rSlash - r/AITA Girlfriends Wants Me to Give Her a House

Episode Date: November 21, 2025

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Welcome to R-slash, Am I the Butthole, where O.P.'s girlfriend expects a $500,000 handout. Am I the butthole for not adding my longtime girlfriend to the deed of the house that I just bought us? I'm so conflicted on this. I'm 32, and I've saved up my entire life to purchase a house for my longtime girlfriend and I, whom I've been with for the past three years. I've recently purchased a $1 million home that she did not want to put a down payment together on, so I put the down payment by myself and took out a mortgage. The house is under

my name because I felt that since we weren't married yet, it was natural that I keep it under my name for now, but I have no problem adding her when we get married. Her sister and mom said that if I don't add her on the deed, then I don't trust her and we can't continue our relationship without trust.

I'm torn because I do trust her. Our relationship has been rocky lately because I feel that her family and I don't see eye to eye on a lot of issues and it's causing a lot of attention. Should I just add her on the deed to satisfy her family's demands? It's starting to impact how she thinks as well, because when we bought the house, she never mentioned anything about the deed.

Yo, how can someone smart enough to save up 1 million buccaroos be dumb enough to still consider this terrible decision? Of course your girlfriend's family wants you to just hand over $500,000. And if you're dumb enough to sign that little signature, then you deserve to lose that 500K OP. I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. Please find your brain. Am I the butthole for telling my parents they deserve to be kicked out of my sister's wedding?

So I'm a 37-year-old woman, and my brother, Mike, who's 35, is a knob. He always has been, always will be. He's been babyed to the point of uselessness by our mom and dad, and that's made him an entitled slob. When he was younger, he showed promise playing rugby, which had my mom and dad believing he was going to be a superstar. The problem was, though, he never had the work ethic to fully fulfill his potential. However, this meant that he was the golden boy of the family and that he could do no wrong in my parents' eyes.

He was a bully at school, which my parents brushed off as the other kids making up lies. But he was an even bigger bully at home to our younger sister Kelly, who's now 31. He would constantly prank her, which basically meant that he would do anything he could, could to embarrass her, including things like pulling her dress up in front of the whole family at a wedding when she was 15. Mom and dad said that it was just siblings being siblings, but the rest of the family were mortified by this behavior. I did try to stick up from my sister, and it worked to a certain extent. But after I went away to university, there wasn't much I could do, as mom and dad just don't listen to anyone. It got so bad that when my sister turned 18,

sister gave up on going to her dream university, St. Andrews, and instead moved to London to go to the Imperial College London. This was a huge shock to all of us, as she had been talking about St. Andrews since she started high school at 11. When I asked why, she said that St. Andrews was too close to home, and she would be expected to go back home more often. But if she went to London, she would only have to go home for Christmas. This broke my heart. After she left, she did exactly that. The only time my sister was home was Christmas and when I got married. This really annoyed mom and dad, as they said that she was abandoning the family. I kept my mouth shut and just let them whine occasionally, as I didn't want an argument.

After my sister graduated from university, my parents expected her to move back home, but she didn't. She got a job working in Southern England and stayed down there. We're from Scotland, for reference. Six years ago, Kelly met a great guy, Jake, who's now 30. The day she met him, she called me gushing about him, and I've honestly never heard her speak about anyone the way that she does him. I've met him several times when I went down to visit Kelly, and he's great. Good looking, funny, great job, his family are lovely, and most importantly, he treats Kelly like she's hung the moon. It's very cute.

After she met him, she cut down how much she came home even more as she spent the first Christmas with his family, and then the pandemic happened, so she ended up not coming home for three years. Her first Christmas home, Mike started his usual BS, trying to be the center of attention. When it didn't work out as well as he wanted, as most of my family were more interested in getting to know Jake, he tried to prank Kelly. He got a big bowl of water and was going to pour it over her. Jake saw what was happening and stepped in front of Kelly telling Mike to not even think about it. As a side note, Jake is 6'3 and has been doing martial arts since he was 4,

so he can be very intimidating when needed. Mom and dad tried to play it off as a harmless prank, but Jake was having none of it. Mike started whining about it just being a prank, and Jake told him that if he pranked Kelly one more time, he would prank Jake by putting his foot up his butt and his fist down his throat. Kelly and Jake left about an hour later,

but after that, Mike, mom, and dad all had an issue with Jake. Kelly hasn't been back home since. That leads us to now. Kelly and Jake are getting married. They sent out invites in February for August. However, they did not invite Mike. Mom and dad are obviously incensed by this and had a huge argument with Kelly. They threatened not to go and Kelly just said, no problem. She would get granddad to walk her down the aisle. I went around to my parents' house on Saturday with my kids. Immediately, my mom started complaining about Kelly and the wedding. I sat and listened for a while before I'd had enough. I asked her,

