rSlash - r/AITA I Punched My Daughter

Episode Date: August 3, 2024

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Benefits vary by card, other conditions apply. Welcome to r slash am I the butthole where an adult guy punches his 14 year old daughter in the face, breaking her nose. Am I the butthole for punching my stepdaughter after she played a prank on me that scared me? I'm a 38 year old man and I married my wife, Judy, who's 44 a few years ago. And as a result, I acquired a stepdaughter, Abby, who's 14.

I dated Judy when Abby was 8 and the first time I met her was when she was 9. I married Judy when Abby was 10. I'd say our relationship is okay. She doesn't act bratty towards me and respects me enough as her mom's husband. However, there's one glaring issue about her and that's her pranking nature. Abby loves to pull pranks. Some examples are her hiding my car keys. Another one is when she hides in the fridge to scare the first person who opens it.

Well last Wednesday I arrived home and it seemed like I was the only one there. Only my shoes were at the doorstep and I even called out Judy's and Abby's names and had no answer. This is somewhat normal as Judy sometimes works late and Abby stays at school for extracurriculars. So I screwed around with my dog for a bit, then I decided to relieve myself. When I got to the bathroom, I noticed that the window cabinet was open. I thought nothing of it at first, and unzipped my pants, but then I saw a shadow behind the shower curtains. I thought the worst, and immediately punched the figure behind the curtains.

Well, as everyone may have guessed from the title, it was Abby. She was making a prank video, and I hadn't noticed that she had propped her phone up on the bathroom cabinet with two cups. I'm not gonna lie, I did not hold back. I punched her as hard as I could. I think I broke her nose and when I realized it, I flipped out and so did she. After maybe 5 minutes of freaking out, I drove her to urgent care and informed Judy of the situation.

Her nose was indeed broken and would need about 6-12 weeks of recovery. Abby won't talk to me, and as for Judy, she thinks that my actions may have been justified, but also thinks that I should have approached with more caution, which she's refused to elaborate on. So am I the butthole? Yeah, this is just an unfortunate accident. You didn't mean to punch your stepdaughter in the face. Obviously you were scared because, you know, when people are in the bathroom, they kind of feel vulnerable and you thought it was a home intruder, so really, your response

was pretty logical. Also, your stepdaughter clearly needs a reality check, and I'm not saying that the best reality check for a 14-year-old girl is to get punched in the face, but she was trying to record people in the bathroom without their knowledge and consent, which is very icky and her behavior is problematic. So hopefully she will use this as a learning opportunity. OP, I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving Abby one out of five buttholes.

I remember one time when I was a kid, a picture fell off the wall behind me and I punched the shit out of that thing because I was horrified and I thought it was a monster. So you know, sometimes when someone is scared, their first reaction is fight. That's where the whole fight or flight thing comes from. Am I the butthole for losing interest in a girl because of her ho phase? I'm a guy and I have this female friend who's nice looking, outgoing, and funny. We met in school and hit it off as friends. We hung out together or as a group.

Or me and my girlfriend with her and her boyfriend a few times a week. We've never really been single at the same time, so I never really noticed her romantically. I mean, I noticed she was attractive, but never thought of her romantically. I ended up breaking up with my girlfriend a few months later that she broke up with her boyfriend. Well, because most of our friends were paired off at the time, we ended up hanging out like four days a week. I wasn't aware that I was starting to catch feelings for this girl until someone pointed

out that I stopped dating and stopped approaching other women. It really hit home when she went on a few different dates and I noticed that I was jealous. So I sat her down and had a chat, told her that I've noticed recently I was becoming interested in her, that I absolutely hated seeing her go on dates with other guys and I wanted to see if us dating would be as cool as our friendship was so far. First she smiled with big happy excited eyes. Then something happened. Her smile became unsure.

She explained that she had thought of that as well and was interested in giving it a try but not until the end of summer. Confused I asked why the end of summer. She explained that she was in her ho phase, her words, not mine, and she wanted to have a summer of fun before she settled down. The rest of that day was awkward, so I cut things short. When she asked how I was doing, I told her we were fine, but my pride was bruised a bit and I was feeling disappointed.

