, and he was meeting the family, and we were being told that he was the one. We were even hearing that they were spending time going into jewelry shops and earmarking rings for a future proposal. Around a week ago, we heard from my sister that it's over, and he initiated the breakup. She started off with saying that she was heartbroken and she thought that he was different than the other guy she's dated. But clearly, he was just like the rest and didn't know a good thing when he saw it. She showed us the text conversation that resulted in their breakup, and it read exactly like her past three or four breakups she's had. After the honeymoon period, she has a tendency to 180 on some of the characteristics that she's built up at the start of the relationship,

such as enjoying travel or being a foodie who loves cooking. In reality, she doesn't like going anywhere but resorts for a holiday, and she orders takeaway food more than anyone I've ever met. These aren't inherently bad qualities, but she'll start dating someone who's drawn to the idea that their new girlfriend will go camping or they'll cook nice meals together. When after about month three, she'll suddenly act like those things are the worst idea anyone's ever had.

She also has a tendency to expect the guy to fall in line immediately, and if they don't, they're controlling and abusive. In this instance, because Tony didn't want to sell some festival tickets they'd agreed to buy a couple of months ago, she called him a bunch of names and suggested that he go talk to his doctor about his clear controlling issues. Tony, fairly, called the relationship there and then, and blocked her. It was when my sister started saying that she was going to message Tony's boss and suggests that he needs removing from his role, he works in a job where he interacts with children, because of his narcissism,

that I snapped and said that she was the main reason her relationships end. And that if she was just honest with the guy she dated, she might find someone who actually shares her interests, and then they might stay together. She immediately started crying and stormed out of the house. And about half an hour later, I had our mother on the phone saying, I have to apologize for being cruel.

I'm sure it'll come as a surprise to no one that my sister has been enabled by our parents our entire lives. And this is likely why she feels so entitled to have things all her own way. I'm not above apologizing if I'm wrong, but I would welcome an outside view. I'm going to read this reply from Boring Goal. Your sister love bombs take zero accountability, lies, manipulates, and is willing to stoop so low as to get him fired because he left her. It's clear who the actual narcissist is, but that's besides the point. Your sister needs to be told what she's proposing is extremely unhinged,

and if you have any shred of empathy, I would contact her ex to give him a heads up of what she's threatening to do, not the butthole. Will I be the butthole if I don't text my neighbor every time I leave the house? So I'm a 30-year-old woman, and my husband is 32, and we've lived in a block of townhouses for five years now. There are also multiple townhouses on either side of the property. All in all, we have 11 sets of neighbors spread across three subdivided properties, and we get along well with everyone.

We're quiet neighbors, pay our bills on time, and maintain our property well. Recently, we've had multiple complaints from one particular neighbor about my husband's car being too loud. Over the course of a month, she sent her landlord, then her mother, multiple times to ask us if we can make his car more quiet, and accused my husband of revving his car in the driveway at 5.30 in the morning. He normally leaves the house at 8 a.m. My husband does drive a sports car. It's his pride and joy. It's not especially loud, however, and it's unmodified. He doesn't sit in the driveway making a racket and he leaves quickly.

I'm a night shift nurse, and I manage to sleep through his comings and goings, so I'm sure it's not that loud. After the third visit from someone representing this neighbor, we went and visited the neighbor ourselves. She broke down crying, explaining that she has chronic anxiety and health problems, and that she gets startled by his car, causing her to have panic attacks. We felt terrible and offered to have my husband start his car with the garage door down. We tested this idea. She said it helped and was less startled. She even offered to help us pay for soundproofing for our garage, which we're now researching. This morning, I received a text from her saying

she now can't relax because she doesn't know when my husband is going to start his car. She said that she's very anxious and asked us to text us whenever we leave the house. I don't mind starting our cars with the garage door down or even paying for acoustic panels, but I don't think we should have to share our comings and goings. Am I the butthole for not telling my neighbor when I'm leaving the house? O.P., you have been super, super accommodating, actually, above and beyond what any decent human being would be expected to do? At this point, this is officially not your problem. If this woman is so unbelievably stressed out by all these noises, she needs to just go live in the country,

or soundproof her apartment, or wear noise-canceling headphones or something. She can't expect everyone within a half-mile radius to accommodate her being slightly scared by loud noises. I mean, maybe you shouldn't live in the city at that point? You, you stupid moron? O.P., I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving, gosh, does she deserve a butthole score the neighbor? I think she does. I'm giving her 0.5 out of five butholes. That was our slash am I the butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day. Are you one of those media strategy people clicking through slides, scrolling spreadsheets? Yes? Good. This is for you. Because on Spotify,

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