rSlash - r/AmITheA**hole For Firing A Spoiled Karen?

Episode Date: February 14, 2021

r/AmITheA**hole OP owns a daycare for young children, and she runs into a problem with one of her customers, a complete Karen. The Karen keeps trying to guilt trip OP into breaking her own rules and letting Karen's child bring a tablet into the daycare. Karen eventually crosses the line when she tries to make OP the bad guy in her child's eyes, so OP fires her! Karen leaves in tears, leaving OP to wonder if perhaps she was the butthole in this situation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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fine with now, but it was a point of contingent early on in our relationship. My boyfriend was talking to a co-worker on Zoom when I brought him some coffee. The co-worker said something like, so, this is the lovely wife I've heard so much about. I said something like, thanks, but we're not married. He said, oh, your boyfriend always calls you as wife. And then he introduced himself and I introduced myself. And then I ended the conversation and left as quickly as I could while still being polite because both the boyfriend and co-worker were giving me a weird vibe. A little while later, my boyfriend came out of the office and asked, what was that? I didn't know what he meant, so I asked, what was what?

My boyfriend then said that there was absolutely no need for me to correct the coworker, and that it's better if people think that I'm his wife. I said, I'm not your wife, I'm your girlfriend, and you never told me that you told other people that I'm your wife. This somehow becomes an argument, with my side being that my boyfriend never told me that you told other people that I'm your wife. This somehow becomes an argument, with my side being that my boyfriend never told me that his co-worker think that were married. And my boyfriend side being that I should have figured out that being called his wife indicated that the co-worker thought that I was his wife, and I shouldn't have corrected

him. And when I said that I thought that he just made an assumption, my boyfriend said that wasn't the point. The point was that there was no need to correct him, that it was rude, and that it makes him look like a dickhead. He then said the solution to this, is that when he next has a video call with my coworker, he wants me to come in again, strike up a conversation, and say that I was messing with him.

And that my boyfriend is actually my husband, and us not being married is an inside joke that I thought coworker was in on. I then said that was the dumbest effing plan that he'd ever come up with. And there's no effing way that I'm doing that. He said I was being a butthole that I got him into this and that I have to bail him out. Am I the butthole? Down in the comments, I love GIF so GIF says exactly what I was thinking. Not the butthole.

This is so shady, and it feels like there's a lot more going on. If you're not married, he doesn't get the perks, and that includes calling you as wife. For anyone else who thought that something shady was going on, OP posted an update. We talked. My boyfriend is passionately hugging a female coworker. Apparently, I can't leave my wife for you. Sounds better than I can't leave my girlfriend for you.

So now he's gonna have to tell people that were divorced. Am I the butthole for taking a much needed vacation in the middle of my wife's grief? At around 6 p.m. Tuesday night, my mother-in-law died. Doctors had discovered that she had an inoperable brain tumor around five months ago, and we pretty much knew that there was no hope. My mother-in-law had been in hospice, and it was a good facility, but my wife still went into total zombie mode. So it's been five months of non-stop work and no affection or appreciation for any of my efforts. My wife does nothing but eat pre-packaged microwave meals so I have to

cook dinner for our 15-year-old daughter. She never makes an effort to the point of wearing sweats to work. And worst of all, she went from showering every day to maybe twice a week. My daughter made my wife a cake for a 45th birthday 3.5 months ago. I knew that my 45th birthday, which was yesterday, would be given no special attention because doctors had said again that my mother-in-law was nearing her ends. And my wife does nothing but cry whenever she hears that. I called some of my family and friends who all live in Arizona and they said that I deserved to have a good birthday.

So I agreed to go back home for the week to celebrate and catch up. My wife got furious when she heard that I was leaving and she started begging and crying that she would control her outward expressions of depression and grief if I stayed. And she said that she felt that it was true this time, even though we've had like four false alarms regarding her mother before. In addition, her mother and I have never been close and I know I don't land anywhere near or close to the top of people she wants to see before she passes. My wife said she'll work to be less distant, and she doesn't care if we lose money if

