rSlash - r/AITA for Putting a Truck Trap in My Yard?

Episode Date: May 10, 2026

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the butthole if I put a post in my yard that could damage my neighbor's truck? My husband and I have lived in our home for over six years now. Our house is over a hundred years old, and we've slowly been making improvements when we can. When we got married, my father-in-law gifted us landscaping for our front yard. We planned out what we wanted, talked to a landscaper, and he wanted to pay for it as a wedding present. The landscaping was completed over three years ago, and we were very pleased and appreciative for such a great gift. The landscaping included a much-needed retaining wall where there was a low patch in our front yard that previously turned into a mud pit when it rained. Fast forward to last year, and our neighbors sold their house to a new owner. Almost immediately after she moved in,

she made it clear that she was going to be unpleasant to live next to. In the first week or so living there, she came into our backyard and chopped the top off of one of our juniper bushes and threw it into our yard. The bushes were next to her garage, but clearly in our yard. It's an old neighborhood, and a lot of the garages were built long after the home, so everything behind the houses is very close together. Her garage is very close to the property line, and maybe even a little bit on our property. We would have understood if she didn't like the bushes. They were looking scraggly, and landscaping for our backyard was next on our list for improvements. However, she gave no explanation, and she hasn't even introduced herself to us.

I knew she did it because I could see her from my dining room window. We ended up clearing all three of the bushes out by her garage because they were unattractive, especially after having the top loft off a one. About a week later, she ran over our retaining wall with her lifted truck. It damaged the wall, but her truck is so tall that it did no damage to her vehicle. Again, she never talked to us about it or apologized, but I'd seen her do it because I'm home all day. That summer, we had the same landscaping company do work on our backyard,

so we asked them to add on a repair for the front yard retaining wall. The repair cost $100, and we paid it because we didn't want a confrontation with our neighbor. One week after the wall was repaired, she hit it again. Still, we had no apology from her. We're outside a lot, so we thought eventually she would approach us about it, so we gave her time. She never did. One day, I saw her walking her dog and came outside to discuss it. I just opened by saying that I wanted to talk about our retaining wall, and she responded back by saying that she didn't know how the wall was damaged. When I said I'd seen her run it over with her truck many times, she started making excuses. She said the wall is too close to her driveway and that it could have been a delivery driver or any random person who used her driveway. I stayed firm. Initially, I was just going to ask her to pay for the next repair, but I decided that since she didn't even apologize, I would ask her to reimburse us for the initial repair as well as the upcoming repair. She agreed, but said it wasn't a big deal,

and she couldn't make any promises she wouldn't just hit it again. The wall was repaired again yesterday, and this is the part that my husband says I would be the butthole for. I put an ornamental iron post at the edge of our wall, but completely on our side of the property. That way, it'd be easier to see where the wall is, but if she hit the wall again, she would also hit the post, and it would probably damage her truck. My husband told me to take the post down. He said I was being vindictive and immature. I took it down immediately after I put it up, but I really want to prevent further damage to our property. I don't want her to hit the wall again, but if she did hit it and our wall wasn't the only thing being damaged, I think she'd be less likely to do it again. So would I be the butthole if I put

the post back? Yo, what's your husband's issue? Why is he being such a wuss about it? Lots of people have some sort of ornamental block on the front of your yard like tree stumps or rocks or fences that say, keep out, you can't drive here. Sorry, this is our property. Tough look. I think having decorative large boulders on the front of your property line honestly looks kind of good if you ask me. Tell your neighbor to stay the hell off your property and tell your husband to grow a spine. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. Install a bigger post. Am I the butthole for not leaving work to help my wife when she ran out of gas?

My wife, who's 38, and I have been married for 11 years, and we have two kids, ages 9 and 7. I work full-time, and she works part-time while also doing online classes to finish her degree. She dropped out of college after two years and wants to finish. She has ADHD and anxiety, and if I'm being honest, sometimes it feels like our entire lives revolve around. to her symptoms. Last Friday, my wife didn't have to work and decided to go visit her sister who lived in a small town about 45 minutes away. She didn't tell me she was going, so I was very surprised when she called me shortly afternoon. She was obviously upset when I answered, and between sobs, I was able to make out that there was an issue with the car. Eventually, she calmed down and told me that

she ran out of gas in the middle of nowhere and didn't know what to do. Because she hadn't told me she was visiting her sister, I was confused and had a lot of questions which only made her more upset. I was getting frustrated too, so I finally just asked her what she wanted me to do. She told me she needed me to come help her. I told her I was at work and had meetings in the afternoon that I couldn't skip. I suggested she called her sister, but she went to work after my wife visited and my wife didn't want to bother her. I suggested she called AAA to come help, but she said she didn't know how to do that. I suggested she call an Uber, but she was in the middle of nowhere and it didn't show any cars available. I suggested she call a friend or someone else that might be able to help, and she yelled at me to

just come effing help me. I tried to remain calm and reiterated that I'm sorry she's in this position, but at this moment I'm unable to help her. I told her I'd offered numerous suggestions that she could try to help herself, but I can't leave work. She then hung up on me. My first meeting of the afternoon was starting in five minutes, so I tried calling her back and she didn't answer. I kept trying to text her during my meeting too, but she never responded. I tried calling again between my meeting and still no answer, which I admit pissed me off because even if I was trying to come help at that point, I couldn't reach her. She's the one who picks up our kids from school, so I was kind of freaking out at this point because I was completely in the dark about whether I would need to get them or if my

wife was okay. So I called the school and asked them to please let me know if my wife comes to get the kids because I can't reach her. I didn't include any details about why. The school called me back at pickup time and told me that my wife was there for pickup. When I got home at the end of the day, my wife refused to talk to me. She gave me the cold shoulder the entire weekend. I apologize for not being able to help multiple times. Finally, this morning she spoke to me, but all she said was, I can't count on you anymore. Did I really mess up that bad? Am I the jerk for this?

