rSlash - r/AITA My Wife Secretly Hates Our Son

Episode Date: May 27, 2023

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These side marios all you can eat is all you can munch a soup salad and garlic home Welcome to our slash am I the bad guy where reddit causes a divorce just a quick disclaimer I have a bit of a cold this week, so I'm sorry if I sound congested Will I be the bad guy if I took my son and his friends out for his birthday instead of my wife and step-doters? I'm a 42 year old man and I have three kids. My son Isaac is 12 almost 13 and I hadn't with my ex who's no longer in the picture. Then I also have my twin step-doters for my wife's previous relationship, Emma and Eva

who are 7. Isaac's 13th birthday is coming up next week and he said that he wants to go to the movies and ask if he could bring two friends along. I agreed and we planned a day of fun, arcade, pizza, and a movie. These were all activities that I know my son and his friends who are all nerdy middle school boys would enjoy. When I told my wife about our plans, she suggested that we should have a family outing instead, and proposed a local kitty play place that my step-daughter's apparently loved.

I said that Isaac and his friends would be very disappointed, and that he wouldn't have fun at a kitty play place. She tried to convince me that Isaac could still have fun there because there was an arcade, which really is just two claw machines, a pinball table, and a small dance dance revolution machine. She also said that since Isaac sees his friends at school every day, family time should be prioritized over friends. I told her that it was unfair to force Isaac to spend his birthday at a kitty play place instead of with his friends. She accused me of favoritism and of not loving my step-dotters as much as Isaac. This hit me pretty hard because I grew up with a stepfather who neglected me in favor of his own kids. And I've been trying my hardest to be the father figure

I never had. I've been spiraling down a rabbit hole of doubt about my own choices. So, for the sake of my own sanity, will I be the bad guy? Then later that same day, OPPO said an update. First of all, I just want to thank everyone who commented on my last post for opening my eyes. People said that there was more to my wife, Erica than I knew. Y'all said that I should talk to my son about what went on behind my back, and I did. I regret not doing so earlier. Yesterday, my son had the day off school, and I took the day off work. After Erica left to go to her job and drive the girls to school, I sat my son down, and starting gently, I asked him

about what Erica was like when I wasn't around. I worked pretty late, so this happens fairly often. At first, he was vague, and he hesitated to say anything bad about Erica. This set me on high alert, as it reminded me vividly of a similar conversation from my own childhood, and I assured him that he could be truthful with me. After some reassurance, he finally started talking about what she was really like. Here's a list of just a few of the things he told me about Erica. He wasn't allowed to go to his friends house down the street, which I normally allow because we've known this family for years.

He was berated and yelled at for spending time alone in his room. He was berated and yelled at for not playing with the twins. He was forced to watch the twins while Erica ran errands and she was apparently gone for hours. He was told that I would be angry with him if he didn't obey her or spoke badly of her to me. I again reassured him that I was not angry or upset with him. Needless to say, it was an emotional conversation. I'm feeling very guilty that this all happened under my nose. I'm blown away that the woman I thought was the love of my life could do that to my son. I married a woman who was just like my stepfather, and I don't know how to come to terms with this.

We went out to lunch to wind down and spend some more quality time together. When we got back, I had to unpack a suitcase in case we had to leave. I also packed a suitcase. I was so furious with Erica. I never wanted to see her again. More importantly, I never wanted her in the same house as my son. Erica arrived home with the twins, and was shocked to see me waiting for her at the table. I sent the twins to their room.

My son was already standing by in his own room, and I gestured for her at the table. I sent the twins to their room. My son was already standing by in his own room, and I gestured for her to sit down. I confronted her about her treatment of my son. At first, she tried to say that he was making things up for attention, that he was jealous of the twins for getting some of my love. I shut her down. She then pivoted to the, he's older, so he needs a sacrifice for his younger sister's angle, which I also shut down. As a last-ditch effort, she again accused me of not loving the twins. I then got really angry at her because as all of you pointed out, she was using my childhood

trauma to manipulate me. In the end, she admitted to favoring her daughters, but said that it wasn't wrong because every mother has their own kid's best interest at heart. And why would I care about a kid who isn't mine? My blood ran ice cold. I texted my son to get his suitcase and go to the car, and I calmly told my wife that she could expect to be contacted by a divorce lawyer soon.

