rSlash - r/AmITheA**hole I Sued My YouTuber Ex-Girlfriend!

Episode Date: July 7, 2020

r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP decides to sue his ex-girlfriend, who also happens to be a very famous YouTuber. The judge actually rules in his favor, so the Youtuber ex-girlfriend ends up owing OP a lot of money. However, OP's friends say that he is a butthole because suing his ex-girlfriend could ruin her life and her career. So, is OP the butthole? What do you think? If you like this video and want to see more, subscribe to my channel for more daily Reddit videos! 🔔 Subscribe: https://bit.ly/2E3A8i6 💬 Discord: https://discord.gg/VD6eYD3 🎧 Podcast: https://link.chtbl.com/rslash ⚓ Send me a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rslash 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rslashyt/ ♪ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rslash0 🛒 Merch: http://bit.ly/rSlashMerch 🎁 Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/rslash Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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My son, who's 20, has been dating a girl he goes to university with for about six months now. She's an international student from New Zealand, but his family here, so is staying with them during COVID-19. Due to lockdown restrictions and such, we hadn't met her until a couple of nights ago when I invited her over for dinner with my family. We had base-timeed a few times, but not spoken a lot. My husband and I are very Catholic and traditional, but spent a lot of our 20s traveling the world, including New Zealand.

We visited her hometown, so we asked her a few questions about it, which she happily answered. But when I asked her about her Maori heritage and family, she became quite uncomfortable and said she didn't know a whole lot about it, which I find hard to believe. We asked if she was religious. She laughed and said no. We asked her about her degree, which she seemed very passionate about, but it's a fashion degree, which isn't exactly going to get her very far. In comparison to my son, who's a law student, it's clear she loves my son and it's mutual and my other children adored her, but I don't think she's the right fit for my son. Her parents were both 16 when they had her, and she's very open with the fact that they have a strong dislike for each other, and haven't spoken since she was 6 months old.

She also seems to have a bizarre relationship with each of her parents. After dinner, she went and played monopoly with my daughters and sons, and made a couple crew jokes, as well as laughing at my son, her boyfriend, Winnie Lost. My son asked me if she could stay, and I said she could stay as long as she slept in a separate room, which he said was ridiculous as they're both 20 and living together next year. She decided to leave as she didn't feel welcome. After she left, I told my son I didn't approve and that I could set him up with a nice girl from my church if he preferred. But he said that he loves her and was furious I would even suggest it. My other son, who's 16, heard me and said he really liked her.

My husband said that even if I felt like that, I shouldn't vocalize it because it's clear my son loves her. I understand that, but he should be with someone more suitable for our family in my opinion. Am I the butthole? O.P. I'm just going to call it like I see it on this story. You're coming off as pretty judgmental and kind of racist. And if I can give you a word of advice, you really need to readjust your attitudes about this girl because if you keep this up, then don't be surprised if your son never comes around your house anymore. If a guy has to choose between a woman he loves and his mom, most guys would choose the woman they love. So I'm giving you three out of five buttholes OP.

Am I the butthole for suing my ex? So I dated a YouTuber. And before people go crazy in the comments, no, this is not my ex. We went out for about a year and it was alright, but they were so emotionally invested in their channel that they constantly neglected me and made me feel like I wasn't a priority. Not really important why we broke up, but we broke up. Then I got a bunch of messages from their friends about three months later telling me to go to their channel. I'm pretty much done with them, but I do, and I realize they made a video about me where they claimed that I was emotionally abusive. I continued to get messages from strangers telling me how awful a person I was,

and how they hoped I'd died through various means. So I sued my ex. It ruined them. I knew they were financially in a bad spot, and they likely couldn't afford court fees, but the case dragged. They made a video about not being able to afford court costs and such, and how it was going to ruin them. After which, a bunch of friends started telling me to just let it go and move on, but I had sunk money into the case as well. It wasn't cheap for me either, so I didn't just let it go. Eventually, the judge ruled in my favor and I received a total of nothing from my ex. But it meant that I could link to the result in the comment section of every video where

she tried to frame me as the bad guy. Because in our state, court proceedings are public record. Suddenly, her viewership dropped and she blamed me for ruining her life. A bunch of my friends said I went too far and should have just taken the court when and left her alone. Was I the butthole? Down in the comments, I couldn't agree more with Nazx. Not the butthole.

Actions have consequences. Her content could have ruined your life, but nobody thinks about that, huh? And as a professional content creator, I can say that this other YouTuber grossly misused her power. I mean, there's a reason we're called influencers. We have the power to influence people. Attempting to destroy someone's life just to get YouTube views is a pretty low blow. And what's more, you're legally determined to not be the butthole in this situation. A judge or a jury or whatever the case may be, legally determined that you were the victim here. So, no OPP, you get zero out of five buttholes.

