rSlash - r/Bestof I Found My Teacher on Xbox Chat

Episode Date: February 27, 2026

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Welcome to R-slash Best of Redditor updates, where O.P. discovers that her teacher is a mega-racist. Our next Reddit post is from R-slash relationship advice. This is a really strange situation, and honestly a little bit funny. But it's been bothering me for the past couple of days, and I don't know what to make of it. On Thursday, I was playing a game called Overwatch on Xbox, and I was in team chat, but I wasn't talking in it. I was queued with one of my friends, and we were in our own separate Xbox live party. Anyway, people were talking like normal, and this one guy on my team started arguing with others and yelling a bunch of racial and homophobic slurs towards everyone on the team.

This is pretty normal on Xbox, unfortunately. But this guy was going crazy. He was repeatedly screaming and calling people the N-word and saying some pretty nasty stuff to people. It was so vile, I can't even bring myself to repeat it, like next-level stuff. Again, my friend and I were talking, just listening, but I was saying to my friend, this guy sounds just like my math teacher. And sure enough, I take a look at his profile and it's him. His Xbox profile photo is literally a selfie of him. And he has his location on his profile. I say this to my friend and we start bursting out laughing, just from the absolute shock.

The thing is, though, coming to school and being in his class has been really weird. I can't look at the same, and I feel a bit uncomfortable too because I myself am Asian, and there's a variety of races in my math class. I'm not saying it wouldn't be alarming if that wasn't the case, but it certainly enhances it. I'm so disgusted by him, and he doesn't know that I was in his game and know what he acts like online, because, again, I never spoke in the voice chat. I took a capture of his profile and have it saved, but I'm not sure what to do about this, or if I should even do anything at all. Do I tell someone at the school? Am I overreacting? Some of the things he said were directed towards me, but he doesn't know that I was a student of his. That doesn't really make it

okay, though. This is so weird. I want to see what other people say. Then five months later, O.P. Posted an update. I came to the decision to go to my guidance counselor with my friend and gave her the hypothetical of this happening. She let us know that we should dismiss our wariness of the situation and told us that this is a very serious matter. I just said that I was very uncomfortable and wasn't sure what to do. I told her the teacher's name and she said that she would take care of it. The day after that, we saw him again in class, seemingly normal, but that was the last time. The day after, he was gone. Our class actually ended up merging with another one and we shared that teacher. I was never informed about what exactly happened to him, but he hasn't been at my school since

I brought it to my counselor's attention. I assume he lost his job. I was kind of shocked at this, honestly, because it was just an accusation, really, since I had no proof other than the screenshot of his profile, but maybe he owned up to it. I'm not sure. When it was fresh, people were kind of curious as to where he went. I kept my mouth shut. I really didn't want to spread things around. I'm now graduated and out of high school. My brother is still in high school, and I won't have to worry about this man possibly getting him or any other students he might be prejudiced against. I haven't had anyone harassed me or my friend, so I really have to thank my counselor for keeping things confidential, as the situation was just uncomfortable all around. What? A school fired a teacher who did something

wrong? Be like I'm in a Twilight Zone episode. What's next? Teachers actually punishing bullies instead of the victim? Our next Reddit posts is from R-slash-2x chromosomes. A few days ago, my dad came over to my house for the first time in quite a while. I've had a lot of renovations done since he last saw the place when we first moved in. I have a nervous system condition, which, while very fortunate to be able to manage it in such a way that it usually doesn't impact my life most days out of any given month, it can render certain simple tasks very difficult for me when I'm having a flare. It's also important as part of managing my condition and maintaining my high level of function to limit certain activities which can bring about a crash or a flare.