What did she actually expect? Her and dad have allowed Mike to be the golden child and get away with everything. Because of that, Mike can't keep a relationship due to him thinking everyone should do everything for him. So he can't hold down a job because every job is beneath him. And he's still living at home with zero prospects in life. The man child is a bully who I don't trust to be around my children unsupervised. He bullied Kelly for most of her teen years and her only escape was to, move over 400 miles away and never come home. My mom got very quiet and then asked me to leave.

A few hours later, my dad called Going Mad because I'd upset my mom and was taking the side of an ungrateful little girl instead of my parents who gave me everything. This started a huge argument between me and him where I told him he'd been a terrible dad to Kelly and didn't deserve to walk her down the aisle. I've just had enough. But now, I've got extended family members telling me I've gone too far as my mom is barely speaking to anyone and keeps crying. My granddad said that it was about time I told them off. But my grandma is upset by all the arguing. So am I the butthole for telling my parents that they sucked as parents and deserved to be kicked out of my sister's wedding? You know, it's really interesting that all these extended family members come to the support of O.P.'s

parents, oh, we can't upset the parents, but none of them came to the support of O.P.'s sister when she was constantly being bullied and harassed by your older brother. What a bunch of hypocrites. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. All you did was called it like you saw it. Mike and his enabling parents get 2.5 out of five buttholes. How is dumping water on someone's head a prank? That's not funny. That's just bullying. Am I the butthole for how I responded after my boyfriend got mad at me because he opened up the relationship and got no dates? Me and my boyfriend, who are 37, have been dating for over three years. Prior to this, I was single for eight years.

Overall, it's been a healthy relationship. We're both independent with our jobs and living situations. I do love spending time with him. I don't really have any complaints. However, something that startled me was back about six months ago, him saying that he wanted to open the relationship, meaning going on dates and sleeping with other women. I've never been in a dynamic like this,

so I naturally had a lot of questions. He told me that I could also go on dates and sleep with other men. I honestly was a little skeptical at first, but after doing some research and having time to think, I agreed. He had told me that if at any point I wasn't comfortable, we could stop and close the relationship again. One of the rules was that we don't discuss with each other what we're doing or who were going on dates with.

I signed up to a dating app and within a few days I had 500 plus likes. and it's been pretty steady since. So I started matching with people, texting, and arranging dates. On average, I go on one to two dates a month. There are also some people in similar dynamics of open relationships that I'm going on dates with, sleeping with regularly. I quite like that everything is non-committal. So even though I was skeptical at first, I'm enjoying the open relationship. As decided from before, I haven't told my boyfriend about any of this. I was at my boyfriend's house the other day, and my phone was on the kitchen counter. He saw my notifications

and then proceeded to go through my phone and read messages, including going through the dating app and whatnot. To say he was angry was an understatement. Turns out, he opened the relationship to date a younger colleague at his workplace, who misread his idea

of a date as just a work lunch. He then openly told me that he wanted to see if it would work with her so that he could ultimately leave me for her. However, she didn't want him, and it seems like no one else did either. In the last six months, he's had a few rough dates, but no one additional to sleep with. I feel somewhat embarrassed for him. He demanded we instantly closed the relationship, and I told him that maybe we should just

end things, or at least take a break. He was outraged and called me names, but he was the one who wanted this dynamic, so what's the problem? I left, and as I walked home, I contemplated fully breaking it off with him. He's been blowing up my phone, and I'm not quite sure what to say. The top comments, you should join the rest of the population in not dating him as well. Loll. O.B., I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your incredibly stupid and cliche boyfriend, one out of five buttholes.

Am I the butthole for not telling my ex that his passport was revoked and causing him to miss his flight? My ex and I have been divorced for two years. We have two kids, an eight-year-old boy and five-year-old girl. Everything was great until our daughter was born, and then it's like a switch flipped, and he was a completely different person. I held out for as long as I could, but when he began an affair, I filed for divorce. He fought me every step, and it took over a year to finalize. During the divorce, I was awarded primary custody. He was ordered to pay support, which he's never done. I don't need it, but it would be nice to have it to save for the kids, so I did sign up for enforcement. I didn't badger him about it. I know to him it's a way to try to get me to talk to him.

