rSlash - r/Amithedevil I Tried to Starve a 90-year-old Grandma to Death

Episode Date: January 27, 2025

0:00 Intro 0:08 Diet 2:31 France 4:24 Excluded 6:16 Speaking terms 9:41 Insecurity 13:21 Comment 13:26 Silly nicknames Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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I've been away from my midwestern suburb for a number of years. I'm taking a professional sabbatical this year and I've rented a house at home. My grandmother is 91 and absolutely insists on living alone so several relatives have a schedule of 3 or 4 days when they make sure she's fed, clean, the heat is on, etc. I'm happy to volunteer for a shift. I was horrified to learn that all she eats is frozen fish sticks, Reese's cups, and Sprite. That's it.

Three meals a day, that's all she eats. I'm not a doctor nor a nutritionist, but my job requires me to be physically active, and I know that a human can't live on processed fish and candy. I told her that we had to do something about this. She told me to let her live her life and if she passes from the food, she's okay with it. I made her a really nutritious meal and instead of being appreciative, she refused to eat. In fact, she didn't eat anything for the… whoa… for the entire three days I was watching her.

It was like dealing with a petulant kid. I dug in my heels and so did she. My mom was taking over this morning and the group chat we used exploded and everyone thinks that I'm the butthole because I didn't feed her. I tried to explain that no, my grandma made the choice to not eat. Their basic point was that she's 91 and she can eat whatever she wants. I'm sorry. I can't believe this guy actually posted this online thinking people would agree with him. She's 91 and she can eat whatever she wants and they have no idea how hard they work to find food that she would eat at all.

I said what I thought and it looked like a cascading wall of text from my six relatives calling me essentially a butthole. So I guess I may be fired. Look, you guys, I'm also not a doctor or a nutritionist, but I would have to imagine that not having food for three days at the age of 91 is kind of a problem. Man, imagine starving. That's so crazy.

Imagine starving a sweet old lady to death because you have a thing against Reese's cups. This kind of feels like attempted murder, almost not murder, manslaughter. Our next Reddit post is from maincopy. So I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend, Greg, for about two years. He has three younger siblings, Matt, who's 23, Amy, who's 21, and Tina, who's 19. All of them are still in college and still live at home with their mom and dad, while my boyfriend and I rent an apartment. This summer, his parents will be

celebrating their 30th wedding anniversary in France where they had their wedding. They plan on getting first-class tickets, a high-end hotel, etc. One night, Greg and I were supposed to have dinner with his family. While we were at their house, Tina mentioned how excited she was for this summer and all the things they plan to do in France. Since this is an anniversary trip for her parents, I suggested to Tina that she could do her parents a solid and maybe stay back home and out of their parents' hair to give their parents time away from their kids this summer. Or she could maybe pay her own way so her parents could save money.

Tina asked me why she would give up a trip to France. I told her it would be a nice gesture for her parents' anniversary. I kept trying to tell her how nice it would be and how her parents would probably thank her for giving them space. At some point, Matt interrupted us and told me to stop meddling in family affairs, that I was overstepping, and to either apologize for pressuring Tina or to leave the house. I told him that I didn't mean to make anyone upset, but when their dad came into the living room and asked them what was wrong, they told him everything.

He then asked me to leave his house and said that I probably shouldn't come back anytime soon because I was overstepping, and he found it rude that I was making up a problem and pressuring Tina to solve it. Me and Greg went back to our apartment and we haven't been speaking. Where do I go from here? I can't help but notice that OP kind of arbitrarily singled out Tina but not any of the other siblings, which makes me think that OP is just jealous of Tina getting a free vacation to France and OP is causing problems where there don't need to be any problems.

Our next reddit post is from TrickAole. Am I the butthole for excluding my daughter-in-law from the holidays? Last year, my daughter-in-law emailed me proof of my son being involved in an extramarital affair with a co-worker of his and tried to ask for advice. The messages my son sent were extremely graphic and not something I needed to see about my son. As far as anyone knows, the affair never went beyond graphic messages back and forth, but my son and my daughter-in-law were separated for a time. They got back together over the summer despite my disapproval of the situation, as she could

have ruined his career with those messages. My son worked very hard to get to where he is at that company, and that's something I take a lot of pride in. When I explained my disapproval of them getting back together, he explained that there was nothing to blame his wife for and that he was in a bad spot and should have gotten help instead of speaking inappropriately to a co-worker. I told him his wife would no longer be allowed at any family gatherings as I can't stand to be in

the same room with her after what she sent me. She embarrassed us with those messages and she almost ruined my son. Now he's extremely upset that I won't allow her around for the holidays and is considering refusing to come to dinner since he doesn't want her spending the holidays alone, as she has no other family besides him. Both of her parents are gone and she's an only child, which I can understand would make the holidays lonely. But I can't get over the embarrassment. Am I in the wrong for not wanting her around? What?

