rSlash - r/AmITheA**hole My Husband Told Me to Wear a Diaper

Episode Date: January 28, 2022

r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP is a mother who recently gave birth to her first child. While delivering her baby, she had a very common "accident" in the delivery room. OP's husband saw it happen and was utterly disgusted. He constantly mocks OP for her accident, and even joked in front of their family that she needs to wear a diaper. She blows up at him for publicly mocking her, so then he gets upset that she embarrassed him in front of family. Who's the butthole in this situation? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to R-Slash, am I the butthole where someone steals from an 11-year-old child? Am I the butthole for using my husband's savings to repurchase the bike that he took from our daughter? My daughter received a bike from her uncle, my brother on her 11th birthday. She was over the moon and excited to use it because it was on her wish list for so long. Days ago, I discovered that my husband reached out to my brother to ask for the receipt for the bike, and he returned it to the store and kept the money for himself while my daughter was at school. My daughter and I got home, and she started crying after noticing the bike was gone. My husband was home at the time, and he told me that he returned the bike and got money

and returned to spin on something useful for us. Since the bike was just there as a distraction and there was no need for it now, since we're in the dead of winter. I was aggravated and lost it on him, saying that it wasn't his, it didn't come from him, and he didn't pay for it. So he had no right to touch it, especially knowing our daughters been waiting for it for a long time. And my brother was decent enough to buy it for her, despite barely having money to get him by. I told him that what he did was theft, and I insisted that he hand over the money so

I could repurchase it for her. But he said that he spent the money on stuff for the house, and he doesn't have any money left. But I knew about the money that he kept stashed away in the bedroom that he forbade me from touching. So I took some of that money, and I went out to repurchase the bike while he was out the next day. He found out, and verbally lashed out at me, saying that I should have never touched

the money that he was saving for himself. But I lashed right back, saying that I had to, so I could repurchase the bike that he stole from our daughter. He explained that he didn't keep the money for himself, and instead spent the money for necessities for our home. But he was at fault for taking the bike in the first place, and he was responsible for getting it back. He yelled at me for almost 10 minutes, then stormed outside and started smoking. My daughter asked why her dad was upset, and said that she no longer wants the bike if dad doesn't want her to have it. But I assured her that's not the case, and I told her she shouldn't feel guilty and to just focus on enjoying her bike. My husband hasn't stopped grilling me about how I

disrespected and undermined him, and how I managed to make our daughter hate him after making him look like the bad guy. I, again, said that he shouldn't have touched the bike, end of story. He called me a thief and a juvenile for taking money from his savings and being sneaky about it. Am I the butthole for the way that I got the bike back? OP. If your husband has savings and he steals a bike from his daughter, returns it for cash, and then uses that money to buy other stuff, Then yes, it is literally stealing. Also, it completely undermines any defense he had

because if he really did absolutely need to sell the bike to, let's say, keep the electricity on or pay rent or buy groceries or whatever, then he could have dipped into his private stash. But essentially, what he's saying here is that it's his 11 year old daughter's responsibility to pay the bills, not his own responsibility. It's like, dude, if you're that tight on cash, maybe stop buying cigarettes and save more money.

O.P., your husband is toxic. Mega-toxic. I can't even believe, like, I'm trying to imagine the amount of, I don't even know, entitlement, delusion, selfishness that would be required to steal from your own child, use that money on other stuff while you have money of your own that you could spend yourself, but you keep that money because you want to spend that money on yourself. And then throughout this whole thing, you apparently still have money for luxuries like smokes.

OP, you are married to a complete butthole. I literally feel sorry for you and your daughter. I feel so bad that both of you have to endure living with this piece of garbage, to be honest. Honestly, OP, I'm kind of concerned that this might be a sign of drug use because stealing stuff from your loved one so you can get cash is classic textbook drug addict behavior. In any event, OP, you get zero is classic textbook drug addict behavior. In any event OP you get zero out of five but holes. Your husband gets four out of five but holes. I remember when I was got hold must I have been I guess probably about like eight or ten real real young.

I had like a piggy bank where I kept like the five or ten dollar allowance a week that my parents gave me. And at one point my my dad, like, he just needed cash so we could go out and get something. So he took like a 20 for my piggy bank. And he told me the same day, he said, you know, hey buddy, I took 20 bucks out of your piggy bank. I just needed some cash, but I will piggy back as soon as I can.

