rSlash - r/Bestof Boyfriend Wants Me to be a 🌽⭐

Episode Date: April 24, 2025

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Conditions apply to all benefits. Visit pcfinancial.ca for details. Welcome to r slash best of Redditor updates, where OP's boyfriend is angry that she's not an adult actress. Our next Reddit post is from r slash Ratschlag, which as far as I can gather is German for r slash advice. I'm a 27 year old woman and I really need your advice on how to handle the situation. I work an office job and next to me sits the executive assistant, a 61 year old woman.

We do not get along well because she treats me like her daughter. I notice it every time it happens and ask her to stop, but she doesn't. Today we were in a tense meeting discussing a sensitive topic for the company. The atmosphere was already strained among the eight participants. At some point our boss suggested taking a break or calling it a day. I agreed that ending the meeting might be the better option. The assistant then looked at me weirdly and in a very aggressive tone said, Well, you sure know a lot about terminations.

There was a brief awkward silence before she immediately added, Because she had an abortion? I was completely stunned and had no idea how to react. My colleagues were just as shocked. I just wished everyone a nice weekend, left the room, and went home early. It's true that I had an abortion this year, but I have no idea how she found out. Only two people in my life know about it, and she doesn't know either of them. Regardless, I find it absolutely unacceptable to bring something like that up, especially

in a professional setting, whether it's relevant to the discussion or not. Now I'm wondering what steps I can take. We don't have a workers council. Our HR representative is based at another location and is currently on extended sick leave. Our boss sees these kinds of conflicts as personal issues that should be resolved between the individuals involved.

I plan to confront the assistant on Monday. Then the same day OP posted an update. I have an appointment with the lawyer first thing Monday morning. Since we only need a sick note from the third day of absence, I'll be calling in sick on Monday and discussing the next steps with the lawyer. I've also found the contact details of the data protection officer at the clinic. But I'll wait until my lawyer appointment to proceed with that. I really appreciate all of your support. The idea that sensitive data might have been leaked from the clinic didn't occur to me on my own, and I hadn't even considered it before.

You've all opened up a lot of options for me that I'll discuss with my lawyer on Monday. Then OP posted an update. After a thorough search online, I found out that the partner of the boss's son actually works at the clinic where I had the procedure. I strongly suspect that this is how the assistant got ahold of the information. As she regularly attends family events and birthdays of the boss's family, this seems to be the most likely explanation for how she found out. Then a week later, OP posted an update. On Monday, I had a meeting with the lawyer and it was definitely worth it. During the meeting with the lawyer, my boss called me and asked me to come to the office

for a clarifying conversation. After discussing with my lawyer, I went to the office to have the conversation. The assistant greeted me in tears and insisted that it wasn't meant like that. Yeah, I bet. I took my favorite colleague with me as a witness slash support and we entered the meeting. Given the sensitive nature of the topic, I asked for minutes to be taken, which everyone agreed to. In the conversation, my boss explained that such behavior between colleagues would not be tolerated, and the assistant had to apologize and promise that it wouldn't happen again. I then asked what consequences would follow, to which he seemed confused and asked if I

even wanted consequences since an apology was given. Naturally, I demanded consequences for the assistant and clarification about the data leak. I also told the boss that it was outrageous that he was asking if I wanted consequences instead of implementing them himself, especially when it comes to something as sensitive as spreading private information. He became a bit grumpy, but explained that it wasn't a data leak and that he had just slipped up.

When I asked where he got the information from, he bluntly admitted that he had learned about it from his daughter-in-law. He even followed up with, "...but you couldn't even tell you had the procedure." I seriously thought that I was going to flip out in that room, but fortunately, I managed to stay composed. I asked for confirmation of his statements to make sure everything was understood correctly and then had everyone sign the protocol.

I got up, wished everyone a nice day, and informed him that my lawyer would be contacting him and we'd go from there. One of the six colleagues who was in the meeting on Friday approached me afterwards, apologized for not saying anything in the moment, and wished me luck, strength, and that someone would have reacted better than he did if something like this happened again. I really appreciated that. Three days later, here's where we stand. The assistant received her third warning. I don't know where the first two came from.

Today I received confirmation that she has to leave the company. I think my boss would have preferred not to make this decision, but since the situation spread very quickly through the office grapevine, it seems to have influenced his decision. As for the clinic, the first contact was made through my lawyer. I didn't personally call or inform the data protection officer, the lawyer took care of all that. The lady at the clinic no longer works there, as the lead doctor seems to be aware of the risks. He apologized both over the phone and in writing, and I'll be receiving a nice compensation.

