rSlash - r/AITA I Ruined a Karen's Vacation

Episode Date: August 9, 2025

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Welcome to R-slash Am I the Butthole, where O.P. exposes her cheating co-worker. Am I the butthole for exposing my coworker after he exposed me? I'm a 28-year-old woman, and I've been in a happy and committed Thruple for about three years now. It's unconventional, but it works for us. I also enjoy posting on a social media platform that's more on the mature side. Think Facebook, but for adults who like to talk about not-safe-for-work topics and post not-safe-for-work pictures. My face isn't visible in any of the pictures, and I never talk about my job on there. So I didn't think that it would ever be an issue at work, especially because our job doesn't have a morality clause.

One of my coworkers, Jake, who's 34, recently found my profile on this website. Jake has always been a bit too friendly, making suggestive comments and flirting with me despite knowing that I'm not interested. I've turned him down countless times, but he just doesn't take the hint. He thinks that just because I'm Polly, I want to be with him. Instead of keeping his discovery to himself, Jake took screenshots of my posts and ran to HR, accusing me of unbecoming internet activity that could damage the company's reputation. I got called into a meeting with HR, and honestly, I was terrified. However, after reviewing the posts, HR told me that because my face wasn't visible

and there was nothing identifying the company, it wasn't their concern and was my own personal business. They assured me that no action would be taken against me and that I hadn't violated any policies. My direct boss said that the meeting was more about Jake sharing my private pictures in the workplace. Even though I was cleared, I still felt humiliated that my private life had been dragged into work like this. And I was beyond angry that Jake tried to get me in trouble over something that had nothing to do with him. Here's where I might be the butthole. After that HR meeting, I was still fuming. I knew Jake was married, and I'd heard rumors about him cheating on his wife with another woman in the office. I also had a bunch of

inappropriate messages that he'd sent me, including some sent during work hours, which I hadn't done anything about until now. Instead of going back to HR, I decided to take matters into my own hands. I found Jake's wife on social media and anonymously sent her all the screenshots of his messages to me, along with some information about his affair. I literally found his profile and his mistress's profile on the same site that he said was unbecoming, and I sent his wife the links to both. I figured that if he wanted to dig into my private life, he should face the consequences of his own actions.

It didn't take long for everything to blow up. Jake's wife confronted him, and now she's filed for divorce. Word spread around the office, and Jake is... absolutely furious with me, saying that I ruined his marriage and made his life hell. Some of my co-workers think that I went too far and I should have just let it go, but others believe he got what he deserved for trying to get me in trouble over something that was none of his business. So am I the butthole? Opie, you didn't ruin his marriage. He ruined his marriage when he cheated.

All you did was give him the same energy that he was giving you. You get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving that cheating hypocrite 2.5 out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for ruining Thanksgiving after my mother-in-law told everyone about my miscarriages? I'm a 32-year-old woman. I spent Thanksgiving with my in-laws, and it was one of the most upsetting days of my life. My husband and I have been trying for a baby for around three years. Last year, I got pregnant and miscarried twice. It was devastating, and my greatest fear is that I'll never be able to have a child with my husband. In October, I found out that I was pregnant for the third time. We were thrilled, but also cautious because of my history with miscarriages. Originally, the plan was to keep it between us until I made it to the second

trimester. Unfortunately, I have a well-intentioned yet nosy mother-in-law. We were at dinner one night with my in-laws, and my mother-in-law noticed that I wasn't drinking. My mother-in-law asked if I was pregnant, and I'm horrible at hiding my emotions. So my reaction to her question, gave it away. I admitted that I was pregnant, but explained that we're very cautious and want to keep it private until I make it to the second trimester. My father-in-law and mother-in-law said they understood and agreed to keep it between us. Sadly, I miscarried around a week ago and I was crushed. It's been terrible, but I'm trying to stay busy to keep my mind off it. Initially, I wanted to skip Thanksgiving, but I wanted my husband to see his family and I thought that

at my lift my spirits to be surrounded by loved ones. I wanted to tell my mother-in-law about the miscarriage in person, since it felt strange talking to her about it over the phone, but she wasn't free to see me this week. My plan was to talk to her the day after Thanksgiving when we could have a moment alone. Almost immediately after we arrived at my in-law's house, my mother-in-law's sister hugged me and congratulated me on the pregnancy. I was shocked, since my mother-in-law agreed not to tell anyone. I considered saying thank you. to not draw attention to myself and put a damper on the night, but I couldn't hide my emotions, and I told her I miscarried. She hugged me and apologized for my loss. A few minutes later,