But I told her not to worry, that we're still friends. I have to admit, the second she chose potentially random hookups and getting run through for the summer over a relationship, all romantic feelings died. I wasn't mad at her, she did nothing wrong, but the way that I viewed her changed. She was forever in the friend zone for me. It took a few days, but I put my big boy pants on and we started hanging out again. But it was different. I only saw her as a friend and I was only interested in seeing her every now and again,

not all the time like before. I started dating other girls again. I had no hard feelings for her and I genuinely enjoyed being around her just like before when we both had partners. Anyways, one night we were out together as a group. We all had a few drinks and she says, Hey, good news, summer's almost over. I was oblivious to what she meant so I said,

That sucks, I love summer. Then I got kind of distracted and I did notice that she was cold towards me for the rest of the night. October rolls around and she wants to do lunch, just me and her. We meet up, have a great talk and we talked about our summer. She talks about all the guys she dated over the summer. She used this to steer the conversation towards us. She wanted to let me know that she was ready to settle into a relationship and wanted to go back to our earlier conversation. I told her it's cool, I valued our friendship, and I think that we should just stay friends. She wanted to know what changed and she wouldn't let it go, so I had to be honest.

I told her that her choice to put me on the back burner for a hot girl summer was hurtful. And I feel like if she actually liked me then she would have wanted to be in a relationship with me. She said that she knew that we would be the real thing and she had to get through her ho phase to give us an honest shot. I let her know that the fact that she felt that we could have been something and she still chose potentially to get run through by a bunch of strangers instead of starting something real tells me that she doesn't feel about me the way she thinks she does. I accepted that and I stayed friends with

her with no hard feelings. But the second she chose to put me on the back burner I lost all romantic feelings for her. Because it felt like she was shopping around all summer and then settled on me and I am nobody's backup plan. She got mad, stopped talking to me, our friends think that I should apologize and give her a chance. But those feelings just aren't there anymore. Am I the butthole? So it's totally fine for her to friendzone you, but then it's not okay for you to friendzone her? Huh? How does that make sense? And besides, you don't owe anyone a date. Anyone can refuse to date anyone for any reason at all.

Even dumb reasons like, I don't know, I don't like your pink shirt that you're wearing today. Whatever, man. If I were in your shoes, OP, I would have absolutely done the same thing. No way am I going to spend the rest of my life feeling like someone else's backup plan. OP, you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving the girl two out of five buttholes, not for her ho-phase, but for her hypocrisy and getting mad at you and treating you like, kind of like you're expendable to be honest. Am I the butthole for doing the same thing to my in-laws family? Because when they visit, they exclude me from their brunches and dinners as a family.

I'm a 30 year old guy and I've been married to my wife who's 30 for almost three years. Two years ago, I moved to the other side of the US for my wife's job. She and her family are from the Middle East. Her sister lives in the next state over. Each time they visited, they go out as a family to dinner or brunch at a nice place without me. I've expressed that it made me uncomfortable and felt disrespected especially considering they were staying with me.

This continued to happen with every visit. I expressed my increasing discomfort and anger with each occurrence. Cut to the current visit. They're to be here in our home from Thursday to Tuesday. After work at 7.45, I go out to the deck for a smoke and to decompress. At 8.25, my mother-in-law comes to the deck and tells me dinner reservation is at 8.30 and to get ready. But no one told me we were going to dinner. I go upstairs and my wife is getting ready. I pop in and incredulously ask her, why didn't you tell me about dinner? Her response was, you could have asked, couldn't you?

I tell her this is incredibly rude. She said this is about my father-in-law's birthday. I just tell my wife to let me know when she's done getting ready. My sister-in-law and wife both walk past me without saying a word. I then hear them go downstairs and the front door closing. I go downstairs and they're gone. I called four times, no answer. I'm seething. I drive to cool off and get a call from my wife 20 minutes later. I go off about why she didn't say anything to me and about how they all ditched me and how this is extremely disrespectful. She says, Oh, okay, I'll tell them you said so. They get back at 11pm.

My sister-in-law asks if I ate and I say yes even though I didn't. My father-in-law looks at the TV and asks if I'm watching such and such. I currently say yes, they say goodnight and go to bed. Saturday morning I go get breakfast. I took extra time away because I wanted to be anywhere from that family. I get this message from my father-in-law. We're making brunch for everyone. My wife texted asking where I was, but I didn't reply. When I get back, my father-in-law and mother-in-law are in the kitchen saying brunch is ready and to please eat. I tell them I ate before

hitting upstairs to my desk to game for the first time in months. My wife comes and says something but I can't hear her. At 6.30pm I go downstairs to heat up food. My wife yells at me, is everyone stressed out and quiet because of that rude, boring, buzzkill? Don't let that fat piece of garbage ruin your day. I respond, oh look, it's a talking garbage can. Hey, Oscar. My sister-in-law looks at me and throws up her hands. I continue to eat in my sandwich as everyone leaves. My wife texts me that my mother-in-law is crying in the car because of how uncomfortable

I made all of them. They're all leaving, my wife included. I said that their leaving is completely fine by me, and they're the ones who showed the disrespect first. They're all leaving tomorrow morning to a lake resort for the remainder of their time. Am I the butthole? This marriage is clearly dead. The wife has no respect for the husband, the husband has no respect for the wife.

