rSlash - r/AITA "You Gave Me $50,000. THAT'S NOT ENOUGH!"

Episode Date: March 31, 2026

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my husband's family out of my home during family dinner? I've been with my husband for eight years. We have a two-year-old daughter together. So for the first six years of our relationship, my husband could not hold a job down to save his life. It truly didn't bother me the way some people would think. I was in the medical field, made very good money, and he didn't ask for much. He was also very good to me, so zero issues. But his joblessness was linked to untreated ADHD and depression. During these eight years, I was paying all of our bills. And as much as I hate to put it out there, I was all but supporting his family as well. His sister and brother specifically, who are both older than me and my husband by four years, and also I less frequently supported his mom. During those eight years, I'd given

these people around $50,000. Money for mortgage payments, and car payments and food and sports fees for their children, etc. It adds up super quick. Never once did I ask for repayments. It didn't actually bother me until the end of year six when my mother-in-law showed up on my doorstep for a drop-in family meeting and told me that the whole family needed to chip in for one of the other family's lawyer fees.

And after I generously handed over $3,000, I found out that I was the only one, who actually contributed. That was a gut punch and was absolutely the last straw. I haven't given them a dime since. But again, it didn't bother me until that point, and I instantly took care of it and said no more. My husband was fully on my side. But I absolutely got pushback from the family. Around this time, I found out that I was also six months pregnant. I wasn't showing, and I still had my cycle. So, fast forward. My husband gets on medication for 80s. ADHD, gets fully involved in therapy, went for his trucking license, and has been working

steadily since I was roughly eight months pregnant. He's only missed one shift the day that I went into labor and is kicking butt. His meds were an absolute game changer. I've been a stay-at-home mom ever since. My husband makes around four times more than what I was making at the hospital as well. Here's the problem. My husband refuses to help his family out financially, and for whatever reason, it's been brought to my attention that I am being blamed for it. We had his entire family over for dinner, and this was the first time that we'd been around the entire group in two years. They don't even call anymore.

We hosted dinner and everything was going well. But then my mother-in-law asked me when I was planning to return to work. I said that I had no plan to until my daughter was in school. She said something like, That simply doesn't work. I questioned what she meant. Her and my sister-in-law both go on about how they feel it isn't fair to my husband that I have no income, and they basically beat around the bush about me not helping financially the way that I used to,

and that they can no longer depend on family for help, which was their way of saying that their cash cow is gone, and that bothers them. I reminded them that I contributed to their life for six years, totaling around 50K, and I did more than my fair share. My mother-in-law then tells me that she's paid back more than that. Because she's brought me old expired food bank food on several occasions, which we told her not to do. And she brought over her old, partially broken 1930s furniture for us to have,

which, again, we told her not to do. I told her that in no way was repayment. I'd given this woman $8,000. Anyways, the argument escalated to mainly my mother-in-law saying, that it was unfair to my husband that I'm contributing nothing to the household. I argued that I supported him and his entire family for six years. She said, surely he's paid you back. You haven't done anything in two years.

So I snapped and said that paying rent for two years with zero financial contribution exceeding basics is in no way paying me back. And I told everyone to get the F out. It's important to note that my husband was not home for this. He had actually run to the store to get something that we ran out of. So he wasn't present or he would have stepped in. But after some back and forth and me just repeating to get out and them refusing, I said I was going to call the cops.

They finally start leaving. I tell them they aren't welcome back here and that we'll be going no contact. They were gone by the time my husband got home. When I told him what happened, he went real quiet. He apologized for what they said and did while he was gone. but he also tried justifying it, saying that they likely just meant that they thought I should be working too to help him with bills. I asked why he was trying to downplay this, and he said, Because everyone knows that households can't survive on one income in 2026. And said something about

how he could work less hours and spend more time with our kid if I got a job too. Keep in mind, he makes 140K a year, and all of our expenses do not exceed 4K a month. This dude has a savings of almost $200,000, and we aren't hurting for money at all. I can't speak to him right now, as I'm absolutely disgusted with the entire situation. Also, in an edit, OP clarifies that our husband's $140K salary is take-home pay after taxes. That's a trucker salary? I mean, I realize the story is about the entitlement of O.P's in-laws, but, yo, truckers are pulling in like $200K, you know, after taxes down to about 150, I had no idea. Anyways, O.P., I find it incredibly ironic that your husband says, no household can survive on just one income when clearly you guys survived just fine on one

income for six years. The one income is only a problem when it's his income. But when it's your income, he wasn't complaining about having only one income in the house. Oh, man, this is a extremely entitled and manipulative family that you've married. into O.P. I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving everyone else two to two point five out of five but holes. Also, people in the comments are pointing out something that I didn't think about, but man, now that they pointed out, I can't unsee it. It's that this might have been a whole planned event where O.P's husband conveniently stepped away to the store so that his family could, you know, gang up on him without having him there to mediate. It is a bit coincidental, I have to say.

