rSlash - r/AITA My Family Chose My Cheating Ex Over Me

Episode Date: February 26, 2026

0:00 Intro 0:06 Magic brownies 2:48 Wedding 5:31 Family drama 9:12 Divorce 11:38 No shoe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to R-slash Am I the Butthole, where O.P. accidentally gets her entire family high. Am I the butthole for refusing to take any blame when my mom, sister, and brother-in-law got high off my brownies? We live in Canada where THC is legal, so don't clutch your pearls too hard. I like getting high. No shame in it. I don't drink and I don't smoke. I get oil and I use it in my baking. My brownies were in my room, in my closet, under a pile of folded sweat, sweaters. The reason for that is my mom was visiting. Normally, I would keep the brownies in the pantry. I went out with friends and I invited my mom along. She said that she would visit Kathy instead. Coolio, no problem with that. I went out to dinner in a movie with friends. When I got home,

I found out that my mom decided to invite my sister to my house instead of going over there. The reason I know this is because they were all on my couch, not moving, and barely blinking. They were also watching some Korean TV show on Netflix without subtitles. This is only odd because we're originally from Uruguay, not much crossover in the language. My brownie tray was also on my coffee table. I made them all drink water, threw a blanket over them, and went to sleep. This morning they lost their cool on me. That I'm responsible for having that where anyone could get to it.

That I should have called an ambulance or something. that I ruined their virgin cannibodol receptors. I'll admit that this last one is what I imagine they were trying to say, while still high and incoherence. I refuse to take any responsibility for any of this. I did nothing wrong, but they're pissed. The top comments from Thin Tradition is exactly what I was thinking. Not the butthole.

I'm more concerned as to why they were in your room, in the closet, and under your sweaters. What were they looking for? O.P. says, my mom snoops when I'm at work. I'm sure she just thought that I was hiding snacks. You know, you can just imagine the smug self-satisfaction the mom must have felt when she pulled back the sweaters, discovered the brownies, and thought,

Aha, trying to hide brownies from me, are you? I'll show you, you greedy little daughter, I'll steal all the brownies and eat them. Ha! Well, jokes on you, mom. Because they're drugged. I like this comment also from Glitterpuk said, My mom used to snoop. Then she found the shoebox of dildos.

I am an out-of-the-closate gay man. She is a supportive if nosy parent. Less nosy now. Am I the butthole for expecting my sister to plan my wedding for free and demoting her to a guest when she wouldn't? I also told anyone who took her side that I wasn't helping this. them either. My fiancé and I have a small accounting office. We do pretty well because both of us are bilingual, English and Spanish for me, and English and Ukrainian for him. About 10% of my business is family

and friends of the family. I've taken barter for work more often than you can imagine. It's all above board and documented. My aunt paid an impanayas one year. My uncle had his mom make us a huge batch of tamales. Even my dad's been helping my fiancee fix up his truck. Everyone we've ever traded with has provided fair exchange. I've done my sister's accounting since she started her wedding planning company. Obviously, she has nothing to trade, so I've been doing her accounting work for free. We initially did it just to help her get started. But now I'm getting married. I told everyone at dinner at my mom and dad's house. I asked my sister if she would plan my wedding and be my maid of honor. She said yes to being a maid of honor, but no to planning my wedding.

I asked her why not, and she said I would need to pay for her services. That she can't do free stuff for family because she needs to make money at her job. She literally said it like I didn't know what a job was. So I talked to my fiance and then to my parents. We then told my sister that she would be getting an invitation, but she was no longer in the wedding party. I also gave her all of her tax files for the year on a USB drive. I said she needed to take her business elsewhere. My mom and dad told her that I was right, and that they were disappointed that she wanted to make money off me after everything I did to help her.

She went to social media to complain, and a few people took her side, which is fair. I don't expect everyone to see my point. But then a few started contacting me. I listened and then asked them if I should continue working for her for free. Most said no. A few said, family helps family. If I did those people's taxes, I told them I was not doing them this year or in the future. They tried to backpedal, but I held strong. My sister says she won't come. I told her to RSVP no.

She said she wasn't thinking when she said no. Not my problem. She has two months to get a new accountant. You know, the people saying family helps family are so dumb because if that's true, shouldn't the sister help O.P. with a free wedding? Like, that's the point. Opie has been helping family, so now it's the sister's turn to help family. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your extremely stupid sister

1.5 out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for congratulating my family on losing me and keeping my cheating ex-girlfriend? I'm a 23-year-old guy, and I dated Hannah, who's 23 for seven years. I loved her, and we lived together for three and a half years when I found out that she was cheating on me. It wasn't one time or one person. either. She'd been cheating for years and there were three guys that I knew about. One of them got her pregnant and then dumped her, which is the only reason I found out that she was cheating. And why did she cheat? She didn't want to be with me anymore, but didn't want to lose my family because they treated her better than her own family treated her. Even before we started dating,

she loved my family, and now I question if she dated me to have my family in her life more. I ended things with Hannah as soon as I found out about the other guys, and she admitted to several years and three different guys. Whether that's the whole truth, I'll never know. At first, I thought that my family would be on my side and would cut her off and be there for me. But after six weeks, I discovered my mom and my sister were talking to Hannah every day and checking on her. Then Hannah was invited back over to my parents' house for dinner, and my sister and her kept doing girls' days that they did when Hannah and I were together. I talked to my family about it, and they told me they couldn't let Hannah go, and that she was a part of our family for so long. We argued about it, and I told them

