rSlash - r/AITA My Girlfriend Set Me Up with a FAKE Therapist

Episode Date: October 12, 2024

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sports action ready for another season of gridiron glory. What are you waiting for? Get off the bench into the huddle and head for the end zone all season long. Visit bet MGM dot com for terms and conditions must be 19 years of age or older. Ontario only. Please Welcome to r slash am I the butthole where OP discovers that his girlfriend has trapped him in an elaborate lie. Am I the butthole for blowing up at my girlfriend after therapy backfired? I'm a 28 year old guy and my girlfriend Emma is 27.

We've been together for 6 years. For most of that time we've been happy, like really happy. The kind of relationship people say just works, you know? We were always on the same page, we rarely fought, and we genuinely enjoyed each other's company. But over the past year, things started to feel different. Small arguments here and there, more miscommunication, and just this weird sense that we weren't as in sync as we used to be. It wasn't anything major, just the usual wear and tear stuff, or so I thought.

Emma, however, seemed to be more concerned. She started pointing out issues that I wasn't even aware of, like how I supposedly wasn't listening enough or wasn't as emotionally available as I used to be. I admit that I've been busy with work, but I thought that we were doing okay. Still, I didn't want to dismiss her feelings. Then, about 6 months ago, she suggested that we go to couples therapy. Now, I've always been a bit skeptical about therapy unless things are really bad, but I agreed because I figured that it couldn't hurt. She said that she found a great therapist through a friend and we should

give it a try. I wasn't familiar with this therapist, Lily, but Emma was excited about it so we booked our first session. At first, the session seemed fine. Lily asked good questions, got us to open up, and gave us some tools to communicate better. I felt like I was doing my best to listen and improve, but something about it felt a little off. Every time we talked about any issue, it seemed like Lily was always subtly siding with Emma. If I mentioned being stressed from work, she would steer the conversation towards how I wasn't giving enough attention to Emma. If I brought up a disagreement, somehow it became about my communication issues.

After a few weeks, Emma started using phrases like, Lily thinks you should try this. Or Lily says you need to work on that. It felt like everything I did was being scrutinized and dissected by this woman that I barely knew. I didn't want to be paranoid, but it seemed like Lily was slowly convincing Emma that I was the problem in their relationship. And every time I tried to voice my own concerns, they were brushed aside. I tried to push through it, thinking maybe I was just being defensive, but it didn't

stop. Every session, the same dynamic. It was like Lily was planting seeds of doubt in Emma's head and Emma was running with them. I even started to wonder if maybe I was the problem. Was I actually this bad of a partner? Things reached a boiling point a couple of weeks ago. During a session, Lily started suggesting that maybe we should consider a break so I

could work on myself more. That felt like a slap in the face. I'd been trying so hard to be better and now she was suggesting that we split up. I looked at Emma waiting for her to disagree or defend me, but she just sat there quietly nodding along. After that session, I couldn't hold it in anymore. I blew up at Emma when we got home. I told her that I didn't trust Lily's judgment, that it felt like she was just feeding Emma reasons to blame me for everything wrong in their relationship. Emma got defensive, saying that I was overreacting, that Lily was just trying to help us work

through our issues. We didn't talk for a few days, and I started to feel guilty for snapping. Maybe I was wrong. Maybe therapy really was exposing some flaws that I needed to work on. But then something happened that blew everything wide open. Last week we went to a mutual friends party. While there I overheard Emma and her friend Sarah talking in the corner, giggling about something. I caught just a bit of their conversation. I can't believe you pulled it off for this long. Poor guy still thinks she's an actual therapist.

I immediately confronted them and that's when Emma's face turned pale. Sarah quickly tried to backtrack but the truth spilled out. Turns out Lily isn't a licensed therapist at all. She's one of Emma's close friends from college who thought that it would be fun to help Emma fix me by posing as a therapist. Emma had set this whole thing up because she thought that I wouldn't agree to therapy otherwise. They figured that with Lily playing the part, they could guide me into becoming a better boyfriend without me knowing. I felt completely betrayed. For months I'd been spilling my heart out to someone who wasn't even qualified to help.

