rSlash - r/AITA My Brother Wants My Inheritance

Episode Date: November 7, 2024

0:00 Intro 0:07 50k 4:00 Emergency calls 6:07 Daughters bully 8:49 Proving a point 11:01 Ruined dress 14:21 Calling the cops Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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me in his will? I'm a 32 year old man and I recently received 50k from my grandfather's estate. I was incredibly close to my grandfather. I visited him every week, especially as he got older and his health deteriorated. I was there through it all, taking him to doctor's appointments, helping around the house, and sometimes just sitting with him while he watched his favorite shows. He was like a second father to me, and when he passed, it hit me hard. My younger brother, Matt, who's 27, had a different relationship with Grandpa. It wasn't that he didn't love him, he did, but he was just always busy. Matt lives a few hours away, has a demanding job, and is starting a family with his wife,

who's currently pregnant. He visited on holidays and special occasions, but that's about it. I always figured that was just how Matt was. When the will was read, my grandfather left Matt some sentimental things. An old watch and a few other items. But the $50,000 came to me. I didn't expect it, but I think Grandpa knew how much I'd sacrificed to be there for him in those last years. I loved him and never did any of it for the money. But when I got it, I felt like it was his way of saying thank you. A couple of weeks after the funeral, Matt called me saying he needed to talk.

He came over and after some small talk, he asked me for my money. $30,000 of the inheritance. He explained that he was drowning in debt. His wife's pregnancy had brought extra expenses and he just needed some help to get back on track. He said that he wouldn't ask if he weren't desperate. I felt bad for him. I really did. But I also felt conflicted. I've been wanting to open a small woodworking business, something I'm passionate about and I've been saving for over the years. This inheritance was the missing piece to make that dream happen, and I feel like my grandfather knew that when he left it to me. I told Matt that I couldn't give him the $30,000. I said that I'd be happy to help him out

in smaller ways, like offering some of the things that I've been saving myself, but I wanted to keep the majority of the money for the business that I'd been dreaming of for years. I even offered to help him look for financial assistance or budgeting tips. Now that I think of it, that was kinda petty, but I honestly didn't mean it that way. He did not take it well. Matt accused me of being selfish, of valuing my non-existent hobby over helping my own brother and future niece or nephew. He said I didn't understand the stress that he was under, and to make matters worse, our

parents have sided with him. Mom says that family should come first and that grandpa would have wanted me to help out. Now I feel like the bad guy. I didn't ask for this money and I didn't want to destroy my relationship with my brother. But this is the first time in my life that I feel like I could actually follow a dream of mine and I don't want to give that up. OP, maybe the reason why your grandpa didn't leave the money to your brother or your parents has nothing to do with the fact that

you spent more time with them and has everything to do with the fact that your family is entitled. It's your money! Simple, easy, obvious! End of discussion! It's your money! OP, I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. It's your money, spend it the way you want to spend it. And if your mom and dad are so worried about your little brother, then they can loan him

the 30k. Also, isn't it interesting, awfully coincidental, you might say, that your brother never asked for assistance before. He never mentioned the debt or the pressure or the struggles that he's been dealing with until after he finds out that you made 50k. Then all of a sudden, whoa, is me. Oh, if only I had $30,000, my life would be instantly fixed. Hmm, what a coincidence. Am I the butthole for telling my wife that I'm done with her emergency calls and leaving her stranded?

I'm a 32-year-old man, and I've been married to my wife, who's 29 for four years. We have a three-year-old son. She's not a bad person, but she's constantly in a state of chaos and every little thing becomes my problem. No exaggeration, I get these emergency calls multiple times a week. Flat tire, call me at work. Forgot her wallet, call me. Grocery store out of her favorite oat milk, blow up my phone like the world's ending. It's relentless. I work full time and do my fair share at home with our son. Diaper duty, bedtime stories, cooking, cleaning, you name it. But these crises are killing me. I've told her before that unless it's a real emergency,

like someone bleeding or stuck on a highway at night, she needs to figure it out. I don't have the bandwidth to drop everything constantly. The last straw came two days ago. I had to take my son to the doctor because he had an ear infection and I was already running on fumes. While I'm in the waiting room with a fussy toddler, she calls me in a panic because she locked herself out of her car in front of the target five minutes from home. I told her, I can't leave. You'll have to call someone to pop the window. She freaked out saying that would cost too much, she didn't bring enough cash and I was being unreasonable. I stayed firm, said she needed to figure it out and hung up. When I got home later, she was furious. She said the guy charged her 150 bucks and

