rSlash - r/Bestof Boyfriend Wants to Turn Me Into Elsa

Episode Date: March 18, 2025

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With tons of free reality shows, you are totally free to watch what you love on Pluto TV. And for me, that's Dance Moms, Bar Rescue, The Challenge, and Jersey Shore. All totally free on Pluto TV. Stream now, pay never. Welcome to r slash best of redditor updates where OP's boyfriend has a massive crush on Queen Elsa of Arendelle. Our next reddit post comes from r slash justknowso. I think enough time has passed, 4 years since this relationship ended that I can finally talk

about it. I know this might sound like creative writing but I swear to god this is true. My ex boyfriend had a fetish for Queen Elsa of Arendelle from Disney's Frozen. Be as skeptical as you want. I'm the one that had to deal with this BS. I was still a super religious fundamentalist at the time that this story took place, so I had no idea what a healthy relationship looked like. Now that I can look back on this, I can see just how strange this was. When I was about 18, I started dating a boy from my church. We ended up dating for around a year and a half total. At first he seemed funny, charming, athletic, blah blah blah. He was all my teenage fantasies poured into one little blonde mold. About 6 months after we started dating, Frozen came out. I thought it was a cute movie and everything,

but my ex on the other hand, hoo boy, it was like a switch flipped in him. I was not prepared for what came next. At first it seemed innocent enough. He bought frozen T-shirts, posters, and other merchandise. He liked to sing along to the songs while we were driving. No big deal. He found something he enjoys. Normal, right? Then he started to grow an obsession. Every time we went for a date, it was always at one of our places watching Frozen. I suggested other activities but was always shut down. I didn't mind much because I loved him and wanted to spend time with him anyway that I could. And if I had to suck him off when... When Do You Wanna Build a Snowman was playing in the background, then dang it, I'll suck him off when Do You Wanna Build a Snowman was playing in the background.

He bought a storybook that basically told the plot of Frozen in book form and would grab different parts of my body while I read it to him. These events led us to both losing our virginity while Let It Go was playing in the background. Not my proudest moment. Speaking of Let It Go, I'll let you guess what happened during that part of the song. The love letters and good morning messages he wrote to me started to reference the movie and the characters more than they talked about him or I. Sooner or later, the obsession turned over to me personally. He wanted me to look like Elsa.

My hair is naturally dark, and he begged me to make it blonde and braid it. I ended up lightening in a bit for summer, and he got angry that I didn't come out fully bleach blonde. He made me do eyeshadow in purple like the character in the movie and made me show him how to do it. He made me an outfit for me to wear when I visited his apartment. Well, he made me a list of things that I had to buy for myself to wear to his apartment every time I visited.

That included an ice blue top that showed lots of cleavage, white shorts, and an over-the-top amount of silver jewelry. He even begged me to purchase a $50 Elsa gown from the Halloween shop and became angry when I wouldn't blow $50 of my limited nanny's salary on a Halloween costume that would be hiked up around my waist and stained with, let's say, eggnog in a manner of seconds anyways. When I wouldn't cough up the money to purchase an Elsa gown, he gave me the silent treatment for nearly two days. The creepiest part of this is that

after he went through all these detailed fantasies of wanting to passionately hug a Disney character, he approached me and asked me if we could name our first daughter Elsa. You know, after he did me in the butt while watching the movie in HD. I suppose I should feel bad for King shaming him, but honestly, he was such a piece of garbage to me for not being a living F-toy shaped like a kid's movie character. So here it is, world. This girl's ex has a fetish for Queen Elsa from Disney's Frozen. Then OP posted an update where she posted a picture of a handwritten letter that her ex wrote to her. Here's the letter. I love you sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo No matter what, that's all you have to do is nothing. Just let me treat you the way that you should feel.

You never have to do anything, but let me show you my love that will make me happy. And by the way, I think you have the most beautiful singing voice in the whole world. Or might even be prettier than Elsa's, wink. Although I can't wait to see you in the Elsa outfit. I don't know why, but she's just so pretty. I'm not saying she's more pretty than you. You don't have to dress like her, but I thought that it was the cutest thing ever on Sunday when you were in that dress.