And you know a couple of days later, he gave me the 20 bucks back. The story's not very entertaining or interesting, but I'm sharing this so that other people out there listening can know that this is normal parent child behavior. It is not normal for parents to take money from their kids. And if you're watching this video and your parents steal money from you, then you should know that your parents are basically abusing you. Am I the butthole for serving my husband's parents, Pizza on Christmas dinner when they

showed up unexpectedly, I'm a 33 year old female nurse, and I've been crazy busy lately. So busy that I would have to spend two consecutive days at the hospital. I covered shifts during weekends and holidays for this year. We're not doing well financially, and I've only been working for a few months, and we have debts to pay. I'm exhausted all the time. I don't get to sleep much. My husband's parents are aware of my work nature,

but they still act upset that I didn't go shop for their gifts earlier. They did receive gifts from me, and I made sure everyone was happy. My husband told me that his mom went in to bring the family and celebrate Christmas at our house. I politely declined, and explained that I can't be serving

10 plus people when I'm committed to a very demanding, very strict schedule. My mother-in-law is still pissed at me for this and told the family that I was using my job as an excuse since she obviously can't cook a decent meal let alone host a celebration. I really thought they would just get another family member to host Christmas dinner. Christmas day at 2pm I got off work and went home, feeling exhausted,

and I could barely take a shower. My husband didn't leave the house, and when I asked him about whether his family invited him for dinner, he said no because I ruined it when I refused to let them come. I knew he was trying to start an argument, so I just left it at that. At 6pm our doorbell rang, and I saw his mom and dad walking in. I greeted them and brought them coffee and biscuits. They said they came to give us our gifts on behalf of the family, and they stayed for over two hours. His mom started giving me looks, asking when she and her husband were going to eat dinner. I got up and decided to reheat the pizza we had from the night before, and when his mom saw it, she stared at me and asked if I was serious. She asked, where's my Christmas dinner? And was stunned that I didn't

cook for the occasion. I told her that I didn't cook because I wasn't expecting anyone to be invited to the house. She got upset and said that I should have cooked for the occasion, regardless of whether we had guests or not, because she said it's part of the celebration and talked about how every home had a Christmas feast. She said that I had no etiquette and that I was clearly starving her son by not cooking on holidays. I got into an argument with her while my husband and his dad sat there watching. She called me disrespectful, and to stop using my job as an excuse for my lack of function as a wife. Then they left.

My husband said that I should have taken a few days off and hosted dinner completely ignoring that his mom made a big deal out of it. My mother-in-law is all over social media talking about me serving her pizza instead of a real Christmas dinner. Oh my god. Is this just straight-up sexism? It kind of feels like straight-up sexism? It kind of feels like straight-up sexism. Why is it your responsibility to cook the meals OP? What about the husband?

Can he not cook? OP, I hate to break it to you, but your husband is useless and your mother-in-law is abusive. How can they possibly criticize you when you're a nurse working during the COVID pandemic? And on top of working as a nurse, they expect you to just cook for 10 people. What about all the other family members? Can't someone else in the family cover this meal just this one time? Why does it all have to fall on your shoulders? OP, you get zero out of five buttholes. Your husband and your mother-in-law both get four out of five buttholes.

Am I the butthole for yelling at my obsessed wife? Hi there, I'm currently typing this from my car after my wife told me that she doesn't want me near her right now. I'm hoping this thread will be a wake up call to her. My wife, who's 33, is a huge nerd, which I normally appreciate. But today, she's taking things way too far. She took today off work so she could be up at 4am to play her online game at launch. I didn't wake up until about an hour ago, 10.30, and she was still playing.

I mentioned that I was hungry, hoping we could make breakfast together, which we like to do together. She instead said that I should order something from DoorDash, and she's in the middle of a dungeon so she may be a while. I didn't really want to get takeout because we'd already discussed ordering pizza tonight for dinner. And that's a lot of takeout food for one day. I calmly explained this, and she got pissed and shrieked at me that she just wanted one weekend to focus on her video game. I said that it was unfair to our family for her to isolate all weekend, and she got even more mad, telling me that I have two hands and I can be the cat myself. I was in tears at this point and I did raise my voice and said that I was worried that

she's obsessed with this game and maybe she needs professional help. She threw her car keys at me and told me to get out of her face that she works all the time and she doesn't ask her much and that I need to leave her be and just get out of her face for a few hours. I'm truly concerned that she's become obsessed with this online game, and I'm hoping that maybe reading this thread will wake her up to it, but I might have been the butthole too. I am haha. I would bet my entire YouTube channel that I know which game this is.

It's gotta be Final Fantasy XIV. Listen dude, you gotta understand, rating is serious business. The tank has to know all the mechanics, the DPS has to burn down all the ads, and the healer has to keep everyone alive. Come on man, killing dragons is hard enough without you being obnoxious on top of that. Okay, so jokes aside, all seriousness, I really don't think that your wife is doing anything wrong here. She took time off work, she wants to enjoy her hobby and peace, so like, what's the problem with that? Who cares if it's video games or watching sports or knitting or gardening or whatever?

