rSlash - r/AITA I Falsely Accused a Veteran of Stolen Valor

Episode Date: April 24, 2023

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behavior OP. Earlier tonight I ordered Hawaiian pizza with my boyfriend. We've only been dating a month, so it's the first time I ate pizza with him. We only finished about half, and then we went to watch TV. I was still hungry, so I ate all the toppings off the pizza. When he saw, he absolutely flipped out. He said that he was saving it for lunch tomorrow that he had never met anyone who would do anything like this

and was just generally really upset. I thought he was joking and laughed it off, but it's been a couple of hours and he's still upset. He's talking about how he was looking forward to having the leftover pizza for lunch and how I ruined his lunch. I offered to buy him another pizza, but he kept saying that it wasn't about that, and I just ruined his day. Is he overreacting? Or am I the bad guy? Opie. Opie. Come on man. Come on, there's a whole half pie of pizza sitting in front of you.

And instead of eating another slice, like a normal person, your solution, your bright idea is to ruin every single slice of pizza. And then leave it out for your boyfriend to find, and I guess throw away, as some sort of like final F you, I ruined your pizza, it's in my belly now. Like what, who does that? This is totally different from just eating

the entire half of the pizza yourself. Because if that were the case, the boyfriend could have been like, wow, I guess you were super hungry. Don't worry about it babe, you can have the pizza. But instead, you pick off the toppings, that's like, hey, can I have a fry? And then you eat a french fry and then spit

in his remaining french fries. I will say though, the boyfriend is maybe being a little bit presumptuous that he gets the entire remaining half of the pizza. Because if you ordered it together, then by that logic, if there's half of pizza left over, then shouldn't you get a quarter and then he get a quarter? So I think you're kind of entitled to that one quarter

of pizza to eat like a lunatic if you're so inclined. But still, you should have asked him before eating his quarter of the pizza. At least one quarter of the pizza is his, assuming that you like paid equally. Well, maybe if he bought it then the pizza's his or if you bought it the pizza's yours, I don't know. Okay, how about this?

Regardless of who bought it, the polite thing to do would be to ask the other person if you can, I don't know, okay, how about this? Regardless of who bought it, the polite thing to do would be to ask the other person if you can, I don't know, perform unholy foul acts to the remaining half of that pizza. Opie, I'm giving you one out of five bad guys and I'm also giving you five out of five on the lunatic scale. You're out of your mind, Opie.

This is like that episode of South Park, where Cartman eats all the skin off the fried chicken and leaves everyone with the just dry chicken meat. This is the type of behavior you would expect out of like an alien who's dressed as a human trying to pass off as humans. I do not understand why this is not logical. Would you not eat the tastiest parts of the pizza and leave the untasteiest parts? Why are you angry? I have left you the carbohydrates, the most calorie-dense portion of the pizza. Also, some people in the comments are saying everyone sucks here because the boyfriend is acting really negatively.

Nah, man. Nah. If someone eats your pizza, you're allowed a certain degree of heartbreak in your life. He's not overreacting, he's not breaking things, he's just letting or no, man, I'm really disappointed that bummed me out. It's hidden him, man, because he was looking forward to that pizza. This person said he- He-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he-he- Someone else says, that's what I'm thinking. People here saying he overreacted, he should break up with her over this. Only a month in and she showed him that she's gross, inconsiderate, selfish, and dismissive. In the end, the cost of one pizza lunch could have saved him a lot of time with OP, so a

fairly inexpensive learning experience, but still very frustrating. Yeah, I don't want to overreact here, but you guys are just one month into the relationship. I think you're in breakup territory to be completely honest. Am I the bad guy for not including my niece and my daughter's birthday since her parents can't afford it? I'm a 31 year old woman. My daughter's 8 years old, and my niece is also 8 years old. They're born just 10 days apart.

