rSlash - r/AITA I Got My Coworker Fired

Episode Date: December 27, 2025

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Welcome to R slash Am I the Butthole, where O.P. gets her nosy co-worker fired. Am I the butthole for not canceling my vacation and reporting a coworker for harassment? During COVID, my company allowed us to all rollover paid time off from 2020 to 2022 because of the no-travel stuff happening. In 2023, they moved the bar from 150 hours up to 250 rollover because a lot of people complained about losing a lot of time when they didn't travel. you were not required to bank your time. We took the pandemic seriously and didn't travel at all in 2020 to mid-2020. And then we stayed home most of the first half of 2022 as well and started traveling again in October of 2022. So I banked my 250 hours and because I'm still accruing, I have a lot of hours built up. Every year, my husband and I take several long scheduled vacations of like 10 to 11

days long. We visit a relative in Florida, family reunion wherever it's being hosted, anniversary trip each fall, etc. I've been doing this for nine years, and it's approved. We hired Haley in October. She's made it clear that her son is her life. That's well and fine. I don't care one way or the other. Haley came to my desk on Monday and asked me if I would reconsider my time off in December. When I asked why, she said that she had requested some time off to travel with her son for the holidays to see her family, but it was denied because I'm off. I just said, no, sorry, and turned back around. That afternoon, Haley sent me an email with an itemized timeline of all the time off I'd taken this year and asked to please reconsider her, and she C-Ced our boss. I'll be honest, this severely

pissed me off. I don't butt into anyone else's business ever. I don't care if I see you parked on the 50-yard line at the Eagles game the same day you call in sick. As long as I'm not having to do your work, I don't care. I emailed back immediately saying that I don't appreciate her combing through my vacation time and that my answer was still no and I didn't want to discuss the matter further. Yesterday morning, I was called into a meeting by my boss, Lisa, and Haley. Lisa jumped right in saying that she saw Haley's email and my response and Haley wanted to meet. I told Haley and Lisa both that I will not be canceling my vacation.

Haley starts raising her voice about how my child-free traveling should take a back seat to working-class mothers and their kids. She claimed that I hate kids from my remark in the workplace, and she felt that I was retaliating for the cause. Both Lisa and I were shocked at the accusation. I'm child-free by choice. My husband and I have a lot of nieces and nephews, as well as godchildren, and we're happy. We don't hate kids. Lisa knows this as well. Lisa and I have worked together in total for about 15. years. I told Haley that she's making a false accusation, and this was now an HR matter. I got up and left the meeting, even though Lisa asked me to stay. About half an hour later, I got another email from Haley, but she was informing me that she was asking Lisa to revoke my paid time off, and to be

fair to others on our team. Then, I overheard Haley telling a team member that I'm not letting her take time off because I hate kids, and that I'm part of the hateful child-free community. That was the last straw for me. I attached both of Haley's emails and wrote an email to HR about her harassing and slandering me. I gave the name of the co-worker she was talking to and the conversation context as well. I hit send and forwarded it to my boss afterwards so that she knew what was going on. About an hour ago, I found out that Haley has a meeting with HR on Friday and she will more than likely be fired. The co-worker she complained to told me that he felt I overreacted and that she was just venting about finding child care for the holidays because of work,

and I should have just sat down to talk about it more. A friend who's also a colleague said she thought I let my anger get the best of me, and now Haley may lose her job when she's just as stressed out an overly tired mother having a bad day. I will admit, I use the buzzwords of harassment and slander to get my point across, but it had been two days of an asked-and-answered conversation, and I was done with it. So am I the butthole for reporting her over the incident? I wouldn't feel bad, O.P. If Haley gets fired, she'll have all the time in the world to travel with her son.

If she didn't want to get fired, maybe she shouldn't have harassed her co-worker. Also a super relevant detail is Haley got hired in October, and this was written in December, meaning Haley's been working at that company for at most a month and a half, and she's already trying to boss around her co-workers and tell them when they can and can't take vacation? How much saved vacation time does Haley even have anyways? O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. Haley gets 1.5 out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my daughter-in-law that I got the iPads for the kids,

but I've locked her out of the settings? My son works on cargo ships. He's hard to contact and has gone for weeks to months at a time. He will not be around for the holidays. He's married to Daisy. Life has been rough for my son and Daisy the past two years. Daisy became unemployed and hasn't found work that's flexible enough with the kids. My son has gone often, so he can't help with the kids.

