rSlash - r/AITA My Greedy Kids Want All My Money

Episode Date: January 27, 2026

0:00 Intro 0:05 Stripper name 1:57 Birthday plans 5:44 Moms side 8:34 Step kids 12:10 Venue Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to R. slash am I the butthole where a newborn baby has a stripper name. Am I the butthole for changing my niece's stripper name when I got custody? I haven't even gotten to the body of this story and I'm already on O.P's side. I think it'll become obvious that my sister and I have taken very different paths in life. I love her very much, but she is not well. I've had custody of my niece since she was six months old. My sister is going to jail for at least the next seven years. She's ineligible for parole for that long, so that's a minimum.

My niece's name is the perfect example of my sister's thought process. Honest to God, she named her cinnamon, but it's not spelled like the spice. It's spelled S-Y-N-N at the beginning. I had my sister's parental rights severed. My parents and her fought me on it. Don't care. My parents have never contributed to her upbringing, but they have given lots of unwanted advice. I adopted my daughter and changed her name to Simone. My parents think I'm being cruel to my sister. What my sister thinks is not allowed here. So I feel completely justified in changing her name.

I do not think I'm wrong. I'm not looking for validation. I want to know if I'm missing something that my parents and sister can't communicate coherently. I'll tell you, as someone with an oddball name, Dabney, it does cause a certain amount of like regular grief and inconvenience. Now, cinnamon is 10 times worse than Dabney, don't get me wrong. But I'm saying if someone with my name is annoyed by the inconveniences, then someone with the name is cinnamon would have to be 10 times more annoyed with it. So I'm 100% on your side. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes.

The fact that you're even willing to raise your niece for your sister automatically makes you a great guy here. Am I the butthole if I cancel my husband's birthday plans and leave the house, which will leave my husband to host his family for my birthday? I only have four days to make a decision. I've been going back and forth, trying to decide if I should cancel my husband's birthday reservations that I made for him at this really cool indoor golf place, followed by reservations for dinner. He's always commented on wanting to try both, and I thought it would make a nice gift. His birthday is only a few days after mine. For Christmas, he legit took the time to buy and wrap me a box of diapers for our daughter in the next size up and presented it to me as my gift. I'm still angry

about that. And no, gag gifts for Christmas has never been a thing between us. Last year, he got me a spatula, and I thought this year he would do better after the falling out that we had over the spatula. O.P., you could have ended the story here, and you would have ended the story here, and you would have gotten zero out of five buttholes and your husband would get a butthole score, but the fact that it gets worse after this is kind of crazy. This past week, we've been clearing out of the bedroom so that I could paint the walls and he could update the flooring, and he brought up my birthday. He said, wow, all this work for your birthday gift.

I said, excuse me? What gift? He said, all the work of putting the flooring in our bedroom. But don't worry, I'll still do a dinner for you and we can invite your mom and my family. What do you want me to cook? I said, I would like to just have a quiet birthday dinner. You, me, and the kids at Longhorn Steakhouse. Then come home and watch a movie together. Also, the flooring is not my gift. This is something we've been planning now for a year. And with the house torn up, I don't want to host anyone in our home, especially after having hosted for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Besides, we don't have a place for people to sit. We have all the bedroom furniture and our clothing in the living room. I'm currently sleeping. on the mattress on the floor in here. Plus, I'm not a fan of your brother coming over so you two can sit and just drink beer all evening while I watch our and his kids. He said, no, I'm going to just cook at home. Just tell me what you want me to cook. I said, okay, I want steak, mashed potatoes, and green beans. But here's the problem. He can't make mashed potatoes to save his life,

and he only likes green beans if they're boiled. So if I went to cooked my way, I'll have to do it. He said, no, we're not doing steak. It'll cost too much if the family comes over. I'll just do chicken. I lost it. I said, again, for my birthday, I do not want people over. He kept arguing the issue when I said, fine, do what you want for my birthday. As a side note, last year he ordered traditional trestleche's cake, but he ordered it with peaches.

I hate peaches. He likes peaches. Plus, my name was spelled wrong on the birthday. cake. He thought it was hilarious. I am now seriously considering canceling his birthday golf outing and dinner reservations, leaving home if he invites his family for my birthday, buying him a box of diaper wipes, and presenting it with a card that says, Happy birthday, I painted the house for you. Would I be the butthole? Yeah, that does make you a butthole, but only as much of a butthole as it makes him. Because he's the jerk who's starting all this.

Now, to be clear, I'm just making a joke. I actually don't think O.P. is bad or wrong at all here. O.P.'s husband clearly doesn't respect her or doesn't think about her at all. Then O.P. posted an update where she explains that she did, indeed, decide to cancel the birthday gift outing for her husband and go for the wrapped diaper wipe gift idea. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for siding with my mom instead of my wife? My wife and I have a son who's about to turn five.

My parents, mostly my mom, have been providing us with free child care since he was a few months old. My mom follows all of our requests, no screens, no added sweeteners, and gives our son a level of care no amount of money could buy. And we couldn't afford even the inferior level anyway. Our son loves my parents and is always happy when I drop him off and when my wife picks him up. I have an older brother who has issues, and my parents have bailed him out several times in the past. A few years ago, he totaled the car that they bought him, and they said that they were done helping him. It turns out they've been paying his rent for the last two years. My wife made a comment about how the squeaky wheel gets the grease, and no one will ever

wonder who their favorite is. My mom was mad and said that she spends 40 hours a week on us, and she can do whatever she wants with her money, whether that be paying her son's rent, pissing on it, or setting it on fire. It was definitely an extreme response. My wife demanded an apology and said she didn't deserve to be spoken to like that. My mom apologized for being vulgar, but said the sentiment stands, and she wants my wife to be quiet about her financial decisions. They went back and forth until my dad made my mom go upstairs.