OP can't get over the embarrassment of reading a message? How do you think she felt? How embarrassed do you think she was seeing these messages from her husband to another woman? If OP should be embarrassed of anyone, it's himself and his own son. Or herself. I don't know if OP is the mother or the father in this situation. Our next Reddit post comes from r slash relationship advice.

I need advice on how to rebuild a relationship with my only daughter. I want to start off by saying that I know I was the one who ruined our relationship, but it's been three years already. I just don't see why she can't come around. I miss her terribly and she's my one and only girl, my only child. I should explain that I, a 43 year old man, married my current wife, who's 21 three years ago. That is a 22 year age gap. The age gap of 22 years is actually older than his wife's age of 21 years. This has caused quite some backlash from my friends, my community,

some of my family members, my ex, and of course, my daughter. But I had to marry my wife. She's the only one for me. She's beautiful. She's intelligent. She's a kind and caring woman. I knew my daughter would have some problems with the marriage, but I never expected how harsh she could have been. She begged me to end this marriage. She pleaded with my wife to leave me. I had to admit, I'm not proud of myself, but I told her, oh Jesus, I told her that I wished she was never born, that I resented her and that she meant nothing to me. I already had a rocky relationship with my daughter. She never approved of my relationship with my wife, but we would at least have a talking

relationship. Since that day, she hasn't spoken to me since. If I'm being honest, I miss her and I decided to check her up on social media, see how she was doing. She's engaged. I'm her father and I found out about my own daughter's engagement through social media. That was when I knew I'd made a serious mistake. I don't want to miss out on any more of her milestones in life.

I contacted her through social media, but she blocked me. I want to reach out to her again. I want her back in my life, but I need advice. Also predictably, people are bashing OP for, you know, this significant age gap between him and his wife and he's defending himself in an edit. Everything about our relationship had been legal and there was clear consent. I met her when she was 18. We dated for a total of 8 months before we got married.

She's always been more reserved and shy, so we agreed on an elopement. I'm not planning on having any more children in the near future. As for the relationship between my wife and my daughter, they weren't enemies. They were simply friends. She had started coming o- oh my god, she was the daughter's friend?! She had started coming over and a relationship between us naturally developed. She was skeptical at the very beginning, but I truly love her and I know that she feels the same.

I must also say, my wife is an adult woman, she's not some baby. The way that a lot of you consider her to be a child is frankly disturbing and hurtful towards her. She can make her own decisions and she chose to be with me. Why else has she stayed by my side for three years? I'm reading the comments in the thread and I'm actually surprised that everyone is talking about the age gap. And yeah, the age gap is really jarring. I can understand why that would, you know, drive a wedge between OP and his daughter. But the real problem is telling your own child, I wish you'd never been born. There's no coming back from that. That bell cannot be unrung. That is a relationship destroying sentence. If either of my parents said that to me, I genuinely don't think I would ever talk to them again. Our next reddit post comes from r slash relationship advice.

I'm a 27 year old guy and I think my girlfriend, who's 26, is going to break up with me. I'm in the most loving and giving relationship with my girlfriend of 3 years. I just need advice because she messaged me this morning asking to talk and I think she's going to break up with me. It started a couple of months ago when we were at the mall and she saw a ring from a jeweler that she really liked. She makes good money and the ring would be pennies for her to buy. When the salesman started talking to her eager for the sale, I blew my fuse a bit and started

walking off. My girlfriend followed me and asked where I was going and I got pissed and snapped something like, I get that you want to buy the stupid f-ing ring so go buy it and stormed away from her. She tried to hold my hand and say something but I shook her away and left. She ended up taking a taxi home because I drove us. We eventually made up. I drove to her house and told her to come outside. I explained myself that it made me insecure and emasculated a bit for her to outright buy a $300 ring, and it made me feel bad that I couldn't buy that for her. I'm between jobs. She forgave me.

