rSlash - r/AITA I Got My Relative Fired

Episode Date: July 6, 2026

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The original deal was for me to stay until I was ready to move out, or until me. and my girlfriend, Mary. About a half year ago, they changed that up and said at the end of summer I'd have to get my own apartment so my 17-year-old sister could move in. This was not the original plan, so I had basically renovated the entire house to make it as comfortable as possible for me. Everything except for the oven, dryer, and washing machine was either bought by me or someone gifted it to me. Because all this stuff is mine, I recently began to start moving things out gradually. bookshelf, bed, one of the AC units, my trophy stands, etc. All I've left in this house is my TV, work desk, which I'll move next week, my couch, fridge, and microwave. Yesterday, my parents entered

my house while I was at work, without asking or anything, and then waited until I got home and argued with me about taking all the stuff out of the house. I argued with them, as they said I couldn't take all this stuff because then my sister would have nothing for when she moves in. I told them that since I either paid for everything or had the items gifted to me, that they were mine to do with what I please. They called me the butthole because now my sister has nothing for the house and will have to buy everything while she makes barely any money. I told them that was not my problem,

but it was there since they decided to change everything up last second, screwing me over, especially while I also struggled with money because I had truck payments and bills. They continue to call me names and say that I was being petty and a butthole. However, I don't think that I'm the butthole for taking my stuff with me. For context, they're normally really amazing parents, but this whole ordeal with the house was the worst I've ever seen them. So am I the butthole?

Can you guys imagine the absolute nightmare scenario? If the world that your parents wanted actually was true, if you get an apartment and everything you buy for that apartment belongs to the landlord, Landlords are already awful enough. That adds like another level that makes it a total hellscape. You move into a place, you need a bid. You buy a bid and bed and bed set and dresser and all this stuff. And the landlord gets to keep it after you move.

Please just kill me. That sounds awful. And then equally bad, you have to inherit the previous tenants, ugly furniture, whenever you move to a new apartment. Yo, your parents are straight up stupid. They are dumb. This is your stuff. would your sister want your trophy case? And they say, oh, the sister doesn't make much money. Well,

lucky her, she's got free rent, so she can save up and buy herself a sofa. For my Facebook marketplace, you can pick up a sofa for like 50 bucks. They want to destroy their relationship with her son over stealing his property. Your parents are dumb, O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for refusing to apologize for my disgust with my boyfriend's family's behavior? I'm a 27-year-old woman. My family is middle class, not overly poor, definitely not rich, but we're comfortable. My boyfriend, who's 30, grew up middle class as well, but his grandparents have money. Not insane money, but definitely well over what I would describe as middle class.

His family pretty much makes a competition of who has what, and honestly, it weirds me out. They all have nice things, but they throw an absolute hissy fit if someone gets something and another one doesn't like it. For example, one of my boyfriend's aunts got money for a kitchen remodel from his grandpa, and it's been the only thing his family has talked about in weeks. If you go to the grandparents' house and seem overly nice, my boyfriend's family accuses you of trying to manipulate the will as well. This happened to me, and I was just absolutely baffled over it. I'm a nurse, and we were talking about health care. I don't understand why they thought I was trying to get in the will. Where I grew up, asking it all about money or someone's will or your standing in that will is incredibly

taboo. It makes it look as though you want people for money and not them. If you get something in someone's will, it's an occasion to be thankful that you meant something to them, like a token of love, not just something that's owed to you. They've asked me on multiple occasions about my own salary and savings, and I don't believe that's something that should be talked about. Again, extremely taboo. It isn't something that we do. In my family, if you look in someone else's cup, it's supposed to be to make sure they have enough. I have enough. The rest isn't their business. My boyfriend and I are talking about our future and planning to get married. However, I have a huge hesitation around the way his family behaves. It makes me very uncomfortable. I went to my boyfriend's family gathering,

and they were all talking about who will get what if the grandparents passed, and basically had a huge fight over it. And I made a face apparently and left early because I just didn't feel like wasting a perfectly good Saturday on that drama. My boyfriend is now upset, saying that his family is upset that I look disgusted and left abruptly. I told him his family is shameful and no, I wouldn't apologize over it. I don't even want to be associated with them at this point. The grandparents are still very much alive and they're fighting over what they might get. That's wild to me. I really do love my boyfriend, but his family, I don't like it all. Yeah, O.P., vultures are gross creatures. They're definitely circling what they think is going to be a soon-to-be

corpse and ready to feast on all that money. I don't blame you for being grossed out. You get zero out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for refusing to help with my nieces until my brother and sister-in-law take my younger niece to a doctor? I have two nieces, Eloise, who's seven, and Harper who's five. I work from home and have the most flexible schedule, so I handle school pickup for the girls. I'm the first point of contact for the school, and I've been chaperoning on field trips lately. Eloise was diagnosed with anxiety, and her mom claims she has severe ADHD, which hasn't been diagnosed. Eloise is a completely normal 7-year-old. Harper, on the other hand, actually has some type of severe attention disorder and possibly a stomach issue. I'm called to pick her up at least once a week because of

diarrhea. She wears pull-ups at school due to frequent poop accidents. Her classroom has 21 students and three teachers, and one of those teachers has been unofficially assigned to be Harper's one-on-one, because she constantly wanders off. She doesn't respond when you call her. She's oblivious to everything around her. She doesn't share. She'll move through groups of people almost without realizing they're there. She can't sit at circle time long enough for her teachers to read a story, even when they give her toys to play with or let her sit in her teacher's lap. She's not allowed on field trips unless either I or one of her parents comes with her. Her school's developmental specialist has come in to observe her

