rSlash - r/AITA I Stole From My Brother

Episode Date: August 2, 2026

0:00 Intro 0:05 Bourbon 3:57 Blunt 6:20 Frozen 8:39 Leaving 12:26 Why you're single Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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So collectors will line up at stores or attend special events hoping to get one. Last Thanksgiving, a liquor store near my sister and brother-in-law was holding an event with a large number of rare bourbons. Everyone who arrived at 8 a.m. received a number, and numbers were randomly called throughout the morning. When called, you could buy one available bottle at MSRP. Everyone would eventually be called, but earlier numbers had better choices. My brother-in-law was especially excited because he has a huge bourbon collection, but has never been able to find a bottle of pappy. This is kind of like a holy grail of bourbons that all collectors, myself included, would

die to find a bottle of at this price. I was about 50-50 ongoing because I also collect bourbon, although my collection is much smaller, but I hadn't committed because it was Thanksgiving morning and we had a lot going on. At the last minute, my brother-in-law had to work Thanksgiving morning. He asked my sister, who does not care about bourbon, to go in his place and hopefully get the pappy. She asked me to come so that she wouldn't have to attend this whole bourbon circus alone. Since I'd already considered going and wanted a chance at a cool bottle for my collection, I went with her. We also invited my dad, but he thought the whole thing sounded weird and stayed home.

My sister and I received numbers 54 and 55. My number was called about 15 people in, and I bought a bottle of Pappy for around 100 bucks. It's nearly impossible to find near us, and usually sells for $700 or more. My sister was called much later after the Pappy was gone, and settled for a bottle of E.H. Taylor, which is good, but not nearly as rare or expensive.

I was thrilled. This is literally the bottle of a lifetime I never thought that I would get. However, when we got home, my brother-in-law immediately said, That's my bourbon. He believes that I went solely as his stand-in, so the pappy should belong to him. He says I stole the bottle that he would have gotten if he had been able to attend. I disagree. I went because I also drank and collect bourbon and wanted a bottle for myself.

I never agreed to give him anything I bought. I knew my sister was there specifically for him, but I considered myself an independent participant who was also keeping her company. I could understand his argument if my sister had brought my mom, who couldn't care less about Bourbon, and she happened to get the pappy. Then she would clearly have only been there as a stand-in, but this is not my situation. My brother-in-law still refers to it as his pappy and brings up Pappygate whenever possible. So, Reddit, am I the butthole? I genuinely didn't realize he believed I was attending on his behalf. In his mind, I schemed him out of the one bottle he's wanted for years to complete his collection.

Yeah, O.P., you didn't steal it. You're just a collector being a collector. And also, if he, you know, cares about his wife, who's your sister, he should be happy for you. You know, I've got a sister-in-law. If my sister-in-law was into the same hobby as me and we went to some event and she got the thing I wanted, but she also wanted, I'd be happy for her. Congrats, girl, you know. So not only is he wrong, he's also being very unloving and unkind about this.

O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I sincerely hope that you enjoy your pappy. Or, you know, a possible compromise could be you, your dad, and your brother-in-law all just drank the pappy together. Am I the butthole for being blunt with my boyfriend about why he isn't getting hired anywhere? I'm a 26-year-old woman, and I've been with my boyfriend. who's 29 since 2024. We met online, and after a few years of friendship, he got an insurance payout and decided to move to my state for a few months. Well, a few months turned into a couple of years,

and the insurance money had run out. Before the insurance payout, he had helped his dad with his landscaping business and had a few short-term jobs, pizza shops, waiter, etc. But no job lasted longer than a year. Once he ran out of insurance money, he began to search for jobs. He quickly became frustrated because nobody was getting back to him. He would often threaten to give up and go move back in with his parents. I'm an HR manager and hire people for my company on a regular basis. I took a look at his resume and explained that no one was going to hire a 29-year-old who had less than five full years of work experience with years of gaps between jobs.

He argued that he was applying for entry-level positions, and I explained that his age would be the downfall. It doesn't matter if it's entry level. A 29-year-old not holding a job is a bad look. He's now stating that I'm insensitive and make him feel like trash for not being able to contribute enough to our house. Though, I've only asked him to help with groceries. I take care of the rest of the house bills.

Admittedly, I think I could have addressed it in a softer manner, but I definitely let my personal feelings get in the way. I love him to death, but feel it's ridiculous that he lived off his parents for as long as he did with no independence. So am I the butthole? Oh, Sweetie Pie, Honeybunch, I think I might possibly know why those mean, mean hiring managers aren't hiring you despite your incredible skills.

Maybe, just possibly maybe, sweetie pie, your resume isn't as good as it should be because it doesn't reflect your brilliant brain and handsome looks. I mean, come on, how much codlings this guy need? Sometimes you need a dose of reality, and reality, usually sucks. You know, a dose of reality isn't like, ah, thank you. That was amazing. Please give me another. No, a dose of reality is a slap in the face. That's just what you got to do sometimes. So, O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. Your whiny baby boyfriend needs to grow up.