I'd already booked the plane ticket. I told my wife I didn't need her to pretend to act less distant, and I know she's grieving in a way that I'd never agreed before. But that I was no help to her right now, and I was so fatigued that I needed a break. So I ended up flying down to Arizona, and on Tuesday night I got a call for my daughter that my mother-in-law had passed. My daughter said she's staying at her best friend's house and she's perfectly fine. However, my wife texted me that I betrayed our wedding vows. I asked if I should still come back when I was expecting a lot of old family and friends for my birthday and my return flight is on Sunday. My wife says I can do whatever I want and if

I'm still expecting my work at every day and dresses up every day wife back when I come home, I'll be disappointed. Am I the butthole for taking this trip because I need to do something for myself or else I go crazy? I'll be flying back on Sunday, but I know my wife will just barmy from helping with the funeral. Down in the comments, sheer a mom force as it best. You're the butthole. All you do is complain. It's exhausting to cook dinner for a child who is perfectly capable of cooking dinner

for herself. You're upset that your wife isn't wearing makeup and nice clothes. This is exhausting for you? Too bad it's not about you. I'm fairly certain that you've entered your marriage with your actions. Yeah, OP, I agree. Your wife is going through actual genuine depression and your responses. Well, not my problem.

I'm going to go have a party. See ya! Am I the butthole for being honest about how I was bullied and how the teachers at my school did nothing about it while being interviewed by a current student? I'm an author of mild success. I'm not incredibly popular, but my book's still enough. About three months ago, someone from my old high school reached out to see if a student could interview me.

I responded that my time at that school wasn't the happiest, but I would give the student responses related to my career. We had a great chat. She started asking questions about my time at the school, but I redirected. She caught on to what I was doing and asked, I'm sensing that you're hesitant to talk about your time at our school. Is that true? I said, let's focus on the story and she was like, actually, this could be a better story.

So I said, you know what, sure, whatever. I don't know the school anything. I'm not being paid, and even though it's been a long time and I've grown from what happened, it's still worth talking about. I mentioned a few names in specific and how I tried to ask for help and was blown off by everyone.

Teachers at my school very strongly favored the girls in sports team and would often be buddy-buddy with them and their parents. I mentioned a teacher who openly mocked the way I dressed, my lack of athleticism, etc. I brought up the time that a group of girls followed me around the school, moving at me. And when I broke down crying because they wouldn't stop and I tried to tell a teacher, the teacher called me moolly for the rest of the year. And when I yelled, my name is Molly,

Molly. She had me suspended for a week. The student ended up publishing the whole interview. Nothing exactly went viral, but they were posted on Facebook with a ton of comments and it caused some commotion in that community. A few weeks later, I was contacted by a school official who chastised me for bringing up bold wounds and trying to paint veteran teachers as bad people, when they were going through difficult times already. The teacher responsible for the Mouli incident had a local lifetime teaching award taken away from her after it all came out, so was it really worth it? And maybe I remember things incorrectly. Finally, a handful of my old classmates found me and I was

barraged with a ton of messages telling me that I'm ruining the reputation of the school and several prominent community members. It was x years ago, so why can't I just get over it, etc? Some of them obviously haven't changed. It was a long time ago, yes. I don't know how I really feel about how this all went down though. I know times are tough for teachers right now. I didn't sit out to hurt anyone. I was just telling my truth. Am I the butthole? So it's okay for a school that teaches the students to systematically bully you, O.P. But when you call them out on it, not even bully them, just point out their behavior, suddenly you're the butthole? No, no, no, no, no, no. That school system is super toxic. I can't believe a school official actually contacted you to scold you on adult.

It's like, dude, you guys believe me. And how you're still doing it like 20 years later? O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. Those people get four out of five buttholes. If they're upset that you're trying to paint better in teachers as bad people, I would say, yeah, they are bad people. They do deserve to have their reputation damaged, and they do deserve to have their awards taken away. Is it too much to ask for to have teachers who don't abuse their

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connectzontio.c. Please play responsibly. You go to shoppers, exclusions apply. Am I the butthole for telling my daughter that she caused her own problems? My wife and I are both 48 with two daughters, Liz, who's 30 and Ash who's 24. Liz used to date a young man named Pat. They were together for five years starting in college. In their fourth year together, Pat was accepted into medical school while Liz struggled. She worked as a dockside worker and desperate for more income, Liz took up upside jobs and took up a position in a local pizza shop to get management experience. From the outside looking in, Liz was working long hours while Pat was being crushed in school.