A common issue that's been happening is that Daisy will sell the kids' possessions online for extra cash. I really don't approve, especially since she's still getting her nails done every two weeks. The kids get into trouble and she sells their things. granddaughter only had her new Switch video game for two weeks before it was sold. Daisy claimed she was playing too aggressively with the game, but when I asked, she couldn't give me any examples. So, the $70 Switch game got sold on eBay. This only ever happens with expensive gifts. I've talked to her about it, but she denies it. Daisy asked me to buy the two kids' iPads for Christmas. They're expensive, and I'm worried she's going to sell them. So I've

set them up already, and I made it so she needs a password to get into the settings app. That way, she can't wipe them and sell them. I called her up today and informed her that I got the kids an iPad and explained that I put a password on the settings app. In short, she was pissed, but I made it clear this was the only way I was gifting them the iPads. I've been getting texts constantly about me overstepping. Was this a dick move? Should I get rid of the passcode?

O.P., I think Daisy's still going to sell the iPad. She's just not going to get as much as she did before. I would keep the iPads at your house. Also, just never do anything Daisy says or believe anything she tells you because she's a liar. O.P, you get zero out of five buttholes. Daisy gets two out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for being furious that my husband gave away my sake and wine after I told him repeatedly not to? I'm a 30-year-old woman and I came back from Japan about two months ago and brought home an expensive bottle of sake that I specifically picked after taking a sake tasting class. I'm not a big drinker, so I chose something I genuinely liked and that my husband would enjoy. It was meant as a for us thing. I also had an unopened bottle of German wine that a friend gifted me three months ago. My husband and I had multiple conversations where he asked if he could give the sake to his father, his cousin, or his friends. And I said a strict no every single time. Not vaguely, not jokingly, very clearly. He knew that it was sentimental and partially a souvenir. He also refused to drink it the one time I opened it because he had a headache. So I had about 20 milliliters and left the rest untouched. Fast forward to three

days ago. I'm away from home and he has friends over after a pub night. I didn't even consider that he would touch the sake or the wine because we both had the don't share this conversation a million times. The next day, I ask him where the sake is. He casually tells me that he shared the sake and the unopened wine with his friends, and they finished everything. I was stunned, angry, disappointed, all of it. He then says he forgot that I told him not to give it to anyone. Then he adds that he doesn't remember unimportant stuff. Bear in mind, I'd even given him a bottle of whiskey specifically meant for his friends after I returned from my travel. When I confronted him about the sake and wine, he flipped it and said,

Don't let it spoil our relationship and suggest that I see a counselor. Am I the butthole for being this upset over something he claims is not a big deal? Even though I told him explicitly and repeatedly not to touch it, I am unable to process the fact that my husband casually crossed a major boundary and is nonchalant about it. Also, OP clarifies that her husband and her husband's friends are not alcoholics. They rarely indulge. You know, it kind of sounds like, he wanted to do this specifically because you set the boundary, especially since you clarify

that your husband isn't a big drinker, so it's not like they have a pressing need to slurp down alcohol. I think he did this too hurt you, to swing his big dick around in mark his territory and say that whatever you have is actually mine. O.P., I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your husband two out of five buttholes. Your husband literally told you that you are unimportant to him. Perhaps you should start listening. Am I the butthole for kicking my mom out after she brought up my deceased baby and my past addiction in front of my new boyfriend? I'm a 24-year-old woman and I'm trying so hard to rebuild my life. Two years ago, I was struggling with addiction. I got clean. I got help. I started over. A year later, I had a baby. He passed away shortly after