I should have come home to help because she didn't think to grab her wallet. I told her point blank, I'm done rescuing you from things that you can easily handle. You need to stop acting like everything's a disaster. Now she's barely speaking to me, acting like I'm the villain for not dropping everything for her again. My brother thinks that I was harsh, but my mom said that I was right to set boundaries. Am I the butthole for leaving her stranded? OP, sounds like you're taking care of two toddlers. I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your older toddler two out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole

for threatening to sue both the school and the family of my daughter's bully? I'm a 30-year-old man and my husband is 33. We have an 11 year old daughter who's been going through severe bullying at school. It just keeps getting worse! It started off with just name calling, but it's gotten worse over the past few weeks. For context, she's adopted, which is something we've always been open about and celebrated as part of her story. Recently, some kids found out about her adoption and started saying horrible things, telling her stuff like her birth mother didn't want her. They tell her that she's unwanted and they tell her she's a reject. Which is not the case. Her mother loved her very

much to the point that she literally gave her life for her so she could be here. A few days ago, my daughter came home in tears with her hair butchered. Her bullies had cut off two inches of her ponytail while in class, all while taunting her, calling her names and laughing at her reaction. They'll follow her through the halls to make fun of her on a regular basis now. Both my husband and I have been in touch with the school about the bullying more times than I can count. I emailed, called, even showed up in person to speak with the teachers and the principal. But all I got were empty promises that they'd look into it. Nothing's changed and my daughter's mental health has taken a hit. She's anxious, struggling to sleep

and now begs us not to send her to school. Finally, out of frustration and feeling like no one was taking this seriously, we reached out to a lawyer to explore legal action against both the school and the bully's family. Only when the school and the parents learned that we were considering legal action did they start to act. Suddenly the school calls me to say that they're moving the bully out of my daughter's class and claim they had a talk with her. The girl's parents reached out too, saying they'd talked to their daughter and promised it would stop. But honestly, I don't believe them.

It feels like they're all saying this just to get me to back off and avoid the legal consequences. I worry that once the dust settles, things will go right back to how they were, and my daughter will still be dealing with this. My family thinks that I should give the school and parents a chance now that they've finally taken action, but I feel like it's all for show. So am I the butthole for moving forward with legal action even though the school and the bully's parents now claim they're handling it?

Too little, too late! OP, 0 out of 5 buttholes. I hope you nail their testicles to the wall. I'm giving the bullies and everyone protecting the bullies 4 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for letting my kids loot my brother's house to prove my point? My brother and his family came for a visit last month. My kids and I play with Lego, and we have fun leaving little dioramas around my house. Just silly stuff, like a fight between Iron Man and Darth Vader on the Loot Llama. It's just our way of leaving Easter Eggs around the house. My nephew really liked them and decided to take a few home. When we noticed they were missing, I asked my brother to bring them back. He said that it was just kids being kids and that he would take them back the

next time we saw each other. I saw him for coffee and I reminded him beforehand that I wanted all our stuff back. He forgot to bring the toys. Okay, game on. We went over to his place for a barbecue. I told my kids that unless all our stuff was returned to us when we got there, literally anything in his place for a barbecue. I told my kids that unless all our stuff was returned to us when we got there, literally anything in his house was fair game. And like the godless barbarians that my kids are, they went to town. When we left, I don't think there were any remotes, small electronics, or beer mugs left at his house. I actually had to sneak his dog back into the house before we left. I started getting

calls on our way home. I ignored them. When I got home, I returned his calls. He said that a bunch of stuff was missing from his house. I said that I would check with the kids. He said that I effing well knew what happened and that he wanted all of his stuff back. I said that I would box it up and return it the next time that we saw each other, as long as we got our Legos back. He was at my house with the Lego later that evening. He had even accidentally included stuff that wasn't ours. I returned all the stolen stuff to him. I told him that this is how we'd be dealing with his kids in the future.