my sister-in-law came over to us and congratulated me. I started tearing up as I explained for the second time that I miscarried. They were both kind, but I was very emotional and frustrated since my in-laws agreed to keep it private, and this was the exact situation I was seeking to avoid. A few minutes after I spoke to my sister-in-law, my mother-in-law pulled me aside and asked why I didn't tell her about the miscarriage. She said it hurt having to hear the news from her older sister instead of from me directly. I said that I wanted to tell her in person and was planning on telling her in the morning when we had a moment to ourselves. I said I wasn't expecting to be confronted about the pregnancy since she agreed to keep it private. My mother-in-law said that

she only told her sister and daughter, which was to be expected in the situation since she was so excited. I was furious, but didn't have the energy to argue about it, so I said that we would talk about it later and enjoy the holiday. I left my mother-in-law and went to socialize with the other relatives. When it was time to eat, my mother-in-law stood up to give the blessing. She started to talk, but then got emotional and began to cry. She asked the family to keep me in their thoughts and prayers since I recently miscarried. Jeez, my, this woman, okay. She added that I've miscarried, oh my God, she added that I've miscarried twice before,

and it's been an emotional experience for everyone. I've only told my mother-in-law and father-in-law about the previous miscarriages, so she was once again broadcasting my personal medical information. My mother-in-law started talking directly to me and said she knows I'll get through this and that I'll make an amazing mom someday. I couldn't control my emotions and started sobbing in front of the entire family. I was crying so hard that I was practically choking on my tears

and I couldn't catch my breath. My husband was furious and asked his mom why she thought it was appropriate to tell people about my pregnancy and miscarriages. My mother-in-law responded by saying she loves us so much and was just very excited to be a grandma. With respect to the miscarriages, she said we deserved the family love and support during this difficult time.

My husband announced we were leaving and we left before the turkey was even served. I cried myself to sleep and woke up feeling horrible. This morning, my mother-in-law showed up at my house unannounced. She said she wanted to talk about what happened. My husband was still fuming and I told him to let me speak to his mom privately to avoid another fight. I was still upset about what happened, but I wanted to make peace and was willing to willing to accept her apology since the situation has been hard on everyone. My mother-in-law and I sat down together.

And instead of apologizing, she lectured me about how I should have told her about the miscarriage before sharing the news with other relatives. She said that it was hard to hear the news from her sister when she was looking forward to a happy Thanksgiving. She was also upset that I dropped this... Yo, what? She was also upset that I dropped this horrible news at dinner and that I should have found the way to tell her before the holiday, even if it was over the phone. She also said that if I was still

so emotional over the miscarriage, I shouldn't have come to Thanksgiving and risked upsetting all the guests. She said she knows I'm going through a lot and forgives me. Oh, how nice of her, but she wanted to be honest about her feelings. I was floored. I told my mother-in-law that I may have made mistakes, but all of this could have been avoided if she had just followed through on her promise to keep the pregnancy privates. I said she owed both my husband and myself an apology. My mother-in-law asked if I would also apologize for making a scene at Thanksgiving. I didn't think I owed her an apology under the circumstances, and I expressed that clearly. She left in tears and said that I was lashing out because of the traumatic pregnancies. My husband said that I shouldn't

apologize and also canceled our Christmas plans with his family. While I think my mother-in-law behaved poorly, part of me wants to apologize to diffuse the situation. I also know that this has been challenging for my mother-in-law as well, and we don't always react perfectly in these situations. I also feel badly that I let my emotions get the better of me and put a damper on this evening. Am I the butthole for how I handle the situation and for refusing to apologize when my mother-in-law visited our home. This, this, oh my God, this woman. What is OP caller? I think, um, a well-intentioned yet nosy mother-in-law. Are you sure she's well-intentioned? Are you 100% positive that her intentions are rosy and pure? Because to me, it seems like intentional sabotage and emotional abuse.

If I were the husband in the situation, I would straight up cut my mom out of my life. Because if she's publicly making my wife cry after she miscarried my baby three times, she can go! Okay, all right. All right, this one's getting me worked up. This woman's a real piece of work. Okay, O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. You did literally nothing wrong.