And Emma had been in on it the whole time. All those sessions where I felt attacked and manipulated suddenly made sense because I was being manipulated. When I confronted Emma about how messed up this was, she broke down, saying that she never meant to hurt me and that she just wanted to help us grow as a couple. But honestly, I don't know how to move past this. I haven't been able to look at her the same since. Now, Emma and her friends are saying that I overreacted, that it was just a white lie meant to help our relationship. But I feel like I've been gaslit and lied to for months.

So am I the butthole for blowing up at my girlfriend when I found out that our therapist was a total fraud? Alright, we've actually hit insane levels of manipulation. This is like, you know, this is like criminal minds level manipulation. This is something you'd see out of a crime drama, a documentary level of manipulation. And they're saying it's just a white lie. Teehee, whoopsie, my bad. OP, not only should you immediately leave this relationship, because I don't know how on earth you could trust Emma after this, but on top of this, you should literally sue

them because this has to be a scam, right? Therapy is regulated. I mean, she can't lose her license because she doesn't have a license, but this is just straight up a scam. I think. Probably? Maybe? Is it illegal?

Alright, let me look in the comments. There's got to be a lawyer here probably. So OP, sue her, press charges, dump her, whatever. OP, I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving, gosh, what's a fair score here? I think I wanna say 4 out of 5 buttholes? I know that's high, but this is like, yo, this is crazy behavior. I have to assume OP said 6 months ago they went to therapy.

So going to therapy for 6 months, I think they probably fleeced, I mean, I'm just guessing here, probably like $5,000 out of OP. This is just, it's just wrong on top of wrong on top of wrong. Am I the butthole for suing my cousin for $6,000 to pay for my hearing aids after he threw me in the pool? My family is all on my cousin's side for this issue and I wanted some outside judgment. My cousin, a 25 year old guy, has always been the golden child of our generation. He's funny, good looking, and outgoing, not to mention a boy amongst girls.

He's always loved to mess around and play pranks. For the record, I really dislike this cousin. I think he's irresponsible, childish, and annoying. I've been having hearing problems for years. I recently got a $6,000 pair of hearing aids. Recently at my grandmother's birthday party, we were all eating and drinking on the back porch. My grandmother has a pool.

My cousin decided that he was going to throw me in the pool because it would be funny to ruin my hair that I had just got done that day. I repeatedly told him to stop and put me down in a very serious and not playful at all tone. He threw me in the pool and my hearing aids were ruined. Afterwards, when I told him what happened, he basically said, who Whoops, didn't know that you had hearing aids now. When I told him the cost of them and that he would have to replace them, he freaked out and said, no way. My family didn't want me to make him pay for them because I significantly out-earned him and also everyone else in the family.

He was in college at the time, barely making ends meet in a call center job. He and his girlfriend have a baby and they live alone in a one-bedroom apartment. He refused to pay, so I took him to court and I won. He refused to make payments afterwards, so I took him back to court and his wages are now being garnished for the maximum amount, which is 20% of his total wages. This pushed him over the edge of what he could afford, so he's had to work extra and drop out of college to be able to pay their rent. My family is absolutely fuming at me. I think he made one bad choice after the other, and he's never given a sincere apology during

this whole ordeal. Had he given me a real apology after the incident and asked if he could wait until he finished school to pay me back, I would have been fine with it. But this entitled little prick is digging his feet in at every move. Am I the butthole? The only reason I could see me maybe being the butthole is because it's affecting his child and his girlfriend. OP, this is super cut and dry. The fact that you had a judge come out on your side means clearly you're in the right here. And if your family is so worried about your cousin spending $6,000, then they can pay for it. What a bunch of pricks, man. OP, I'm giving you 0 out of

5 buttholes. I'm giving your cousin 2.5 out of 5 buttholes and the rest of your family 1.5 out of 5. Am I the butthole for laughing at my crying ex-husband and calling his suffering karma? My ex-husband divorced me 3 years ago. When we got married, we agreed that we weren't going to have kids. I never wanted them and he said that he didn't really want them. So yeah, 4 years into our marriage he changed his mind and he chose to divorce me because I wouldn't go back on our agreement and give him children. I'm not really a big believer in divorce. I was ready to be married for the rest of our lives.

