rSlash - r/AITA My Step-Siblings Want My House!

Episode Date: July 13, 2025

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my half-siblings even though it means they might lose their home? I'm a 24-year-old woman and I recently inherited a house from my late grandmother. It was fully paid off, and she left it to me in her will. Specifically to me, not to be shared. My dad had two families, mine with my mom, and another with his second wife and their two kids. My mom and I were always treated like the side family. He'd visit sometimes, but he built a life with his second wife. They lived in my grandmother's house rent-free for years while she stayed in a small care facility. She was sweet to everyone, but made it clear that she only truly trusted me. She passed away

in January. The will was read, and the house is legally mine. Now, here's where things get messy. My dad and his second family thought that they'd automatically get the house. When they found out that it was left entirely to me, they freaked. My half-siblings, ages 16 and 18, begged me to let them stay. My dad called me selfish and cold-hearted, saying that I'm punishing children for adult decisions. But here's the thing. I'm drowning in student loans.

I'm working two jobs just to survive. This house is the only shot that I have at stability. I gave them three months to sort things out. They've used two and haven't done anything except guilt trip me. No job searching. What? They don't have jobs? No apartment hunting? Just vibes and manipulation. Now my aunts and uncles are pressuring me to do the right thing and share the house or at least let them stay until the youngest finishes school. I said no. Now they're saying I'm heartless and turning my back on my family. But when I needed

help, no one came. So am I the butthole? OP, it's not your fault that your dad and his wife aren't responsible parents. They can get a job and find an apartment just like everyone else Opie was kind of vague when she said there was no job searching I don't know if she means the wife or like one of the partners or maybe the teenagers But if all four of those people in that household are unemployed then I have zero sympathy for them I mean, even if they were employed, I wouldn't really have any sympathy either. It's not there, it's not your house, man! Get out, it's not your house! OP, get a lawyer, a victim. You get 0 out of 5 buttholes, I'm giving those manipulating mooches 2.5 out of 5 buttholes.

Am I the butthole for telling my brother-in-law that he needs to book a hotel when he and my sister were staying at my house? My sister and her husband lives across the country and decided they wanted to come visit. I live in a two bedroom, one bathroom, and I set up a bed in my home office because they wanted to stay at my house. They've been here for four days. The bathroom has been a big problem. Her husband spends hours in there.

After the first day, I talked to my sister about it. She says he has a condition where he needs to use the bathroom a lot, so I let it rest. On day three, it was even worse. There was a time where I had to excuse myself to go to the store so I could use the bathroom twice because he wouldn't leave. The last day, I woke up at 4am and had to use the bathroom very badly. I knocked on the door and he said he'd be out in a minute. I told him I really had to go.

It took him an hour to get out. The nearby store wasn't open at that time and I had to do something I'm not happy I had to do because I couldn't wait. I know exactly what he did. He peed in the sink. Every guy's been there. The next morning, I told him he needs to get a hotel.

I can't be blocked from using the bathroom in my own home because he takes it hostage. I get that he has a condition, but so do I. And I make sure I have my own bathroom when I travel so I don't get in the way of other people needing the bathroom. My sister and her brother-in-law were very upset and called me ableist. I told them what I had to do last night because he was in the bathroom for My sister and her brother-in-law were very upset and called me ableist. I told them what I had to do last night because he was in the bathroom for so long, and they said I could have held it. I told them they need to leave and find a hotel or stay with other family. He just can't stay here anymore. Am I the butthole for telling my sister and

brother-in-law they need to get a hotel when the plan was for them to stay with me for the week? Haha, the top comment from Skusty Rupper. Shut off the wifi every time he heads to the loo. Not the butthole. I think you're justified, OP. I'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes. A man shouldn't have to pee in his own sink unless he wants to. Am I the butthole for refusing to keep paying black tax even though my family is struggling?

I'm a 28-year-old African woman working in a decent job as a teacher. I'm not rich, but I'm doing okay. Ever since I started working, I've been expected to help out my extended family, paying for groceries, covering school fees for cousins, sending money to my mom monthly, etc. In our culture, it's seen as a duty, what people call black tax. I understood this growing up. I've helped where I could, but lately it's become too much. My siblings now expect me to cover everything, and my mom doesn't say no to them. I'm expected to help with bills, car repairs, and now even a wedding contribution for my younger cousin's wedding. I finally said no more.