I'm speaking as someone who has run out of gas on the side of the road and also driven to help my wife who has run out of gas on the side of the road. It is not that big of a deal. You just pull your car over and then either get a ride from Uber to the nearest gas station or walk to the nearest gas station or just call a friend who can help. It is not that big of an emergency. It's not a super big deal. Absolute worst case scenario.

She would have just chilled in her car by the side of the road for a couple of hours until work was over. Yeah, it sucks, but if you don't want to be in that sucky situation, fill up your gas tank, you doofus? She's an adult. Age 38, she should understand how gas tanks work and that actions have consequences by now. We see this term a lot on this subreddit, but personally, this comes off as weaponized incompetence to me. She screwed up and she's making it your fault that she's, screwed up, which is just dumb. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your wife 1.5 out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my sister she got what she deserved? So my 31-year-old

sister has been with her husband, who's 30 for eight years, married for three. My sister and I don't really get on very well. She's cheated on every single person she's ever been in a relationship with, and is very selfish and self-centered. If something doesn't revolve around her, she throws a tantrum, and if something she does isn't solely for her benefit, she doesn't do it. She's my sister, and I love her, but I try to avoid being around her as much as possible. However, her husband and I have been friends for years, as we were in the same year together at school. He's very different from my sister, and would give the shirt off his back if it would help someone. My sister and her husband separated recently, as my sister had an affair with her

husband's best friend of 25 years. Understandably, this crushed her husband, but he put on a brave face for the sake of their son, and hopefully, to co-parent civilly. I stayed out of it. I didn't want to get sucked into the drama. I told my sister and her husband that I hope they're okay, and that was that. Recently, my sister came to visit me. I've lived 200 miles away for seven years, and she never once visited me before, even though she's been invited numerous times. And, She proceeded to rant about how the guy she's with now, her affair partner, has changed since they got together and that he doesn't do anything around the house, won't find a job, etc. To be clear, he was already employed when they started their affair. And how she wishes she had just stayed with her husband, and how when she told him that, he laughed at her and said he didn't want her back.

I didn't want to hear it and told her as much, but she kept going. After about an hour, I eventually just said, Well, you should have thought about that before you started shagging someone else. You brought this on yourself. My sister ended up leaving. My husband thinks that what I said was fair enough. But my mom, who also had an affair on my father 20 years ago, thinks that what I said was too harsh,

and it's clear she regrets her behavior. So now I'm wondering was what I said too harsh. Honestly, I don't think it was harsh enough. This woman needs a heaping dose of reality, preferably the painful kind that will cause her to change her behavior. Yeah, she regrets it. Not because of guilt, because she did something wrong to her husband. She regrets it because her life was made worse. I think the husband is better off without her. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes.

Cheaters get 3.5 out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for installing a camera in my room to see if my mom is lying to me? I'm a 19-year-old guy, and me and my mom have had numerous fights the past few weeks, most of which are on the same topic, that being her going into my room and looking around without me knowing. Basically, every time I would leave the house for work or anything else, I would always leave my door fully closed, but would come back to it open. Also, I would be incredibly positive that certain things had been moved around or straight up gone. So, naturally, I'd ask my mom if she had gone into my room. She would always say no. Now, maybe the first

couple of times I could play it off as me forgetting to close my bedroom door. But once it started happening multiple times a week, I knew that wasn't the case. So yesterday, I went out and bought one of those Bluetooth surveillance cameras. At this point, I was positive she was going in my room behind my back and then lying about it. I just wanted proof because I knew this would just continue happening otherwise. This morning, before I left for work, I made sure the camera was working, closed my bedroom door completely, then hit it out. At around midday, I got a notification on my phone that the camera had detected motion. So I pulled it up to view the recording. Wouldn't you know it? There was my mom going through my drawers, closet, and desk. She was even grabbing certain

things and tossing them out into the hallway. I closed the video feed seething, making sure I saved it first and planned to confront her first thing when I was done with my shift. When I got home, I immediately asked her if she had gone into my room. She said no. I responded by pulling up the video and holding my phone in front of me so she could see it. Instead of apologizing, she exploded. She screamed at me for installing a camera in her house without her permission. I responded by demanding an explanation for her going into my room. She insisted she had a right to as my mother. She began questioning certain things in my room, to which I said it's none of her business. At this point, I was done.

I stormed off and went to my room. Within the hour, my phone started blowing up with messages from family, all siding with my mom, telling me I'm insane for putting up a camera. I kid you not, the entire family is on my mom's side, except my dad. Unfortunately, my dad can't stop this himself, as my parents split up years ago, and he isn't allowed in my mom's house. I swear I'm doing nothing wrong here. Like, it's my only space in the house where I keep my things.

Relax and do my own stuff. Or am I just completely out of my mind? O-P, you are correct, but it's time to be a big boy and move out of mommy's house. Yeah, it sucks. It's expensive. But to be honest, if you want privacy, this is the only way to go about it. Your mom's not going to stop. She's toxic.

She's airing out your dirty laundry to the family, so installing a camera isn't going to change. a single thing. Hopefully you can move in with your dad. I'm giving you zero out of five butt holes. Your mom gets one out of five. That was our slash am I the butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.