rSlash - r/AITA Help! My Girlfriend's Mom is Mega Hot!

Episode Date: September 2, 2025

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Am I the butthole for calling my girlfriend's mom gorgeous, thus causing a fight between the mom and the dad? I'm a 23-year-old guy, and I'm meeting the parents of my girlfriend, who's 25. The mom is 51, and the dad is 52, and they invited me over for dinner. I'd brought flowers to give to the mom. When I saw the mom, I thought she looked gorgeous, so I told her, in front of my mom, my girlfriend and the dad. She thanked me. During the dinner, the mom brought up the fact that I told her she looks gorgeous. She asked me what I find gorgeous about her. Wanting to be honest, without being crude, I told her her eyes, smile, and hair. She giggled and thanked me. She seemed

both so flattered and so shocked. Then the mom turned to the dad and told him that I called her gorgeous. Despite the fact that this had happened in front of him, so he already knew, she told him that he doesn't call her beautiful anymore, but she got called gorgeous by her daughter's boyfriend. This led to a big fight between the mom and the dad. When my girlfriend and I got back to her apartment, she agreed that her parents' intense reaction had little to do with me, and was mostly about problems between them. But my girlfriend said that my behavior towards her mom was still inappropriate. She said, even if her parents

had a perfect marriage, it's weird that I was flirting with her mom. Am I the butthole? Alright, I'm getting some real red flags out of this family. The mom is an instigator. She straight up picked a fight by insulting her husband in the middle

of dinner. And then the girlfriend blames you for complimenting the mom? That wasn't flirting. It's not like, hey, how about I ditch my girlfriend and you and I go catch a movie? No, it's just, hey, you look very beautiful, Mrs. So-and-so. That's a stock standard, almost borderline expected compliment to pay the mom of your girlfriend. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes.

I'm giving the girlfriend and the mom one out of five buttholes. It's not really clear if the dad deserves buttholes, because he seemed to just be innocently enjoying dinner when a fight got picked with him randomly, so, you know, it's kind of hard to evaluate. Am I the butthole for threatening to quit my job if my dad continues what he's doing? I'm a 16-year-old girl, and I've lived with my dad, who's 64, for about a year now. My parents are divorced, and I'm not close with my mother. I'm going into my senior year, I'm graduating a year early, and I start school again in a week or so. Last year in November, I began working at a restaurant as a hostess to save up for a car.

I take the bus to and from school, as well as to work, and a car would save me a lot of time. I make minimum wage, and I pull in a little over $1,000 a month after taxes. I put about 65% of that into savings and spend the rest on various things like going out with my friends or Funco pops. In February of this year, my dad told me that since I was making so much money, I needed to start contributing to the household. At first, this was fine. He asked that I pay for my phone bill and utilities. We rent from a family member, so utilities are discounted, and my phone bill isn't too expensive either. Both things are about 200 bucks.

With this, I was saving less, so I still had spending money, but I still had set aside $4 to $500 every month for the car. In July, my dad decided I needed to pay a portion of the rent. I tried to argue with him on that, but he threatened to close my account, which he can do because he opened it for me. I had to start giving him $500 on top of the $200 a month, totaling $700 a month. With the $300 I had left, I saved $200 for the car and kept $100. I was pretty fed up at this point, but it gets worse. I have some cash in my jar in my room in case I do something that you can't use a card for. I had about 300 bucks in the jar from several months.

Last week I came home from work and the jar is empty. When I asked my dad, he said that since I'm his daughter, he's entitled to the money I make. I was furious. I told him he had to give it back, but he already spent it on some BS Amazon purchases. Lucky me, he told me he wanted $100 extra per month because you shouldn't have that much money just for you. So, after all this, I'm only pulling in $200 a month. That is, if I don't save any. Last night, I told my dad that I was going to give my two weeks notice.

I work hard and I'm exhausted. It isn't worth the few hundred dollars I get. He was absolutely furious and said that I owe it to him to contribute to the household. I go to work in a few hours, and I'm planning on letting them know that I won't be continuing. So am I the butthole? This is financial abuse and also just straight up disgusting behavior. O.P., you have a terrible father, and depending on your location, this is probably illegal. Your dad, you know, depending on his location, is legally obligated to give you a home, so you don't owe him rent.

O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your dad three out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for refusing to let my parents meet my children because they didn't want me to marry my deaf wife? I'm a 29-year-old guy. My parents didn't see that my wife, whose 28, has a big heart and an awesome personality, or how beautiful she is. All they saw was that she was deaf. I asked them, how ignorant can they be? They argued that she'll pass her disability onto any children that we have. Long story short, they said they won't accept her into the family.