I started saving for my own life, therapy, travel, and a deposit for my own apartment. I told my family that I'm not a bank, and they need to start standing on their own feet. I told my mom that I'll only help when she really needs it, and she cried. My aunt called me whitewashed. My brother said that I've become selfish

and forgotten where I came from. But I've spent years putting their needs first. I've missed opportunities, drained my savings, and lived paycheck to paycheck while they bought new phones and clothes. I still love them, but I'm tired of carrying everyone. Am I the butthole for choosing myself? The top comment is getting a lot of traction. Givers must set boundaries because takers never do.

Words of wisdom from crown conflict. So I'm personally not part of this culture so I can only speak on it as an outsider. To me this kind of just smacks of entitlement, right? I want you to give me money but I'm not going to give you any support in return. I wish OP had clarified if she's ever benefited from other people paying the black tax. Because if not, then yeah, this sucks. This blows. This is just entitlement.

So just taking this post at face value, I'm giving OP 0 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for financially screwing over my sister after finding out that she's close with my ex and his wife? Me and my ex-husband are 43 and we were college sweethearts. For me, life felt perfect. I trusted him completely. That's why it was so shocking when I found out that he was in love with his much younger colleague. She was around 24 at the time. I won't get into the details of how I found out, but the affair was well known at his workplace. When I confronted him, all he said was, I'm sorry, I tried

really hard not to fall for her. He didn't seem sorry at all. It felt like he wanted me to leave him. So I did. That was six years ago. Our son was four then, and it was the worst time of my life. I honestly don't know how I got through it. And because I was desperate, I wanted him to fight for me, to fight for our family. But he didn't. He was quick to sign the divorce papers and didn't even fight for custody. It was as if he started a new life and completely erased the old one. It took years of therapy to feel normal again, To stop checking that woman's social media and comparing myself to her. The fact that she's very pretty and

charming didn't help. His family loved her. And as disgusting as it sounds, one of our common friends even said it out loud, I don't support cheating, but I mean, look at her when I told her about the cheating. I guess that's what everyone was thinking. This friend was just stupid enough to voice it out. So I had to cut off that group of friends too. They got married three years ago and now have a daughter. A picture perfect little family. The current arrangement is that our son stays with my ex on weekends and holidays, which

works fine for the most part. Last week, I found out that my sister, who's 28, has been in touch with my ex all these years. That would have been forgivable since they were close when we were married and she saw him as a brother. But she's actually best friends with his new wife, and she kept that from me for 6 years. I only found out because she left her phone at my house and I saw several texts from the wife. When I asked her about it, she just brushed it off and said that it wasn't a big deal. I told her she can do what she wants, but I'll be cutting her off completely. I was helping her pay her college loans, lol. And I'm going no contact. She called

me unreasonable and said that I'm being petty and unable to move on from something that happened a long time ago. She also said the wife is a lovely person and a good friend. She said that she'll be screwed financially speaking. I told her to go screw herself. Somehow my parents agree with her. So am I the butthole? Well, if the parents agree with her, then why don't THEY pay her loans? If the cheating affair partner mistress is such a lovely person, why doesn't SHE pay the loans? Why does OP have to pay the loans?

It doesn't make any sense! OP, zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving everyone else, it's kind of like a varying degree of anywhere between two to three point five out of five buttholes. Everyone keeps saying this woman is so lovely, how lovely can she be if she destroyed a family with a four-year-old? She's literally a homewrecker. Am I the butthole for telling my ex and his wife that she was the one who was nobody special

or important after all? My ex and I broke up 20 years ago when our kids were 3 and 1. Our reason was that he made a financially reckless decision, buying a very fancy car that he could not afford, that he took out debt to buy, which put our financial security for our family at risk, without telling me. And then he blew up at me for not supporting his decision and wanting him to sell it off and pay off the money he borrowed to get it. He told me a real wife would have supported him and F me for wanting to take away something

