rSlash - r/AITA I Sued My Own Dad

Episode Date: June 25, 2025

0:00 Intro 0:05 Stolen inheritance 3:55 Cold water 8:34 Misbehaving 12:24 Office fridge 14:17 Dairy free Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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along the Go network. And the Weekday Group Passes offer the same weekday travel flexibility across the network, starting at $30 for two people and up to $60 for a group of five. Buy your online Go Pass ahead of the show at Gotransit.com slash tickets. Welcome to r slash Am I the Butthole where OP's father steals her inheritance. Am I the butthole for not taking my father's minor children into consideration when I sued him for the inheritance that he stole from me? I'm a 22 year old woman, and my mom died when I was 10, and in her will, she left me

an inheritance of more than $100,000. My dad was left in charge of it, but after he remarried, him and his wife went to start a business together and they used the money mom left me to open it. Dad and I argued about it at the time, but I was 15 and he kept insisting it was for the good of the whole family and how it was better used to help everyone than being thrown away on random stuff when I turned 18. Our relationship was over before I moved out of his house at 18. I had made his and his wife's life miserable for stealing from me and once I was out of there I looked into how I could get the

money back. I pressed charges against him for stealing from me and I sued him for the money. I had the support of my entire extended family on my maternal side, and even some on my paternal side. But I was told by others on the paternal side to consider my dad's other kids and the devastation that kind of financial upheaval could bring. I ignored those comments. I knew waiting would prevent me from ever getting the money, and I honestly didn't care about his family's financial security after being stolen from. It was a long process, and I needed to return to court a few times because he was just like, I can't pay, I don't have the money anymore. In the end,

they were forced to give up the business, and it was sold to pay me the money back. And he had to pay additionally out of his paycheck, which made him empty their savings so his wages aren't garnished anymore. By the time I got the money back, I was a hundred percent done and past the point where we could ever reconcile. He made me fight so hard for what was legally mine and he stole money that mom left me so he could support his new family. My relationship with some people on my dad's side isn't as strong anymore, and they think

that it was wrong that I focused only on what he did and not on the effect for the kids. I mostly don't talk to those family members now, but they ask me how I felt zero guilt for it when the kids are innocent and are still my siblings, technically, that they would have thought that I would want better for them. I don't feel bad. I never have. But am I the butthole for not taking the kids into consideration? Is that something that I should have done?

I feel like that's just really unfair to me and locks me into never getting paid back I don't think I owe those kids that yo What about OP OP was a kid too, wasn't she? So it's okay to steal from OP when she's a kid But it's not okay to steal from the other kids even though it's not technically stealing Let's be super clear about that. OP is not stealing from the innocent kids. She's recovering the stolen money from her dad. So why are some kids worthy of protection,

but OP, when she's a kid, is not worthy of protection? These hypocrites! What's also crazy about this is that OP's dad didn't even view the money as a loan. So he stole 100K from his daughter when she was 15. Now OP is 22, that's seven years that he had after making his business to start accruing money to pay back his daughter.

Nope, that money's just gone forever, it's mine now because I'm the father and I get to decide how to spend your money. What a douchebag, man. OP, you get zero out of five buttholes. You have rock solid justification here. I'm giving the dad 4 out of 5 buttholes. And all the relatives who support him get 3 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for throwing a cup of cold water

on my naked husband? My husband has been tested for ADHD, and he doesn't have it. He does have the kinds of problems that are associated with ADHD however. He says writing lists, making a schedule, setting alarms, etc. is physically painful for him and he'd rather just deal with an occasional emergency rather than be proactive. So he often forgets to push the shower diverter valve down. You know the little rod on the tub faucet that you push down to make water fill the tub and pull up to make the water come out of the shower? For nearly 20 effing years, I've been asking him to push that down.

Since I was literally a teenager, I've been asking him to push that effing thing down. At least twice a month, I have a very unpleasant wake up and cold shower because I turn the water on and I get a cold spray from the shower. And every effing time, he's apologetic and then a week or two later, it happens again. He'll do better for a while, and then it slips in again. He's always telling me that he's working on it, and hasn't he been better about it lately? But somehow, he's always working on it, always improving, but it never effing stops.

Today, I just effing had it. I stepped into the shower, turned it on, and had a very cold and rude awakening. I couldn't effing take it anymore. I grabbed the cup by the sink, filled it about three inches with cold water and walked out to where he was standing naked. He had just taken off his pajamas and was going to take his shower after mine. Without warning, while he was looking down, I held that plastic cup firmly in my hand and grasping it tightly. I jerked that thing in a 45 degree angle to get the cold water all over his torso and face.

