rSlash - r/AITA for Refusing to Give My Bro My Inheritance?

Episode Date: October 6, 2025

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Jason never moved out of my mom's home. He never had anything more than part-time minimum wage jobs. My mom forgot about me or my sister and preferred Jason. It also meant that she had minimal contact with her grandchildren when she favored him. My father, who lost that home in a divorce, said it wasn't fair that Jason inherited everything from my mom. My father suddenly passed away, and Jason was kept out of his will because my dad was still sour about what my mom did. Jason was shocked when he was left out of my dad's will. Jason said the property tax on my mom's house that he inherited was late because he was planning to use the money from dad's inheritance, which was a dirty trick dad pulled on him.

My sister Debbie already told Jason to get an effing job, and maybe he'll have the 7K by the time it's due. I'm also not giving Jason anything. It's how my dad wanted it. Jason was freaking out during the reading because he didn't get anything, and he's already gone through most of mom's money and have to be. hasn't worked in the past five years since her death. He called us all buttholes and said he needed the money more than us. I'm sure this was the same line he used on my mom to get Debbie and me written out of my mom's will. Jason acts like he'll fight the will, but my dad talked about how Jason got 100% of my mom's inheritance, so he doesn't get anything. On top of my dad's insurance, Debbie and I are going

to sell my dad's home, and hopefully the market stays hot. I suggest, to my brother that he do the same thing and take the money and downsize to a smaller apartment or home. My brother is ranting to anyone who will listen, calling us selfish buttholes, and even setting up a go-fund me for his taxes. Several family members have donated. My grandma, on my mom's side, has reached out to me to help him with the taxes, and I said no. My grandma said that she is no longer going to leave Debbie and me anything now because of how we treated our brother. But I reminded my grandma that our mom, her daughter, started this. And no one threw a fit about it when mom died. Debbie had two small children then and could have used the money. I didn't see Debbie start a go-fund

me and I don't remember you, grandma, calling Jason and asking him to give up part of his share for us. My grandma said that it was a different situation and I told her, not really. The hypocrisy of some of these people is just unbelievable. O.P., you get an easy, peasy, lemon squeezy, zero out of five buttholes. Your brother and his supporters get three out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for throwing my ex's words in his affair partner wife's face after she spent the last five years taunting me? I'm a 33-year-old woman, and I found out that my ex-husband, who's 35, and the father of my two kids,

11 and 9, was cheating on me with Dana, a 30-year-old woman whom he worked with. Once I kicked my ex out, he did everything to try to win me back. He even shared the fact that Dana was sterile and was just some safe fun because he knew he couldn't get her pregnant. He said that he would never actually want something, not someone like that, and he loved me and our kids. I was having none of it. I didn't pity Dana either because she knew about me. We'd met. She knew about our kids. She knew about our kids. She knew about our kids too. So to me, she was a homewrecker, and I wasn't going to warn her about my ex's feelings about her. My ex continued trying to win me back throughout our divorce. The night before,

he sent more texts begging me to call it off, and to let us be a family again, and he said more degrading things about Dana. But I didn't listen to him. I was done. Even if he wasn't living with Dana, which he was, I wasn't going to buy that he'd change. From the day my ex moved in with Dana, she was smug. She called me all dried up, said that my lady parts clearly weren't tight enough anymore for my ex, and that he clearly felt repulsed by whatever stretch marks the kids left behind. I ignored her. She got herself kicked out of the kids' school a few times for using that language in front of others. Twice was in front of one of the teachers during parent-teacher conferences. For years, I've ignored it and tried to be the bigger person. But

recently, she was extra nasty about me and the fact that I've been single since the divorce. She tried to say that it was clear no man wanted me, not even the father of my children, and how he thought so little of me. She said he only says nothing because of the kids, but she knows. She knows that's why he went to her. So, in response, I screenshotted several of the texts that my ex sent me where he degraded her, and I told her she should see what he really thinks of her. She told me I was sick and twisted, and how dare I dig into her infertility. Then she asked, why wouldn't I tell her if any of this were true? I told her I owed her nothing after she knowingly slept with a man I was married to,

and contributed to the breakup of my children's family. I told her I found her as disgusting and repulsive as him. But I'd done my best to ignore her all these years while she degraded me. Then I told her to look inside her house for all that nasty stuff. and reminded her to check the dates on the messages. She texted me several times in the aftermath. I muted her. So now, the plan is to unmute whenever the kids are over there

and mute the second they come home to me. But am I the butthole? Nope! She got what she deserved. O.P., I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving Dana three out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for snapping at my sister that she'll choke on her jealousy one day?

I'm a 21-year-old woman and I have two siblings. My sister is 24 and engaged. My brother is 28 and married to my sister-in-law, who's 25. My parents hosted a family luncheon to celebrate my sister's engagement at their house. I went early to help them set up. My brother and sister-in-law arrived a little bit later than everyone else. My sister and her fiancé arrived last. Everything was going well, and everyone was happy, until my sister got a text and pulled me aside. She asked me if I could go outside and meet a friend of hers who's going to drop something off for her.