He's pissed off that he had to make a special trip to return my stuff. My parents think that there's a huge difference between an eight-year-old taking Lego minifigures and a couple of teenagers pillaging their uncle's house. Yeah, there is a difference. The first is theft and the second is justice. OB, I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving your brother 1 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my sister that I hope her husband cheats on her after she ruined my wedding dress? I'm a 29 year old woman and I've been engaged for about a year.

I'm getting married in 3 months. Like many brides, my wedding dress is a big deal to me. I spent months picking it out and it cost more than I care to admit. It's a gorgeous custom-made gown that I was keeping at my mom's house because I wanted to avoid any accidents at home. I have a dog who sheds like crazy. My sister, who's 34, recently had some sort of life-changing epiphany and decided that she's done with fast fashion and wants to live a more eco-conscious lifestyle. Cool, right? Except she's taken it to a weird level, constantly shaming me and others about our choices, like buying new clothes instead of thrifted. She's also become super into DIY projects,

most of which end up looking like a Pinterest fail, but whatever, I wasn't going to say anything. Fast forward to last weekend. I stopped by my mom's house to check on the dress and made sure that everything was fine. When I opened the garment bag, my heart legit stopped. My sister, in all her do-it-yourself glory, had dyed my wedding dress. Apparently, she thought the white was too traditional and boring, and decided to upcycle it by dip dyeing the

bottom half in this hideous tie-dye rainbow pattern. Her words, I made it more fun and unique. You'll stand out. I lost it. I screamed at her and she just stood there acting like I was being overdramatic. She kept saying that she was just trying to help and that it's just a dress. I told her she's a selfish psycho and to never speak to me again. Then, and this is where I might be the butthole, I said, I hope your husband gets so sick of your controlling self-righteous BS that he cheats on you She started crying and called me a bunch of names saying that I crossed the line Now my mom is mad at me saying my sister was only trying to do something nice and that I didn't need to take it that far

She's insisting I apologize for the cheating comments, but I feel like I was justified in saying it for the cheating comments, but I feel like I was justified in saying it. My fiance thinks my sister is nuts, but even he raised an eyebrow at that last comment and said that I might have gone too far. Am I the butthole for saying what I said, or is my sister just the worst? Alright, I might get flack from this in the comments, but honestly, this does kind of feel like an everyone sucks here situation, because yeah, the sister does deserve some kind of punishment But the appropriate response here is to sue her for the dress and to not invite her to the wedding or if she gets married To you know ruin her wedding dress because that would be fitting justice

But you know wishing that on someone to ruin their marriage. It's you know kind of stooping pretty low there I'm not really sure if I could justify that OP. So I'm giving your sister two out of five buttholes. What she did was just bonkers. This genuinely feels like sabotage to me. Like she intentionally did it to ruin your wedding and to ruin your day. But I think I'll give you one out of five buttholes for kind of taking it to a really nasty place. But you know, you guys might disagree with me. If you think OP's in the clear, I wouldn't really argue with you on that one. Am I the butthole for calling the police on my brother after he hit his girlfriend at a family dinner?

I was having a family dinner at my house last weekend. My brother brought his girlfriend who's been with him for about a year. We've never been super close, but I always try to include him in family events. During dinner, they started arguing over something small, what's show to watch later I think. It quickly escalated and my brother snapped. He stood up, yelled at her, and then slapped her across the face. Everyone was shocked, but no one did anything. His girlfriend was clearly terrified, and my parents tried to downplay it, saying my brother was just stressed and didn't mean it.

I didn't care what excuses they made. I immediately took his girlfriend into another room, locked the door, and called the cops. My brother was arrested, and now my entire family is furious with me. They're saying I ruined his life, that it was a private matter and that I should have stayed out of it. I would love to see your parents' reaction if you use that same logic on them. Like, you slap your mom across the face and what are they supposed to do, call the cops? Well, that would just be completely unnecessary because it's a private matter and the cops

should stay out of it. Yeah right, man. This is a literal crime. And if your brother hadn't committed a crime, then the cops wouldn't have arrested him. Simple as that. OP, you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your brother four out of five buttholes. That was r slash am I the butthole and if you like this content, be sure to follow my

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