rSlash - r/Amithedevil Son Found Out I'm a Cuck

Episode Date: September 23, 2026

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Welcome to R.S. Am I the Devil, where O.P.'s wife sleeps with her son's friend. Our next Reddit post comes from R. slash non-monogamy. Five days ago, my son, who's 20, came home from college, claiming his mother was cheating on me with one of his classmates. I was completely caught off guard. He said that a classmate was bragging to a mutual friend. my son's friend who's been to our house many times about hooking up with an older woman. Then the classmate showed Mike a picture of the woman, and it was my wife. Mike didn't say anything to the classmate, but he called my son immediately. My son came home furious, convinced my wife was cheating.

I stepped out under the excuse of picking up dinner, which I actually did, and I called my wife to tell her what happened. She started panicking and said she was scared to come home to face him. I told her we had to come clean. and explained the truth. That night, we sat down for a family meeting. My son was already yelling, asking why we were pretending when he knew the truth. I asked him to calm down and let us talk. I told him that my wife and I opened our marriage five years ago, that we both see other people occasionally, and that we still love each other and are committed to our open marriage and our family. My wife

apologized for him finding out this way and said that she would be more careful in choosing partners. My son said that he needed time to process this and went to bed. My wife cried afterwards, saying he would never accept us. I told her to give him space. The next morning, my son came downstairs for breakfast. My wife tried to hug him, and he physically pushed her away and called her a lady of the night. I told him to apologize immediately. He ignored me and asked her how many of his friends and classmates she had slept with.

When my wife tried to apologize again, he told us he couldn't respect. us anymore and called us disgusting. I warned him to watch his words, and he told me to screw myself and he left for school. My wife broke down crying. I told her to take the day off work and to not engage with him until he's ready. Since then, he's been cold and distant, barely speaking to either of us. I understand this was a huge shock to him, but the insult and disrespect towards his mother are not okay. We don't want to lose our son over this. We're still the same parents who raised him, and nothing about our love for our family has changed, then OP posted an update.

So a lot has happened these past few weeks. My son wanted to tell my parents about the situation. I had to threaten to remove funding for his college to prevent him. He went to individual therapy, and we did family therapy a week ago. The house has been cold and distant. My son recently opened up to us four days ago. He told us he feels extremely anxious going to college,

because he's afraid Mike might have told someone. He apologized for what he called his mother. He said he isn't inherently against our open relationship, but found it disturbing we would hook up with people not only his age, but people he also has mutual connections with. He told us that his mother's actions could still potentially affect his social life. He let out a lot of feelings he seemed to have kept to himself for a while. My son said that he noticed there was a disconnect between him and us when he was around 14 years old.

Initially, he thought that it was because he was becoming more independent, but he feels now there was more going on. He told us we were too focused on our lives outside of the family. My son would notice how his friends would have their parents practically beg them to hang out with them. Meanwhile, he never felt seen as much compared to his friends. He thinks it's because of our open relationship that we're not that close to him. We ask what he wants from us going forward. He said, for the sake of his mental health, he needs time away. from us. He mentioned he holds too much resentment to be around us. My son isn't going to continue his

college in the spring semester. He's going to work full time and apply to transfer to an out-of-state school for the next fall semester. I'll be honest, I don't like this idea, but I told him we would talk about it later, especially when it comes to funding. My son replied that he isn't comfortable getting help from us for school. He wants to take out loans. My wife isn't taking it well. I'm not taking it well either. I honestly hope my son will change his mind in the future. Then another update. Nine months later, I can finally give an update. Unfortunately, things have gotten worse. My son followed through with almost everything he said he was going to do. He did not return to college for the spring semester. Instead, he moved out, got a full-time job, and spent the last several months

working and applying to transfer schools. He was accepted to an out-of-state college and has just started his fall semester there. The part I was not prepared for is that he seems happier than he has been in a very long time. At first, my wife and I assumed the distance would be temporary. We thought that once he had time away from us, he might eventually want more contact. Instead, the opposite seems to have happened. The longer he's been away from us, the less he seems to want contact. For the first few months, he would occasionally answer our calls and messages. The conversations were awkward and short, but at least we had some contact. Over time, though, he started responding less and less. During that time, we didn't hear anything directly from him. We only knew that he was working and

preparing to move because of the limited information he had previously shared with us. What's been hardest is hearing about how his life has been going since he moved out. He's been working, saving money, and making his own decisions. He made friends during the months that he was working. He's continued individual therapy. Now he moved out of state and started the fall semester at the new school. We only know these things because he told us shortly before leaving. My son finally contacted us shortly before leaving for school. He said that he wanted us to understand what he wants going forward.