so special. I would bet you guys $50,000 that OP is talking about a very large truck. After our divorce, he had to sell the car anyway and he blamed me for it. He was nasty to me in every conversation after that, as long as our kids weren't present. He remarried about two years after our divorce. He and his wife told me that she was the kid's new mom and she would be just as important, if not more so than me. More than once, they told me that I was nobody special or important, and the kids would have a much better relationship with a new

wife. I had to bite my tongue around the kids whenever my ex's wife would be all over them. I hated the two of them. This stuff was never said or done in front of our kids. I would walk away, but they carried on speaking and they would approach me anywhere at any time as long as the kids weren't there to try to claim that I was going to lose my kid to them. The kids ended up hating her and their dad after a while though, and I was never very sad about that. I think it was probably always going to be the case that the kids were going to prefer

me or my ex-husband. Because my ex and his wife would have never accepted the kids equally loving all of us. My ex's wife always believed that she would come out on top over me and would be the favorite mom and that I would be called my kids' birth mother. When the kids were in their mid-teens, they asked a judge to let them live with me full-time, and that was granted. They had some phone calls and some non-overnight visitation with their dad, which they hated. And now, both of them are in college and in their twenties, and they've been no contact with both of them for a couple of years now.

I was recently at the opening of a new restaurant in town, when my ex and his wife confronted me over the state of their relationship with the kids. Before they could get too nasty to me again, I smiled and told them that it wasn't my fault they destroyed their relationship with the kids, and they were wrong about the outcome. Then I decided to be a little petty, and I gloated that I guess SHE was the one who was nobody special or important after all, because the kids certainly never called her their mom. I know that what I said was petty and that I was rubbing it in. Maybe it makes me as bad as them, or maybe not. But it felt good after years of putting up with so much from them. Does that make me the butthole? Kids don't just accidentally hate their

parents out of nowhere. There's always a reason for it. So if the kids begged a judge to stay with OP instead of the others, then it's very clear that it's because the other two were terrible parents. So whatever, screw them. OP, all you were doing was giving them a dose of their own medicine. I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving them two out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for not telling my friend that she was getting fired and that I saved her job, which led to her getting super fired? I work with my best friend's girlfriend. Her and I are friendly, but not really friends. If it weren't for her relationship with my friend

Jeremy, I would not be friends with her. I told her about the job in question and even put in a good word for her. She was not working out. She tried her best, but she had a personality clash with her supervisor. She was still in the 90-day probationary period, so she was going to be terminated with no notice. That's life, really. We regularly hire a bunch of people and keep the good ones and dismiss the ones that can't cut it or aren't a good fit. We regularly hire a bunch of people and keep the good ones and dismiss the ones that can't cut it or aren't a good fit. We actually were getting rid of over a dozen people that day. I know that her and Jeremy aren't doing well financially, so I stepped in and volunteered to take her on my team. It was a lateral move for her. I didn't really need her on my team,

but my boss gives me a lot of freedom in my department. I didn't want to freak her out so I never told her that she wasn't working out well on her other team. To say the least, I can understand why she didn't work out. She's great at her job and a hard worker but GOD ALMIGHTY SHE HAS A TERRIBLE JOBSITE PERSONALITY. She rubs everyone the wrong way, including my supervisor. He actually questioned my decision to transfer her to my team. I couldn't protect her from herself. Originally, she was just being terminated and that was it. She would have been free to reapply to

the company. Now, she's on the nerf list, not eligible for rehire. She really thought the reason I got her on my team was because we needed her help. She alienated everyone. Again, she's good at the job and incredibly dedicated. She's just a terrible person to work with and she brings down morale. I told Jeremy what happened and he said he understood. But she is pissed. She said that if I told her that she was on the chopping block she would have behaved differently. She said it if I told her that she was on the chopping block, she would have behaved differently. She said it's kind of my fault for not warning her.

I don't know, I feel bad for her, but she kind of dug her own grave. OP, everyone on the first team that she was on thinks that she's a butthole. Everyone on the second team that she was on thinks she's a butthole. So I think it's safe to conclude that she's just a butthole and you don't really have to worry about her opinion. You get 0 out of 5 buttholes OP. That was r slash am I the butthole and if you like this content be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new reddit podcast episodes every single day.