rSlash - r/AITA for Not Giving Away $350,000?

Episode Date: July 20, 2023

0:00 Intro 0:08 Grandkids money 2:50 Fathers day 7:46 Leave 9:05 Freak out 10:36 Mocking weight 13:06 Tough it out Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Am I the butthole for not giving my daughter The money that was reserved for my grandkids? I'm a 58 year old man And me and my wife have only one daughter, who's 30. We always wish that we could have had more kids, but due to medical complications that I won't get into, we only had one girl. Because of that, we've always dreamed of being grandparents. So, we made long-term investments that paid off, and now we have almost $350,000 saved up to raise

our future grandkids and cover their college expenses. I want to make it clear that we never pressured our daughter to have kids in any way. She simply knows that we have the money and what it's intended for. The thing is, our daughter recently made the decision to not have kids. She told us a few months ago and even got her tubes tied. We were both a bit shocked and asked if she was sure, but we also reassured her that we'll always be there for her. I won't lie, I'm really disappointed, but I'm not disappointed in our daughter. It's her life and it's not our place to impose anything on her. My disappointment stems from the fact that I won't have grandkids.

However, if this is what makes her happy, I have no right to say anything about it. Last week, we had a lunch at our house with our daughter, and she brought up the topic of the money that we had saved for our future grandkids. We simply told her that we'd make use of it differently now. For example, I'll be able to work fewer hours before retirement and we plan to use the money for travel. At that moment, our daughter's expression changed and she fell silent. When my wife asked if she was okay, my daughter suddenly exploded, accusing us of punishing her for not having kids and taking away the money that she would have used if she'd had kids. The situation became really tense and she stormed out after the argument.

Now she's not speaking to us and is posted about it on social media. We've also received some unpleasant messages from our daughter's friends expressing their disapproval of our actions. Let me be clear, we haven't disowned her. She will still receive whatever money or properties we have when we pass away. However, we saved that money specifically to support our future grandkids. And now that we won't have any, we decided to use it for our own purposes. Is that wrong?

Am I the butthole? Yo, what's going on with your daughter OP? She says this would have been her money? No it wouldn't up, it would have been her kids' money. Fundamentally OP, this story is just, your daughter's body, your daughter's choice, your money, your choice, your daughter is being extremely unfair and entitled. I'm giving you and your wife zero out of five buttholes.

I'm giving your daughter two out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for not giving my husband a single hour off on Father's Day? I'm a 33 year old woman and my husband is 36. We've been married for 8 years and have 3 kids, a 5 year old, a 3 year old, and a 1 month old infant. I'm currently still recovering from my plan C section, and it's taking a lot longer than I'd hoped. I'm not on bed rest, but I'm pretty darn close.

Unless it's to go to the bathroom or changing or feeding the baby, I'm pretty much always sitting or laying down. I don't like it, but it's what my body needs to heal right now. Both my husband and I are still on maternity slash paternity leave. Obviously, that means that pretty much every other aspect of our lives falls on my husband right now. He's been doing a great job of taking care of the older kids and making sure everything in our lives is running as smoothly as it can given our circumstances.

He's also great about taking care of the baby and is giving me as many breaks as he can, but I can tell that it's starting to wear on him mentally and physically. Neither of us is sleeping well, and I swear, he looks like he's lost more weight than I have since the baby came. Neither of us is sleeping well, and I swear, he looks like he's lost more weight than I have since the baby came. Due to me being pretty much immobile, I can't really go out of the house to do anything without assistance, so I wasn't able to plan anything really fun for Father's Day. I did help the older kids make him cards and ordered him nice steaks to cook though.

I felt bad, because for Mother's Day, he bought me a 6 hour pregnancy spa treatment and took the older kids out of the house all day so I could have peace. But on the morning of Father's Day, I was feeling worse than usual as I had to strain myself the day before to pick up something off the floor and aggravated my incision. So I was laid up all day. Again, this meant that my husband had to do literally everything that day. By the time that he got the older kids to bed, I could tell that he was irritated and upset. I told him to try to relax for a bit. But then the baby started fussing and

he jumped off the couch, grabbed a pillow, and screamed into it. I tried to calm him down, but he just kept freaking out about how he's at his wits end and he needs a break and that I couldn't even give him a single hour of quiet on Father's Day. I started crying and he just looked at me and walked away to take care of the baby without saying anything. After he took care of the baby, he came back to me and apologized, but he said that he needs a break and he's going to talk to family about taking the older kids for a week or so And that he's just disappointed that his father's day was spent running around doing everything for everyone else He didn't even get to cook his steaks. He ate cold pizza for dinner

