rSlash - r/AITA for Showing My Pubes to my Family

Episode Date: May 5, 2026

0:00 Intro 0:06 Uncomfortable 3:34 Uncle 5:52 Brother 9:38 Baby name Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to R slash Am I the Butthole, where O.P. shows off his pubes to his family. Am I the butthole for making my family uncomfortable until they leave my home since asking and telling them won't work? No, I'm not going to have the cops called on my family. My family came to visit me in Orlando for spring break. We had discussed it, and I was cool with it. However, the plan was for them to use my house only as a home base. They were supposed to purchase their own groceries and then leave to go to. do all the tourist stuff during the day so I could work from home. Then evenings, they could make

their supper and enjoy my pool. Then they could sleep and start over. My brother called me last Thursday to tell me that the plan had changed. That tickets for everyone to everything was too expensive, and that they wanted to just stay home for five of the nine days. I said they should probably get a hotel because I work from home, which he knows. He said they wouldn't be a bother. I said they would, and to get a hotel. He said that would cost more than the park tickets they were skipping. I told him I didn't care. I needed my house quiet during that week. He got my parents involved and they collectively guilted me into letting them stay. I'm aware that I'm weak, but I love my family. They showed up last Saturday and as I

expected, they were noisy AF. It didn't bug me since it was the weekend and I hadn't seen my niece and nephew in forever. I even arranged dinner that night at a pirate-themed dinner theater. Sunday was more of the same. Kids screaming in the pool. I told my brother and his wife that I would watch the kids so they could go to a Publix or Whole Foods or whatever to get groceries. They came back with a couple of days of food. They said they would mostly eat out. Whatever, I don't have a full fridge or pantry. Monday was my workday. They didn't leave. I had to tell them repeatedly to be quiet. My brother said to relax. It's just a little noise. I asked if I could visit him at his office and make this much He said that was different. Fine, game on. I changed into Speedos. I am not manscaped for those.

It looks like I'm trying to smuggle a Pomeranian in my trunks, just fur all the way around. And I joined them for my lunch break. My sister-in-law and niece noticed right away. It got really quiet. My brother came over to talk to me about appropriate swimwear around his family. I said it was my house and I would wear whatever I want. After lunch, I put on a dry pair and put a towel on my work chair. If they made noise, I would come out in my full glory and ask them to shush. They decided to go see Orlando. That night, my brother said I was being a butt.

I said that I warned them that I was working and he couldn't control his kids and wife. Tuesday, they went to Universal. They ate out for supper and were home late. Wednesday was going to be a home day, and my brother asked me to not wear Speedos. I asked him if they were going to make noise. They decided to go see Cape Canaveral. Wednesday was Disney. Thursday was a Speedo day.

As is today. My folks are coming down for Easter tomorrow, and the six of them are going back to Disney. My brother is pissed that he isn't saving as much as he thought he would. I don't care. He was the one who changed the plan. So am I the butthole for making his family uncomfortable with my fur until they left me to work?

Nah, O.P., it's your house. It's not your fault if they find themselves in a hairy situation. Am I the butthole for not being happy at becoming an uncle? My wife, who's 38, has a younger brother who's 34. He's clearly the most beloved in the family that can do no wrong, but he's a good guy. He has a girlfriend who's also a very nice girl, and they moved in together last year. Now, me and my wife wanted to have kids, but four years ago, she was diagnosed with cancer, And while she's luckily in total remission, therapy stop us from even trying.

And given her age, it means that we're probably never have kids. One month ago, we were invited by her parents for lunch with the brother and the girlfriend. But unfortunately, my wife became ill the evening before and we had to cancel. They rescheduled to two weeks later, but again, she got a high fever in the morning and we couldn't join. For some reason, everybody sounded very angry at this. Her brother even asking me if I thought that it was only stress and not real illness. I got a bit pissed, explained that her fever is real, and I closed the conversation. Finally, yesterday we had the dinner.

At the end, they told us there was a gift for us, and they wanted to record our reactions with their phones. Inside the package was a pregnancy test. My wife started ugly crying, saying that it was happiness, and she hugged and cried her sister for a few minutes. I went through different stages. happiness for them, regret, and pain for my wife. And my brother-in-law said something along the lines of,