A month after that, we got into another fight because we were out shopping and a guy came up to her while she was waiting for me to come back from the washroom and was obviously flirting with her. She politely turned him away and stated she had a boyfriend. This happens so frequently that it really made me stew over all the times it's happened and I did something that I acknowledge was wrong. We were at a candle store and some workers were speaking to me and flirting a little. I reciprocated in front of my girlfriend. She didn't say anything.

When we were in the car, I sarcastically asked if she liked how it felt to see some random people flirt and come onto your partner in public in front of you. She didn't say anything again. The breaking point was when I picked a fight over the same thing two nights in a row. We were at my place and she asked if I wanted to go out to eat and I said that I was craving this fast food place. She said that she was just going to rest her eyes while I got dressed and ready. She closed her eyes for maybe 10 minutes and I ended up telling her that I really should save money and that we didn't have to go out.

She insisted and I snapped a bit and said that I wanted to save money, that I didn't have a cushy job like her. She didn't say anything, but once again asked if I wanted to go and I refused. So she left. I got really angry and started texting her that she knew I really wanted to go get food from that place, that I was starving and why couldn't she have just gone and taken me? It was irrational, I admit. We ended up making up after that fight. The next night, she was driving me home and she asked if I wanted anything to eat. I said no and reminded her that I'd rather save my money since I was unemployed.

She acknowledged that and dropped me off at home. When she left, I blew up her phone with texts telling her she didn't care about me or anyone else. That she was selfish, that I was starving, and that I wanted food, and that now it was nearly midnight and I had to cook myself a meal. She snapped back and asked if that meant that she was supposed to cook me a meal at midnight. And I called her and screamed that I shouldn't have to beg my girlfriend to make me a meal and spend time with me. She hung up with me. She hung up on me.

I apologize the same night. She texted me and said she wants to talk. And she's coming over this afternoon. I am terrified. How do I rectify the situation? How do I apologize? How do I keep my relationship? The insecurity is just dripping out of OP's post.

I like this reply down in the comments from AstroPastroGirl. Bit of a wanker, aren't you mate? Our next reddit post is from rslashamithebutface. I'm in my early 30s and male. In our office, I'm known as a bit of a jokester. Nothing mean and I don't go out of my way to prank someone or hurt someone's feelings. But I have plenty of jokes and I give lots of silly nicknames. There's a newer woman in our office. She's in her early 20s and she has a three-year-old.

They live in an RV park a few miles away from work and I've nicknamed her RV Reba. I didn't see the harm. It's just a silly nickname. I've given silly nicknames to most of my co-workers. If anyone complains about it, I just explain that I don't mean anything by it. It's just a silly thing I do and there was no reason for them to be offended. R.V. Reba wasn't thrilled with the nickname, said that it was insulting, but I explained that it wasn't intended to be. It was just something silly I came up with. She asked me to stop using it and I don't use it around her much anymore, but I think it's a silly thing to get upset about, so I still use it around others. Well,

someone reported me to HR. I got called into a meeting this morning and given a written warning to stop harassing my coworkers. I don't see how this is harassing at all. They're silly nicknames. I asked who reported me, and they said that it wasn't just one person but multiple complaints. R.V. Reba and a few others were getting coffee and I wanted to know who reported me. R.V. Reba said that she didn't know who it was, but she was glad that HR spoke to me since I wasn't listening to them asking me to stop.

I think it was probably her and one or two other co-workers who could never take a joke. I want to know exactly who it was though. A few other co-workers said that I'm already the buttface and I should let it go, but I really want to know who reported me. Would I be the buttface if I demanded to know who it was? As you might expect, OP is getting BLASTED in the comments. And what I find interesting is that he uses the EXACT same defense like a thousand different times in the comments.

I'll just read some. It wasn't even a joke though, just a silly nickname. It's just silly nicknames, but I'm just gonna stop talking with my coworkers. It was just silly nicknames, but since people are being so sensitive about it, I'll just stop. It's just silly nicknames though. They're just silly nicknames. It was never my intent to offend anyone, it's just silly nicknames.

I don't see how silly nicknames are harassment, but I'll stop. Maybe I should look for a different job. That was r slash am I the devil, and if you liked this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new reddit podcast episodes every single day.