rSlash - r/AITA My Husband Wants to Seduce My Daughter

Episode Date: February 19, 2025

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walk around all nude because it makes my daughter uncomfortable. So, Jesus, I have a 14 year old daughter and my husband has two sons who are 10. My daughter's dad passed away when she was 2 and my stepson's mom died when they were around 5. My husband was pretty used to walking around the house naked after showering since it was just boys around. But now there's me and my daughter who, again, is a teenager. My daughter leaves her door open because of something that happened when she was younger. We had to evacuate and her door got stuck, so she's a bit traumatized by it.

Also my husband has this habit of walking out of the bathroom naked after taking a shower, just strolling to the bedroom all chill while scrolling on his phone. My daughter came to me the other day complaining that she doesn't want to see him like that. I told my husband about it and he was like, okay, but then he got annoyed with my daughter for bringing it up instead of just letting it go. I explained that she thinks seeing her stepfather naked is really disrespectful to both of them and she values his privacy. He suggested she just start closing her door, even though he knows about her trauma, and then he said to get her into therapy.

She's already in therapy and is actually getting better at shutting the door when she changes. He got all mad saying I was choosing her over him. We'd been going back and forth for three days about the same thing, which is why I'm here. My daughter said that she could just handle it because she hates hearing us argue. Then, less than 24 hours later, OP posted an update. We were dating for four years before we got married. We'd been married for just two months. He talked about his habit before we got hitched and he told me he didn't do it anymore. When my daughter went to my parents place for summer break, I stayed with him and kept an eye on him. After he moved in, that's when I started noticing he was back to his old ways, just scrolling on his phone. I brought it up and said, if you don't want to wear clothes,

at least throw on a robe. And he agreed. This was just four days before my daughter got back. Honestly, I never really paid attention to him when he's in the shower, but a couple of days before my daughter came home, I was putting away her clothes when I saw him walk out of the shower totally bare. I told him he needed to cover up. I'm not the mean type, just trying to make things work. The next day, while my daughter was at a party, he took a shower and came out in a robe, which made me think that we were making progress. But on the day that my daughter came back, he asked her a question right after she arrived.

I was just dusting my desk when I caught her name and she came over to say that she didn't like seeing him like that. Wait, he was naked and went to ask her a question? Is that what happened? That's when I had a talk with him and everything from my post happened after that. I've always put my daughter before anyone except for God. So my husband took a shower this morning and before he got in, I told him to bring his robe with him. He did. Then I sent my daughters downstairs and waited in her room to see what he would do. He came out of the bathroom

and stood in front of her door just scrolling through his phone. When he walked into her room, when he walked into her room and saw me, I told him I was really upset that he was doing this habit on purpose. I even threatened to call the cops and told him he and his kids could pack up. He got angry and claimed that I wouldn't let him be himself. I said that he could be himself in his own space. I immediately knew what had to be done, whether it was nice or not. I asked him how long he's been doing this and what else he's done to her. I want to know why he feels so comfortable acting this way and why he won't just wear

a robe. This is just not normal He insisted he hasn't done anything to her and claimed she's just getting in the way of him loving me I could tell he was lying. I told him he can answer those questions when the cops ask him We're getting a divorce and honestly, I've decided not to get married again for my daughter's mental health I can't risk putting her through more trauma. I really love my daughter, but honestly, I don't think I deserve her. I should have seen it sooner, but I didn't. A lot of you were right. He was just a predator trying to get to my daughter through me.

Hey, let's normalize wearing clothes around 14-year-old girls, please, pretty please. I don't know what there is to say about this guy. Clearly, he's a predator who was pushing boundaries so that he could try something worse in the future. I'm giving that guy 5 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for not allowing my ex and former best friend to take MY kids out of state for a week to heal and recover after she was left unable to have kids? I have two children under 12 with my ex. We divorced five years ago after I found out that he and my former best friend were having an affair. They both tried to apologize and asked for it to not ruin everything, but their actions had already ruined everything. I hate the two of them. I no longer care about how they're doing, but for my

kids' sake I remain civil. I've never badmouthed but for my kids' sake, I remain civil. I've never bad-mouthed them to my kids. I've never told my kids what happened. I would never want my kids to be harmed by their father's actions more than they already were. And the divorce was tough for them, and they had a hard time coming to terms with the changes. They still need therapy for some adjustment issues that have remained. My former best friend hasn't helped it either

by trying to continue on as my best friend despite her actions. It also didn't help that the kids went from their parents living together to their dad living with their mom's former friend. But again, my primary focus has been my children. I love my kids more than I hate those two repulsive individuals.

I love my kids more than myself, which is why I worked so hard to be civil in front of my kids, because the last thing I wanted was to make nice with them. But my kids love their dad, and that's never changed. My ex and this woman are now married, and they've tried to have children together. In December, she had her 10th miscarriage and had to be rushed to the hospital and into surgery, which left her unable to get pregnant again. I got a call from my ex telling me all this and asking me to bring the children to the hospital to stay until she was ready to leave. It was my parenting time, so I told him I would not bring them to sit and wait.

He was very unsettled and told me to bring the kids by and he'd get them to ask me to let them stay. I told him that was not happening. He made no more contact after that and he didn't take the kids for his parenting time either to contact me about it. His mom reached out to me and she told me that he refused to leave the hospital. He didn't see his kids until his parenting time came around again and she was released. There was a new tension in the air at that point. He was furious with me for keeping the kids from sitting vigil in the hospital with him. Now we have another dilemma that's become an issue. My ex booked a healing getaway for them and they want the kids to go along. It happens during the week and it's a school week. He also wants to take his week as

normal before and after that. So he would have them for three consecutive weeks. From what he stated, he would potentially keep them out of school for that long so the kids can be there to help her recover and grieve knowing she has them. Was how he explained it to me. I said no and I explained that I was not letting him take them out of school for a week just for her. I told him the kids aren't their emotional support to get them through this and therapy is significantly better. I told him that I didn't approve of them missing extended school time.