He said he no longer wants a close relationship. He said that during the months he'd been away from us, he realized how much anxiety he associated with being at home and around us. He said that he can finally make decisions without, worrying about how we'll react. He said that he doesn't spend as much time feeling angry anymore. That letting go of a close relationship with us has brought more peace than he's ever had before. That was probably the hardest thing he said. He told us that he wants to maintain a distant relationship with us, similar to the relationship he had with some of his extended family.

He's willing to exchange occasional messages and speak during major holidays, but he doesn't want regular calls, frequent visits, or an emotionally close parent-child relationship. He said he's done with us in a more permanent way. He was very clear that he does not want to build a close relationship with either of us. My wife is taking this very badly. She's been crying almost every day since he told us he wanted a distant relationship. She barely eats when she's upset and has lost noticeable weight. She keeps rereading his messages and scrolling through old pictures of him as a child. Several times, I found her sitting in the floor of his old bedroom, holding one of his old sweatshirts. She's also started leaving long voicemails for him, even though he asked us not to call frequently.

She says she deletes them before sending, but I've caught her recording messages late at night. She's written him several letters and bought gifts for him, although he's told us not to send packages without asking first. She keeps checking his social media and asking mutual acquaintances whether he's mentioned us. When she sees pictures of him with his new friends, she becomes visibly upset and says that he looks happier with them than he ever looked with us. She's also started blaming herself, then blaming me, then blaming other people. One day, she says that we should apologize and give him space. The next day, she says that he's been manipulated by other people and that we need to make him understand how much we love him. She's missed work twice because she was too upset to get out of bed.

She stops seeing some of her friends because she doesn't want to answer questions about him. When relatives ask how he's doing, she either starts crying or becomes angry and says they're taking his side. I've tried to convince her that repeatedly contacting him will only push him further away, but she says that doing nothing feels like abandoning him. I'm taking it badly too, although I probably don't show it as much. The thing I never expected is that giving him the space he asked for doesn't seem to have made him regret leaving. It seems to have made him happier. Nine months ago, if you told me that our son would walk away from our family,

skip a semester of college, work full time, move out of state and start a new school, and somehow end up happier than before, I would not have believed you. But that's where we are now. Well, I mean, I can't believe I have to give people this advice, but don't sleep with your son's friends. I think doing that can help maintain your relationship. And you know, they say the best revenge is a life well lived. And in this case, the son is really getting his revenge here. How bad were these parents that simply occasionally seeing him and occasionally talking to him on the phone

gave him major anxiety and made him angry all the time? What were they talking to him about? We are definitely not getting the full story here, and the parents, I'm sure, are 10 times worse than OP is letting on. Am I the butthole for using my twins photo for my dating profile? Okay, this story is about me, a 28-year-old guy. my cousin Jake, who's 27, and this girl Julie, who's 34. Our whole lives, everyone's told me and Jake that we're basically twins. Same exact coloring, same nose, similar jawline, you get the idea. I recently

re-entered the dating pool after a rough breakup. I didn't have many pictures of myself that didn't also have my ex in them, and apparently I can't take a decent selfie to save my life. So I went on social media and borrowed one from Jake. We're cool like that, so I knew that he wouldn't care. I matched with Julie, and we had some fun, flirty conversations. She was pretty, fit, clever, kind of geeky, everything I'm into. She asked for more photos, but like I said, I didn't have any. Setting up a video chat for a vibe check didn't work with the schedule, so after a week of chatting, we decided to just meet up. You guys, this was the most awkward encounter of my life. She walked in, scanned the whole room, and then took out her phone to text that she arrived but didn't see me.

I figured she had just missed me, so I went over, said, hey, Julie, and went in for a hug. She stepped out of hug range and got the weirdest look on her face. Then she held up her phone and kept looking between me and my profile photo. So I was like, why do you keep looking at my photo? And she was like, this does not look like you. And I was so thrown off, I was like, what? It's me. From back when I was playing semi-pro tennis back in India. And she was like, I'm uncomfortable, I'm going to leave.

And she just walked out. So, am I the butthole? I get that using Jake's profile picture wasn't the most ethical move. And okay, I don't play a million sports like he does. But again, everyone says we're basically twins. It was a headshot. It's not like I promised this girl eight-pack abs. and I feel like how she reacted was so rude.