The point is, she has vacation time, she used that vacation time, and she just wants two whole days to herself where she can just enjoy her hobby like what's the problem. Also on top of that, taking time off so that you can enjoy a game on the launch day is super, super common in the gaming industry. Five to 10 years ago, there was national news about how there was a huge productivity loss because some major game got released.

It was like, cod or halo, or maybe one of the wow expansions, and I'm not sure. But like, it's just incredibly common It's so common that there was a nationwide worker shortage during like that one weekend when that one game came out Man, I wish I could remember which game it was overall this seems pretty straightforward OP You're the butthole here. I'm giving you two out of five buttholes and I'm giving your wife zero out of five buttholes She's trying to get all that fat loot, man,

so get off her back. The only thing that should be on her back is a legendary cloak. Am I the butthole for blowing up on my husband in front of his family during the New Year's Eve celebration after he joked about my birth experience? I'm a 25-year-old woman, and I gave birth to my daughter weeks ago.

My experience was pretty traumatic, and since it was my first, I had no clue what to expect. Forgive me for giving vague details for privacy concern, but I'll mention all the relevant stuff I promise. When I went into labor, I had the most difficult time of my life. I was in pain for hours. My mom was with me, but she had to go and my husband was with me the entire time. I did do something embarrassing in the delivery room. I pooped myself, which was unexpected, and just, I don't know. But it was embarrassing, and all my medical team were very professional about

it. My husband couldn't help himself and started laughing about it later. And he even told my family about it, but they didn't react. They just didn't find it funny, and neither did I, in fact. I found it embarrassing, and I already told him to stop bringing it up, especially when he started joking about getting me diapers from my upseas. It got really tiring, and it chipped away at my self-esteem and confidence. We were with his parents celebrating New Year's Eve together when I excused myself to the bathroom. While I was getting up, he made a quick remark and said, Oh yeah, you should go quickly because we don't want any accidents like the one we had at the hospital.

You know what I mean? Then he winked at me. His family actually laughed and my brother-in-law commented, Good one! I was astonished and so angry and ashamed. I literally just lost it on him and yelled at the top of my lungs, calling him a cruel and sensitive jerk to be using the difficult experience of birthing his child as a joking matter and humiliating me in front of everybody. He was shocked, staring back at me and not saying a word.

Everyone went silent, and I just stormed off to the bathroom until we left. When we left, he snapped, saying that I messed up by talking to him like that in front of his family during dinner. I said that I couldn't hold my tongue for that long, and after he got joking about an embarrassing thing when I told him to stop, he said that he was just joking and that I went overboard with my reaction. And also, I should have just sucked it up and waited till we got homes we could address this privately. And then I could even yell at him for as long as I wanted. We argued

about it after we got home, and he kept saying that I humiliated him in front of his family during the celebratory evening by being petty and trying to one up him. He even said that I should have laughed along and not fly off the handle like that. Did I overreact? OP, so it's okay for him to embarrass you in front of your family, but it's not okay for you to embarrass him in front of his family? OP, your husband wasn't being funny. He was just being mean and cruel. This story's really easy OP, you get 0 out of 5 buttholes. Your husband gets 2.5 out of 5 buttholes. Am I the butthole for telling my daughter to get over herself?

I was blessed with 3 beautiful children, and unfortunately, my oldest, broke, passed away when she was 5. It rocked my world, and I know that I haven't been the same since. I went through therapy and I still attend therapy to this day, but a part of me died too. I will never let my daughter be forgotten. I bring pictures over to events such as holiday celebrations and birthdays. I talk about her all the time. Every year, on my living children's birthdays,

I think of her and how her younger siblings are now older than her. My daughter, Marny, is getting married next month. I asked her if she was having a memorial table, and she said no. I asked her to set aside a seat for her sister who passed because she should still be a part of the day. Marney told me no, that for once she wants a day about her.

She says that she's never had one event that wasn't about Brooke. Even at Marney's graduation, I had put a picture of Brooke on a seat. She said that I need to stop making my grief front stage. I told her that she was being incredibly selfish, and until she goes through a loss like this, she'll never understand. Marney asked me if her kids would have to live under the shadow of Brooke too. I told her she should be ashamed and to get over herself. My son says that I'm being terrible and I need to reevaluate my life.

Am I the butthole? Yes, OP, you are the butthole. I get that you're grieving and you're grieving in your own way, but you're basically shoving in and everyone else's face, including your other kids. I'm going to read this post from Victorian platypus because the way they say it is just absolutely perfect. You do realize that you've made your living children feel like they don't matter, right? You're the butthole.

I can't imagine your loss, but you've hurt your two living children by never allowing them to move on. And in your fear of having broke forgotten, you've insured that they resent her memory. O.P. I agree. Marny gets 0 out of 5 buttholes. You get 3 out of 5 buttholes. That was our slash of my the butthole, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new reddit podcast episodes every single day.