I just let enforcement do their thing. Since he's so far behind, they've suspended just about everything they can. They send notices to him when this happens, but I'm sure he doesn't open them. I'm a first generation American, and most of my extended family still lives abroad. My grandmother recently passed away earlier this year, and I decided I wanted to visit my family with my kids and see her resting place. My ex and I had some back and forth because I need permission from him to leave the country. He agreed, but made a point to tell me he feels now is a good time to take a vacation and that he was always planning to visit my family's country. I was already anticipating this, because following us is something he does every time I take the kids on a trip. My lawyer drafted

a document to be signed and notarized that I was being given permission to take our kids out of the country for the specific dates. She also included a clause that he has up to 72 hours prior to the day of travel to revoke his permission. He agreed. The day arrives for us to leave, and I get to the airport with the kids three hours before the flight. Things go smoothly, and I take the kids to a diner to grab some breakfast. My ex arrives much later, and as we're finishing up, I get a call from him. Turns out, his passport was revoked due to lack of child support payment. He was denied at check-in and there's no way he can get his passport reinstated without paying his arrears in full. He said that since he can't go, he no longer gives me permission to take them. I reminded him that were past the

72 hours for him to deny my travel request. He said that he was going to inform an officer that I was trying to kidnap his children. I told him to do whatever he felt was not. He said, he was going to inform necessary. Officers did show up at the gate to figure out what was going on, but I had the notarized agreement with me, so they sent us on our way. He kept spamming my phone non-stop until we got on the plane, where I was able to turn it off and get some peace for the flight. While we were in the air, he called my brother to complain, and I've now been given an earful about how cruel it was for me to continue with the trip, knowing he wouldn't be able to follow us, and that I didn't tell him on purpose. My mother told my brother to stay out of it, and that it's no longer my

responsibility to remind my ex to open his mail. But some extended family agree with my brother. I don't think that I'm the butthole for continuing our trip, but I'm questioning whether I'm the butthole for not giving him a heads up that he should check his passport. I didn't know that it was revoked for sure, but I suspected it. Am I the butthole? O.P., even if you knew 100% certain fact that it, it was revoked, you still weren't obligated to tell him. You're not married to him. You have no obligation to this man whatsoever. And on top of that, he sounds like a douchebag. This whole, like, conjoined vacation thing, by the way, is very weird. If you're divorced, why is he following you

around on vacation? Is it because he's paranoid that you're not going to come back? Very strange behavior. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your ex two out of five buttholes. Your moron brother also gets one out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for calling out my in-laws after they mocked my parents for crying? I'm a 23-year-old woman, and I just had a baby. After giving birth, I stayed with my parents for like two months before moving back home with my husband. When my husband and his parents came to pick me up, my parents got emotional saying goodbye. Like, yeah, they cried a bit.

It was really sweet, honestly. We don't live close, and they won't see us often. But in the car, my in-law started laughing. laughing about it, like saying, oh, wow, so dramatic and stuff. I just sat there like, are you serious? It felt so mean and disrespectful. I ended up snapping and told them it wasn't funny. Then everyone went quiet, and later my husband told me I overreacted.

By the way, during those two months, my in-laws barely texted or called to check on us. Not even when the baby got sick twice. And now they're mocking my parents for caring too much? I don't know, man. Oof, sounds like you've married into a sucky family, O.P., because your husband sucks and your in-laws suck. The comments are really, you know, piling on saying divorce and you shouldn't have had a baby with this guy. And like, yeah, this was terrible behavior, but I don't know if this is quite divorce territory here. It's just, you know, run-of-the-mill disrespect.

So, O.P., you should lay down the law, tell your husband that it's not okay for anyone to disrespect your family, and that your in-laws suck. Am I the butthole for getting my friend fired from her job? So my friend and I, both 22-year-old women, work in retail. I'd planned for weeks with my boyfriend to go home during the weekend so that we could visit my family. Two weeks ago on Friday, my friend called me and told me that the guy she was speaking to had invited her last minute to a desert party and that she wouldn't be able to make her shift, so she asked me to cover it for her. I had that Friday off, and my boyfriend and I were planning on leaving early since the drive

is like around four to five hours. I told her I can't cover for her, and she got really upset. She ended up telling her manager that she had a family emergency and that she said that I would cover for her. So when my manager called me and asked me why I wasn't at work, since my friend said that I would be working her shift, I told her the truth, and my friend ended up getting fired. Now she's really upset with me, saying I threw her under the bus. Am I the butthole? Uh, OP, your title is not correct? You did not get your friend fired. She got herself fired by lying and by not showing up to her shift. Huh?

O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. That was R.S.M.I. The butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.