My husband is also disabled. He has hypermobile EDS, so together we made a list of things we'd love to have as accommodations in our home that we share, and we either DIYed those things or found contractors to do them for us. I'm really happy with the results. I find that these accommodating renovations

make my life a lot easier. I have fewer crashes and overall more energy. My husband is elated with how much more functional he can be after we made these changes. My father isn't a fan. He thinks it makes the house too weird. He's worried about the resale value, not that we're planning to sell anytime soon. He had a lot of comments when he came over. In fact, it was almost all that he talked about. I kept trying to gently tell him that this is just what works for us and then divert the subject, but he was getting a bit worked up, which isn't really like him in those types of situations. The plan for his visit was he'd come over

meet my foster dog that he might adopt, and take the dogs for a walk, then get lunch. When I left him alone for a minute to use the bathroom after we'd walk the dogs, I came back out and found that he attempted to pull one of our accommodating mechanisms out of the kitchen wall. He hadn't caused any functional damage, but he did cause aesthetic damage in that it will now need to be repainted over. I was shocked and kind of hysterical in my reaction, and I raised my voice at him when I saw what he was doing. I think I yelled, what the F are you doing, Dad? What's your problem? And he responded, I just wanted to see if it was removable. Sorry, it's just too weird. It's too weird. It's just not going to work when Billy and Bobby

move in with you. Billy and Bobby are my nephews, my brother's kids. I've never invited them to stay with me, let alone move in for any amount of time. And I've never been asked to do so. Even in the event that my brother and sister-in-law passed away in some tragic manner. To my knowledge, I should be very far down a very long list of people who could be asked to take those kids in before I'd be asked. So I was pretty shocked my dad would say something like that out of the blue, and with so much frustrated emotion about Billy and Bobby moving in, because there's no reason, to my knowledge, for anyone to think that would possibly be happening. I asked him to clarify repeatedly, but he just waved it off and told me to forget he said anything, and he didn't want to talk about it. I pressed him

and all he said was, well, honey, it's a massive house. You have room for two boys? When I asked him why he would even bring it up, though, and clarified that not only did I have absolutely no desire to host my nephews for a visit, let alone have them move in, he clammed up again and just said, forget I ever said anything. He apologized for damaging my home, immediately transferred a larger some than necessary to me via Zell to fix the scratch he'd made, and then took me out to lunch as we'd planned prior. The rest of the day with him was pretty normal, and I guess I was just a little shocked or something, because I didn't bring it up again. But now that it's been a few days, I can't get it out of my head, and I'm so annoyed. First of all, my dad hasn't ever been,

and would never be that aggressive about any decoration or renovation in my brother's homes. He just wouldn't. And I can't help but feel that he's less respectful of my home because I'm a woman, which sucks. But what's more upsetting is, what the hell was he talking about in terms of my nephews? Like, is my family conspiring in some way to move those kids in with me? It wouldn't be the first time that my family assumed I would take care of those kids without asking me first. But in the past, it was just babysitting. And I've directly told everyone that even that is unacceptable. So I would be really shocked if my brother and sister-in-law thought that was acceptable. I guess I'm just spinning out and don't really know what to do about it.

I'm stuck between asking my father about it again first or just reaching out to my brother directly. Then one day later, Opie posted an update. I talked to my brother on the phone about the situation and he expressed that he had absolutely no idea why our father would imply that Billy and Bobby would need to move in with me at any point. He seemed genuinely surprised, and to have no clue what the hell dad was talking about. He claims to have absolutely never expressed anything like that to our dad. I believe him. I asked him if there was any possible reason at all that dad would think that I would need to take in my nephews.

Like, is there some problem dad thinks that he's pre-solving without consulting either of us? Is there an illness or impending divorce or anything I don't know about? My brother assured me that there's nothing like that going on, and that, As I assumed, I of course wouldn't even be near the top of the list of permanent caregivers, even if something was going on, because he knows I run two businesses out of my house. And I'm also just not up for taking his kids in unless I'm the absolute last safe resort. Both of us are in agreement that dad generally doesn't seem to have any other signs that we've noticed of declining cognitive function, like at all. But since this was such a strange outburst, we're still concerned that this is just the earliest sign.