And with my employer, we were able to agree on a very nice severance package and the termination of my employment is happening soon. These are all nice solutions, but there are still civil and criminal proceedings ongoing, which I can't discuss right now. The lawyer is motivated to bring further consequences, especially regarding GTPR violations. All I can say is, do not tolerate this kind of treatment. Last Friday, I was completely overwhelmed and unsure how to handle it. But I received so much support and perspective, especially here on Reddit, that I was able

to navigate the situation and seek help. Man, these people are pissing me off. It's not a data leak, it's just a slip up. What do you think a data leak is but a slip up? And clearly it was intentional, right? Clearly the daughter who worked at the clinic received some hot gossip about one of her daddy's employees and she just couldn't resist sharing that information with daddy and then daddy couldn't resist sharing the information with the secretary.

So it's not a slip up. It's just gossip. Also, this whole post was translated over from German, so maybe the flow of conversation was more natural in native German, but it's such a stretch to go from maybe we should end the meeting to, oh yeah, you mean like you ended your pregnancy? What? That's like, man, I don't know. Wow, this new project we have really pisses me off. Oh, pisses you off? Like that time that you pissed your pants in front of everyone in fifth grade? Um, okay.

Our next Reddit post comes from r slash amithabudhole. Am I the butthole for telling my partner that I'll act and moan like adult stars do if he gives me the same amount of money that they receive after the shooting? My partner is an adult content addict. I know he is. Not just his phone, but his PC is full of adult content as well, and he doesn't even hide this fact. Our love life is a disaster.

He tries to do things to me that he sees in those videos. It doesn't matter how many times I told him that it doesn't feel good or that it even hurts. Sorry if this is TMI, but he does this very aggressive and rapid movement on a certain body part of mine with loads of pressure, without any foreplay, and I flinch in pain every time. I explain to him how I would like it when he tells me, normal women like it this way, or you're just too sensitive. Foreplay is non-existent. When we actually get to the act,

I have to bend like a pretzel and pull my legs at the shoulders, which I'm not able to do, which fills him with frustration, disappointment, and aggression. He told me several times I should be more flexible, like other girls. He then proceeds to tell me that he's angry about

how he has to initiate all the time. I wonder why. And every time when a love scene is on TV, he makes comments like, I'm jealous. I'm not getting ridden like that. Or, see, that's what I want. Last time, it got me so tired and frustrated. I told him those actresses in the movies get loads of money and fame at least in exchange for this role. That it's at least something for something, a business deal. Obviously, she'll act how they want her to act. Then he told me that it proves every woman just wants money to get wet just for the thought of loads more money. I told him I doubt that she was actually wet, or if any real intercourse was happening. Again, these are actors. He got furious and told me to stop gaslighting him, LMAO, and just be like a real woman. Initiate, moan loudly, act like adult

stars, basically. I told him that I will, the second he gives me the amount of money that the stars receive after the movie. Then he called me names, whore, and again accused me of being after money. I told him, if I was after money, I would have never gotten together with him. He started yelling something, but I didn't hear it anymore as I was thinking on how on earth I got together with someone like this. I don't need advice. In that moment, I just realized I don't feel anything towards him anymore and I have to leave if I want to keep my sanity and if I ever want to have a great love life. I'm leaving. Then, one week later, OP posted an update. So, after I wrote that post, I started packing my things while my boyfriend was standing

behind me, shouting like he lost his frickin mind. He told me I couldn't leave, and when I zipped my bags, he stood in front of the door and blocked it, and when I thought he couldn't sink any lower. I'll try to quote the exact last conversation that we had there. So you'll just leave because I told you what I want? No, I'm leaving because I was the one who tried to communicate several times. You command, threaten, are aggressive and belittling. Because you don't listen! I listened, but I can't give you what you want.

I'm not an adult star and you don't understand their acting. I don't want to act when I'm with someone. Not to mention that it's not real what they're doing, they're just acting. What do you mean it's not real when they're legit doing it? So you think when a guy just puts his part inside of a girl, then that's intercourse? What about the connection, the pleasure, caressing each other, the foreplay and aftercare, to connect in every way? That's not real. At this point, I just chuckled and asked him to move out of the way.

He refused. He said, So you admit money makes you enjoy it? No, but if I can't get anything enough out of our encounters and you want me to act, at least I can get the money. I won't enjoy it. I'll just act like gooners think women act. But it's not.

So if you want me to act without enjoyment and endure pain, I want to get something out of it. They enjoy it. I doubt it. I won't start explaining the exploitation of women and why exactly they go into this kind of content or all the extra work they do around the shooting. Some women enjoy being mistreated. I doubt it, but even if they do, I don't think you understand the difference between BDSM and a safe relationship and abuse.