It doesn't even seem like they like to be around each other, so I'm amazed they haven't split up by now. OP, do everyone a favor here and just end the marriage. Am I the butthole for exposing my husband's affair with his much younger childhood friend? I'm a 34 year old woman and my husband is 36. We've been married for 12 years. We have two kids together, ages 10 and 8. Everything seemed perfect until I discovered that my husband's been having an affair with his childhood best friend, Emily, who's 22. Emily is practically family. Our families have been close for decades, and she was often at our house growing up.

When she was a kid, my husband used to babysit her. Eww, this is getting uncomfortable. I always thought of her as a little sister, so you can imagine my shock when I found out they were involved. That means if OP's husband was 18, then Emily would have been 4 years old when he was babysitting her. Okay yeah, this is getting really gross. The affair started when Emily turned 18, but I found out through messages on my husband's phone that he had been grooming her for years.

He bought her gifts, took her on special outings, and made inappropriate comments that she didn't understand at the time. Now that she's an adult, their relationship has turned physical. I was horrified and confronted my husband. He tried to downplay it, saying they were just old friends who got too close. But the messages I found were explicit and clear. I decided to tell my family and his family. My parents and siblings were outraged and supported my decision to leave him. However, his family is divided. Some of them think that

I'm overreacting and that this is just a midlife crisis. Others are appalled and think that he's a predator. Even our friends are split. Some believe that I should forgive him for the sake of our kids, while others agree that what he did is unforgivable. I've moved out with the kids and we're staying with my parents. Now I'm being accused of overreacting and breaking up our family over something that isn't that serious. So am I the butthole for exposing my husband's affair with his much younger childhood friend? OP, I don't know what the hell people are talking about. Even if this were just a good old fashioned cheating story, wife finds husband cheating,

then that would be grounds for divorce. But when you add on top the clear P word behavior, which is so bad I can't even say the word of it on YouTube, then yeah, that adds a whole nother level of justification for getting divorced. OP, don't just reveal this to the families, you should also reveal this to the police. OP, you get 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving your husband… gosh, does he get the full 5 out of 5? He might.

Yeah, I think so. 5 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my parents they should have thought twice before having more kids? So I'm a 15 year old girl and I'm the oldest of four kids. My siblings are 10, 7, and 4. My parents work full time and since my mom got promoted last year, she works longer hours now. This means that a lot of the household responsibilities and taking care of my siblings falls on me after school and on weekends. I get my siblings from school, help with their homework, cook dinner, and sometimes put them

to bed if my parents are late. I don't mind helping out, but it's gotten to the point where I barely have any time for myself or my friends. I'm also starting high school this year and I have a lot of homework and extracurriculars that I need to focus on. Last weekend I had plans to go to a friend's birthday party. I told my parents about it weeks in advance and they said that it was fine. But the night before the party, my mom told me that she had to work late on Saturday and that I needed to watch my siblings. I was really upset and told her that I had plans,

but she said family comes first and that I should be responsible. I ended up missing the party and I was really angry about it. Later that night, when my parents got home, I told them that they should have thought twice about having more kids if they couldn't handle taking care of them without relying on me all the time. My dad got really mad and said that I was being disrespectful and selfish. My mom looked hurt and told me that I don't understand how hard it is to balance work and family. Now things are really tense at home and I feel guilty for what I said. I know my parents are doing their best, but I also feel like I'm missing out on my own life

because of all the responsibilities I have. Am I the butthole for what I said? Yo, this pisses me off. How exactly is you surrendering your childhood to be a full time babysitter selfish? You cook, you clean, you babysit for free, and you're the selfish one for wanting one day off? And then your mom has the actual audacity to say that you don't understand how hard it is to balance work and family? You literally do! You literally are balancing work and family so that

your mom doesn't have to so she can just work all the time. Oh man, OP, I am pissed off on behalf of you. Your parents are just super hypocritical and selfish and they deserve, I'll say, 2.5 out of 5 buttholes. OP, you definitely deserve a day off. And just to be clear, you have way more power here than you think that you do. If you just stopped working, then everything would fall apart and your family would immediately realize how much they rely on you. So I say go on strike and give your parents a list of demands. That was r slash amitha butthole and if you like this content be sure to follow my podcast

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