rSlash - r/AITA My Estranged Father Wants My Organs

Episode Date: December 15, 2024

0:00 Intro 0:09 Kidney 2:01 Peanut brittle 5:12 Stereotype 8:21 Cancelled 12:33 Family cruise Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your teen requested a ride, but this time not from you. It's through their Uber Teen account. It's an Uber account that allows your teen to request a ride under your supervision with live trip tracking and highly rated drivers. Add your teen to your Uber account today! Welcome to r slash Am I the Butthole where OP is abandoned by her father and then that father comes back 20 years later asking for a kidney. Am I the Butthole for refusing to donate my kidney to my estranged father who abandoned

me as a child? Yo, I feel like the title kinda tells us everything we need to know about this one, but let's read it anyways. I'm a 28 year old woman and I was raised by my mom after my dad walked out on us when I was 5. He left to start a new family and had little to no contact with me growing up. He never paid child support or even called on birthdays or holidays. For years I struggled with feelings of abandonment, but I eventually moved on and built a life without him. Fast forward to now. Out of the blue, I get a call from his wife telling me my father is very sick and needs

a kidney transplant. She told me that I'm the best match and begged me to get tested. Apparently, his other family members aren't compatible. I told her no! I don't owe him anything after the way he treated me. He made his choices when he abandoned me and my mom, and I feel no obligation to put myself through a major surgery for someone who's essentially a stranger to me. Since then, I've been bombarded with messages from his side of the family, calling me selfish

and heartless. They say that I'm letting him die out of spite and that I need to be the bigger person. Even my mom thinks I should consider it. Not for him, but to avoid carrying guilt if he passes away. But I don't feel guilty. I feel like he's reaping what he sowed. But part of me wonders if I'm being too harsh. Am I the butthole for refusing to donate my kidney to the father who abandoned me? I saw some comments down below saying that OP should just SAY that she got tested and that she wasn't a match to just get them off their back.

But I feel like the better solution would be to say that you got tested, say that you're a match, but be like, nah, I think I'll just keep my liver. OP, you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your dad four out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for closing my door on my neighbor's face because she really needed peanut brittle? I'm a 20 year old guy and I still live with my dad at his house. My mom was in a lengthy battle with breast cancer and she passed away in August.

It wrecked me on so many levels that I was not prepared for. On top of losing my hero, I felt like I should stay with my dad to be here with him and support him. One way to support him is to keep up with traditions and recipes passed down from my mom. When my mom was alive, she would make peanut brittle, fudge, double chocolate crinkled cookies, and she would make like 30 batches of them to put in containers and hand them out to family, friends, me and my siblings co-workers, and of course, the neighbors.

This is my first real year of making all these sweets by myself, and I'm not really committed to doing all this baking. Especially when I'm in college, as well as balancing a job and a side hustle and I have to make more money. I'm just so damn sad with the grieving and too tired from school and work to do loads of batches. In fact, the only reason I'm making these sweets is because they're yummy, I can't lie, and I know that my dad would appreciate them. I just started to attempt

to make them. I've only made two small test batches, and they were good. Not as good as mom's, but this is where my neighbor knocks on my door. I answer expecting like a Christmas card. And she said, Hi, I was wondering if you had any of that peanut brittle done. I explain, Oh yeah, I'm trying to perfect the recipe, but I don't know if I can send them out this year. And then she said, Oh, your mom is really slacking behind this year. And at this point I'm thinking to myself, does she not know that my mom passed away? So I'm like dumbfounded that my neighbor can't put two and two together that my mom isn't able to make peanut brittle. So I tell the neighbor that my mom passed away in August and she looked at me with like a surprised expression.

She said with like almost a confused tone, so you're not making peanut brittle at all? How about tomorrow?" At this point, I just close the door, and my hands are in fists because I'm about to break down in an ugly cry and other bad emotions. My dad finally comes out of his room and asks who it was, was it a package, and I tell him it was the neighbor wanting peanut brittle. And he looks confused and he told me, you haven't even figured out the right temperature yet, in like a joking way. But right as he said that, my neighbor texted him saying that I was being snarky to her, so I tell him the full story.

He gets teary eyed because we're still grieving my mom, and he was like, I guess that just means more peanut brittle for us. Yo, this is crazy. Walking to a neighbor's house and demanding free food is already pretty bad. That's pretty audacious. But then finding out the cook is dead and being like, um, can you cook it anyways? I'm hungry. Is crazy. Yo, is this woman psycho? OP, you get an easy zero out of 5 buttholes. She's lucky she didn't get cursed out. I'm giving the neighbor, gosh I don't know, 3 out of 5 buttholes?