I told him that his apologies were worth the paper they were written on, and I was tired of listening to him congratulate himself for getting better when I'd been asking him for 20 effing years to stop doing this garbage. I told him I don't accept his apologies, and the fact that it's an accident doesn't excuse it. I told him that from now on Every time I'm taking a cold shower So is he that I refuse to be a second-class citizen in my own home any longer? And if he refuses to make changes to treat me better I'll instead make changes to treat him worse because I will not tolerate this any longer

to treat him worse because I will not tolerate this any longer. I'm going to continue to surprise throw a cold cup of water on him every time I get a surprise cold shower. I am tired of effing asking and begging for basic effing respect and not getting it, with the implication that I have to effing put up with this forever. So Reddit, I know I'm probably the butthole, but am I a justifiable butthole? OP, you're an idiot. You're like an actual bonafide moron. You're so wrong here on so many levels. First of all, why is it your husband's responsibility to make sure the diverter is correct?

Why don't you press it? Are you really that much of a coddled child that you can't press a single button in the shower? Isn't also the diverter literally right next to the little valves you turn to turn the water on? So you can't just turn your eyeball two inches to the left to see if the diverter is in the position you want it to? Also, you doofus, why would you get into the shower before you turn the water on? Because all the water that's just sitting in the pipes is gonna get cold over time, so every time you turn on the shower, the first like five seconds is gonna be cold. So you just stand under the shower head and turn on the water?

Why don't you just do what normal people do and just reach in the shower, turn on the water, wait 5-10 seconds for it to warm up, and then get in? I literally assume that all humans use showers that way. You reach in, turn it on, wait for it to warm up, and then get on. You stupid doofus! You sound like a stupid moron and a terrible wife on top of that. I'm seeing a couple of people in the comments say that everyone sucks here, but I'm strongly gonna disagree. I don't believe OP's post, I'll be honest with you.

She's so stupid, she's such a moron, that I just, I don't know if any information we're getting out of her is reliable. Because if you're too stupid to turn on the shower and wait for it to warm up before you get in, then you're what's called an unreliable narrator. So I'm on the husband's side here. OP, you get 2.5 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving the butthole... Excuse me.

I'm giving the husband 0 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for kicking an autistic child out of my restaurant for misbehaving? My name is Gina. I'm a 55-year-old woman from upstate New York, and I run a family- owned pizzeria. My husband and I have been in the service industry for decades and over the past few years, we've noticed a huge increase in rude customers, rude children, and a crazy level of entitlement.

One of the rules we have in our restaurant is that nobody is allowed to talk on speaker phone, play music out loud, or have anything playing on speaker from a personal device. This is such a simple request and something that's always been the standard. This wasn't even an issue or something that needed to be said before the pandemic. But now it seems parents feel attacked if their children can't watch Bluey with volume. We have signs of asking people not to do this and actually do enforce this rule politely but firmly. A few weeks ago, a woman was sitting with her nine-year-old son who was watching cartoons on his tablet at full volume while also scrolling TikTok on a phone.

I nicely explained to the woman that we don't allow this as it's disruptive to other customers and I asked her to please turn off the volume. The woman rudely replied that her son has both ADHD and autism, so he needs to do this in order to sit down without making a fuss. I asked if she could please use headphones, and she snapped that her son doesn't like to use them. I told her that this is not acceptable, and to please either use headphones

or set his device to silent. About 10 minutes later, I was in the kitchen and heard loud banging noises coming from the dining room. I came out to find the child furiously banging his fist on the table while his mom just sat there ignoring it. It was almost as if he was waiting for her to say something, but she did nothing. I asked her to please stop him and she replied that he's on the spectrum and this is just his normal behavior,

if he doesn't have a device to calm him down. The boy then stood up and started running around my restaurant, punching and kicking the other tables and chairs, knocking things over. Another customer yelled at the mom to, control your kid or I will. The mom launched into what sounded like a pre-rehearsed monologue about how autistic children

deserve to occupy the same space as everyone else. I agree with this, but everyone still needs to behave appropriately. I told the woman that if she couldn't get her son's behavior under control, that she needs to leave. She was furious and started yelling about how it's illegal to discriminate against people who are on the spectrum and that she would report me. My husband came out, put her food in a to-go box, and just said to get out right now. She looks