I was hurt that they would stand by her. They asked me to consider how alone she was and how much they loved her. They insisted on including her and the family. I told them they couldn't have both of us and stopped showing up to family functions or dinners, and I refused to hang out. A part of me hoped it would make them apologize and kick her to the curb, but it didn't. So I made the choice to disown my family and I blocked them on social media and my phone. Before I took that step, I went and got some stuff that I had at my parents' house. I told them and two of my siblings what was going to happen, and they accused me of overreacting and throwing a toddler's tantrum. Then they said that I was worse than a toddler because I wanted to hurt them. I told them it wasn't about hurting them, but about their

lack of consideration for me as their brother and son. I followed up by congratulating them on losing me and keeping Hannah. And I threw in a comment about how they cared more about her than me. They kept saying I was unfair and I was behaving like a little boy instead of a grown man. And I should be able to use conflict resolution instead of petulant behavior. I ignored it all and blocked them like I said above. But there were more messages from them in between where they made it very clear that they were unhappy and felt that I was being a brat. I don't know of my congratulating them and the comment about them caring more about Hannah than me was super childish or petulant or whether I'm justified saying it. I want to believe I'm not the butthole, but maybe I am. Maybe I'm acting

immaturely in reaction to them keeping Hannah in the family. Am I the butthole? O.P., just remember that actions speak louder than what? words, if they say they love you, but they continuously choose your ex over you, then that does actually mean they love Hannah more than you, which stings, I know that's not what you want to hear, but sometimes people just suck, you know? O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your traitorous family and the cheater, three out of five buttholes. Also, how can they say that Hannah is alone? She's got three men in the wings. Am I the butthole for not moving back in with my dad just because he got divorced? I'm a 16-year-old guy,

and my mom died when I was a baby. My aunt, my mom sister, stepped in and became like a second mom to me. When I was eight, she moved for work, so I went from seeing her every day to her flying me out one to two times a month, plus one week of winter break, spring break, and 50-50 over the summer. When I was 12, my dad married Judy, and they kept saying that she was my new mom, and I don't need to keep visiting my aunt because I have Judy. My dad also gave my room to Judy's kids since it was bigger, and I refused to share. And they told my aunt that they decided I couldn't fly alone, so she had to either fly out to get me or drive all day there and back. I decided to stay with my aunt a few months after my dad married Judy, because it was pretty obvious that he cared about his new family more than me.

My dad and Judy are getting divorced now because Judy cheated on him, and he found out that their new kids weren't his. He called me and asked me to move back home because he misses me, and he doesn't have any family left. I said no, because I like it here. My aunt is a way better parent than my dad was, and she's been dating this guy that comes over on weekends and makes us the best burgers and steaks. and he fixes cars up as his hobby slash side job, so he's working on one for me. I also really like my school, and I have friends here, and I'm really close to a lot of good colleges, so I probably won't even have to move out for college. My dad and his side of my family are upset that I won't move back,

because he's my dad and he needs me. But he's the one who chose his new family over me, and them getting divorced isn't my problem to solve. I don't really plan to change my mind, but I don't really plan to change my mind, but I want to know of me refusing to move back makes me a butthole. Here's the part that stings for me is that he didn't want you to move back when he was still married to her. When he had his new family to play with, he was completely happy that some other person was taking care of his kid for him and just taking that off of his plate.

But now he wants someone to comfort him, so now he wants O.P. to come back. Give me a break. She's your daughter, not your therapist. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving O.P.'s dad, 3.5 out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for leaving because my sister-in-law hid my shoes to keep me from taking walks? My sister-in-law has three little ones, and her husband, my stepbrother, had to leave the country for work for a few months. I offered to stay so I could help her out when needed, and she happily accepted. I live across town, so not that far away. I was there for three days when my

sister-in-law commented on me going on daily walks. I've taken a daily walk of at least a mile since October 2018. Yes, even with a cold. Yes, even in cold weather. Yes to all of it. On nice days, the walk is usually four miles. At my sister-in-laws, I started taking a path that was about two miles. I asked if she wanted me to watch the kids while she got some exercise, and she scoffed and said she was too busy, but it must be nice. I was a little puzzled since I was offering to help. but the comments kept coming. She kept trying to poke holes. But it's not really a mile every day, right?

And what do you do if you broke your foot? Would you get anxious if you couldn't take a walk? Then one morning I couldn't find my shoes. My sister-in-law woke up an hour later. I was eating breakfast with the kids and I asked her about the shoes. She told me to go check the back door. And when I'd gotten back, she pointed at them by the door and said that I must have missed them. I took my walk after telling her that her joke wasn't funny.

She was annoyed when I got back and told me that she thinks I need to see a therapist over my anxiety slash obsession. I told her that I do have a therapist and she said I clearly need a new one because this one isn't helping. I asked her point blank, why does it bother her so much if I want to take a walk? She said I was supposed to be there to help her with the kids and I'm disappearing for hours at a time. I told her that my walks take about 30 minutes, and I'm doing it while they have downtime. I put my shoes in the guest room with the rest of my things, and they were gone the next morning. I just said, eff it, packed my things, and left. My sister-in-law called me when I was on my way home and said that I was overreacting and being childish,

and this is why I'm single and alone. I told her that I don't play these stupid games, and that I would still pick up the girls and stay until she got home from work, but that she's on her own for everything else. Am I the butthole? Yo, if anyone needs a therapist, it's the sister-in-law. What a weird, passive-aggressive way to try to control people. She can't just say, hey, I'm really swamped. Can you please skip your walks for this one week?

Because, you know, I'm like drowning in child care over here. Even then, I don't know if I buy that. I've got a kid. It is a lot of work, but 30 minutes, this woman absolutely needs O.P.'s help For every second of the day, including those 30 minutes, I don't buy it. She's just lazy and controlling. Opie, I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. That was our slash am I the butthole.

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