I asked him what am I supposed to do because it's not like I can move or leave the house and he said that I could have Look for a sitter for the kids or made them sit with me and watch a movie for an hour so he could just have a sliver of time for himself. He said that he feels like his needs are at the bottom of the list, and he just wanted to feel like he matters for one day. Alright, let me be super clear. My wife got a c-section for our baby, so if father's day happened to fall shortly after her C-section, I would not expect her to be running around, doing chores, cooking me food, rubbing my feet, and attending to my every need during Father's Day. No, that's ridiculous. However, I would expect more than her telling the kids to make a card for me and her ordering stakes that

I had to cook for myself. OP, you didn't even do the bare minimum effort here. Did you get him a gift? There's so much you could have done. You could have gone online and gotten a present form. You could have hired a sitter. You could have had your parents or his parents come over to watch the kids for a while. You could have ordered Uber Eats,

so at least you didn't have to cook his own meal. You could have done anything, but instead you did nothing. At the absolute bare minimum, if truly, you couldn't have done anything for Father's Day because you're too injured, you could have said, hey, sweetie, I know that it's Father's Day and I'm really sorry that I'm injured and I can't do anything for you. So how about we raincheck Father's Day and then this day next month, I'll treat you like a king. You know, at least then he has something to look forward to. Oh man, I really honestly feel sorry for this guy.

He seems like the perfect husband. He cooks, he cleans, he takes care of you, he takes care of the kids, he takes care of everything. You said that your life is running pretty much perfectly. Then he has one moment of weakness during a day that's supposed to be all about him. And your response is to cry. You can't even comfort the man when he's having a moment of weakness. My heart really goes out to this dude, I feel sorry for him.

Based on this story, he sounds like a great husband and you sound like a bad wife. And then afterwards, after he screamed into the pillow, he comes back to apologize to you. I almost have to wonder if this guy is just completely used to being ignored and marginalized and no one caring about him. and so he feels guilty about it because this kind of like standard emotional abuse is just part of his daily life. Opie, I'm giving you 3 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving your husband 0 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for making a woman leave my house?

I'm a 30 year old man, and I was talking with my wife's friend who was over for dinner. She tried to hug my 7 year old son, but he had a bad day and said no thanks. She kept pressuring him when he didn't budge, so she looked at me. I said that a kid at school started a fight with him, and he was grumpy so maybe later. She said, come on, you're just gonna let him disobey like that? I said that I raised him to build his own boundaries and say no when someone violates them, and I would never make him break them for someone else. She laughed and said that he's lucky that he's not her kid and that behavior would be fixed fast.

I had my son go to his room, then I told her to get out. I said the reason I got out a bit in the morning was to see my son grow another day older, and I would not stand for him being treated like a pet rather than a person. She called me an A-hole and left. My wife is disappointed because she went to yoga with her, but she says that she can't scold me because she'd probably do the same. Am I the butthole? Opie, when this woman said, your son is lucky that she's not my kid because I would correct that behavior. I agree. Your son is lucky that this woman is not his mom. Opie, I'm giving you zero out of five buttles. I'm giving her two out of five buttles.

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American Express, don't do business without it. Terms and conditions apply if it amx.ca slash business platinum. Am I the butthole? I've been on vacation less than one hour before my wife flipped out. We dropped our kids off with my parents earlier today, and we drove out to our rental house a few hours away for a long weekend away without the kids. The drive goes well. We arrive in unpack, and that's when my wife realizes that she forgot her probiotics.

She starts freaking out, and I tell her that I'm sure she'll be fine for two nights. She starts yelling at me because you just don't understand how important those probiotics are to her health. I suggest that I can run to the vitamin shop tomorrow morning, but that's not acceptable because they won't have the right brand. She then states that she wants to go home and that our vacation is ruined. I'm now beyond exasperated and go to take a shower. I get out of the shower and she wants me to drive over an hour each way to get the probiotics that she's missing.

Once you factor in gas, it would be cheaper for me to just go to the vitamin shop and buy new probiotics. I told her no and that she'd be fine for 48 hours. She called me a butthole and is now not talking to me. So Reddit, am I the butthole? Yo, I don't get it, something's weird about this story. If she forgot the probiotics, why is she yelling at you about it? Why doesn't she drive back to get her probiotics? I don't know, OP. Unless something else is going on here,