You were just the cutest person alive. And just tell me if you want anything. That's what I'm here for, to show you love and support you. I don't know what I'm writing. I just want you to know that you're perfect. I just love you so much and Frozen but mainly you with all my heart forever and ever. I love you princess Yo, what did I just read it started off pretty funny and ridiculous

But having a fetish for Elsa and then wanting to name your daughter Elsa what hold on? We're getting too far here dude needs to be banished to Shadow Realm. Our next reddit post comes from r slash relationships. I'm a 36 year old woman and my 41 year old husband got fired for harassing a co-worker and won't talk to me about it. My husband Charlie and I have been together for 10 years, married for 6. We've had our ups and downs, but we're currently in an up. He's never done anything like this in the past, so it came out of left field for me and I'm very much shocked and at a loss here. Charlie is a computer programmer and was a senior engineer at his former company where he'd worked for four years. He'd never had any trouble with coworkers and were both

friendly with a few of them, mostly other men and their wives. On Friday of last week, he came home around 11am and told me he'd been fired. He was really upset and agitated and I didn't want to push him about it, but he told me they'd said that he was harassing a coworker and was fired. Here's the information I've been able to get out of him. The coworker is Beth, a junior engineer whom he's never mentioned to me before. He said that she's terrible at her job. Beth slept with the senior engineer that we're both friendly with, Darren. Darren wasn't involved in the harassment and wasn't fired. The company's lawyers were there and among the things they told him was that Beth could have pressed charges but

chose not to. Something happened with her car, but he won't say what. His exact words were, there was something with her car. He was escorted off the premises and is not allowed back in the building to get his belongings, and instead has to arrange with security to pick them up after business hours. As far as anything else goes, he won't give me any details. He isn't interested in seeing a lawyer because he says everything is legal. He's basically admitted to sending Beth some emails, but won't say what they said or anything like that. I don't know if Beth sleeping with Darren had to do with it, but the fact that he gave me that detail makes me think

that it does. I'm not sure how it relates. Darren is a very nice single man who's in his late 20s and approximately the same age as Beth. My mind is running wild here. Charlie has been depressed and withdrawn all weekend, won't talk to me about it, and won't talk much in general. I work remotely so I was home all day with him and he played video games all day and then went to bed at 6pm. The fact that he won't tell me anything and isn't interested in seeing a lawyer makes me think it's bad and makes me worry that everything is true and not just a misunderstanding

or a small thing blown out of proportion. He's never been flirtatious with other women or cruel to them and he's never said anything bad about other women engineers he's worked with. I don't know what to do here. My instinct is to be supportive of my husband, but I don't know what kind of behavior I'd be supporting. I don't want to run to the co-workers we know and ask them since they're more our friends than my friends.

And while we do spend time together at get-togethers or bars, I'm not close with them. In an immediate sense, I don't know what to do about helping someone who's depressed and won't talk to me. Then one day later, Opie posted an update. I got up at 5.30 to go to the gym before work and my husband was still awake playing video games. I presented him with the very good idea someone suggested of him sending me an email with all the details, but that it wasn't acceptable to shut me out of this situation since it affects me too. His response was basically, the paperwork

is in my car, go get it if you want to read it. I asked him to go get it so we could look at it together and he said, you're gonna believe what you want anyway. All of this is unusual for our marriage because I'm a pretty patient person, I think. We went out to the car together and he got in his car, handed me the papers and left. For about two hours, I was panicked because I didn't know where he went, if he was okay, if he was thinking of hurting himself, but his mother texted me at 9 saying he was over there, asking me what happened, if everything was okay, etc. His parents live about 15 minutes away, and I guess he told her that he's going to be staying there.

According to the paperwork, my husband did the following. He sent Beth multiple harassing emails from anonymous email accounts. The emails are printed out and attached. He apparently did this while at work and they'd been monitoring his user account for three months. The emails aren't sexual or romantic in nature and they're all anonymous and they're about how she sucks at her job, how she wouldn't be there if she wasn't a woman, how she should quit before she gets fired, and how everyone in the office hates her. He made fake user accounts for his company's product that she works on and submitted bad

reviews of her work. He also did this while logged in at work. He sent an anonymous email to her boss saying that she was sleeping with a senior engineer on another project. He put a gun catalog on the windshield of her car. I don't know what this gesture means, but I obviously understand that it was meant to be threatening. And unfortunately inside was a subscription card that the company auto filled with my

husband's name and address. Whoops. Oh my god, what an idiot! Beth also says she's been harassed for the same length of time, about three months on Twitter. He only logged into one Twitter account that harassed her at work, so they can only say that one of those accounts was him. They were all telling her to quit her job. So I don't know what to do now. This is all terrifying to me and I feel so bad for this woman. I have no idea what this is all about. He works with other women engineers and he's worked with male engineers who don't pull their weight and he's never done anything like this. I would have bet a million dollars that he would never do anything like this. He's at his parents right now

and I don't know what my next move here could possibly be. This is so scary and out of left field for me. I forgot to mention, this paperwork is copied from the original, and it was signed by both him and his company. I don't know if that's a full admission, but it seems damning either way. I'm trying to figure out why OP's husband would single out this woman so viciously when he does work with other women and other incompetent people.

