rSlash - r/AITA I Stopped a Teen Girl from Moving in with a Diddler

Episode Date: June 15, 2025

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If you have questions or concerns about your gambling or the gambling of someone close to you, please contact Connects Ontario 1866 531 2600 to speak to an advisor free of charge. Whether it's a family member, friend or furry companion joining your summer road trip, enjoy the peace of mind that comes with Volvo's legendary safety. During Volvo Discover Days, enjoy limited time savings as you make plans to cruise through Muscogee or down Toronto's bustling streets. Welcome to r slash Am I the Butthole where OP's brother-in-law really really likes kids Am I the butthole for taking my girlfriend's dad to court? I'm a 19 year old guy and I've been dating my girlfriend who's 18 for about a year a couple of weeks ago I got pulled over while driving home from her place and

Just my luck the officer who pulled me over was her dad. Although very awkward, he kept it purely professional, said that I was speeding, and gave me a ticket. Now, if I was speeding, this would have been perfectly fine. But the problem is, I wasn't. I have a dash cam that logs GPS and speed data, and I checked it as soon as I got home. It clearly shows that I was going under the speed limit the entire time. I told my girlfriend I was planning to fight the ticket in court. She got really upset and says it's going to cause a lot of tension with her family. She thinks I should just pay the fine and move on, even if I wasn't speeding. From my point of view, this isn't about her dad personally.

It's purely about not wanting any marks against my license. She feels that by taking it to court, I'm basically accusing her dad of either lying or making a serious mistake, and that could put him in a really difficult position professionally and personally. She's worried this is going to cause a rift not just between me and her dad, but possibly between her dad and her as well for being associated with me. I get where she's coming from, and I don't want to disrespect her dad or damage the relationship

I built with him. Honestly, we've gotten along really well. He's a tough guy, but I respect him a lot, and I know he's just doing his job. I've never had a ticket before, and I pay for my own car and insurance. So something like this could raise my rates and stick with me, especially being so young. I'm not trying to be difficult, dramatic, or disrespectful, but I just don't think it's right to let something slide that could impact me long term, especially when I have clear evidence that I wasn't speeding.

I'm still planning on fighting the ticket. I have the dashcam footage. I know I wasn't speeding. I'm still planning on fighting the ticket. I have the dashcam footage. I know I wasn't speeding. But my girlfriend is incredibly upset. She's been distant ever since I told her and lately she's been barely talking to me. I can tell that she's really hurt and stressed about the whole thing. She keeps saying that I'm choosing a stupid traffic ticket over her and her family, which is technically true, but that ticket comes with a lot more than just a one-time fine. I don't want to take the blame for something I didn't do, so I've already pled not guilty,

and I have the court hearing scheduled for a few weeks out. I think this is the right move by putting my future first. OP, to be clear, you're super justified. You are legally and morally in the right. But if you take this path, which I believe you should, don't expect your relationship to survive. I think your relationship is too young and your girlfriend is a little bit too, what's the word, stupid? Selfish? Self-absorbed, that's what I'll say. She's too self-absorbed to see the big picture here and realize that you're right, so I just can't imagine your relationship surviving. It's also interesting

that she thinks you're the bad guy for fighting the ticket, but she doesn't think that her dad is the bad guy for writing you the ticket in the first place, especially if it's a bogus ticket. Also, OP didn't mention if he and his girlfriend actually discussed if it was a bogus ticket, which makes me think that his girlfriend didn't even ask. So she just automatically picked her father's side, which isn't necessarily wrong or bad in a one-year relationship. Like I said, these two haven't been dating for long. But it should give you a pretty good indication of what your future relationship is going

to be, where you're always second place compared to her family. Also, I can't help but notice one little detail is that OP got the ticket WHILE he was leaving the girlfriend's house. So I have to wonder if the girlfriend's dad intentionally followed OP so that he could give him a ticket. You guys think so? Kind of strikes me as like a power play type situation. OP, you get 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving the dirty cop 2 out of 5 buttholes and the self-absorbed girlfriend 1 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for grounding my stepdaughter for selling my formal dress? I'm a 37 year old woman and I have a stepdaughter, Amy, who's 16. Amy was looking for formal dresses

and I mentioned that I have my old formal dresses. She picked my old prom dress to wear, and she kept it in her wardrobe since wearing it at prom. I don't fit in my old dresses anymore, and I kept them and some other clothes to hand down to my kids. However, I have two sons who aren't interested. Since my nieces, who are 15 and 13, are interested in my clothes, I plan to give them the rest once they were old enough to fit them. Amy left her earbuds in her sweatpants pockets and turned on the washing machine. When she asked for new ones, me and dad told her to save up to buy new ones. She works part time, as she wanted an expensive brand new pair and not the wired earphones that I'd offered. Amy went to stay