And I wasn't giving up my week for it. He tried to state that the week he missed would be made up for, but our court-ordered parenting plan states that if a parent voluntarily doesn't take their week without an agreed-upon-makeup period, then the other doesn't need to give up a week in return. I pointed this out to him, and he asked me how I could be so by the book about this. He said human decency would state that I should be willing to put aside our differences at a time like this, and that school isn't more important than family. He asked me how I would feel if she ends her life because of this, and my refusal was part of the reason why.

I told him that I wouldn't feel anything. I told him they lost all their rights for me to feel something for them when they betrayed me and I wouldn't be manipulated into agreeing. He pushed very hard for this, trying to guilt me into agreeing. I know I might be overly harsh in my response to this, so I wanted to ask if people believe that I'm wrong or not. Kind of crazy I have to point this out, but children are not emotional support animals. Children are not therapists. They're children.

One thing that's not clear about this post is if the kids even knew that their stepmom was pregnant in the first place, or even if they understand what a miscarriage is, so they're supposed to just go grieve in the hospital for three weeks when they don't even understand what's going on? That's bizarre. OP, you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your ex two out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my ex-boyfriend's daughter it's not my problem? I'm a 38 year old woman and I dated John, who's 40, for about six months. We'd known each other for a year before

we started dating. We broke up three months ago. The reason for the breakup was because of his daughter, Tia, who's 16. From the very beginning, she was hostile towards me. Rude comments putting me and my cooking down, constantly referring to me as that B-word. She said that I was the reason her parents broke up, which is false. They broke up 10 years ago, 9 years before I even met John. I have a stepmom who went out of her way to try to push her way into my life. So I actively did everything I could to be the exact opposite. I tried talking to her, asking her what I could do to at least make things between us civil.

Her answer? You could voluntarily leave this world. John was no help. He threatened to ground her, take her things away, but they were just empty threats and Tia would continue her tirade against me. Her mother Chloe, who honestly is awesome, even tried to talk to her and figure out what her problem was. Tia couldn't come up with one reason why she didn't like me. She just didn't. It all came to a head one night while we were at my house. We had ordered food and I went to go pick it up. When I got back, I found John in my dining room sweeping up the remains of my grandmother's antique picture. My grandmother meant the world to me, so seeing the picture destroyed broke my heart. I demanded to know

what happened and Tia gave me a smirk and said, oops, it was an accident. I asked her how it was an accident and she just shrugged and said something like, I think I bumped the table and it just fell off. There's no way that could happen. My dining table is heavy. You would have to slam yourself into it to even shake that pitcher. I told them to leave and spent the rest of the night crying. The next day I called John and told him I couldn't do this anymore. He tried to talk me out of it,

but my mind was made up. Fast forward to two days ago. I leave work and there's Tia. She started going on about John's new girlfriend, Jane. How Jane is a monster. Evidently, Tia tried her old tricks on Jane, but Jane gives it right back to her. Tia calls her names, Jane calls her names back. Tia insults Jane, Jane insults her back. The worst was that Tia accidentally broke something of Jane's and in retaliation, Jane took Tia's phone and smashed it. I asked her if she had told her mom. She had

and her mom decided that Tia wasn't to go over to John's anymore. I told Tia something like, it sounds like everything's settled then. Tia started crying, asking if that was it. I just looked at her and said, yep, your mom handled it. It's not my problem. And I left. I was talking to my sister about this last night and she called me a butthole. She said that obviously Tia is hurting and needed me. She came to me for a reason and the least I could have done was be a shoulder for her to cry on. I just don't feel anything. I think I'm just numb to Tia now. So am I the butthole? There's an interesting take from Expert Chart down in the comments who says, I actually don't think Tia wants you back in her dad's life. She's still just trying to

create drama. Once she's rid of the new girlfriend, she'll go back to her old tricks with you. And then, Maybe Sherry says, 100% this. I reread the post to see if I missed the part where Tia apologized to OP for breaking the picture and acting like a spoiled brat, but it wasn't there. Tia's just playing more games. She got to the point in her story where Tia F'd around and found out. Yeah, that does track. I think if she were truly remorseful then she would at least open with an apology, but she seems like a pretty spoiled and titled brat.

So, OP, I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes, I'm giving Tia 3 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole when my wife got me the gift that I said I didn't want? So, I had a birthday two months ago. My wife asked for ideas for presents, so I gave her several. Later on, she asked if I would like a coffee maker, and I said, No, I drink instant coffee. I told her I had a coffee maker in the past, Keurig, that routinely broke down, and I constantly had to fix it. It became a chore. Also, my mother-in-law has given me a Yeti for Christmas for the past five years. I never use them. I even asked my wife to explain to my mother-in-law so my collection would end. Then comes my birthday. I open two gifts. It's a curried coffee maker

and a Yeti. Both gifts from my wife. I told her to give me the receipt so I could return them. Am I the butthole? OP, does your wife like you? I have to hope that this wasn't malice. It was just she asked the question and then immediately tuned out and while she was tuning out she heard the nouns curig and yeti and then walked away thinking oh he wants a curig and a yeti because otherwise this has to be some kind of power play right? Please don't get me a Keurig. Heheheh, monkey's paw curls one finger. You get a Keurig.

OP, you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your wife one out of five buttholes. That was r slash am I the butthole, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.