And my theory, which is just a guess, keep in mind, is he probably propositioned this woman or had a secret crush on her and he imagined him and this woman being together. But then this woman sleeps with another coworker, which made him jealous and bitter and so he targeted her. That's really the only logical explanation I can come up with. OP clearly needs to divorce her husband. Of course because he's an evil, mean, toxic person. But also because the guy's just plain stupid.

The cart in the magazine telling his exact name and address. And then an IT person of all people not realizing the company can track his traffic and figure out what website he's going to. Come on dude, if anyone should know that it should be someone in IT. What a doofus. I almost have to wonder if he was trying to get her fired or himself fired. At the start of this story, I just assumed the emails were going to be sexual, you know, that he was propositioning her.

I can't believe that would have been preferable to the reality. Our next Reddit post comes from r slash relationship advice. I was with my ex for two years. It was not the best relationship and we broke up because I moved out for university and just didn't want to be with him anymore. It's been almost 5 years since we broke up and I'm engaged to be married with my fiance who is absolutely my soulmate.

Yesterday evening at around 10pm, my ex-boyfriend rang our doorbell drunk. His bachelor party was in the city I live in and he came to see me. When my fiance opened the door, my ex just started sobbing saying that he couldn't believe that he, as in my fiance, was real or some BS like that. We took him into the apartment because he didn't look dangerous and he just word-vomited before he actually vomited in our bath. What I could gather is that he was still very hurt because of our breakup, that he thinks that we could have made it work, and he regrets treating me badly. He

then threw up again and called an Uber to his hotel. It was very surreal. He was fine. We fed him waffles and coffee to sober up and told him to write us when he was in his hotel to make sure he didn't die or something. I was left with a weird feeling, almost dirty. I am thinking of contacting his soon to be wife. Or should I call him to encourage him to tell that to his fiance? Or should I not do anything and let this just be an anecdote for my future? Then OP posted an update. I decided that contacting the bride was the wrong move because we're not friends.

However, I sent his sister, an old friend of mine, a message basically saying to talk to her brother because he appeared at my door drunk and distressed and to make sure that he was okay. She thanked me for the message and apologized profusely because my ex has been apparently acting a fool for a few weeks now leading up to his wedding. She asked me if I was okay and if her brother had gone back to the hotel room because they couldn't find him.

I told her he had ubered home and had written to us that he arrived in his room at around 11.30pm. She thanked me again and I haven't heard from her since. Then another update. His sister called me again to ask me if he had come by or said anything about his whereabouts. Apparently, he didn't show up for the wedding and no one knows where he is. So me telling the fiance is now obsolete. Then ten days later, OP posted an update. Long story short, my ex bailed. He decided he didn't want to commit to his fiance, bailed, and days later called to break

off the engagement. After his sister and I talked, my ex's fiance reached out to me and was kinda mad. The best man had told her that he went to see me. At first, she was convinced that we had passionately hugged, so that took a bit of talking. I felt sorry. She was very distraught. She apologized, I apologized, and I told her that I wished her the best. Saturday, I received a call from the sister. Apparently, the ex reappeared. He went all the way to France. His sister called me to apologize because my ex had stolen one of my lipsticks. What? I honestly hadn't

noticed but my ex admitted this to her. She PayPaled me the money to buy myself a new one. I said that I wasn't mad and asked her how she was and how his ex-fiance was. On their end, everything's a mess. Everyone is mad at him. I don't know many more details and was kinda not willing to ask. But yeah, well that's it. I did some digging in OP's profile to try to figure out where this might have taken place because I'm curious how hard it was for him to just fly off to France randomly. And I think, but I can't confirm that this is all happening in Germany. So it's a short flight, not that big of a deal. But still, fleeing the country to get away from your fiance on her wedding day is a bit extreme. Man, I'm sorry. I feel bad

to laugh. I genuinely feel sorry for the bride in this situation because, you know, she didn't do anything wrong. And that's such an embarrassing way to find out that your fiancé is a piece of garbage. But hey, I guess all's well that ends well because OP got payback money for a tube of lipstick. That was r slash best of Redditor updates. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.