They ended up getting engaged, however, Liz cheated on Pat and got pregnant. Their relationship ended, obviously. Ash went to the same school as Liz and graduated without any hiccups. She works in finance, and she seems to be very happy in life, and we couldn't be proud of her. Last year, Ash approached myself and her mother about a guy we knew she'd met. It was PAT. To make a long story short, they've been dating for over a year now, and Ash seems to be very happy, while PAT still seems like a great guy. Liz has not taken this new development well and has brought up tons of issues with it. My wife and I both weren't Ash and this was obviously going to be a huge problem. And Ash said that she was sorry for Liz but she threw Pat away so she didn't care how

she felt about it. Liz's life has been difficult to say the least. She has two kids as a single parent and her career has never really taken off. Her life isn't bad, however I guess she had higher ambitions. Her life is certainly tougher than ashes, and now that she's dating a doctor who she was once engaged to, she's on a downward spiral. Friday night, Liz came over and asked us to watch her kids, but my wife and I weren't up for it.

One of them is special needs, and we just don't have the energy for it sometimes. She had a meltdown where she unloaded her emotions on us, and I told her that her problems are her own fault. She chose her degree, she chose her job, she chose to cheat, she chose to have kids and be a single mother. Those were all her choices, and I for one am sick of hearing about how bad her life is all the time. Am I for one am sick of hearing about how bad her life is all the time. Am I the butthole?

OP, while you're technically correct here, it's obvious that your daughter is going through some really dark times right now, and she really needs your support. I find your response to be a little bit cold in callus, so yeah, I think I have to give you something like, let's say, 1.5 out of 5 buttholes. Yes, I will acknowledge that your daughter cheated, but that doesn't make her like a 100% terrible person. As far as I'm concerned, Justice has been served there. She cheated and he broke up with her, so that's like a done deal.

I think actually the biggest butthole here is ash. I have a younger brother, and I literally can't imagine a scenario where I would date one of his exes or he would date one of mine. That's just not something that family does to each other, so yeah, I think your sister kind of crossed a line there. I'm giving Ash 3 out of 5 buttholes. I even have to give Pat a butthole rating of 2 out of 5 buttholes. Dumping once sister and then dating the other is kind of a low blow, even if you have

been cheated on. Am I the butthole for not changing my rules and terminating care? I have a home daycare. I like to think that I'm pretty lenient, but I do have one big rule. Don't make me the bad guy. I understand we might have different rules, but don't make your child resent me by not backing me up. Anyway, another rule that I don't allow outside toys or electronics.

Kids can bring stuffed animals for nap time, but I don't want to be responsible if something gets broken. Years ago, I used to like kids bring whatever. Then a cheap McDonald's toy broke by accident. The kid was upset and the mom got mad at me, so now it's a hard rule. Most families are okay with it. But I have a new three year old kid whose mom wanted him to bring his tablet because he needs it.

I said sorry, but no. I am not going to be responsible for that. We went back and forth, but finally she just says fine. However, every morning the kid is crying because his mom took his tablet from him in the car. The mom always gives me this look and says, Miss Lucy says no tablet. I always try to say that we have plenty of toys, but the kid spends the whole morning sulking. I've talked to the mom, I've asked her to leave it at home and not even put it in the car, but she says that he needs it. It's been a month, and yesterday was a straw that broke the camel's back. The kid came in crying, as usual. I tried my typical redirection which didn't work. The mom was

giving me a look of, see what you did, then she had the nerve to say to him. I know you need your tablet, we've talked about this before, but Miss Lucy is strict. That pissed me off. I ended up telling her to take her kid home right then and there. She was shocked and started stammering. He was my first kid in the day so there was no scene. I just handed back his backpack, said he was no longer a student of mine and began to pack his extra stuff. The mom was in tears as she left. My husband thinks that she was right. I'm too strict and I should have broken policy instead of causing drama. Am I the butthole? What on earth is your husband talking about OP? You didn't start drama,

she did. This is your business. You have a right to run your business however you want to, with whichever clients you want to. If a client is giving you a hard time for any reason, you have a right to refuse service. OP, you get a solid 0 out of 5 buttholes. The mom gets, uh, let's say 2 out of 5 buttholes. That was our slash of my the butthole, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put a new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.