Am I the butthole for abusing the bus stop chain so I don't miss my stop? I take a bus connection route on my way to work every morning. The public transportation in my city, Southern California, is not great, but I'm lucky that this bus route works for me. It's been a few months since I started taking this route, and there are so many things I find annoying. Unlike buses I've taken before and the underground trains, buses don't announce the next stops outside of main stops.

Second, the buses don't stop at the other. stops and will skip over them unless someone pulls the chain for it to stop. I've even asked the bus driver to help guide me, but most don't seem to like their job and are of no help, really. I tried to find ways to ensure that I get to my stop without issues. I use Google Maps, the official tracking apps, as well as the actual map of the bus route. But being online means that it always shows me when I've already skipped my stop, and it's frustrating. There's no announcements or any main stops I can look forward to, and the bus doesn't stop. I even try to check my surroundings, but I take the bus early every morning at 5.50 a.m., and it's still relatively dark outside. It's

frustrating. So lately, when I have a fair idea that I'm near, I pull the chain. Most of the time, the bus is forced to stop for like five seconds before resuming again, and I can generally tell the next stop is mine. I don't like doing this, but if I don't, I always miss it, and then I I have to walk 20 minutes to work when it would take me less than three minutes. Yesterday it happened again, and the bus driver called me out and was clearly annoyed with me. I apologize briefly, but I still don't know what the solution is. O.P., you don't know what the solution is? How about you stop being an absolute idiot? You take the same bus route every day, and you still don't know what your stop is? You know, when I was, I don't even know, seven years old, I took the same bus to school,

to and from school every day, and seven-year-old me was able to figure out what my stop is without the bus driver saying, oh, Dabney, this is your stop. You can't just, you know, open Google Maps and see, oh, my stop is in 100 feet. I should get ready to get out the train now, I suppose. And what is this absolute BS about you can't see what's going on because it's early in the morning at 5.50 a.m. What city on earth is pitch black? Cities have cars with headlights and streetlights. lamps and every city on earth is illuminated. O.P., are you genuinely this dumb? The only way I would believe this post and be on your side is if you were literally blind.

This comment, I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas. Yeah, true. O.P. is hilariously incompetent. I have to wonder what O.P.'s job is that they're going to work for, because if they can't figure out something as simple as, oh, that's my stop, then how is anyone paying them to do anything? Am I the butthole for wanting to advocate against our neighbor's sex offender son moving in? Our neighbor's husband passed away a few days ago.

My husband and I went over to offer condolences because we've been pretty close with him over the years. During the conversation, his wife mentioned that her son would be moving in with her soon because he's getting out of prison. Later that day, we looked him up out of curiosity and found out he's a registered sex offender with multiple violations involving minor children. This immediately made us really uncomfortable. We have a young child. There's an elementary school about a mile from our house,

and our neighborhood is full of kids who walk home from school, ride bikes outside, play in the yards, etc. My husband spoke with her again and asked if she had planned to tell the neighbors about the situation. Her response was that her son was framed and that she shouldn't have to tell anyone because she lived in this neighborhood first and has lived there for years. That response honestly made us even more uneasy because it doesn't sound like she takes the charges seriously or plans to be cautious about the situation. At the same time, I feel conflicted. She just lost her husband and is probably going through one of the worst times in her life.

We were much closer to him than to her, but I still feel bad adding stress to her life right now. But I also feel like the safety of the kids in the neighborhood, including my own, matters more. We don't want him moving in next door, but I also realize we probably can't legally stop it. O.P., well, just so you know, it is conceivably possible that you could stop it. If he's a registered sex offender, then it's possible he's not allowed within a certain distance of elementary schools. And if that's the case, then he wouldn't be able to move in. And I can also understand why you feel bad about the situation, but you know what feels even worse? Having one of those types of people get too close to your own child.