Due to this, ever since they were little, my sister-in-law, who's 29, has always pushed for them to have a shared birthday party. When the girls were younger, like age 1-4, we used to do shared birthday parties. But my husband and I realized that we were always the one to foot the bill for everything. Food, decorations, location, etc. The girls were also complete opposites. My daughter has always been more of a tomboy while my niece is super girly. When my husband and I told my sister-in-law and my brother that we won't be doing the shared birthdays anymore, they were really upset and started a huge fight. They said that they can't afford to throw a nice birthday for my niece, but we can,

so it makes sense that we pay for it since we're family. Yeah, that is not going to fly with my husband and I. So we stuck by what we said, and ever since then, the girls have had separate birthdays. My daughter and my husband love watching Formula 1 together, and she wanted to have a Formula 1 theme birthday this year. This weekend, before the birthday, we had a family dinner at my parents' house. My sister-in-law, my brother, and my niece were present. My parents were asking the girls if they were excited for their upcoming birthdays, and

if they were having birthday parties this year. My daughter told my parents that she's having a formula one themed party this year. My sister-in-law answered for my niece and said they're not going to have a party for her because things were tight. The conversation was left there. Fast forward to this past weekend. We had a party and it was going great. The whole family was invited as usual and everyone was having a great time until the cake. I'm in the kitchen with my mom, mother-in-law, sister-in-law, and a few other family friends talking. I pull the cake out to get it ready and bring out for everyone.

My sister-in-law looks at the cake and looks confused. Is this the girl's birthday cake? She asks. I say, what do you mean the girl's? This cake is for my daughter. Well, I thought that since I mentioned that things are tight this year, that you would include my daughter in the birthday celebration. I understand your situation, but why did you never mention this to me?

Well, I thought it would be common sense. Now, my daughter isn't going to have any kind of celebration for her birthday this year because you and your husband are so selfish. She then stormed out of the kitchen, made a huge scene at the party outside, yelling to her husband and my niece that it's time to go and left. Since then, she's been messaging me and my husband non-stop, trying to make us feel guilty that my niece isn't going to have a birthday party and calling us all kinds of names. I feel bad that my niece isn't going to get a birthday party. Am I the bad guy for not including her, even though they can't afford it?

Alright, the answer to that is super simple OP. It's your job to make sure that your kid has a good party, and it's their job to make sure that their kid has a good party. So expecting you to include their kid just because they drop some hints that things are tight this year, and then making a big scene at an 8-year-old girl's birthday party is super douchey. I'm giving them 2.5 out of 5 bad guys. Like if she's upset about it then she's upset about it.

But to make a scene in front of an 8-year-old girl's birthday party, man that is rude. I'm really hesitant to say this because I want to be sympathetic to people who are broke and don't have money because everyone goes through rough times in their life. But to say that you can't throw your kid a birthday party because times are tough feels a little bit off-base to me. Couldn't you just hold the birthday party at a public park where it's free to go? Or for food, you could tell parents that it's like a potluck so everyone just brings one dish.

There are ways to celebrate your kid's birthday that are super, super low cost instead of just not celebrating it or like shoving off the responsibility to someone else. It sounds like they're more interested in having a nice birthday party than they are and having any birthday party at all. Anyways OP, I'm giving you zero out of five bad guys. I wish your niece the best of luck because her parents sound like they're slipping into our slash entitled parent's territory. As the world's population grows, so does the need for resources like potash to support sustainable food production. This is why BHP is building one of the world's most sustainable

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I've left the service and right now I'm doing an MBA. One of my classmates, a 31 year old woman who call Jay, is very gentle, very soft-spoken and unassuming. Jay and I were working together on a case study once, and I started opening up to her about my military service and all the lessons that I learned from the core. Jay enthusiastically told me, that's so cool! I was a surface warfare officer in the Navy. I immediately felt suspicious about this claim. As I said,

Jay is very demeanor and she doesn't really have the bravado that's required in the military environment. At least, I feel like a certain amount of bravado is required. I still humored her and began asking about the details of her military experience, where she deployed, what courses she went through, what ship she served on, et cetera. Suddenly, Jay got all tight-lipped and she couldn't say anything specific about military life.

She kept making excuses along the lines of, it just wasn't a good period of my life and I'd rather not talk about it. Eventually, I felt like I'd done enough snooping around, and I bluntly told her that she was BS-ing, and I'd rather not work with a phony. I talked about this experience with my friend, Em, at her school's veterans organization. I told Em to be wary of anything that Jay says. Em responded by telling me that Jay did serve.

He's even seen her paperwork and ID and everything, and that in fact, one of her MPA recommendation letters was written by a retired rear admirable, who held Jay in high regard. Whoops. And OP points out that the rear admiral is O-8. If that means anything to you, because it doesn't mean anything to me.