with her mom and when she got back, she had the new earbud she wanted, so I asked if her mom had bought them for her. And she said that she resold my dress on a secondhand site and bought herself the earphones. The dress is 100% silk, one of a kind, and the brand doesn't exist anymore. I was really upset to hear she sold my dress without even asking. I confiscated her earbuds and told her I'd give them back when she repaid me the cost of what she sold the dress for. My husband thinks I'm being too harsh, as I wasn't explicit on whether I was lending or giving her the dress. Amy's gone to live with her mom since, and thinks that I'm being unfair. I'm not sure if

I've taken it too far and if I should stand my ground. The general consensus in the comments is that if anything, OP is underreacting, which I'm inclined to agree with, because this is pretty close to theft. Not exactly because there is the question of what OP said when she gave the dress, and it may have been ambiguous or misleading, but still, she's definitely old enough to understand that even if it was a gift, it was reasonable to say, hey, I'm thinking about selling this. Are you okay with it?

So I think the punishment is justified, OP. I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving Amy anywhere between 0.5 to 2.5 out of 5 buttholes depending on the actual conversation that happened between OP and her when she gave the dress. Am I the butthole for exposing my sister's fake cancer to our parents after she refused to come clean herself? I'm a 34-year-old woman, and I just found out that my 31-year-old sister, who's been telling my whole family she has cancer for the last 8 months, has been lying. She shaved her head, said that she was doing chemo, and had our parents move in to help her through treatment. I started to have doubts when, besides also staying out late

relatively frequently, she would never let anyone attend appointments with her, and she clearly had way too much energy for someone going through aggressive chemotherapy. Last week, I ran into the office manager of my sister's oncologist at a coffee shop. It's a small town. I casually mentioned my sister, and the office manager was confused. She had no idea who I was talking about. I did some digging through doctors and spoke to my sister about what I learned, and she broke down and spilled her guts. It turns out she fabricated the whole story because she was in over her head with debt and wasn't able to afford her apartment anymore. The cancer story got

our parents to move in and she could then stop paying her bills. I was furious and told her she had 24 hours to tell her parents the truth or I would. She asked me not to tell them because it would ruin her relationship with them. She didn't tell them, so yesterday I took everything to our parents. Our parents are heartbroken. My sister is acting like I had no right to out her, and she didn't even say this to our parents. She was going to stage a miraculous recovery next month. She said that I ruined her life and that families should be trying to defend each other rather than expose each other Yo, just a sea of red flags out of OP sister

lying manipulation manipulating grief manipulating fear Gaslighting guilt trips not to mention just lies on top of lies on top of lies OP You gotta cut this lady out of your life. She's a nut job. OP, you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving the sister three out of five buttholes.

Am I the butthole for not disclosing that I'm not Christian? To preface this, I do commissioned artwork and I don't discriminate against any subject unless it's racist, homophobic, otherwise hateful or sexually disturbing. I did a commissioned art piece with Christian iconography, a beautiful ornate cross, a saint, and scripture in calligraphy. The client was happy with my work, paid me, and then asked me what my favorite scripture was.

I was honest and just said, oh, I don't really have one, because I'm not Christian and wouldn't really know which ones I'd like. He became upset and told me that he felt lied to because I've posted artwork of Christian subjects before and he assumed I'd be Christian. He said the art doesn't hold the same spiritual value because it wasn't made with faithful intention. I was kind of unsure what to say. I said, I'm sorry you feel that way, but I do artwork for everyone,

and I'm open to doing Christian artwork because it's for the client, not me. Should I be disclosing if I don't share a certain faith when commissioned to do artwork for it? Uh, the artist who makes Dragon Ball Z doesn't fly around in the air and make his hair turn yellow and shoot laser beams out of his hands. It's okay to make artwork of stuff that you personally aren't a member of, in my opinion. And if the guy really has an issue with only commissioning Christians, then it's on him to verify, not on you to disclose. I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes. I don't know if the other guy deserves a butthole score because this feels more of

like a stupidity thing than a butthole thing. So I guess everyone gets zero out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for reporting my sister-in-law to her exchange student host program when she omitted her P-word husband from the application? I don't feel like I did anything wrong, but I have several family members cutting me off right now. My husband's brother, Sean, has two felony arrests. One in 2019 and one in 2023 for possession and distribution of child P-word, which I cannot say on YouTube.