genuinely shocked and said that kids shouldn't be expected to just sit quietly and that the world needs to be more accepting of those who are different. I love kids. My husband and I raised five of them, even one with special needs. But autism or not, nothing gives you the right to behave this way in any setting. If your child's issues are so severe that simply sitting in a restaurant without a device makes them freak out and throw a tantrum, then maybe reconsider taking them there in the first place. I'm tired of rude kids and lazy parents who embolden them to behave this way,

refusing to discipline them or set any kind of rules or boundaries. This isn't about ADHD, autism, or any other condition. This is about entitlement, bad parenting, and bad behavior as a result. Am I the butthole? OP, I completely agree with you here. This doesn't feel like an autism issue, it feels like a lazy slash bad parenting issue. The fact that she just let her kids slam on the table and knock things around pretty much proves your point. I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes, I'm giving the mom 2.5 out of 5 buttholes.

Am I the butthole for locking the office fridge after someone kept stealing my lunch? I'm a 34 year old guy, and I work in a small office with about 10 people. We share a communal kitchen, including one fridge. Over the past month, my lunch has been stolen five times. Not just random snacks, entire homemade meals that I bring from home. Gone without a trace. It's not just frustrating, it's expensive and messes up my day. I mentioned it a couple times in the group chat, like,

hey, someone's been taking my lunches. Please stop. Everyone either ignored it or sent vague messages like, ugh, that sucks, or some people are the worst. But no one took responsibility. So, I bought a mini-fridge and put it under my desk. Nothing fancy, just enough to hold my meal and a drink.

I also put a little lock on it, just for extra peace of mind. Since then, no more stolen lunches. Well, last Friday, one of my coworkers, Dana, who's 29, confronted me during lunch and said that it was weird and selfish that I had a personal fridge. She said it made me look paranoid and not part of the team. I said that I was tired of my food being stolen, and this was the only solution that worked. She said that I should have just brought stuff I wouldn't care about losing, like snacks or microwave meals, if

I was so worried. A couple of people have now made little comments like, don't let him see your lunch, he might lock it up. Or we get it, you're special. I am starting to feel like the weirdo in the office just for protecting my stuff. Am I the butthole for locking up my lunch instead of letting this keep happening? Well, at least now we know who the thief is. Obviously, Dana.

Why else would anyone care? Why would anyone have a horse in this race? Unless you're the lunch thief. OP, you get 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving Dana 2 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for making a dairy-free cake with eggs? And I realize the title of this post sounds incredibly boring, but it's got 21,000 upvotes, so you know, maybe it'll be interesting.

My friend invited me over for dinner. Our tradition is to bring food when invited to dinner. I asked if I should bring a dessert. She said that would be great, but it needs to be dairy free because her daughter stopped eating dairy. I know a great cake recipe with no dairy. I brought it to the dinner and it was a big hit. My friend asked for the recipe and I told her. When I got to the eggs, her daughter became upset and ran upstairs. My friend asked why I put eggs in the cake. I said the eggs were responsible for the spongy texture. She said the cake wasn't dairy free. I said it was. There's no milk or milk products in the cake.

No cheese, no butter, etc. My friend said, eggs are dairy. I was confused. Dairy is milk and milk products, to my understanding. She said that dairy is anything that comes from an animal. I asked, is honey dairy then? She said no, because bees are insects. I apologized but I could tell that she was still upset. Am I the butthole? I never heard of eggs

being dairy before. Yo, words mean things. They have actual definitions. And yeah, those definitions can change over time but dairy means milk. That's the whole point of the word. You don't go up to a cow and squeeze the udder and eggs come popping out of it. This woman is doubly wrong. She's wrong about eggs being dairy and she's wrong about bees not being animals. They are animals. This woman's a doofus.

I don't know if she deserves a butthole score because, you know, she's just she's not evil. She's just stupid. If she screamed at you and then, you know, threw the cake in OP's face, then I could see giving her a butthole score, but just being upset that she thought she ate something she didn't, I guess she does, I guess everyone deserves zero out of five buttholes is what I'm saying. I guess everyone deserves 0 out of 5 buttholes is what I'm saying. But I am going to give the other family, let's say, 2 out of 5, no, 3 out of 5 on the moron doofus scale. That was r slash am I the butthole and if you like this content be sure to follow my

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