Now you know why I was upset for you skipping the dinners. To which I, with a less than pleasant tone, answered that they could have simply called us, and no need to make such a scene. Everyone around us was shocked and uncertain how to react. My wife started feeling unwell. Actually, she got a fever again, so we basically left. Now, I know that I should say sorry to them,

but at the same time the fact that nobody, even her mother, thought that this could have been a somewhat stressing moment for my wife, makes me upset. They have every right to be happy, and we should be happy for them, so I feel like I'm the butthole here. The weirdest thing to me about this post is they gave you a stick that someone peed on. Why'd they have to announce the pregnancy like that, instead of, I don't know, a t-shirt that says world's best uncle or world's best aunt, something like that? Who wants to receive a pee stick, man? the butthole for telling my father to accept that my brother isn't my responsibility? I'm a 35-year-old woman, and I have a complicated relationship with both my father and his wife, Denise, for several reasons, some of which relate to my half-brother, Jake, who's nine. Jake exists because Denise

wanted a baby, and my father was upset that both of his daughters were moving out. They expected me and my sister, who's 29, to have an active role in caring for Jake. That wouldn't be possible for either of us, but they continued to assume that we would give in. We didn't, which led to multiple fights that soured my relationship with our father. Denise also got mad at me for refusing to be her village. I got pregnant with my first child when Jake was still a baby, which made her even more angry that I wouldn't help her as much as she wanted. Things at their household aren't great. Jake isn't well-behaved. My father is not a very active parent, though he is more present than he used to be. And the older Jake gets, the more Denise loses interest in parenting. They never stop trying

to get me to take care of their son. To this day, whenever they need a babysitter, they call me first, even though I'm almost never able to do it. They've tried multiple things over the year, but most of their current strategies concern my children, Sam and Katie, who are eight and four. My kids do not get along with Jake, but not for lack of any trying on my father and Denise's part. They've tried setting up play dates, aka Denise dumping Jake on me and my kids while she went shopping, making them share a room on family vacations, and my father even considered changing Jake to Sam's school a few years ago.

Every time there's an opportunity to make the kids spend time together, they push for it. That brings us to now. My husband and I are planning a trip to France with our children in September to celebrate Katie's fifth birthday. We don't travel much, and the trip will include Disneyland Paris, so the kids are thrilled.

My father found out and proposed that we bring Jake with us. He said that he would pay for all the expenses, as in flights and hotels, so that his son could go to Europe with my family. I said, no, we wanted the trip to be just us and our kids. He kept insisting that Jake would love going to Disney with us, that he and Denise really wanted some nice child-free time, and that they would appreciate it if I took care of my little brother, like a good sister. We had an argument, and I ended up losing my patience.

I told my father that he needs to accept that Jake is not my responsibility and never will be, and that he and Denise should have thought about their child-free time before having a child. My father is furious. He accused me of saying I wished Jake was never born. I didn't say that. And called me an ungrateful brat for refusing to take care of my brother. Denise later called me to yell a few insults as well. I don't think that I'm in the wrong for refusing to bring Jake along, but I'm not proud of what I said to my father.

My husband's on my side, but thinks that I was too harsh. O.P., you are not harsh enough. You need to set and maintain firm boundaries with people like this. Your dad obviously doesn't care about sibling bonding. They just care about free child care so they can do whatever they want. Also, down in the comments, O.P. clarifies how Jake has bad behavior. He's spoiled, mostly just rude. He makes fun of people, does mean pranks, and refuses to listen when you tell him to stop doing something. Denise also refuses to discipline him in any real way, which I think is reflected in the way that he doesn't really respect other people, especially women.

Am I the butthole for still using the baby name I told my sister I was going to use, despite her using a variation of it first? I'm a 35-year-old woman, and I had my first daughter in September. While I was pregnant, my sister, who's 38, was also pregnant with a boy. In reality, she was pregnant with twins, a boy and a girl, but thought that it would be fun if it was a surprise for everyone. During that time, I told her that I planned to name this baby after our mom, Colette, and my husband's mother, Coral. Both names start with Coe, and I think Coco is an adorable nickname. My sister told me the name they picked was a surprise, and they didn't want to reveal it until the baby was here. Lo and behold, her twins were born in August. Everyone was super surprised that it's twins. She named them Cole and Letty. I didn't think much of it, except that it was really cute and sweet that she clearly named them after our mom. When my daughter was born, I followed through and named her Colette Coral. We almost exclusively call her Coco. My sister is very annoyed that I followed through with the name and brings it up all the time how ridiculous it is that the three of them practically share a name. It's also confusing if full names are used.

I will admit that. Despite me telling her my entire pregnancy, that was the name I planned to use. I even had stuff made with the name. She ensures everyone knows that her babies were born first. Honestly, if she had told me months ago that she planned to use Cole and Letty, I probably would have pivoted, but she never said anything. Heck, even if she told me she was using coal, I would have re-evaluated. I'm currently debating legally.

swapping Coral and Colette simply to keep the piece. But that feels an awful lot like admitting that I'm the butthole in the first place. I don't really understand the fuss here. Cole and Coco are pretty different names. Yeah, they share 50% of the same letters, but so? So what? Who cares? How is this any worse than, you know, a dad being named George and naming his son George Jr. as well? You know, it's like, what's the big deal? O.P., your sister just so. stirring up drama where there doesn't need to be drama. Also in the comments, someone pointed out that George Foreman named all five of his sons, George, and one of his daughters, Georgette.

Personally, I think Colette Coral, aka Coco, is a really pretty name. Once she gets older, she has three viable options to choose from, Colette, Coral, Coco. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. That was R.S. Am I the Butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast, because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.