Am I the butthole for telling an Asian man that his dick probably isn't big enough for me to enjoy anyways after he stated that I'm not a beauty standard? I'm a 27 year old Latina woman with brown skin and an average sized body. Yesterday I was at the mall with two of my friends, both white girls. We were shopping at Macy's when two Asian guys walked up to us and started flirting directly with my friends. One of my friends, Kate, is in a relationship. My second friend, Emily, is single.

The guys proceeded to ask Kate and Emily to hang out sometimes, and even asked to exchange numbers. Kate informed both guys that she was already taken, and told them that I am single and free to mingle. The one guy who apparently called dibs on Kate gave me an awkward look and said, Yeah, I don't think that would work out. Curious, I asked what he meant by that. What he said next didn't shock me.

He said that he was looking for someone who would fit the beauty standard and would be good enough to maybe be introduced to his parents. I chuckled and said, well, that's okay. I'm sure your buddy down there isn't big enough for me anyways. I pointed at his private area. The two Asian guys and my friends were all stunned by my response. I told the girls to meet me in the footwear area when they were done with the guys and walked off. Later, as they were driving home, Kate told me that my response was sort of immature and

stereotyping and not all Asian guys have small areas. I told her that I wasn't going to just stand there and allow this prick to insult me. She said that I can't expect every guy to find me beautiful and attractive. I told her that they don't have to find me beautiful, but to stand there and insult me and make rude comments like that is something I will never stand for. The rest of the ride home was quiet. Was I wrong? Alright, the comments on this one are super divided.

I'm seeing a lot of people saying not the butthole and also a lot of people saying everyone sucks here. It's kind of like a 50-50 split. So I'm expecting some controversy and disagreements down in the comments on this one. So we can do the easy part first. Is the guy a butthole for just insulting OP for no reason? Yes, definitely. But does that justify OP throwing out racist insults in response? Personally, I think no. I mean,

yeah, she does deserve the right to defend herself, so she should be able to say something back to the guy. But to immediately jump to racial stereotypes is kind of a kind of a low blow that personally I'm not comfortable with. It's like, hey, jerk, you stepped on my toe. You're such a butthole. Oh yeah? Well, at least I'm not a slur. I mean, yo, that's kind of crazy, isn't it? So I'll give the dude one out of five buttholes for being rude unnecessarily and I'll give

you also one out of five buttholes for, you know, racial stereotyping. Also some people in the comments are saying that maybe the dude's initial comment was also racial by saying she didn't fit a beauty standard. I don't know if that's the case. I think he's just saying, I'm not attracted to you. It's not really clear if he meant, I'm not attracted to you because of your race. So this is kind of a, this is a sticky one, you guys. Am I the butthole for canceling our wedding after my fiance said something disgusting about my little brother? I'm a 31 year old man and my fiance, Karen, is 32.

We're about to get married in a bit more than 6 months. Everything started to go bad when we talked about the guest list. Karen had been saying for a while that she didn't want my little brother, Chad, who's 26, to come for a while, but she wouldn't give me a real explanation. I've told her many times that my brother's presence was absolutely non-negotiable though. For background, Chad and me have always been super close. Our parents weren't abusive or anything, but they weren't really the serious kinds of parents. They would often drop us off at grandma's to-go party, and as soon as I was old enough to take care of us both, they just left the house and they

left bro for me to handle. This is a trash way to treat your kids, sure, but at least it allowed us to bond super super super close. I'm not exaggerating when I say that he's my favorite person in the whole world. I would take a bullet for him, and I think the only people who could brag about being as loved as I love him are my future kids. So yeah, my baby brother's presence at my wedding is not something I'm willing to sacrifice at all. Now, a few days ago, the topic of the guest list came back on the table and Karen said one more time that she doesn't want Chad there. I was getting

really pissed at this point and I told her there wouldn't be a wedding at all if he isn't there so she had better drop it or leave. Then I asked her why the hell she doesn't want him there in the first place. So this B word tells me that she doesn't want a F slur on her wedding day and that her family doesn't approve of this lifestyle. I was like, did she really just say that? I knew she wasn't exactly the progressive type, but it never got that far. Like, my brother is the sweetest, kindest, purest soul on earth. I couldn't believe that she would hate him so much for something so

trivial. And yeah, Chad is bi. He came out to me when he was 20 and he looked so damn scared. I told him that I loved him no matter what of course and I promised myself that I wouldn't let anyone make him feel that scared or hurt ever again. And I couldn't even imagine that woman in the same room as him after what she just said. I don't know, protective big bro instincts kicked in and I told her we're effing done. I asked her for the ring back, which she reluctantly gave, before telling her she had 10 minutes to pack her things and get the hell out of my house before I call the cops. Obviously, I cancelled everything and told everyone who would ask the EXACT reason

