rSlash - r/Amithedevil I Destroyed All Pics of my Husband's Dead Wife

Episode Date: May 9, 2024

0:00 Intro 0:09 Mental health 2:47 Comment 3:15 Extreme jealousy 7:41 Butthead 10:13 Dumb worry 13:23 Cheater ultimatum Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To support sustainable food production, BHP is building one of the world's most sustainable potash mines in Canada. Essential resources responsibly produced. It's happening now at BHP, a future resources company. Spring is here and you can now get almost anything you need for your sunny days delivered with Uber Eats. What do we mean by almost? Well, you can't get a WellGroom Lawn delivered, but you can get a chicken parmesan delivered. A cabana? That's a no. But a banana? That's

a yes. A nice tan? Sorry, nope. But a box fan? Happily yes. A day of sunshine? No. A box of fine wines? Yes. Uber Eats can definitely get you that. Get almost, almost anything delivered with Uber Eats. Order now. Alcohol in select markets. Product availability may vary by regency. App for details. Welcome to r slash Am I the Devil where OP seems to be happy that his wife was assaulted. Our next reddit post comes from r slash Legal Advice. My wife and I are undergoing a divorce. We've been separated for 18 months and we have two children. We're currently fighting over custody.

She has a lawyer and I'm working with an advisor. The lawyer sent me over all these questions that are ridiculous, but I filled out what my advisor said to and when my wife sent hers back, hers mentioned being treated for emotional distress about a year back after she was R-worded, as in sexual assault. Can I bring this up in court as possibly having an ill effect on the kids or her putting herself in dangerous situations or that she sought therapy? Can I request more information on it? Like whether or not she was prescribed antipsychotics or whether or not she was hospitalized? Could- Oh my god, whoa! What is this sentence? Alright guys, I'm gonna do my best to get through this one.

Could her having been rekt help me get full custody? I should also note that... I'm sorry, I shouldn't laugh. Man, I was... Okay. Who? This guy. Alright, okay.

I should also note that I think the children would be better with me because I know the night that I asked her for a divorce, she did make a suicidal comment, which she later denied as merely a comment made in a stressful moment. I have that recorded. Could I use that in court? I just don't want the kids to be there if and when she does decide to finally off herself. She's a terrible person. Don't feel sorry for her.

She was nothing but cruel to me during our marriage. Alright, let's be clear, Opie. I literally just don't believe you. Don't feel sorry for her. She was nothing but cruel to me during our marriage. Alright, let's be clear, OP. I literally just don't believe you. You say your wife is a terrible person. Maybe she is. I think it's very clear that you are... God, what's the word? Heartless. Just completely lacking human empathy. The fact that you would bring up someone's sexual assault in court? Air that dirty laundry in front of her kids,

in front of your own children, just to get your way, just to punish her. And can I use that to my advantage in some way? Yo, dude, what is going through your head right now? If anything, OP, I hope your wife sees this post and uses this post against you. If there's any silver lining in this story, there's a couple of not super interesting stories in the comments where people say that they went through similar events with like

their dad or their husband or whoever who wanted to badmouth the wife in front of the judge to get full custody and it always backfired. So maybe this guy's like, uh, your honor, my stupid wife got sexually assaulted, so I deserve the kids, and then hopefully the judge ripped him a new one. Also I gotta read this story from Adventurous Mix in the comments. My father 100% would have done this. He tried to use my mother's previous history of ovarian cysts against her, but that backfired when she had proved that she was the only

one paying for and taking care of the house during her surgeries and recoveries. Not to mention, after she had a football sized cyst removed, he pulled a bar stool to the stove that night and told her that he wanted spaghetti. Our next Reddit post comes from r slash relationships. I met my husband 4 years ago and it was love at first sight. He was a widower and he has a daughter who's now 17. It was tough to deal with, I won't lie, but I wanted to be with him so badly that it didn't matter.

We got married two years ago and we've had our struggles, I won't deny, but overall it's been a very happy, love-filled marriage. At the beginning of our relationship, I was really jealous of his late wife. He had pictures of her around his home, his family loved her and talked about her, and his daughter and friends thought the same thing. It was tough. I was comparing myself to her. She was beautiful, intelligent, successful.