You just don't love me and never have. You're an effing gold digger piece of whore. I hope someone messes you up. You already messed me up. He continued shouting, but at that point, I was completely numb. I am still numb. It feels like I wasted all my energy and positivity in this relationship, and I have nothing else in me.

I just asked him to move, and he finally did, but still continued to call me everything you can imagine. I think he was almost crying too. Doesn't matter, one of my friends let me stay there for a few weeks until I get my stuff together, and I'm ready in every way to start a new chapter. But I'm just numb. I think I really need a therapist. And then…

Opie writes in a edit, Yes, he has a small dong. Some people ask why I got together with him. Because he showed a different side of him. He was polite, respectful, he made me laugh, he cared about me. Until I moved in. Then everything started to change. You know, it's okay to fantasize, there's nothing wrong with having, you know, dirty

fantasies. But to think that those fantasies apply in real life is honestly psychotic. I don't get it! I ordered a pizza and the lady who delivered it didn't want my extra large sausage. Huh? I went to the bank and said I want to make a deposit and the teller didn't say, You mean in my butt? What? It doesn't make any sense!

I went to the laundromat and there were three ladies doing their laundry and none of them said, Hey, while I'm doing this load of laundry, how about I take on one of your loads too? Our next Reddit post is from rslashrelationships. I'm a 27 year old woman and my 30 year old boyfriend of 10 months flipped out when I wouldn't keep my clothes at his place anymore. We each have our own place. A few months back, my boyfriend suggested I could keep some of my personal belongings at his house, i.e. a toothbrush, two pairs of spare underwears,

and pajamas, long sleeve and pants. It made it easier in the sense that I didn't have to pack those items when I stayed over. I stay over every other weekend. However, I've noticed that when I use my PJs or undies, they'll stay in the hamper until I sleep over again. The first time I washed our clothes at his place, he said that he meant to do them, but forgot. I said no problem. But, if you don't want to do them, it's not a big deal, I'll just take my clothes

home. He said it wasn't a big deal and agreed that it is kind of gross to keep clothes around for two weeks unwashed. Nothing changed after this conversation and this continued for a few more weeks. Except I noticed that he wasn't washing his clothes either. Yesterday I became agitated that I was washing both of our dirty clothes every time I'd stay over. My time went from being with him to being with his washer and dryer while he's raiding or gaming with his friends on his PC. Normally, this type of thing wouldn't bother me, but it's two weeks worth of his clothing,

plus the PJs and undies that I wore the last time I was there. I ended up bringing all my clothes home. As soon as he noticed my clothes were missing, he flipped out. He accused me of leaving him, which was not the case at all I waited until he was done yelling and in a soft calm voice Explained to him that I didn't want to leave my clothes there anymore because they're always dirty and I wanted to clean them Furthermore, it wasn't fair of him to expect me to wash all of his clothes when I'm there I told him that when I come over I like us to hang out But I find it difficult when I'm there. I told him that when I come over, I like us to hang out, but I find it difficult when

I'm washing all of his clothes. He went on about having to work all the time. He works 10 hour days, 4 days a week. While I only go to school, I'm in a full-time post-grad program. Then he told me to grow up. The guy who wants a mommy to wash his clothes for him tells someone else to grow up okay. He hasn't spoken to me since then. I'm at a loss.

I really don't need him to wash my clothes. Having them there was supposed to be convenient. Instead, it's frustrating. What's going on? Then, five days later, OP posted an update. After three days of silence, I decided to call it quits. I tried texting him, but he wouldn't respond. Eventually, I called his cell phone and left him a voicemail explaining how deeply hurt I am that he yelled at

me and how I feel even worse now that he wouldn't respond to me. I told him I felt that it was important to me to have open and honest communication between the two of us, and since I have no idea where he is or what is happening, I assumed that we're over. I told him I wished him the best and I hope he could find some happiness and I ended the call. Three minutes later, my phone rings. It's him. I pick up and he starts bawling about how sorry he is and how he didn't want things to go that far. How all he wanted was to be able to play his games in peace but realized he also wanted me. He asked me to take him back.

I told him that he lost my trust and hurt me over a trivial thing. I told him that I need time to think about what I want. He hung up. So, it's over. Officially. Part of me is really sad, but I know that I'll get over it. Right now, I just want to focus on me, and when I do find someone, they'll know how to do their laundry.

The fact that the boyfriend called back three minutes later means he saw OP's call, ignored it and then listened to the voicemail, probably expecting her to say, I'm so sorry, I'll do your laundry so that you can raid Deathwing's lair and I'll do whatever you would and I'm so sorry, please take me back, but then realize he's the one who got dumped. That was our slash best of Redditor updates, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast,

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