Like we could have at least gotten a drink. Yo, this guy actually thinks that when someone says, whoa, you two are like twins, that they mean that literally. O.P., it's a metaphor. Like, it's just a thing people say to mean, hey, you kind of look similar. But even identical twins can be told apart if you look at them carefully, usually.

So there's no way that you and your cousin of all people are identical twins. Are you really genuinely that stupid? Or are you feigning ignorance to try to make yourself sound better? I can't tell which is worse. If you're that dishonest or if you're that stupid. Would you be okay if Julie showed up and it was a completely different woman from the pictures? Of course you wouldn't. Also, you guys want to take a guess as to whether the cousin is hotter than OP?

I can bet you money the cousin's not uglier than OP because OP would never do that and ruin his chances with an uglier profile pick. Nah, he was just catfishing with a more attractive guy. Am I the butthole for making my daughter give a graphics card she doesn't need to my son? I have a daughter who's 24 from a previous marriage with my ex, and a son who's 15 from my current marriage. My ex passed away when my daughter was 16, and she's lived with me rent-free ever since because I live close to her college. My daughter is a graduate student and earns money from her research lab.

I don't remember how much quite well, but it's a top Ivy school, so it pays quite well. My daughter pays no rent, had her college paid for by scholarships, and my ex's inheritance, which went completely to her. Recently, my son's been wanting a new graphics card for his computer, as he's an avid gamer, and his current one doesn't work well with his monitor. He knows computers quite well. My daughter recently bought herself a new computer and sold her old one in parts. According to my son, my daughter's computer has two graphics cards, and she isn't using one of them. The one she uses is from her old computer, a 5600 XT, and the one she doesn't use is a 4090.

He says because she doesn't use Windows and uses Linux, the other card is useless to her and would suit his needs, and he can exchange it with his current graphics card at 2070. I asked her to exchange it with her brother, and she refused initially, but when I reminded her about how it would be a gesture and how I don't charge her rent despite being an earning adult, she reluctantly agreed. But still lied and claimed she used it despite a monitor never being plugged in. She said she used it as it made school easier for when she's not on campus, even though she plays very few games and is usually typing text documents. However, since the exchange, she's been acting quite unpleasantly,

not saying much and banging things when she does chores. Am I the butthole here? I get that it's hers, but I feel like if it's something that came with her computer that she doesn't use, it makes sense for her to give it to my son who would actually use it to upgrade his older computer, especially since she already saves a lot on rent. O.P., are you the butthole for stealing from your daughter? Yes. Why? Because you stole from your daughter.

It's pretty simple, man. I don't know why this guy is taking the word of a 15-year-old gamer over a 24-year-old Ivy College graduate who studied computer science. I mean, if she says she needs the card, I'm inclined to believe her. Am I the butthole for lying to my wife, then girlfriend, about my politics to get her and her family to like me? This started years ago when I first started dating my wife. We had mutual friends, so I knew that we had different beliefs in a lot of areas. It wasn't an issue for me, but I was afraid that it would be for my wife, so I pretended to share her same beliefs when they were brought up for discussion. I didn't feel good about lying to her and wanted to tell her the truth.

I always planned to at some point, but it seemed like there was never a good time. Then I met her family, and they also had the same strong convictions. I wanted them to like me for the sake of my wife, with whom by that point I saw as a long-term partner and potential spouse. So I kept lying. I thought at some point maybe I could gradually open up, but the time never came. We eventually married and now have three, soon to be four kids. A friend of mine is running for a state office and asks me to a assist with his campaign recently. I told my wife I was planning to help, and she couldn't understand why I would want to be associated with his positions when he's the polar opposite of us. I tried to

explain it in many different ways, but she wouldn't let it go. So finally, I came clean and admitted I was fine with helping him because I shared his views. It's out now, and everyone's taken it surprisingly well, other than my wife. She's been the least understanding. I can understand the shock, but after 15 years of marriage and three, soon to be four kids, she knows that I love her and our family. To me, that's what's really important. I also think that what I did was understandable, since I was still a young kid at the time and was scared and didn't know how to handle the situation.

Her family can be intimidating, and I knew how much it would mean for her if they liked me. I don't think that I'm the butthole, just someone who made a few bad decisions in a misguided attempt to impress, my wife and her family. I've tried framing it that way for my wife, but she sees what I did as almost a malicious act. Am I the butthole? The top reply is, I hid parts of myself that my target wouldn't like, so by the time she found out, she'd be trapped. That was our slash am I the devil, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.