I'm giving the mom, gosh, I've got to be fair here, even though I'm getting a little peeved. I'm giving the mom three out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for not waking up a tourist? who overslept and who missed the day trip that she paid for? I'm a 21-year-old woman and a Bulgarian tour guide who accompanies groups to Sicily. On a recent trip, one woman who was traveling alone, mid-30s, was constantly oversleeping. The first day after we arrived, we had a day trip to Etna and Tarmina, for which we depart at 8 a.m. as we do all other day tours. I make sure that all tourists are informed at the departure

times on the bus the day before, and they also have my number to call in case they forget, I can remind them. They also have printed out pamphlets with the schedule made by the travel agency that I hand out that has the time for departure on it. All the group was on time, except one woman. She was late by 10 minutes, which, okay, maybe she got caught up in something and was late. I excused it, then mentioned to the whole bus in the microphone that I do not tolerate lateness beyond 15 minutes at most in case of emergencies, like a forgotten possession, and that I must always be called and informed in case someone is running late. The trip went by okay otherwise.

The next day, the same tourist was late again, by 25 minutes. I called her twice to no answer, and we were just about to leave without her when she came out running and got on the bus. She got lucky, as the receptionist of the hotel asked me about a missing piece of information on the rooming list and earned her some time. I reminded everyone again that I will not be waiting anymore for late tourists in the morning, and waking up on time is their responsibility. When we came back that evening, she asked me if I could

make sure to wake me up on time. I reminded her a third time that I'm not responsible for waking people up. Everyone gets a printed itinerary with departure times, and I announce everything the day before. She kept saying, no, no, just knock on my door if I'm not out by 8.15. And I kept repeating, I really can't do that for everyone. please set an alarm. Well, on the day that we were visiting Syracuse, she didn't show up.

I waited 15 minutes after the supposed departure time, called her twice to no response, then left with the bus and the rest of the group. She called me in a panic about an hour later asking where we were. I explained the situation calmly. She got angry and said that I had one job and that I cheated her out of the money that she paid to go on that day trip. She missed the whole day trip, and was furious the next day. Later, she told the rest of the group that I abandoned her and also called my agency, leaving a bad review about me. Am I the bottle for not personally waking up a grown woman

despite warning her multiple times that I wouldn't? This woman is in her 30s? She has presumably a phone that she can set her own alarm, and even if she doesn't, you can just pick up the phone in the hotel room and say, hey, hello, front desk, please give me a wake-up call at such and such. She's acting like a 13-year-old. I don't want to wake up and go to school. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. This woman gets 1.5 out of five buttholes.

Am I the butthole for loading kids up on sugar at my 6-year-old son's birthday party when the other parents just dropped them off? This past weekend, we hosted a birthday party from my son, who's 6. Standard setup. Park location, party games, balloons, snacks, cake. We had some cookies, lollies, and drinks available. Water, juice, and, yeah, Coke. Pretty normal stuff for a kid's party. Nothing extreme. Here's the thing. Most parents just dropped their kids off and left. Some didn't even say hi or check in, just handed the kid over and took off. Again, I don't mind hosting, but if you're not going to stay, I'd assume you'd trust what's on offer. Now, a couple of these parents are apparently complaining that we loaded their

kids with sugar and gave them Coke. One mom said that her kid was bouncing off the walls and that we were irresponsible. But here's what gets me. Every kid who was offered coke said they were allowed to have it. Not one person mentioned any restrictions, allergies, or preferences. Meanwhile, my own son doesn't like fizzy drinks or juice. He only drinks water or milk. So it's not like I was pushing anything on him or anyone else. The food and drink were just there, help yourself style. If someone had mentioned their kid wasn't allowed soft drink, I would have absolutely respected that, but I can't read minds. And if you don't stay at the party or say anything about dietary restrictions, can you really be upset afterwards? So am I the butthole for not

micromanaging what the other kids ate and drink at the party where their own parents weren't even present? This isn't an issue of butthole versus non-butthole. This is an issue of stupidity. What do you expect at a six-year-old birthday party? Broccoli? Steamed spinach with vinegar? It's going to be I mean, take it from me, a dad with a four-year-old. I got two birthday parties this weekend back to back. It's juice boxes and cupcakes and sugar, sugar, sugar. You have to be stupid not to realize that. These parents are dumb morons.

Big stupid dummy dumb-dums. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. That was R slash Am I the Butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.