O.P., if I were in your shoes, I would hold nothing back. You get zero out of five buttholes. Am I the butth hole for not forgiving my foster family? So I'm a 16-year-old girl in a foster home. I can't remember if this is my 14th or 15th placement, but somewhere around there. I've been with this current family, the Millers, since the beginning of January. They're nice, and they have a huge extended family, which is something I'm not used to. We were at the foster mom's sister house for the Super Bowl yesterday. I think like 30 plus people were there for the game. The husband, Rick, who's like 50, really treats me differently.

When I was in the house, he spent like every moment staring at me like he was waiting for me to steal something. I've been in the system since I was seven, so I'm used to it. It still sucks, but whatever. We spent the whole time watching the game and the halftime show. We had a great time making food and watching the Seahawks win. When we got back to our house, I was getting ready to get in the shower when there was a loud knocking on the door. My foster dad opened it, and Rick came rushing in, screaming about how I was a thief. One of his watches disappeared during the game.

I guess he has a collection of expensive watches. He'd called everyone he could think of, telling them I'd stolen it and if they had seen me with the watch. Then demanded they check my room, check me, and call the police. I just handed over my hoodie, turned around in a circle, so they could see there was no watch-shaped bulge in my jeans. I let Rick and my foster parents take turns going through my room. There wasn't a lot to go through. You know, the 30-gallon bag rule, and they didn't find a watch.

Rick left after that and said that he was going to call the police if the watch didn't turn up. About an hour after he left, my foster parents got a call from his wife. They found the watch under the dresser. She was apologetic and said she should have made him look harder before running out the door to accuse me of stealing. She was hoping we would all put this whole thing behind us, and I just shook my head and went to take a shower. I'm not forgiving Rick for running around telling everyone I'm a thief because he couldn't look before he lost his mind. I know it's going to cause problems, but I just don't want to be the bigger person when I'm not the adult. So I guess

I'm the butthole for not forgiving him for calling me a thief. It's very interesting that O.P. is supposed to offer forgiveness. When Rick Didn't offer any forgiveness. The guy didn't even offer an apology. Can't help but notice it was his wife who called about the found watch and not Rick himself. What an absolute coward. Real tough guy he is can't even face the consequences of his own actions. You are easily not the butthole here.

You get zero out of five buttholes. Rick gets 2.5 out of five butt holes. And I'm also giving your foster parents 1.5 out of five buttholes for failing to protect you from Rick. Am I the butthole for telling my co-worker I was miscarrying after she tried to get me in trouble for excessive bathroom use? I'm a 26-year-old woman, and I have a co-worker, Mary, whose main goal at work is to get the rest of us in trouble. Today, I was apparently the target. When I got back from lunch, my boss asked me to talk and explained how a coworker had complained that I had excessive bathroom use and that she and other coworkers had to pick up my slack.

Excessive use was 10 minutes in the four hours before lunch, and I took the 40 minutes for lunch instead of the 30 minutes that we're supposed to. I was eight weeks pregnant when I started miscarrying on Tuesday, and I called in sick to work. I was off yesterday since I was working Saturday, but decided to come into work today, to try to use work to distract myself instead of sitting at home, wallowing. I ended up explaining the situation to my boss to end the conversation. She apologized to me and offered me a couple of days off, but I want to be at work to distract myself. After the meeting, Mary was looking extremely smug, clearly thinking she had gotten me in trouble, and I was so angry. So I told her, sorry if she was so distracted by me being away from my desk

for 20 minutes, but since I was miscarrying, I figured it was fine. Mary looked shocked, but didn't speak or even look at me for the rest of the day. After work, a coworker that I'm friendly with said that while I'm technically right and Mary was completely out of line, I shouldn't have said anything, knowing that it would create an uncomfortable work environment. I don't feel like I did anything wrong. And if Mary wants to micromanage everything, she should expect uncomfortable situations to arise. But I also get that Mary isn't the only coworker this gets uncomfortable for. And I don't want to make things hard for my coworkers I actually do get along with. So am I the butthole for telling Mary I was miscarrying when she tried to get me in trouble?

and making things uncomfortable at work. So it's totally fine for Mary to make everyone else uncomfortable at work, but it's not okay for you to retaliate and make Mary uncomfortable at work. Give me a break. Some people are honestly so afraid of conflict that they just expect everyone else to bow their heads and just get abused and beaten down just because they're so afraid of someone speaking up.

Opie, I am completely on your side. You get an easy zero out of five buttholes. Mary and your busybody coworker get one out of five buttholes. buttholes. That was our slash am I the butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.