Your ex gets four out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for bringing my garden with me when I moved? I'm a 25 year old female and I've been running a house since I was 18. When I moved in, the backyard was a large piece of dirt, no lawn or anything. Just a decently big backyard with a fencell around. It was a cheap, but not great house, but I signed because I wanted the backyard space. Over the past few years, I erected a small garden shed, a greenhouse, and pizza oven. Planet lots of veggie gardens and big transportable garden beds and put down some nice papers, an aquaponics setup and generally made the backyard a really green and beautiful

place to be. It became the green oasis all my friends gathered at. A few months ago, my landlords let me know they were planning to sell and my final move out day was a week ago. When I left, I brought my garden with me to the new place. Nothing in my backyard was directly planted into the ground, and nothing was permanent. I dismantled the sheds and greenhouse, loaded up all the pots and garden beds onto a truck, and cleared the backyard in three days with lots of help. My former landlords are furious over this, and demand that I return the backyard to the former state. Apparently, they'd listen to the house for sale with pictures of the backyard and potential buyers were

walking away from the house when they saw the barren backyard. They were accusing me of stealing their plants and wrecking the backyard. Legally I'm fine. My contract said I could garden, and I have photos from the first real estate walkthrough before I moved in that show that the backyard was in the same state as I first found it, although with more fertile soil now, probably. The same real estate agent signed off my final inspection, and I got my deposit back. I've received mixed responses, though, because I saw the landlords taking pictures of my backyard before I left, but didn't make the connection because, in my opinion, when

pictures of a house have furniture in it, you don't make the connection because in my opinion, when pictures of a house have furniture in it, you don't expect to also get free furniture. Some of my co-workers suggested that I'm the butthole because the house valuation certainly has fallen dramatically, because I didn't tell them I was taking my garden with me so they couldn't plan to landscape before lockdown hit. OP, this is clear as day. You get zero out of five buttholes. If you're landlord one of that garden from you so desperately, they could have offered to buy your property.

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The wording in the title is exactly how my 14 year old daughter phrased it, not necessarily my opinion. So I've been married to Lacey for 18 years. We have a great marriage in two daughters. The 16 year old isn't relevant in this, and we'll call the 14 year old Madison. Madison and Lacey have been clashing a lot lately and that's what inspired this post. So I absolutely love my wife, but she's ridiculous and vain and still my favorite person in the world.

Lacey cares excessively about appearance and dresses very feminine. She has a hard time with the fact that Madison is developing her own style and she can get controlling. For example, they had a big fight over an ugly pair of vans, though Lacey did buy them in the end. Well, I came home from work the other day and Lacey and Madison were fighting because Madison cut and died her own hair. Now, I think it looks ridiculous. She gave herself screwed up bangs and there's a red streak. But at the end of the day, Lacey doesn't have to go out looking like that. Well, Lacey started crying and Madison said that she doesn't want to be a BAPID TROPHY WIVE Barbie like her mom. I grounded her for that, but said that I'm on her side with the hair.

I'm the biggest pushover for Lacey though. She kept crying about how the kids don't appreciate her and she doesn't know who Madison is anymore. And when Lacey gets upset, she gets hysterical. Well, I told the girls they can fix their own dinner. There are plenty of leftovers and Lacey cooks every day. And I hung out in the bedroom with Lacey, gave her like an hour-long foot massage and helped her relax. Madison told me this morning that she thinks I coddle her mom and she blames me for the situation as well. So am I a butthole for trying

to be a good husband? Yes OP, I think you are actually being a butthole for trying to be a good husband because you're trying to be a good husband at the expense of being a good father. I mean, it seems like your wife and your kid have been fighting, but only the kid gets punished and only the wife gets coddled. Doesn't your daughter deserve some comforting there, too? I kind of feel like this isn't everyone sucks here situation, because the whole family is being a little erratic and overly emotional about this. OP, you need to understand that supporting your kids doesn't also mean that you aren't supporting your wife. Your wife needs to chill out and let your daughter become her own person.

And finally, your daughter has no business saying those types of things about her own mother. So I'll give you all, I don't know, maybe 1.5 out of 5 buttles because it sounds like just kind of a normal family fight. But the important thing is that you guys start treating each other like family members and not like enemies. And I the butthole for asking my boyfriend to stop wearing suits outside of work. I know this sounds weird, but here goes. I'm a 47 year old female and I've been dating my 52 year old boyfriend for two years. We met in a grief counseling group after losing our spouses. Everything in this relationship has been great. Our kids has been great.