She was a great mother, friend, wife, whatever you can think of. I know that people don't like to speak ill of the dead, but I believe them when they say these things. I did speak to my husband about these things at the time and he even took down some of the pictures later in our relationship. Still, his house never felt like it was my home as much as I felt like it was still hers. When we got engaged, we decided that we would buy our own home and we moved in right before we got married. During the moving process, I found box

after box of old photos and other materials. Photos of his ex, family photos, photos of them together, baby photos, everything. Some of these were Polaroids they were so old. They had been together for many, many years and they had so much history together. I don't know why at that moment I snapped, but I did. I threw away all the pictures of her. When we were putting up photos in the new house, I didn't put up any of her except for one with my stepdaughter. There was a box of her things and I donated some of the items and threw the rest away.

I even… Yo, what? and I donated some of the items and threw the rest away. I even, yo what, I even went onto the computer and deleted photos that he had stored on there. At the time, I felt like maybe I won. I don't even know what I was thinking this would accomplish, but I did it. For the past two years, my husband hasn't noticed. My stepdaughter turns 18 soon. She's a very intelligent girl. She graduated early, goes to a top tier school, and is very well adjusted for someone who

lost her mother so young. We've never been that close. I care for her, I do, but she never opened up to me and has never viewed me as a mom to her. I understand, but it hurts. Anyways, my mother-in-law wanted photos of my stepdaughter because she was putting something together for my stepdaughter. My husband went to look for the photos and as you can imagine, they weren't there. He asked me about the photos and I admitted

everything to him because I wasn't going to lie to him. He's very angry at me and he can barely look at me. I've asked him to go to marriage counseling, but he refuses. I'm 13 weeks pregnant and I'm trying to manage the stress. He's devastated, not just for his daughter, but for himself. I know that he loved his late wife very much and if she was still there, he'd probably still be with her. Half the time when he speaks to me, he's in tears and he won't even sleep in the same room as me.

I've tried to explain that I felt guilty ever since I did it and why I did it, but he just doesn't care. He asked me, what am I supposed to tell my daughter? Some of the items that I donated or threw away were really important. I know that I screwed up. I know that I need to make this up to my husband and his daughter, but I don't know how to. This was such a monumental screw up on my part. I've always been jealous of her and I didn't handle my emotions correctly.

I've tried to track down photos of her by other people and while I did find some from his parents and her family, her parents died when she was young and she was raised by her grandparents who are now dead. There aren't many pictures out there. Reddit, I love my husband and I want to fix this more than anything. I know that I'm hormonal right now and my mind is wandering around to every outcome that could happen, but what if this is the end of my marriage? I can't let this happen and I need to fix this!" What a cruel, spiteful, downright evil thing to do. Destroying all memories of a dead woman and punishing her husband and daughter just to, what, make yourself feel better temporarily?

Saying, oh I snapped, so I carefully searched the entire house for photos, then logged into the computer and deleted photos there. Yo, that's not snapping, that's just deciding. Am I the butthole for being honest with my daughter regarding her coding ability? I'm a 36 year old man and I've been a web developer for many years now and I have lots of experience. About a year ago, my 9 year old daughter suddenly decided that she wanted to learn coding. She asked me to teach her. I declined and explained that it's complex and I don't have the time and I would burn out from

doing that after work because it's tough. But she was free to learn on her own. We have a white list of sites that she can access on her laptop so we weren't afraid of her searching the web. She did teach herself some C++ which is not a language I've used in years, and it's a bit outdated and not the simplest to pick up. It's been a year and she now calls herself Princess Programmer and it's a little cringy and she likes to wear a nice dress or skirt while working on some simple games she makes. Recently, she overheard one of my work meetings and learned what code reviews are and asked me to do one on her newest game while claiming that the Princess Programmer wrote it very well and expects it to be very good.

I noticed many issues like bad variable naming conventions, code duplication, using if condition return instead of just returning the condition. I told her the quality sucked compared to production code and it'd be easier to rewrite than fix it. I told her that if she wanted to learn more, it'd be easier to rewrite than fix it. I told her that if she wanted to learn more, she could rewrite it with my advice and that programming is serious and not a game. And she should stop with the outfits and the princess programmer stuff and maybe try an easier language than C++. She cried and threw a tantrum and is upset at me because I was too mean. Now my wife is also upset at me and says that I should have lied and said that her work was good and told her how to make it better.