why Karen and I are done. Sweet Chad obviously heard about this, and he even told me that it's not a big deal if he's not there. He just wants me to be happy. I told him that my big day is meant to be the happiest day of my life, and it wouldn't be without him. And I certainly can't be happy with someone like Karen given who she really is. Well, now she's back at her parents' house, and some of our mutual friends have really distanced themselves from Karen. I got a lot of texts from her family, each one more hateful than the previous one, and I just blocked them all. Karen, on the other hand,

hasn't been really aggressive or anything, just alternating between guilt-tripping and crying, saying how I ruined her life and that she can't believe that I ruined our four-year relationship over one word. But not once, not once has she apologized for what she told about Chad So I know even more that I don't want to do anything to do with her anymore So yeah, maybe I'm the butthole, but I don't think so and honestly I think she deserves every part of the backlash she's getting she has to face the consequences of her hatred And it's great that her true self has been revealed to the world, in my opinion. Who even says that in Seattle anyways?

Yeah, I think what's going on here, OP, is that she got close enough to the wedding that she felt comfortable in letting the mask slip, and she's been, you know, silently judging both you and your brother for your entire relationship, and finally the truth came out. So ultimately, if she's not going to support the people that you love, then she can go pound sand. OP, I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving Karen 2 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for canceling on our family cruise?

So my parents wanted to do a cruise for the holidays. They invited me, a 25 year old woman, my boyfriend who's 27, my brother who's 28, and his girlfriend 26. My brother, James, has always been the golden child. Me a 25 year old woman, my boyfriend who's 27, my brother who's 28, and his girlfriend 26. My brother, James, has always been the golden child. Back in high school, when James was discovered to be selling pills, he was just going through a phase. Meanwhile, when I got caught smoking weed, my parents threatened to kick me out.

James lost his scholarship and dropped out of college three different times, but he's still perfect. I graduated a semester late and I didn't try hard enough. James still lives in the state where he's attending college and I live in my home state near my parents. He doesn't work and he's not currently in school. My parents buy him flights all the time to come visit, but they don't buy me a flight to go see him or go anywhere else.

My parents send him money for rent and life necessities. He bought a $2,000 dog recently with that money. When I got my first big job at the age of 22, my parents immediately kicked me off their insurance since I had the option of benefits. James was on their insurance until he turned 26. Last year, I got laid off and moved back in with my parents to save money. When I got my new job, my parents told me that I needed to pay $10,000 in back rent, which was never discussed previously. I did finish paying it off

and recently moved back in with my boyfriend. This has been a pattern my whole life. James gets everything handed to him and I have to work my butt off. So now onto the cruise. My parents said they wanted to do this and bought tickets for themselves, James and his girlfriend. They told me to get my own ticket since I have a well-paying job. I was super upset and told them that it wasn't fair that I was the only one who had to buy their own tickets. My boyfriend couldn't come due to holiday plans with his own family.

My parents said that I was acting spoiled and that green wasn't a good look on you. I'm so tired of hearing that phrase at this point. They said that it's not like I had to get a nice room since we'd be outside for the majority of the time anyways. Which is true, but then why did James get a nice room? I decided that I had enough and that I wasn't going. But here's where I might be the butthole. I let them continue thinking that I was for months. Then on the night before they left, they said to get to their house by 8 a.m. so that we could start the drive to the ports. At 8 30 a.m. that day, they start messaging me

asking where I am. I texted them, since you didn't want to put the effort in to have me join you, I'll be attending my boyfriend's Thanksgiving instead. Have a nice trip with your favorite child. Then I muted the chat. I talked to some friends about this, and some said that it was petty of me to cancel with no warning, and others said that I should have sucked it up and gone since I would have had fun when I got there. They've been on the cruise for a couple of days now, and I'm starting to regret how

I handled things. Yeah, I probably would have had fun, and it's not like I couldn't afford the ticket. I also could have handled the delivery better, but at the same time, I'm so sick of them treating me like this. So am I the butthole for canceling on our family vacation? Oh B, I hate to point this out, but if you're paying your parents rent and then your parents are giving money to your brother You're literally just giving money to your brother effectively. Oh B I think what you should do is since they went on a Thanksgiving Day cruise you and your boyfriend should go on a

Christmas cruise and post lots of pictures in the group chat of you and your boyfriend's amazing Christmas cruise trip. OP, I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving your parents 2.5 out of 5 buttholes. That was r slash am I the butthole and if you like this content be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.