I think you just have a bad wife. I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes, I'm giving your wife 2 out of 5 buttholes. Rewinding a weak invocation with your spouse over probiotics is needlessly petty and just stupid honestly. Am I the butthole from mocking my friends' husband's weight? I'm a 22 year old woman, and my best friend, Jenny, who's 23, just recently had a baby with her husband Tom, who's 25. My boyfriend and I got to meet their baby boy for the first time last weekend when they

came over to our flat for dinner. We have a hot tub on our balcony, and I told them to bring swimwear so that we could go in after dinner. My boyfriend wasn't up for it, so he held the baby while the three of us got ready to go in the hot tub. Ginny was the last person to get changed and came out of the bathroom in a bikini. I thought she looked amazing, really happy and glowing. But Tom kind of laughed and said

something about her still having some weight to lose before she'd be as attractive as she was before her pregnancy. I was a bit stunned by that comment, and even though Jenny didn't say anything, her smile disappeared and she looked obviously uncomfortable. She and I had talked about her struggling with weight gain during her pregnancy, and I thought Tom's comment was more than insensitive. I got angry because I started wondering what he might be saying to her in private if he was comfortable dropping lines like that in front of other people, so I responded with,

she just had a baby, what's your excuse? For context, this dude has a hefty beer belly and a double chin, but thinks that he can joke about a new mom's weight? He got really defensive and told me that I need to learn how to take a joke before stopping off to the hot tub. Jenny chuckled at my comment and thought that was that. But when they left for the night, Tom pulled me aside and told me to keep my nose out of other people's business. I don't think that I was entirely in the wrong, but my boyfriend told me that I shouldn't have reacted at all because it really wasn't my business,

and I think Tom's reaction speaks for itself, and it makes me wonder whether I might have been the butthole in the situation. I mean, yeah, it's not your business, but when this guy comes into your house, goes into your hot tub, and insults people in front of you, he's kind of making it your business, but when this guy comes into your house, goes into your hot tub and insults people in front of you, he's kind of making it your business, right? You didn't come into this guy's life and just start judging him, he's doing douchey things in front of you.

Also, you said that Jenny is your best friend, so you're just sticking up for your best friends. I'm on your side OP, Tom is a hypocrite. I'm giving Tom 3.5 out of 5 buttholes. Insulting your own wife, the mother of your child, after she puts her body through the turmoil of pregnancy for nine months, is disgusting behavior. I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for denying an older woman shelter

from a storm? I'm a 23 year old woman, and I'm an avid hiker in Australia. Last week, I encountered a middle aged woman, around 50 years old as I was coming off the trail. She was walking in my direction as I came out of the bush. It was strange to see this woman. The sun was almost down and the weather was starting to turn. Also, this was an intermediate collection of trails at best, difficult even for me at worst, and this woman did not look super athletic. Point is, my weird radar was going off already. She walked up to me and stopped, standing too close for my comfort, gesture towards the clearing

where my car was parked and asked whether that was my car. No greeting or anything. When I looked over, something made me uncomfortable. There were no cars other than mine in sight. The trail that I was on isn't crazy far from civilization, but it's not like a short walk away. There's no way that this woman could have gotten out here without driving. I let her know that, yes, that was my car, to which she responded something like, perfect. There's a storm coming, I can't get caught in it and I need to get home. She was very matter of fact. It seemed like she had already decided what would happen. Without waiting for my response, she started walking to my car.

I'm glad I always lock my doors because she would have hopped right in the passenger seat had the door opened. As she was walking over to my car, I went after her trying to explain that I wasn't sure that it was a good idea for her to hitch a ride, asking why she was out here in the first place. It was like talking to a brick wall until she realized the car was locked, at which point she turned around with this look of anger and frustration on her face. She starts ranting about the same stuff as before. I need to get home. A storm is coming. I cannot be caught in it.

Why don't you get it? I was very confused at this point. And a little scared, as this woman was now a barrier between me and my vehicle. I told her something like, I'm sorry, but I don't feel comfortable with having a stranger in my car. She stared me down for a few seconds. I guess trying to gauge her chances at asking again. And just like that, the anger drops from her face and she's silent.

I was really uncomfortable. I asked her if I could call someone if there was another way to help and she starts walking towards me which was scary but then right past me. I'm still asking her questions, then just saying things like, hello, and excuse me, but no response. She walked to the other end of the rest stop and maintained eye contact with me as she sat down on a log, then just stared at nothing. I did not follow her. I got into my car really shaken up and drove away.

As soon as I was back in cell phone range, I called fire and rescue, and they said they would send someone out. I was scared for my safety in the moment, but she was just some woman alone in the middle of nowhere. Am I the butthole for refusing this strange woman a ride slash shelter in my car? Nah, OP, not the butthole. Not only was that a really dangerous situation for you to be in, but she was also just rude. Even if she was completely harmless, she was still mean to you, so why do you have to

go out of her way to do her a favor? You get rained on? Okay, big deal, you get wet. Tuff it out, lady. If you can handle an advanced hiking trail, then you can handle wet clothes. OP, you get 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'mpie, you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving the old lady one out of five buttholes. That was our slash of my The Butthole.

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