We had a good marriage, but I guess he didn't love me that much if he picked kids that didn't even exist over me. Right after our divorce, he almost instantly remarried. He got his new wife pregnant right away and they now have two kids together. In the three years since, I've finished my higher education and have accepted a high paying job in healthcare. Life has actually been pretty good for me and I've gotten to the point where I think I'm ready to start looking to settle down. Yesterday morning, my ex showed up on my doorstep crying.

I figured something pretty awful must have happened, so I let him in and got him a drink. He started going on and crying about how awful his life is. He apparently hates his two kids. One of them is disabled and maybe autistic, and he has no money due to the kid being so expensive. His wife yells at him all the time. She got fat after having kids and doesn't want to lose the weight. She never puts out and he can never go anywhere anymore.

He said that he wants a divorce from his new wife and he regrets ever leaving me. He asked if I would take him back. He said that he learned his lesson. I couldn't help but laugh at him. It was so pitiful. His audacity also kind of astounded me. I told him that with two kids to support and his lack of loyalty, he is not a catch. And I definitely won't take him back. And maybe this was his karma

for divorcing me. He got pissed, called me a butthole, and said that he thought that I would be more supportive and would at least turn him down nicely. Am I the butthole? You know, the other bad thing about this guy's behavior is the way that he's talking about just getting a divorce and starting over seems to imply that he thinks that as soon as he leaves his current wife, he doesn't have to worry about his kids anymore. So you're right, OP. This guy is the opposite of a

catch. I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving him 3 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my wife that she's not worthy of what she's asking for for her push present? My wife and I have been together for 5 years. She's pregnant with our first child now. A few days ago, she sends me a TikTok video of a woman on one of those extremist podcasts talking about deserving some kind of push present. At first, I didn't even know what that meant. So I looked it up and it's basically a thank you gift to the woman who brought your child into the world. The concept is and still seems very strange to me. I understand seeking appreciation from your husband

for what women go through during pregnancy and childbirth, but it's the materialistic part that gives me the ick. The woman on the TikTok went on and on about how it's a body for a body, which meant that the man would have to get a permanent tattoo on his lower body, give her a house and a car as a gift exclusively to her. I felt those expectations are very entitled. honestly a little vindictive, envious and

very over the top for my taste. The decision to bring a child in the world is both partners decision. In our case, my wife isn't forced to be a mom or to be pregnant, she wants to be a parent too. I simply replied to the TikTok with laughing emojis and moved on, thinking it was the end of it, and probably thought that she meant to send the TikTok as satire. Like oh look how dumb this woman is thinking she deserves all that. She was in the other room when I reacted to the video, so she comes to me and tells me

that she doesn't expect a tattoo and a house exclusively for her, but she wants me to dip into my personal savings to get her a car exclusively for her. I looked at her almost shocked and began laughing. I thought my wife and I had similar views on how extremist people can be, but I was wrong. I thought she was joking and I pressed her if she was actually serious. She got very annoyed that I thought she was joking and I pressed her if she was actually serious. She got very annoyed that I thought she was joking and probably imitating the entitled woman on the reel.

And she flatly said that she expects a real push present. I said that her gift is the gift of parenthood and the realized outcome of a healthy baby. And materially speaking, I'll probably get her a Mother's Day card, a day out, or some jewelry she wants, totally under 700 bucks, but nothing more. I said if she really wants an extra car, it'll be our car, not just her car. She pressed me more and said that's not enough for what she's going to go through. She kept pushing and pushing and asked me if I think that she's not worthy enough. I told her she is worthy as my partner and the mother of my child, but she has to be

realistic and realize that none of us, individually speaking, is worth what she's asking for. That she has to manage her expectations because I don't see why she feels that she deserves that. It came out wrong and I didn't mean to dismiss her as a person. Now she isn't speaking to me and is crying arguing about it. I heard her criticizing me to her sister on the phone, but under no circumstances would I ever consider gifting her a car. I feel bad that she's hurting right now,

but I don't feel bad for giving her a reality check. OP, when your wife said that she was expecting a push present, I was thinking, you know, cake, flowers, a piece of jewelry, but a $20,000 car? Huh? OP, you gotta get your wife off a TikTok. Those extremist podcasts are breaking up relationships left and right. I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes. I'm giving your wife 2 out of 5 buttholes. That was r slash am I the butthole and if you like this content be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new reddit podcast episodes every single day.