I did. That something was a big ball of pure happiness, a St. Bernard dog with a cute little formal tie around his neck. As adorable as he was, I couldn't bring him in because my sister-in-law is allergic. Her allergy isn't severe, but still, everyone in the family knows of it. I told the friend to please wait while I talked to my sister. She didn't. I texted my sister that I can't bring the dog inside. She texted that it was fine to bring it in because it's a surprise and he's the newest addition to the family. I insisted that I can't. Then I texted my brother about it because it had been 10 minutes and I was standing in the driveway with a big doggy that wouldn't stop licking my legs, not knowing what to do. From what I was told inside, my brother pulled my sister

aside and asked her not to bring the dog in, that she knows his wife is allergic. She refused, saying that it's an open space, that my sister-in-law will be fine. He then told her the news that the sister-in-law is pregnant. My sister then went outside and dragged the dog and me inside when I resisted. My brother, seeing this, excused himself and left with the sister-in-law. We tried resuming the lunch after that, but it was awkward at best. When my sister and her fiance cut the cake, she grabbed her glass of champagne to make a toast. The toast was her rambling about how selfish my brother and his wife were, that they couldn't let her have one day to herself and had to ruin and overshadow it, that they were not the first or last couple to get pregnant.

Both of my parents tried to shush her, but she was on a role and went on to call my sister-in-law an attention seeker that just had to give the family the first grandchild. I finally had enough and told her that Green isn't a good look on her, and that she was going to choke on her jealousy one day. Then I got up and left. She called me a B word on my way out. My mom called me after and told me that it was a bit harsh, even if she was harsher. She also suggested the three of us siblings talk it out after things settle a bit.

My dad is staying neutral. I haven't heard from relatives that were at the luncheon. Am I the butthole? Not at all. She is clearly bringing the dog into the family to overshadow the impending pregnancy announcement. Opie, I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your sister one out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for ruining my girlfriend's worldview and making her rethink her entire adult life?

My girlfriend Jan, who's 33 and myself, a 39-year-old guy, have been together right around six months. Jan loves bumblebees. She has a bumblebee tattooed on her forearm pretty prominently, which she receives many compliments on. She loves pinning insects and making shadow boxes, mostly based around bumblebees. She has a lot of decorative paintings of bumblebees around her apartment. She was even super excited to get one of the Minecraft bee toys that came in the Happy Meals a few months back. She's told me that her love of bumblebees came from when she was a child, she would sit on her parents' front porch and loved watching the bumblebees flying all around her

and would just sit out there watching them for a long time. Until one day, she saw they'd been killed or run off by wasps and it made her really sad. Well, this past weekend, we were at Jan's parents' house. and we were sitting on the front porch, and she mentioned the story again. Except this time, she pointed to a wooden sign hanging from the eaves with holes bored into the back of it, and added that was where the bees lived before the wasps moved in. It was at this moment I informed her that those weren't bumblebees, but carpenter bees. She got very confused and said,

No, carpenter bees are all black. At which point I informed her that, no, some have yellow on them, as all the ones that burrow into the columns of my back porch, looked just like bumblebees from a little distance, and that honestly, the only way I would even know the difference is because only carpenter bees burrow into wood. She started sort of laughing and crying at this point because her entire worldview had been shattered.

She had built her entire love of bumblebees and a large part of her personality around this misconception. She got a tattoo of a bumblebee and is pinning bumblebees, etc. She also says she feels like an idiot because she's told that story to people for years and said that she almost always includes the part about the sign and no one has ever corrected her in all those years. She's even started to look closer at some of the shadow boxes she's made or purchased

and realize the bees inside are, in fact, carpenter bees. TikTok is even recommending videos about spotting the difference between carpenter bees and bumblebees. Now, I feel terrible for absent-mindedly correcting her on the type of bee and basically crushing her whole world. I've told her that her love and memories haven't changed, just the name, and that most people aren't going to know any different anyway unless you tell them that the bee tattoo isn't the same kind of bee that you grew up loving. I mean, I didn't even notice the inconsistency until I was sitting there

and was looking at the sign, in person, with the burrow holes. But this doesn't give her much comfort. So am I the butthole for basically crushing my girlfriend's childhood memories and making her rethink her entire life and personality to a degree? I think your girlfriend will eventually move past this. It's okay to like something, to enjoy it, look back on it fondly without knowing every scientific little detail about it. I'm a dog lover.

I've had dogs my whole life. I couldn't tell you the scientific name of dogs. It's like Canis, Canis, Canadai or something like that? My brother had a dog that he absolutely adored. I don't know what kind of breed that was. Some kind of yellowish mutt, maybe some golden retrieves. Who knows? Doesn't matter. What matters is that she was Rosie and Rosie was adorable and jealous and loved food and was very protective of my brother. That's the stuff that matters. The memories, not the technical terminology. So in any event, I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm sure your girlfriend will be all right. Oh, also, down in the comments, someone points out that bumblebees can and will use carpenter beeholes for protection. So they could have been bumblebees. Am I the butthole for cheating at an eating competition? So our local restaurant that has really good wings was hosting a hot pepper eating competition recently

with a bunch of coupons for free wings on the line. I have a weird genetic quirk where my body doesn't register capsation normally. So my spice tolerance levels are way higher than normal. So I entered the competition and won the coupons. But my friends are now telling me that I cheated and I should have let normal people compete and get the wings. So Reddit, am I the butthole for? for competing? Huh? What? Are tall people cheating when they play basketball? Are strong people cheating when they play football? Are smart people cheating when they play chess? This is stupid logic.

Zero out of five buttholes, O.P. If anything, you should be proud of your weird superpower. That was our slash am I the butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.