Am I the butthole for offering a frozen dinner to an uninvited guest at a dinner party? A couple times a year, I like to throw a nice dinner party for old friends. This time I invited five people. Two were couples, and one was single. We've all known each other for around 15 years and get together maybe every three months. I was making filet mignon and a small lobster tail with two sides. I spent over 300 bucks and didn't buy extra because they're served one each per guest and they're expensive. As a surprise to me, the single guest brought along his new girlfriend, whom I had not met or known about. I was nice about it, but upset because I only purchased enough meat and lobster tail for the guests who were

invited. I talked to the friend who brought the uninvited guest and said I didn't have extra food and the filet mignon, which was cooked to individual doneness, and lobster tail isn't something that can be cut up and divided or spread out between more people. And I said that I had a frozen pizza or another frozen dinner that I could heat up. He was very upset with me and accused me of not liking his new girlfriend and trying to embarrass them. After his outburst, they left. Was I wrong? Should I have cut up the filet and lobster tails and spread it out between the extra person instead of offering a frozen meal. I think bringing an uninvited guest to a dinner party is itself pretty rude. I don't know what they were expecting for you to just magically conjure up a new filet mignon out of

nowhere. The comments are split between not the butthole and everyone sucks here, but personally, I'm really strongly on O.P's side. I mean, what is O.P. supposed to do? Kick her out? Go to the grocery store and buy new steak, order Uber Eats, offer a frozen pizza. None of these options are good, so you can't get upset at O.P., for offering a not really great option because the uninvited guest caught O.P. with his pants down. So, O.P., I strongly disagree with the Everyone Sucks Here Takes. I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. If the boyfriend wanted to impress his new girlfriend, he should have just given his meal to

her, and then he could have eaten the frozen pizza. Or he could have split it 50-50, with her? There were lots of solutions besides getting upset and calling you rude and then leaving the dinner party early. Am I the butthole for telling my son he's the reason we had to leave his aunt's house? I have two kids, a six-year-old girl and 10-year-old boy. Stuff happened, and the kids and I needed a place to stay until I could get on my feet. A friend that I haven't seen in years heard about my situation through a mutual friend and offered for us to stay with her family for a while. She's married with four kids and is pregnant with baby number five. This friend is an absolute angel. Two of her kids were adopted from the foster system and I'm not the first

friend she's taken in. Her husband is in tech and my friend is a director at a local private school. They have a big house with a huge playroom and a massive backyard with a play structure and a pool. She had me complete a background check before moving in. We were moved in by the end of the week once that cleared. She moved my daughter into her oldest daughter's room. They became immediate best friends. My son got a small room, 8 feet by 8 feet, that was previously used for storage, but has been beautifully decorated for him, and I stayed in their guest room. Now, my son can be extremely defiant. I've tried therapy with me, individual therapy, working with behavioral technicians, and everything else you can think of. He's a great kid at school, but once he gets home,

everything is a power struggle. There can be lots of arguing, and he can be rough with his sister. My friend talked to me before we moved in about my son. She told me that she wants to help us, but if the situation starts to become harmful to her kids, she'll have to kick us out. My son did great for a couple of weeks. Then he started to test boundaries. He was punished, then he started teasing his sister and my friend's oldest daughter. We were given our only warning. I talked to my son and tried punishment again, and he went back to messing with the girls. I was told that they're willing to keep my daughter until we get settled, but my son and I needed to be out that night. They got us a hotel for the week, then we were on our own. We bounced between hotels

and motels for a few weeks, and now we're in a two-bedroom apartment that almost definitely has mold problems, while I'm applying to different income-restricted apartments. I've decided to keep my daughter with them, until we're somewhere with a little more space and in a slightly better condition. I visit without my son a couple of times a week and we spend weekends together. The other day, my son was mad at me and said that I favor his sister because I'm letting her stay at the good house while he has to live here. I was just done with his defiance and told him that the reason she gets to stay there and he doesn't is because his behavior got us kicked out.

He chose to ignore us when we talked to him and punished him for repeat. taking food from the girls, shooting them with his Nerf guns, etc. So now he has to deal with the consequences. He's been so upset since then that I'm now wondering if I shouldn't have told him why he had to leave. This guy is going to suffer really major consequences in life. It is much better if he learns that lesson now when he's 10, coming from a mother who loves him, rather than coming from a prosecutor and judge who give him, I don't know, 5 to 10 years in prison. That's the way the world works, man. Actions have consequences. You can't get away with some stuff when you're a kid,

but you have to learn eventually, yo, I need to grow up or I'm going to ruin my life. This guy, unfortunately, has not learned that lesson. O.P., zero out of five buttholes, though, I might be inclined to think about it. I might want to give you a butthole score for not being harsh enough with this kid. You are, like, I appreciate you're trying therapy and stuff,

but it's not working. You clearly have to try something, I don't know, harsher, more extreme? Something different because this kid is off the rails. Am I the butthole for telling my cousin that's why you're single? Yesterday, I went to the beach with my aunt and one of my cousins. I'm the youngest in the group at 37. Today's my birthday, and we were celebrating early by going out to the beach. Drinking was involved, which is likely why it blew up like it did. We'd been at the beach for a few hours by this point, and we're debating expanding our parking for a bit more time. My male cousin starts loudly trying to get me to turn around and look at a woman walking by.

He was saying some pretty vulgar stuff like, You just know she likes it dirty and in the butt, and other random gross comments. He was saying it loudly enough that she could hear, and when she passed us, she turned around and looked at us. So I looked at him and said, This is why you're single. He kind of laughed and said something to me in an attempt to clap back,

but then said, you know, you know that's a hurtful thing to say, right? I told him I wasn't really concerned with his hurt feelings after all the gross stuff he said while he basically cat called a woman walking by. This resulted in us both shouting at each other and just packing up to leave. After dropping him off at his apartment, my aunt, his mother, said I didn't need to be mean to him. But like, if you stand around shouting vulgar stuff, don't be all surprised Pikachu face when someone calls you out for it.

Was I really wrong? Am I the butthole because of what I said and because I said I didn't care about his feelings? So this guy's 37 years old, at least. He lives with his mom. He cat calls women and he's a little baby who can't take a joke. Yeah, I think it's pretty clear

why this guy is single. And it's not because of some mean thing O.P. said. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. That was our slash am I the butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.