I said, then you aren't accepted into ours, and any children we have, they aren't going to know about them. My wife cried when I reluctantly had to tell her why my parents weren't attending our wedding. I hated my parents more for that. Only my sister came, and she's the only one I speak to now, but I haven't spoken to or seen my parents since. We now have twins, a boy and a girl, and they're both hearing. My sister came to visit and said that our parents found out about them and asked her to ask me and my wife if they can meet them. I immediately shut that down. I told my sister to remind them that they rejected my wife first and they can F off. My sister later texted and said they both want to apologize. I said it's too late. I told my wife about my parents' request

and she said maybe we can reconsider and take it slow. My friends said that this can be the healing enclosure that I need. I don't know if I want it. I don't know if they want to see my children just because they found out that they're hearing. I don't know if I'm being selfish and only thinking about how I feel. Am I the butthole? Ooh, I love this comment from Caligula can. They say, they can come when they've learned sign language. I think that's a pretty good compromise, because while I do agree with O.P., that this is a very justifiable reason to cut off family, the thing is, the wife seems to want a relationship with them, and presumably the kids will want a relationship with them too. And you know, people can change their ways, change their mind,

become better people. So I think learning sign language is a great way for them to prove themselves that they're serious. But still, O.P, if you want to dig in your heels and say, no, they crossed an uncrossable line, I still think you're justified. It's just personally, I'd probably lean towards the sign language thing. Such a good idea. O.P., I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your dumb parents two, no, what's fair? Three? Three out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for not paying one-third of my salary for my kids college? Both of my kids are in college. Through my teaching job, my kids can attend my private college, 55K plus tuition, for free, or one of the exchange colleges for close to free. My kids don't like any of the colleges on the

list, including mine. My ex-wife is proposing that it's fair to pay the amount of our state college's tuition plus room and board. The cost is 30,000 per kid, which means 30k each for my ex and I. 30k is over a third of my annual salary. My ex has already told the kids that this is a done deal. She said I'll pay whatever you decide to pay and she'll somehow take care of the rest. So clearly the expectation is that I'll split it half and half. She makes less than I do. I don't want any part of this. I stuck with this job, in part, for the benefits, the tuition benefits specifically. I also don't want to say, okay, I'll pay $5,000 per kid per year because they could be going for free and they chose not to, because then I'm the butthole. But am I the butthole here? Help! I feel like

a stingy jerk, but I would really like to have some boundaries. I think what you really need to do, OP, is have a serious sit-down conversation with your kids. Because, yeah, they're not obligated to go to one of your free schools. But, and I'm saying this, not to insult any 18-year-olds out there, don't take this the wrong way. Most 18-year-olds don't fully understand the meaning of $30,000 or $55K, just because most 18-year-olds have never even held $1,000. So they need perspective. They need to understand what this gives. gift is that they're passing up and how devastating student debt is because it never, ever goes away. Tell them to go to TikTok and look up student loan debt and how students have been paying

off debt for like 10 years and they still owe more than when they started. It's actually nuts. I'm not kidding. You guys don't know about this. You take out a loan when you're 18 for let's say $20,000 and you've been paying off your student loans every month and then when you're 30, you check the balance and your balance is $25,000. I'm not making it up. It's bonkers. So, O.P., I don't think you're the butthole. I don't think your kids are the butthole either. They're just kind of, you know, naive, don't really understand how the world works. The wife, however, is a butthole because she's strong-arming you and, in my opinion, emotionally manipulating you. So I'm giving her 1.5 out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my in-laws

were getting divorced because my wife cheated on me, since they thought that I was leaving her because of her weight. I'm a 35-year-old guy, and I thought that I was getting everything I ever wanted with my wife, who's 35, when we were in our late 20s. I truly love her, both when she was thin, and now that she's plus-sized. She became plus-sized during her pregnancy, and I was still hot for her. But she hated her new body, and she felt ugly despite all my compliments. Over the years, she gained more weight and felt worse about herself. More recently, she cheated on me. She felt so low about herself that she wanted to see if men who didn't have to love her would find her sexy. I didn't have to love her because we have a child together. I love her because she's her. We're getting a

divorce and I wanted the process to be peaceful. But my in-laws, especially my mother-in-law, were giving me hell because they thought that I was this shallow jerk who was leaving his wife because she gained weight during pregnancy. I was confronted by her parents again, and I told them the truth. Now, my in-laws are giving my wife hell and she's miserable. I don't want her to be miserable. I just want my in-laws off my case. Am I the butthole? Not at all. Your wife cheated, then left you to take all the heat. You get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving her three out of five buttholes. That was our slash am I the butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.