rSlash - r/Amithedevil My Stupid Girlfriend Won't Let Me Cheat!

Episode Date: July 24, 2025

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For the past year and a half, I've had to work and then come home and do the majority of the household chores and was also treated as the nurse. We have two sons, 18 and 16, and a daughter who's 15, and they all help out. But it became expected of me to be their go-to parent on everything. A year ago, my wife pretty much stopped being able to do anything for herself. She's exceptionally rude to me and pretty much screams and cries hysterically all the time and sometimes mutters on about people who haven't been in our lives for some time. She also blames me for not being kind to her when I'm putting my entire life on hold when

I'm at home. And I feel like I don't even have an identity anymore. Over the summer, I've talked to doctors, and they told me there was a lot of red tape regarding getting my wife into a nursing home. I talked to my dad, and he told me that from his understanding, if you didn't pick up a patient from discharge from the hospital, then three days later, the hospital social worker would have to place them into a specialized nursing facility. Last week, my wife had to be rushed to the emergency room.

For that week, I didn't have to be her nurse. I realized how much of a strain taking care of a barely lucid and angry when she was lucid woman had done to me. I realized that I was basically being mom and dad around the house and I was basically being mom and dad around the house and I was so tired of doing this every single day and then waking up at 6 to go to work. When I found out my wife was set to be discharged, I ended up making up my mind. When the hospital

called to say that they were going to discharge my wife and I needed to be there to receive her, I told them that I didn't want to take care of her anymore. The hospital continuously called me back, and the person on the other line would beseech me to bring my wife home. However, I stood my ground and said that my wife needed to go to a professional nursing facility and said that the hospital social workers need to figure that out. Am I the butthole for finally realizing I had reached my limits? My daughter is particularly very upset that her mom isn't coming home. My son screamed at me that they would take care of their mother 24-7 if they had to. However, I knew that the hospital's social workers would do their jobs confidently and help my wife into a facility. OP's argument

that his wife needs a full-time care facility honestly sounds true. I think she does need 24-7 professional care, but to just abandon her, to not even talk to her and say, hey, sweetie, I love you, but I got to put you in a nursing home because I can't do this is so cold. He's just abandoning her because he's like, I'm done. Forget about it. Do you take this woman in sickness and in health? I do, unless I'm tired and I don't really feel like it, in which case she's on her own. But other than that, yeah, I totally do. Our next Reddit post is from r slash relationship advice. How can I, a 39-year-old man, better communicate to my stay-at-home wife, who's

39, that she can't slack off on her share of the housework during pregnancy? First, the good things. I know my wife loves our kids. She's a good mother, as far as loving them goes. The kids are at least clean and fed, though much less healthy than I'd like. And our love life is okay, all things considered, one to three times per week. When we decided to become parents, my wife and I agreed that we would make it work on a single income. I'd be the breadwinner, and she would stay at home to care for the house and the kids. However, a few months back, she became pregnant with our seventh child, and I no longer feel like she's contributing fairly to our family arrangement. I've tried talking to her about it several times, but nothing changes.

I've made many sacrifices so we can continue to support our family on a single income. But she seems to have slacked off to the point of unsustainability ever since entering her second trimester of pregnancy. Here's some examples. I frequently come home to her lying down on the couch while two of the toddlers, ages two and three, are throwing food everywhere or getting into things, ruining the living room carpet or making messes in other areas of the home. She often falls asleep at night before finishing kitchen cleanup.

She's been buying more easy-bake frozen dinners for the family instead of cooking real food. The kids snack all day and are getting way too much screen time on both iPads and regular TV. Despite me asking her to spend more time reading to them and go back to preparing scheduled meals, she isn't as involved in their schoolwork. The younger kids regularly get into things like craft supplies and make a huge mess. Things like sweeping, mopping, and vacuuming don't seem to be done regularly anymore.