He was fired from his teaching position in high school for alleged inappropriate contact with a female student. He's had inappropriate relationships with underage girls online throughout the entirety of his 15-year marriage to my sister-in-law, Anne, including immediately after they were married. My own daughter, when she was 5 or 6, one time when we were all together as an extended family, came running upstairs from the basement where she had been playing and said, Oh, Jesus Christ, you guys, I've got a four year old daughter. This post is make I can actually physically feel my heartbeat accelerating on this one.

This is giving me anxiety. The daughter said, Sean told me to touch his worm. We all stilled and questioned him, but he said that he was mistaken. We questioned my daughter separately away from him, and we were satisfied that she was okay, but after that, we never let any of our children be around him alone again. I would like to be clear, I was a stay-at-home mom and no one watched my kids but me, so he was never a caretaker for my children at any point. This is also why we've never allowed away sleepovers. Sorry, not sorry. Sean also took inappropriate photos of his wife's then 10-year-old sister

when she was sleeping when she visited them. After the last felony arrest, and divorced Sean for legal protection because she's a teacher. Except they never stopped living together, and she never changed her name. Nothing changed. He also never got any consequences, just financial. He lost his job but that's about it because my in-laws basically footed the bill. He didn't even have to register as a sex offender. Okay, but here's where people are mad at me and I ask, am I the butthole? Anne posted in our local moms

group and on her Facebook wall that she's hosting a foreign exchange student for the summer and would anyone else be interested? My head just about exploded. My family hosted the year before last. You need to have a kid near the same age as your own and be able to pass a background check. I knew Sean could never pass one. So how in the world could they host? My husband immediately called his parents. They happened to have both Shawn and Anne's two kids there who knew nothing about the exchange student, and were stunned as well to hear about this. They knew of no plans to have Shawn stay elsewhere during the duration of the summer. I asked the local coordinator at

the exchange to contact me. He told me that Anne had only put on the application herself as the adult. Having been through the process before, you have to put all adults 18 plus in the household on the application. I told her that, unfortunately, Sean could never pass a background check due to his felony arrest for child P-word, and that he lives with her 100% of the time. The coordinator was absolutely horrified and thanked me for letting her know. Today, Anne texted my husband and I, absolutely freaking out, accusing us of breaking her daughter's heart over losing the exchange student that she didn't even know of yesterday.

Accusing me of hating Sean, being unchristian, hateful, petty. Along the way, I also found out that Anne is absolutely convinced that only immediate family know about Sean's arrests, as if public records don't exist, and that people forgot our last name and that the high school incident never happened. And my mother-in-law, Sean's mother, is disappointed that I didn't go to Anne first before going straight to the exchange student coordinator. I was also contacted by Ann's mother who said, don't mess with my family.

I've now blocked them all across all socials. So you know how when you're a kid, there's like one or two movies that you watch over and over and over, like every month you watch the exact same video because it's your favorite. Well, me and my brother, when we were kids, we loved Tremors and Tremors 2 and even Tremors 3. It was a sort of like thriller action movie set in the West of like these underground worm monsters that preyed on locals and then the local heroes had to fight off the monster worms. And in the second movie, there was this character named Bert who's like a kind of prepper gun nut. And in the first movie, there was this character named Burt, who's like a kind of prepper gun nut. And in the first movie, the worms are only underground, but in the second movie, they

kind of grow legs like T-Rexes and they walk around on top of land. And it's a surprise to all the heroes who fought them off in the first time. And once the heroes discover this information, Burt manages to survive a confrontation with these monsters. And he says this line that my brother and I quote to each other all the time. I feel I was denied critical need to know information. And that quote, it just keeps bouncing around in my head because I think that's how the coordinator feels.

I think that's how the young, vulnerable 16 year old girls who would apply to this position would feel. This is very, very useful information. And OP is doing a public service protecting people by giving this information to these people. You know, at this point you have to assume that the sister-in-law is actually condoning it. Like maybe she has the fetish too? Because if you have a P word husband, you don't go out of your way to forge documents and host a 16 year old girl into your home

thinking, oh, it's fine, he's totally reformed. No, man, she's into it. Maybe she's a P word herself. She likes that her husband is doing it or at the very least tolerates it. Oh, there's a Trimmers 5? That was r slash am I the butthole and if you like this content be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new reddit podcast episodes every single day.