Our kids get along great. I even got a mother's day card from his son, thinking me for making his dad smile again. It was sweet. My 19 year old daughter adores my boyfriend. I was surprised how fast they hit it off because she's very shy, but I didn't want to question it, so I let it go. But as time went on, things got weird. On Valentine's Day, he got me a bouquet and arose for her,

and she still has it hanging in her room. She gets up early every morning to make him a latte, and every night when he gets home, she's waiting in the kitchen with a beer and a sandwich for him. He has back problems, so she bought him a computer chair with massaging rollers on it. Which pisses me off because I'm a masseuse. I can take care of this man's back just fine.

I refuse to be replaced by an effing chair. I ask my daughter why she keeps doing this stuff and she said she just likes him. I asked why to see if I could get more info and she started listing things. He's nice, smart, funny, blah blah blah. But what stuck out was when she said she loves the way he dresses. My boyfriend is a funeral director, so he always wears black suits. When I first started dating him, my daughter would always call him a sharp dressed man saying things like, are you gonna go see that sharp dress man again?

Or when do I get to meet your sharp dress man, mom? My daughter always said that she wants to marry a man in a suit, so I assume this was her way of showing approval. But now, I'm starting to wonder if there's more. I've been wanting to suggest that he stops wearing suits outside of work, but he loves his suits. We just bought a house together, and I know he's been looking at rings. This man is a chess champion who speaks six languages, yet doesn't know how to close his laptop when going to the bathroom. So I'm invested in this relationship. I love this man and I want to marry him, but I'm afraid if I tell him what's on my mind till

kick my daughter out. This all came to a head last night when we were watching a movie and my daughter went up to get drinks. When she came back, she handed my boyfriend his beer and then tried to sit in his lap. I say tried because my boyfriend pushed her off and angrily told her that what she did was inappropriate. He stormed up to our bedroom and I followed him up to talk to him. He started saying that my daughter should start looking elsewhere to stay but I told him about the suit thing and. He started saying that my daughter should start looking elsewhere to stay, but I told him about the suit thing, and that maybe if he just wore normal clothes outside of work, she wouldn't act so weird.

He told me I was being ridiculous, and we went a bit. I made him breakfast this morning, but he left to go eat instead. He says he's in the McDonald's parking lot now, but we're gonna have a serious talk when he gets home. I don't know what to think, am I the butthole? Down in the comments, I've got to agree with Bubblegum 2070. You're the butthole. You sound like one of those people that say it's the way the person was dressed was why

they were assaulted. It's your daughter's fault, not his clothes. And beneath that, a lot of people are saying that there's probably more information that OP doesn't know about, and then OP posts in an update. Well, it turns out some of you were right, and there was a lot that I didn't know about. A LOT, in fact. My boyfriend showed me several disturbing text messages, no actual propositioning or anything, just weird stuff like, I miss you, and are you awake at 2am, etc. And apparently,

my daughter had invited him about a close friendship she had with her basketball coach right after her dad died. My boyfriend said he'd kept it a secret because she begged him not to tell me, and he didn't want to break her trust. I, of course, was incredibly hurt to hear this, but at the same time I understand why he didn't tell me. Apparently, he's the only person she's ever talked to about this. It turns out my daughter has basically been treating my boyfriend like a private therapist for the past several months, and he didn't tell me because he wanted to help her. He chalked up all the favors to her just showing gratitude for lending an ear and didn't realize how she might have failed differently before last night.

He apologized for insisting on kicking her out and I apologized for the stupid comments about his suits. It was a comment I made out of being in denial and now I realize she needs therapy. When I first started group counseling, I did ask my kids if they wanted counseling. They both said no and I didn't want to force it on them. When I sat my daughter down to talk about the boundary issue, she burst into tears and started apologizing. I had an extremely uncomfortable, but necessary conversation with her, and I told her that I'm going to start looking for a therapist.

I didn't tell her that I know about the basketball coach because I didn't want her to feel betrayed, and I'm hoping a professional will be able to get it out of her in a more sensitive and controlled manner. But so help me God. If that mother ever ever shows a space in my hometown again and she asks me why I'm in jail, I guess I'll have to tell her I know about it then. But for now, her healing from the past is my main priority because it really does seem like her dad screwed her up far worse than I thought. My boyfriend and I have made up and no one is getting kicked out, but things are still

pretty awkward. She's basically quarantined herself in the basement. For now, we all just need some space and my boyfriend has already helped me find some good therapists in our area. The daughter is 19 and they've been dating for two years. So presumably the father died before they started dating, which means the daughter was, what, 17? Maybe? Maybe younger? When she started sleeping with the coach? Oh my god. Okay, so OP, your daughter is exhibiting some unusual behavior, but it sounds like that might be in part because she was exploited by someone much older than her who had no business

doing it. I'm glad that you're taking her to see a therapist because that would have been my number one suggestion. That was R-Slash, I'm I the Butthole, and if you like this content, then check out my Patreon where I publish extra videos that I can't publish on YouTube because they get demonetized. Also, don't forget to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit content every single day.