My wife seethed the whole way home. My wife wants to stop relying on my mom for child care. She said that her mom can do some babysitting, and we can find a daycare until school starts in the fall. She said she couldn't trust our son was someone emotionally volatile. I told my wife that she was the instigator and asked why she couldn't just ignore information

about my brother. I said our son loves his grandparents and yanking them away from him right before he transitions to kindergarten might traumatize him. I also reminded her that we can't afford daycare. My wife said that I'm unsupportive and siding with my family against her.

I'm not trying to be unsupportive, I'm just giving honest feedback. Should I have said that she was right, even though I don't think she is? O.P., your wife is just straight up wrong. She's a hypocrite to criticize the older brother getting support when she benefits from 40 hours of week of support. And she's completely out of line to tell your mom how she spends her money. Your mom is right.

It's her money. She could piss on it or set it on fire if she wants to. And then on top of all that, she's allowing her petty feelings to potentially, her own son, which is terrible mom behavior. So she's being a bad mom, a bad wife, and a bad daughter-in-law. And on top of that, just a run-of-the-mill bad person. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your wife two out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for not one in contact with my stepkids after their mom passed? Catherine was my best friend growing up. She was the first

person I told that I was gay. She hugged me and told me that I was still me. She was there through everything for the last 40 years. My HIV scare in college, her kids' births, my divorce, her divorce, and innumerable small and large life events. We got married to each other because we deeply love each other and because she needed health insurance. Her grown children, whom I've literally known from birth, did not approve. We tried talking to them, but they wouldn't listen. We eventually agreed that it would be best if I distant. myself from her kids. Catherine would travel to see them or arrange it so they could visit her while I took

vacations with friends. Catherine went through her savings in the last years of her life, and I supported her completely. I didn't once ask where the money I gave her went. I paid for her trips to see her kids because she needed that. I paid for gifts that she sent to her kids and grandkids. It's just money, and I have more than I'll spend in this lifetime. Catherine passed away in October. All she She left her children were sentimental items. Pictures, old souvenirs, that sort of thing. She had no money. Her kids were disappointed, but seemed to understand.

Then, just after Thanksgiving, her kids tried contacting me to ask how they were going to get their gifts. Last year, I rented a ski chalet in Montana for the family. I also paid for two days of cat skiing. What on earth is cat skiing? That can't possibly be putting a cat on ice skates or skis. It is a guided backcountry adventure where skiers ride in a specifically equipped snow cab, which is a large tracked vehicle.

Okay. I did not spend that holiday with them. But it was the last time that she saw all of her children and grandchildren together. I said that their mother hadn't left them anything for Christmas this year. They were upset because they thought they were getting another trip to memorialize her, I guess. I told them I was going away for the holidays by myself to spend time with my friends. friends, and that's what I did. We spent two weeks in Morocco, and I mourned my friend. I didn't look at my phone the entire time we were there. I still take pictures with my Nikon SLR, so I didn't even

use my phone for pictures. I finally turned on my phone on our way to the airport, and it was full of notifications and messages from her kids. Most, quite impolite. I messaged each kid, told them I didn't want to hear from them again, and I blocked them. It felt like, cutting off a limb. I love those kids, but they spent the last five years treating me like nothing, and now they want my money, I'm just done. Their father contacted me and said that I was being petty and vindictive. He said that the least I could do was give them whatever my wife left me. I laughed. If I didn't have a great career and excellent insurance, all she would have left me with was debt. So her kids are all young adults, some with children of their own. They've shown. They've

shown me that they do not want me in their lives. Am I wrong for agreeing and taking actions to make it so? This comment, Blondie says, they don't want a relationship with you, they only want your money. Good red-ins, you owe them nothing, and then PSS-B-S says, they want a relationship with OP's bank account. Yep, OP, you're in the clear. Zero out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for keeping my reception venue when I couldn't get a refund? My fiance cheated on me, and I, I found out about it six weeks ago. I called off our wedding. Sorry to be so matter of fact about it, but I'm still not okay. I managed to get partial refunds on almost everything. The photographer only kept $200 of our deposit. Our church doesn't charge members for using it for weddings,

but they also didn't allow alcohol in their reception hall, so we booked that separately. The venue had a strict policy of not giving back any money without three months notice. Since I only gave a month and a half noticed and I'd paid in full, I was getting nothing back. I was pissed. My brother actually came up with the plan. We held a party with the Mario Kart tournament. We had a huge screen and a projector. I knew I had a bunch of friends with the night free, so we did that instead. 20-year-old and 30-year-old idiots playing a children's game for bragging rights. We had a blast. I felt like I was in college again. I had sent my ex her part of every deposit, but obviously nothing for the venue. I haven't heard from her.

But the venue wanted me to release the date. I said I would if they would give me a refund. They refused, so I refused. Since we got catering separately, I didn't even need to tip the staff. Now I'm hearing that I screwed over the venue and staff by taking up room that they could have rented to a different event. Some people are saying that I kept someone from having a beautiful wedding there. I don't care.

I don't owe the venue an opportunity. to be paid twice. I honestly would have accepted if they had kept like 30% of the deposit. But they kept the whole thing. We didn't leave a mess, so they probably saved on janitorial services. Was I the butthole? Yo, O.P., you didn't prevent the venue from having another wedding there. They prevented you from having a wedding there.

They were the ones who insisted on upholding the contracts. You're just like, okay, well, I guess I'll uphold the contract. They could have let you out whenever they want it. Just cut you a check, refund the money, and you guys could have parted peacefully. And they could have made more money with tips with a different wedding. But they chose not to. So that's on them, not on you. O.P., your party sounds dope.

I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. The stupid venue effectively slipped on a banana peel in the middle of the road. That was our slash am I the butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.