My wife did do coding in college, but she doesn't do much of it for her job these days. Am I the butthole here? Wow. Okay, uh... OP, does trashing on a nine-year-old girl make you feel like a big man? I'm almost relieved that the girl wants to do coding instead of like, I don't know. Like, what if OP had a son and the son's like, Hey dad, teach me how to wrestle. And OP's like,

YOU THINK YOU CAN WRESTLE ME?! And just picks up the kid and throws him into the coffee table? Buddy, she's nine! She's a little girl! Who cares if she wants to wear a skirt when she programs? Who cares if she's not putting out professional level coding of someone with ten years of experience in the professional coding field? Of course she's not! She's nine! Man, what a... what a psychopath! Am I the butthole for being devastated that my child will not be the first grandchild?

My husband and I are much younger than his oldest brother, my brother-in-law and his wife. My husband is the youngest of three and I am the oldest in my immediate family. I was the first grandchild on my mother's side and my father's side. As a firstborn and the first for many things, I've always had the pressure to do things first. I want my life to work out according to my goals and that can cause this irrational underlying competition between me and whatever blocks those

goals. One of my issues is the fear slash realization that this is the only life that I get and I want to have the most experiences I can have, like be the mother of the first grandchild. To explain, I hate the idea of my sister-in-law getting the pride and love of being the one to bear the first grandchild. As a first grandchild myself, I believe that there is definitely an emotional bias from the family. The first is always most special to family members. Both the first pregnancy announcement and the firstborn baby itself are always deemed

much more special and exciting. I've always seen myself as the one who will get pregnant first and the one to have the first baby. Basically, be the one to become a mother first. I love my husband and I never want to leave him or cause his family pain over something so stupid and something that he has zero control over. But I literally cannot cope with the fact that my sister-in-law will likely have the first baby.

In my opinion, I'm currently favored a bit by the in-laws. But I'm scared that my future child and my husband and I will be brushed off once my sister-in-law gets pregnant. I don't want to deal with this disappointment that I put on myself. The part that makes this so frustrating is that my sister-in-law and brother-in-law are almost past the healthy age to even be trying for children. They waited to start their lives so late, and it's annoying that I have to face these issues so late because they should have been trying over 5 years ago. But due to career issues, extreme debt and poor life planning, they haven't had any children yet. Part of me wishes

they would just get to it so I can rip the bandaid off. But also, part of me still hopes that I can still have that joy from the initial expectation that I had for myself. I want to experience the initial joy as being the first mother in this generation of the family. Grandchildren. But the timing is simply not in my favor. Birthdays are a huge thing in their family and I just know this will be a big deal. I'm just saddened that I likely won't get to have

that experience and that the baby I have won't be received the same way as the first because of the shock factor will be long gone by then. I'm just grieving the future that I planned, I guess. So am I the butthole for being so upset about not having the first grandchild? Wait, hold up, is no one pregnant in this entire story? Is OP bitter and angry and complaining about something that literally hasn't happened yet and there's no indication that it's going to happen anytime soon either? And is her whole argument just, I'm sad because I might not get special treatments? What if you just treated all family members equally? So does this mean that if OP has multiple kids, then she'll favor her first

kid the most and all the other kids to come after will just be forgotten nobodies? Am I the butthole for demanding that my parents uninvite my ex-wife and ex-best friend from their garden party? I'm a 32 year old man and I've been divorced from my ex-wife, Elle, who's 32 for four years. It was not a nice thing. She and my ex-best friend, Silas, who's 25, have been married for 3 years and have a 1 year old baby. My parents and Elle's parents were long time family friends and that relationship didn't stop after our divorce. My parents are hosting their yearly garden party, which is just an excuse for them to

catch up and gossip with the other seniors. I was visiting my parents when they told me that Silas and Elle would be in town and they were invited to the garden party. My parents can't wait to meet their baby. I told them, no, they're not coming. My parents didn't budge and said that they wouldn't be rude enough to retract an invitation after Ella and Silas agreed. I said, no one wants their ex-wife at their parents' party. My parents said that I could be polite for one day. They said they really want to meet the baby and catch up with them.

I made an ultimatum that it was either me or them. I would not attend if they came. My parents called me a butthole for making them choose because Silas and Elle hadn't asked for it and potentially making Elle's parents think badly of them. Am I the butthole? And relevant details is that in the comments, OP admits to cheating on his wife, so that's why they got divorced. OP writes, At a work party, it got a little out of hand and I accidentally kissed a coworker. I realized that what I was doing was a mistake and I immediately pulled back. It was a

half second of our lips touching at most. A co-worker told my wife and she immediately threw me out of the house with no warning and filed for separation. Silas moved in a few months later. They get married and pop out a miracle baby that my parents fawn over. Well, it's hard to have sympathy for a cheater. That was r slash mi the devil and if you liked this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.