and try to get her to participate with the rest of the class, or even just sit down long enough to eat her snack or lunch with no success. Despite all of this, Harper is reading at a second grade level and doing math at a first grade level. Harper's been kicked out of two preschools because they can't handle her, and even this current school that's assigned her a one-on-one and has a developmental specialist, psychologist, and an OT on staff, is starting to say that this might not be the best environment for Harper. Harper's the same way at home. She forgets to drink water. She doesn't think to eat until you put food in front of her. Every exterior door and window has child locks and has an alarm

because of her tendency to wander off. The majority of my cabinets have multiple child locks because she's figured out how to get through them. She wears a leash in public because of the number of times her parents and I have lost her in stores. Last week was the straw that broke the camel's back. Harper was sent home from school for repeated attempts to climb the fence and for running away during circle time and getting into the art supplies that were set aside for later. And at my house, her tummy was bothering her, so she wanted to be held all the time, meaning I couldn't work until she was picked up.

When my brother came to pick up the girls, I told him I couldn't do this anymore and that I will not take care of the girls, or do anything for school until Harper sees a doctor for all of her issues. My brother still insists that Harper is fine and that me refusing to help with no notice is screwing him over. I refuse to budge, and now I have family saying it's not my place to demand that he takes her to a doctor. You know, I'm going to say it actually is O.P.'s place to say that she should go to a doctor. She's a secondary caregiver that gives her some say in being like,

hey, yeah, I think we should do something for the kid. Not the final say, of course, but she can certainly voice her opinion. I don't know why the extended family seems to think that they get an opinion on this, considering they don't seem to be helping at all. Some of the people in the comments are saying that OPEs should call CPS,

which is, you know, a nuclear option, it's a bit extreme. It might get the job done, but it will definitely nuke OPE's relationships. So I think the firm stance of, I won't help your child unless you help your child first, is a pretty good and effective stance, and then only resort to CPS is like a last resort here.

O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my friend that I don't want to travel with her because she's scared of the world? My friend, who's 24, has been talking about wanting to go to the Grand Canyon this year. She wanted me to join her, and I told her no. She found this surprising since I've been wanting to go there. She asked why I don't wish to go with her, and I told her it was due to a money issue at the moment, but she called BS on that and asked me for the real reason. The real reason is because she's terrified of the world in general. She's afraid to go on planes alone. She's scared of getting an Uber by herself. Going out, she wants everyone's location, which I've told her no to, multiple times. She literally thinks people are out to get her.

It's been an issue over and over because it feels like she's a small child and not a grown adult. I'm a woman. I get being more cautious, but she goes overboard and her paranoia ruins the outing for me. She once asked us to leave a restaurant because she thought that a guy was staring at her. Actually, he was annoyed at the loud table near us. I've asked her to go to therapy before, but she believes she doesn't need it. I told her why, in a much less blunt way, and she was hurt. We got into an argument, and she asked if I would go with someone else, and I told her, yeah.

She hasn't responded to my texts since, and I want to know if I screwed up. O.P., no, you're not the butthole here. You're allowed to not go on vacations if you want to. However, I wouldn't be surprised if you damaged or possibly even destroyed this relationship. And based on the tone of this post, I'm guessing that wouldn't necessarily be a bad thing. Am I the butthole for getting my sister-in-law fired, according to her? and a year later she still blames me? I'm a 31-year-old woman, and my fiancé sister, my future sister-in-law, is 35. She briefly worked at the same office as me for about three months. For context, I did not hire her, and I was not the one who told her about the job. Once she started, she was given training and support, including sitting with someone for around two weeks and receiving step-by-step guides for certain tasks.

The issue was that she repeatedly made mistakes and became defensive when any of the time. when tried to correct them. This included sending out incorrectly formatted documents, not checking her work properly, missing information, sending emails with issues, and generally creating extra work for other people who then had to fix things. There were also uncomfortable interpersonal moments. She often pushed back when given feedback, and there were times where her tone came across as dismissive or argumentative. One incident happened when our boss asked her to correct wording in a documents. She argued that she didn't make it up and suggested someone else could fix it later. Our boss told her that wasn't the point and that things needed to go out correctly the first time.

The situation escalated and she stormed out for a few minutes. Another incident happened when she asked me for help on a task that she had already asked about several times. I tried to explain where she could look and what she should check, but at one point she asked if something on her screen was correct. I couldn't see her screen, so I said, I don't know. She then said something like, so you don't know, in a tone that felt really patronizing. She was saying, I don't know what I was helping her do. By this point, I was stressed and felt like I couldn't keep working directly with her. I spoke to our boss and said, I was okay with her being there, but I couldn't keep helping her or fixing the same types of issues. I specifically said I would rather

just do my own admin and I cannot work directly with her. The next day, my boss let her go. I was not present for that conversation, and I did not tell him to fire her. Since then, she's blamed me for losing the job. She's told people that I got her fired, that I had an issue with her and didn't like her, that I sabotaged her, and that I spoke to her badly, as in spoke to her like she was an idiot. A year later, she still says things like, people don't know what went on in that office, and that I'm not the person she portrays herself to be. From my side, I feel like her work issues and behavior were already visible to management, and I only raised how it was affecting me. But I also understand that my conversation with our boss may have contributed to the final decision, even if I

didn't directly ask for her to be fired. This has now caused ongoing drama in my fiance's family, because she still seems to believe that I had some kind of agenda against her. So am I the butthole for speaking to my boss about not wanting to work directly with my future sister-in-law anymore if she still blames me a year later for getting fired? O.P., your sister-in-law sounds exactly like the type of person who would get herself fired in three months and then blame everyone except herself for getting fired. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. That was R-slash-M-I-the-butthole, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.