birth from complications. Losing him almost made me relapse. I didn't, but it shattered something in me that will never fully heal. My mom has never been supportive of any version of me. The hurt one, the recovering one, the mother, the grieving one. She only shows up when she can be the victim. She loves attention, but not accountability. When my baby died, instead of comforting me, she said, you shouldn't have gotten pregnant so fast after getting clean. Maybe now you'll be more responsible. I still can't think about those words without crying. Anyways, I recently met someone, a 30-year-old guy. He's gentle, patient, and kind. The first person who makes me feel like I'm not broken. He knows I've been through hard things, but I hadn't told him everything yet. I wanted to

share my story when I felt secure. So one night, he comes over for dinner at my place. I'm nervous, but excited. Everything's going perfect. We're laughing, cooking, talking. Then, my mom shows up uninvited. Just lets herself in like she still owns me. Obviously, I gave her a spare key. We live away from family, and it's just us.

She immediately starts scanning him like she's a spy, asking what he does, how much he makes, if he comes from a stable family, all with this condescending tone, like she's auditioning him for a job, she doesn't have the authority over. Then she turns to him and says with a straight face, before you get too attached,

you should know she already had a baby, but he didn't survive. I yelled out, Mom, what the F! She ignored me. She probably didn't tell you because she feels guilty. I told her not to get her hopes up. Addicts don't usually have healthy pregnancies.

Then she said the most evil thing I've ever heard. Maybe if she hadn't wasted those years on drugs, her body wouldn't be so damaged. I broke. I flipped out and everything went black. I just remember calling her every name under the sun and telling her to get the hell out of my house. My boyfriend was stunned and I don't blame him.

She obviously left, arguing on the way out. But everything was such a blur at that point, I can't even tell you what was said. I screamed at her to get out. I remember that. I don't even remember what I said. I just saw red. After she left, she texted me,

paragraph after paragraph about how I embarrassed her, how I'm still unstable, how she won't sugarcoat reality just because I'm sensitive, and all this other unnecessary stuff that I don't care to hear. I blocked her. Now, my sister and mother are calling me dramatic, disrespectful, saying I humiliated my mother by kicking her out. My boyfriend's been nothing but supportive. He held me while I cried. He didn't judge my past at all. He didn't leave. Now I'm questioning myself. Was I the butthole? Opie, if I were in your shoes, I would change my locks, ideally move to a completely new place. Keep my mom and my sister blocked and never talk to them again. This is absolutely a no-contact situation. Why would you even want your mom around? She sounds like she's feeding off of your misery. Opie, I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes.

I think I'm giving your mom four out of five buttholes. I don't know, maybe five? Who makes fun of a mother who lost their child? Am I the butthole for telling a friend's boyfriend that he can't have a traditional wife because he's not a traditional man? I'm a 25-year-old woman, and I was hanging with some friends and their significant others last week. To make a long story short, my friend's boyfriend kept talking about how women no longer want to be traditional wives, and that's why many of them are single.

I responded that in 2025, women don't feel like they need a man to provide the lives that they want for themselves. He kept going on about what women used to do and how they were all about taking care of their husbands and households without complaining. I let it go on for a while, but I got tired of hearing his rant and told him that he can't have a traditional wife when my friend goes 50-50 on all the bills with him and works more hours than he does.

I continued that he isn't a traditional husband and can't provide for his household like he's supposed to so that my friend can stay home and do those. traditional duties. I may have become the butthole when I told him that it sounds like he wants another mommy and not a wife. It became silent and he told me that my way of thinking proved his point. The conversation pivoted elsewhere and I thought that was it, but I got a message from my friends saying that her boyfriend was upset at me for what I said and I embarrassed him. He wants me to apologize, but I don't think that I should have to, being as though I was responding to his rant

about traditional women. My friend said she doesn't think I'm wrong, but doesn't think I'm right either, and I should have just let him talk because he had a few drinks. Am I the butthole? Wow, what a manly man this guy is, getting his woman to help pay the bills and getting his woman to also fight for him. I'm sad. She embarrassed me. Tell your friend to apologize to me because I'm upset. This guy's a loser, OP. Why do you care about his opinion? You get zero out of five I'm giving the whiny baby, I don't know, 1.5 out of five buttholes. That was our slash am I the butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.

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