And I often get frustrated with the mess and end up doing it myself after working a very long day. I should clarify that her pregnancy hasn't had any notable high risk factors that would warrant her resting more. But when I come in, she's often lying down or sitting down instead of tending to high priority messes around the house. She'll prepare food for the

toddlers, but lets the older kids mostly feed themselves for meals other than dinner. She does keep up with dishes, but recently bought paper plates, cups, and bowls, which adds to our trash burden and weekly grocery cost. I'm not sure how to more clearly let her know that this isn't okay. Another new baby is going to add even more, and her slacking off and spending so much time sitting down even before the baby's arrival is making me very worried about her ability to keep things up to a standard during that time. She continually tells me she's in survival mode, but I've clearly told her that I'm

doing my share, working long hours at a very high-stress job, and I expect her to at least handle her half. I don't expect a completely spotless house or homemade meals for every single meal, but she needs to at least reach a baseline of quality and the current situation isn't acceptable. Has anyone dealt with something similar? I'm struggling to communicate in a way that gets through to her and motivates her to go back to handling things better. I almost wish that she'd go back to work, because at least then I'd feel like she was

contributing more fairly. But I'm not sure what kind of job she'd be able to get after being home with our kids for 10 years. She's recently tried to bring in some income with freelance remote work, but it hasn't worked out in a way that's made a difference so far. How can I better motivate her or better communicate my frustration about this? This is not okay. Did you guys catch that detail about the trash burden?

When he says trash burden, what he means is he's the one who has to take out the trash. That's one of his few chores around the house. So instead of, I don't know, two bags of trash a week, it's now two and a half bags of trash a week and that's a burden on him, which is unfair. Ha! This comment, the only trash burden in that house is OP. OP says that he has a high stress, difficult job, and maybe he does in all fairness, but I'm struggling to imagine what job is more stressful than raising seven kids. While being pregnant, by the way. Maybe one of those insanely dangerous jobs where people die all the time, like deep sea

Alaskan fishermen where you're out getting rained on in negative 20 degree weather, or the deep sea welders who are fixing pipes 50 meters below the surface of the water and they have to spend half the time in compression hyperbaric chambers or they'll die. Those jobs might be more difficult than raising seven kids at once. But let's be real, OP is probably just like a car mechanic or, you know, an office worker. Not to say those jobs aren't stressful, but I would take those jobs any day of the week over raising seven kids while pregnant. Our next Reddit post comes from r slash relationship advice. I'm a 30 year old guy and my girlfriend is 27.

Is my girlfriend selfish for not letting me sleep with a girl that I met during an open phase? Six months ago, I brought up the idea of trying an open relationship with my girlfriend. We've been together for three years, and while I love her deeply, part of me felt like I was missing out on something sexually since she was my first and only girlfriend, while SHE had many exes. I didn't want to wake up one day at 45 and have regrets. She was shaken and asked me if I was unhappy with her.

I said no, that I loved her, that it wasn't about us. I gave her every reassurance I could think of. After a week of long conversations and hesitation, she said that she was open to trying it with rules. Six months only, no catching feelings, no mutual friends, protection always, and no lying. She seemed a bit reluctant, but said that she would accept it if we absolutely respected those rules.

I was excited and grateful that she agreed. At first, nothing really happened. She went on with her normal life. I was swiping, chatting, getting nowhere. Then one Friday night, she told me she was going out with some friends from work. She came back late, like 1am. The next day, she told me she hooked up with a guy that she met through a coworker. It just kinda happened. She said it felt strange, but okay. I tried to act cool, supportive even, as I didn't want her to feel

uncomfortable and end it prematurely. From then on, she got more active. The next week, she was already seeing someone from her gym. She wasn't secretive about it, she told me when or where she'd go. I tried harder, using all the dating apps, going to bars, even signed up for salsa classes, but I just didn't click with anyone. I had a few dates, but I just didn't click with anyone. I had a few dates, but none went anywhere. No passionate hugging, nothing. Meanwhile, she met more guys, coming back later more often. I figured she was on Tinder too, as I saw her profile while swiping.

Eventually, she stopped telling me who or where. She would just send me don't wait up texts and I understood. Time went by and it became a routine. I started losing hope while she continued seeing people. She didn't flaunt it or anything, she just wasn't around as much. She also stopped texting me when she was out. One weekend, she didn't come back until Sunday night and just casually said it was easier to stay over. No apology. I won't lie, it stung. By the end of the six months, she had slept with multiple guys, some flings, some regulars. And I still hadn't slept with anyone,

not even a kiss. But then, finally, I met someone promising on Hinge. She was cute, fun, we went on a coffee date, and she even accepted the open relationship thing. She seemed to genuinely end me, and for the first time in half a year, I felt that kind of sexual spark again. She had a seminar abroad, but she invited me over for a weekend when she comes back. Except that weekend is a couple of months after our six-month agreement ends. I thought it was no big deal, so I asked my girlfriend if we could extend the open relationship just a little for me to explore this one chance I have, since she got to explore so many. I wasn't asking for another six months, just a bit more time, but to my surprise, she refused.