I'm staying with my son in a hotel right now, looking at apartments, divorce lawyers, and child therapists in our area. I'm angry, I'm sad, but mostly I'm disappointed in myself for letting it go on for so long. I hope my son can forgive me one day, even though I'm sure I don't deserve it. I wish the best for your daughters. But screw you, Erica! Oh man! Reddit calls a divorce? Well, not calls a divorce, helped OP realize that he should have gotten divorced. And I agree wholeheartedly, OP. You're better off without her. I'm giving you and your son zero out of 5 bad guys.

I'm giving Erica a 3.5 out of 5 bad guys. Am I the bad guy for being embarrassed of my girlfriend's cosplay? I'm a 25 year old man, and my girlfriend, who's 24, had a double mastectomy 5 years ago. She had breast cancer, and thankfully made a full recovery. Unlike a lot of women, she didn't have any reconstructive surgery. This was before I met her. I'm a big anime nerd, and last weekend, I invited her to a small anime con with me. She's seen a few episodes of my favorite shows, but she's not into anime. She does like cosplay though, and she works seasonally as a special effects artist at a haunted house near us. So when I asked her to go to the con with me, she asked if she could cosplay and I said sure.

She got very excited and said that I was going to love her costume. So I'll admit, I thought that she was going to do something sexy for me. Well not exactly. The day of the convention comes and she showed up at my house cosplaying Dobby from my hero Academia, specifically a look that he has later in the manga. It's a long white coat over white pants with no shirt. Her entire chest was exposed and she'd obviously spent hours applying burn makeup. She has short hair that she dies constantly. This time she bleached it white and died a few red streaks. I wasn't expecting her to show

up without a shirt. Her burn scar makeup only covered half her chest so you could clearly see her mastectomy scar. It wasn't a very attractive costume, especially since she'd gone all out with the scars and made them look raised and kind of realistic. We went to the convention, and while a lot of people came up to take photos with her, I noticed several others looking at her chest. That evening, she said that I'd been quiet all day, and I honestly told her that I was a little embarrassed that she was flaunting her masectomy scar like that. She got mad at me and said that she was making the best of her situation and said that I was being insensitive, and she's been distant ever since. I'm starting to feel guilty. Am I the bad guy? Oh man, the top comment from Youth in Asia says this better than I could. Oh, how dare your girlfriend not

have a pretty little cosplay outfit. Obviously, she hasn't gotten the message that her only worth is if she caters to your male gaze. And sarcasm. Yeah, you're the bad guy. Yeah, Opie, this is pretty disgusting, to be honest. Instead of feeling ashamed by her mesectomy scars, she's like celebrating her body and who she is, and she chose a cosplay outfit that wasn't designed to be sexy to you, but she wants to do it because she wants to do it.

And your response is to trash on her and make her feel ashamed of her scars. She's a cancer survivor and lost both her breasts and your response is, you know, but I'm embarrassed by the way you look sweetie so shouldn't you cover up? This is, in my opinion, a super clear deal breaker. Opie, I'm giving you, ugh, I think four out of five bad guys to be honest. That might be too harsh. I don't know, that's kind of where my heart's telling me right now. I'm giving her zero out of five bad guys.

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rides his bike or walks all over the lawn with his cleats on his way home. It started out as me giving him stern looks whenever I saw him. Then it slowly progressed to me asking him to just go around my property. The last time I asked him to stop, he made a point to stop extra hard and twist his feet into the grass to piss me off. Since then, I've just been hosing him. The first time I sprayed him with the hose he ran off. But then, for some reason, he just started standing there while I hose him like he enjoys it. It's now progressed to me sitting on my lawn chair, pointing my hose at him, and him just staring at me while he does so.

Sometimes, we even make small talk. I'm not gonna lie, it started off as a really bitter relationship, but I've actually gotten to know the kid quite well. We talk for maybe like 15 to 20 minutes every day. And he doesn't seem to mind being hosed down after sweating hard, playing soccer. He, he, he, he comes by daily and we just shoot the shit while I hose him and he stands there for a bit.

My wife told me that I need to stop and even after I explained it to her, she said that I'm making us look like childish idiots. I guess I could stop, but honestly, it's really funny waiting for him to come by, and I see no harm in this. Will I be the bad guy? Well, your wife's right that it does make you all look like childish idiots. However, I'm on your side, OP.