Oh, O-8 is up there. Wow, that is up there! According to Google, O-8 is like the third highest ranking in the Navy, and there's only like 300 of them on planet Earth. So yeah, that seems like a pretty big deal actually. Anyways, back to the story. The next time I met Jay before our class started,

I tried to act chummy towards her and make up for accusing her of being a liar. She laughed in my face and told me to pound sand, Pooley, and for those of you who don't know, yes, she was being derisive here. Am I the bad guy? I've never heard the word Pooley in my life. I don't, I hope that's not a slur, if it is a slur, I apologize. I don't, I don't know what that means. A poolie refers to those who aspire to be a marine through the DEP, whatever the DEP is. Yo, I gotta get out of these military terms. I don't know what these people are talking about. But I can't talk about whether or not you are the bad guy OP and yes, you are the bad guy.

Basically your argument is introverts can't be in the military huh? That doesn't even make sense. The military is huge! Of course they've got introverts. So I'm a big like video game player and in the video gaming space we have a problem right now where when a girl says that she's into video gaming a lot of guys will sometimes just like not take her seriously and start quizzing women on like, oh, you're a gamer. Well, what's your favorite game? What's your favorite developer? Have you beaten Dark Souls?

And just like basically put them through the SAT of video game knowledge to verify that they're an actual gamer. And that's kind of what you did here, OP. The thing is, this girl doesn't owe you an explanation. Just because she went to the military, if people ask her about her military life, she's not obligated to be like,

oh, I served here and I did this, and I was there for the next amount of years, and here's my documentation and verification because I have to prove myself, not man, she doesn't owe you anything. How about, you know, this is a crazy idea. How about you mind your own business, dude? Oh, interesting.

Down in the comments, people are pointing out that Bob Ross was in the military. The happy trees, paint some happy tree guys with the afro, the most chill mellow dude on the planet, and he was a drill sergeant. What are you kidding me? Yeah, so stop being like your stereotyping essentially, OP, you're saying people in the military

have to be macho and masculine and introverted to mirror women aren't fit for the military. You're being a sexist douchebag OP, sexist and nosy and judgmental too. OP you get three out of five bad guys. J get zero out of five bad guys. Am I the bad guy for not telling my girlfriend that my parents are gay? I'm a 25 year old man and I have two parents. My birth dad, John, who's 48, and my other dad, Dwayne, who's 45. I call my birth dad, dad, and my other dad, Pops. My birth dad was married to my mom for a few years, then she left my dad, and yeah. They ended up divorcing, and now she's somewhere in California. I don't know where or what she's doing.

I haven't talked to her in ages. So, dad and pops, I'm super close with. They're the best parents that any child could ask for. I love both of them, and they've always been with me. My dad introduced me to pops when I was a little boy, and they told me they were in a relationship. So, seeing the fact that my dad loved someone and has a life partner made me super happy.

Pops and dad got married and we've been living an amazing life. I'm probably more close to Pops than my own dad, ha ha. Due to the fact that Pops is really cool and he's laid back, I love both of them equally and they love me as well and I'm blessed to have them as parents. For a few months, I've been dating this girl Bella, who's my age. I thought she's pretty cute and I liked her, so we kicked it, and she recently told me, my parents want to meet your parents and want to come over for dinner, and I said sure,

I'll tell my family. So yesterday was Friday night, Bella comes in. Pop's greets her and says, come on in, sweetheart, dinner's ready. She says, you must be OP's dad, so good to meet you and she shakes his hand. Then she sees my dad come out of the kitchen. Bella says, who's he? I said, oh, that's my dad.

She said, I thought he's your dad referring to pops. I said, yeah, that's my pops and that's my Dad. She pulls me to the side and says, I didn't know your parents are gay. Oh my God, why didn't you tell me? I genuinely didn't know why that it would be an issue or something. You know, because you're dating me, not my parents, so it shouldn't matter. But I guess it's a concern for her. Her parents came to the door after they parked their car, and Bella told her parents let's leave and they left. I told my parents I'm sorry, and they said, son, don't worry, this is nothing new.

And then we all sat down, enjoyed dinner, and went to sleep. So am I the bad guy for not telling? The top comment is not the bad guy. Did she ever tell you that her parents are straight? And like, yeah, I do agree that's the right answer. It's just that if my parents were gay, I probably would tell people that they're gay before people came over because I don't want an unexpected homophobic to be joining us for dinner, which is apparently what happens.

Anyways, OP, I'm giving you 0 out of 5 bad guys. I'm giving your girlfriend Bella 2 out of 5 bad guys. Leaving the dinner party like that unexpectedly is super rude. And come on, it's 2023, are we still on this? That was our slash of my D.A. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day. be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.