My brother, Billy and Bobby's dad, is going to talk to our dad about it ASAP and see what he says or what explanation he can give. Then we'll go from there. The issue that we're both aware of is that my dad, while a loving father and good man to many, is a bit of a liar and a lot of a manipulator. He has many of the signs of OCD and gets fixated on things, then tries to manipulate to get his way with his fixation. He means well, but he's been known to be full of BS and to have his own strange agendas that don't have much to do with anyone else's wants or needs. So unfortunately, my brother and I are going to have to confront him by essentially saying, Dad, it's really important that you're honest about whether you are confused, or if you're

intentionally trying to lie or manipulate, because that's the difference between us freaking out about your health versus us just understanding that sometimes you lie to push your agenda, but your brain is fine. Then, eight months later, OP posted an update. Since I moved out of my father's house, leaving an empty bedroom and office space in a house that already has a designated bedroom for the kids because they had a lot of sleepovers there, my sister-in-law has been obsessively pushing the idea that my nephew should start living summers and school breaks at my dad's house. My nephews love staying at grandpas because my dad has never been a real caregiver. So there are literally no rules, no bedtimes, no limit on suites, no parental controls on the TV, no limit on screen times. No one checking if they brush their teeth or making them shower or do chores or change their clothes.

Zero supervision over them making messes or doing dumb stuff. So, of course, when their mom asked them, Do you want to spend the summer at grandpas? Do you want to go ask grandpa if he'll let you stay the summer with him? They went feral over the idea. And my dad was immediately put in the position of either agreeing or disappointing his two grandkids and saying no. My dad hates saying no to family outright because he never wants family to say no to him at all. So he agreed, of course.

My dad agreed to this last summer. But even with the help of a daily babysitter who apparently quit halfway through, and I assume it's either because my dad made her uncomfortable, which is a whole different kettle of fish, or because those kids are super entitled. And even though the kids are getting more and more independent, it was torturous and exhausting for my dad. He never wanted to do that again.

But my father is addicted to being the hero of the family. He needs us all to need him, and he needs us all to think that he's great. Plus, he has a massive ego about defying the idea of aging and being ultra-energetic and healthy and not an old man. He couldn't bring himself to admit that he doesn't have the energy for those kids, and he didn't want to say no because he doesn't want to normalize anyone saying no to anyone in this family. So he was planning to pawn the kids off to me next summer. He was going to agree to take them and then bring them to my house and, in his words,

ease into a smooth transition from his house to mine. From the sounds of it, and also just knowing my dad, I assume he was going to beg me to take the kids for a single day, drop them off with overnight bags and say, didn't you say they could sleep over? Then make up a ton of excuses as to why they needed to stay at my house for longer and longer until he ran out the summer. Personally, I know this wouldn't have worked.

I'd literally be dropping the kids off at their own house or calling the cops 24 hours later. But I don't think my dad understands just how badly his plan would have panned out because I used to be a massive doormat. I think he truly believes that he could manipulate the situation and me into working out in his favor. My dad apparently asked my sister-in-law if it was okay, and she said yes.

But she never even asked me about it or brought it up the whole time that we were all wondering what my dad was on about. She only confirmed this after my dad finally admitted to a scheme, which is wild, because she had just stood there and said nothing about it while my brothers and I were trying to figure out if our dad was insane. And to be honest, I think my sister-in-law knew the whole time that my dad was going to fully pawn her kids onto me. And she didn't want to say anything and risk having to have her children, gasp, living in her own house all year. I truly don't know what she thought was about to happen. And when I asked her, so you didn't think that you should even confirm this with me,

she swore that she remembered talking to you about it, which no, girl, you did not. And I would never agree to that. My brother is fairly livid with his wife. And we're all becoming increasingly less patient with my father's triangulation BS. Like I'm in my 30s, my older brothers are both pushing 50, and it's saying that our dad is still scheming and claiming it's all in the name of what's best for the family. Because we all have our own families now, but he acts like we're bickering children who he's having to manage in order to keep the family together, which is extra insane because my brothers and I were not children at the same time, when really he's just obsessively trying to maintain his preferred status quo in a reality where it makes less and less sense to maintain.

Well, O.P., the good news is that your dad isn't crazy. The bad news is that you have two scummy family members, your dad and your sister-in-law. Good luck, O.P. That was our slash best of Redditor updates. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.