This is just a harmless childish idiocy. This feels like, this feels like the start of a movie somehow. Kind of getting West Anderson vibes maybe. Anyways OP, I'm giving everyone involved to your zero out of five bad guys. I guess I could give the kid like one out of five bad guys for his initial trashing of your lawn, but now it seems like you guys are in some kind of completely equal Mexican standoff involving a water hose. So I guess all's well that ends well. Am I the bad guy for embarrassing my cousin and getting us kicked out of a restaurant? I'm a 25 year old woman and I don't have kids yet.

I never really wanted kids growing up, but I figure I'll eventually have kids in the future once I get my life together. My cousin Sarah, who's 29, has two badly behaved kids from a previous relationship and a newborn baby with her boyfriend, MJ, who's 29, has two badly behaved kids from a previous relationship and a newborn baby with her boyfriend MJ who's 40. Last night, my mother, sister, Sarah and I went to a sushi restaurant, and this was my first time having sushi.

As we ordered, I had a hard time using the chopsticks. My cousin started obnoxiously laughing. The waiter came over and asked me if I wanted training wheels, which is a little plastic item that attaches to the chopsticks and helps you hold them in place. My cousin laughed and said, sorry about her, she comfortably embarrasses herself and us. I just gave her the side eye and put the training wheels on. When it was time to order desserts, her boyfriend MJ finally joined us, claiming that he had been busy. My cousin went on to tell her boyfriend how

stupid and slow I was for not knowing how to use chopsticks, and how the waiters and everyone around now know that I'm an embarrassment. My mom asked her what her problem was, and she goes on this rant about how I'm so embarrassing and that it's no wonder that I'm jealous of me being a mother and No one wants to have kids with you. I finally had enough and said I don't have kids because I don't want them to come out like your rude pieces of garbage and you're calling me an embarrassment didn't MJ just have a baby with his ex-wife? Your baby literally has a sibling that's one week apart from her. You oh my god. Okay, you probably learned how to use chopsticks by eating his wife's leftovers.

Oh, Ouch! Oh, bird! Oh, that's Stings! I guess when she was attacking me, it was fine because everyone turned on me. It got so loud that management had to get involved. Sarah was screaming and crying. MJ was yelling at me and my mom and sister were berating me for being mean. Management brought the bill out and told us to please pay it and leave. My mom paid

the entire bill, but my sister said that I'm the butthole for embarrassing Sarah and getting us kicked out, and how she's probably been going through postpartum depression. Now, I don't know if I went too far seeing if she's probably going through some postbaby stress. Am I the bad guy? Okay. OP, this is a great story. Thank you for sharing, but you forgot the most important detail. How was the sushi? You said it was your first time. Did you like the sushi?

Was it good? OP, you're just gonna leave us hanging? Anyways, OP, that burn was amazing. That was incredibly funny. And while I am mostly on your side, because I don't know why your sister was being up your butt about chopsticks like who cares about chopsticks. She was being so mean for no reason. Now that being said, I think you did escalate this point to like an unreasonable

level. Well, did you? She started with the chopsticks, but then she said that no one wants to have a baby with you and that you're jealous. Okay, yeah, I take it back. You did not escalate. She escalated to this level on her own and you just returned the same energy. So, I'm on your side OP. I'm giving you zero out of five bad guys. I'm giving your sister two out of five bad guys. Am I the bad guy for yelling at a kid for crawling under my table at a restaurant? My friend Jack and I, after a long stressful week, like to go to the local pizza place. It's not fine dining by any stretch of the imagination, but there are booths and tables of people sitting down.

I see a large table near us of like 10 people, a few couples and a bunch of small kids between like 4 and 8 years old. The kids are running around the restaurant being loud while the adults are drinking wine and eating their pizza. I ignore the commotion for like 20 minutes. When suddenly, I feel like a hand on my leg and one of the little kids is crawling under Jack and my table. I wasn't thinking and snapped at the kid and said, get away from our table! And the kid ran away and burst into tears. One of the parents at the other table came over and started tearing into me about you being cranky and mean, and how dare you yell

at my kid who is just playing. Meanwhile, her and the other middle-aged 40-something parents are letting their kids run amok and be loud and obnoxious while my friend and I are trying to enjoy a night out. I ripped her a new one and said, how entitled do you need to be to think that it's okay to let your kids just crawl around other people's tables? She called me a butthole and walked away in a huff. Super easy verdict OP. You get zero out of five bad guys, the parents who were clearly not parenting, get 1.5 out of five bad guys.

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