She said she understands that it's frustrating for me, but we already agreed on a time limit and I don't get to change the rules now. I said, yeah, but I finally found someone after six months. I just needed a little more time to follow through. And it's unfair for her to have had so many experiences while I didn't have any. I just didn't want to walk away from this whole thing empty handed. But she said no, insisting that we agreed on rules, and she made us delete the apps. Now the open relationship's over, and we're back to being exclusive. She's acting like everything is normal, but I feel used and bitter. I can't

stop thinking about all the nights that I was alone in bed while she was out getting attention and passionate hugging. And now that I finally found someone, she says it's over after getting everything that she wanted out of it. I can't help but think that this situation is unfair and she's being selfish. OP, you feel used? Why would that be? Sounds to me like no one wanted to use you at all. This comment from HaJinLi. This moron wanted to see what he was missing out on and is shocked Pikachu face that most of what he was missing out on was sitting at home alone. Our next reddit post is from r slash relationship advice. My wife and I have been married for five years.

I'm the main provider while she's a stay-at-home mom to our toddler. My wife prepares amazing meals, takes major responsibility for the household while I work. I generally feel that my wife thinks that our work division is alright and sustainable since I do housework on weekends. With my responsibilities around laundry, vacuuming, home maintenance, repairs, car maintenance, and some regular chores here and there. I'm not discounting what my wife does for our family, and I try to check in with her if she finds our division fair. My wife seeks appreciation from me for her cooking, and I would happily do so

because I love everything she cooks. However, one of my love languages is also verbal affirmation, and I never seem to come up with a good enough justification for seeking that praise for myself. She thinks that since she's doing a major sacrifice, by her own accord, to raise our child and being a homemaker, she's deserving of praise. I don't see how me being the sole earner isn't good enough. I don't think it's supposed to be a competition of who does more or if that's even the case. In my opinion, we're both equally important and we won't be able to run a household without the other's support and contribution. I find her take very silly and backwards. I talk to my wife that I also want to feel loved through appreciation for what I do.

It would be nice to hear my wife tell our toddler, Daddy does so much for our family. Let's tell him we love him so much for that. That would just make my day. I'm not the kind of person who needs a thank you for doing a chore. I just need genuine appreciation for what value I bring to our family. Whenever I suggest this to my wife, she says that I'm just doing my job and shouldn't expect anything transactional for doing my share of responsibility. One thing to address is my wife never used to be like this and I know what could have happened.

Her best friend just filed for divorce from her husband who was lazy and left her to do the heavy lifting. This naturally made her bitter and she's been venting to my wife. And I believe that what my wife is doing is just a projection. I tried to talk to her about this and how she's been venting to my wife. And I believe that what my wife is doing is just a projection. I tried to talk to her about this and how she's hurting our marriage, but she just missed me. Now some resentment was brewing inside of me too. And just last night, my wife made an elaborate meal.

I knew she expected me to acknowledge that, but I simply sat down and started eating it right away without eliciting any kind of reaction. She stared at me and asked me if I appreciate her and I shot back, Why should I? You're the homemaker and this is your job. You're supposed to do this. Yeah, it was really petty and a part of me wanted to give her a taste of her own medicine.

I probably wouldn't have reacted that way had my wife not repeatedly dismissed me, and in the moment it felt justified. However, this caused a huge fight with a lot of painful words exchanged and she left to stay at her mom's place. She wanted to kick me out, but I told her in no uncertain terms that I'm not the one leaving. I'm okay around her, and if she has a problem, she can go. I'm not leaving my own house that I provide for too. I just feel taken for granted and don't want to continue feeling that way because what I do is supposed to be my job without any gratitude. Is it really that difficult to just show love to your wife nowadays?