rSlash - r/Bestof I Got a Friend Request from My Dead Ex-GF

Episode Date: March 11, 2025

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Our next reddit post is from r slash true off my chest. In 8th grade I met this girl, North, who was in my band class and the two of us hit it off. I asked her out on a movie date and from there we became boyfriend and girlfriend. She was my first girlfriend and things were going alright. That was until her dad got a new job across the country in California. North moved away, but we decided to try out long-distance dating through our freshman year. We were not built for long-distance dating. I couldn't protect her from bullies, hug her when

she was crying, or tell her that she was going to be alright when she told me about her depression. We got into arguments about god knows what, but decided to keep the relationship going because her dad was trying to transfer back closer to her hometown. That was until she stopped texting me around Christmas and her sister sent me a funeral program and asked me to go to California. North's sister told me that she took her own life because the bullying was getting too much and that I wasn't there for her when she needed me. It broke my heart that I couldn't go to California for the funeral and for the past 8 years I've mourned her loss.

I spent the entirety of my high school career trying to rebuild myself from all the damage. I went to meetings for people who have lost family members and loved ones. I went to therapy for 4 years to try to process the loss. I had to learn how to become dependable because I didn't want it to happen again. And after working on myself for 4 years, I asked out one of my classmates, Lucy. We started dating the tail end of our senior year and are about to celebrate our 4 year anniversary in April. Last night, I got a notification from Facebook saying that I got a new friend request. I opened the app and found that it was from North.

She looks older, but it's undeniable that there are pictures of her as an adult with her fiance and her newborn daughter. I spent 8 years of my life believing that she was dead, but here she is with undeniable proof that she's been living a great life without me. My stomach is in knots, my heart is sinking to the ground, and my mind is racing trying to figure out what happened and what I should do. Do I accept the friend request? Do I ignore it and try to move on?

I feel completely lost and I feel like my entire life has been a lie. I've spent the entire night looking at pictures of her and her family, floored that she would do this to me. Then two days later, OP posted an update. I accepted the friend request. After Lucy and I talked about it, we agreed that the possibility of getting some sort of closure would be worth it. So I accepted the friend request and sent out a text saying hello. About a half hour later, I received a notification that North responded. We talked a bit, talking about how our lives have been. Turns out, her and her fiance were in town visiting family and it started to make her

think about all the hurt that she had caused me and that she couldn't feel comfortable moving on with her relationship without knowing if I was okay. She tried to apologize, saying that we were dumb kids and that it seemed easier to ghost me instead of break up with me. She told me about how when some messed up teenager way, she thought that giving me an explanation to her ghosting me would make it easier to move on and so her and her sister concocted the whole story. I told her about the years of therapy, the years of loneliness, and how guilty I felt when I started dating again.

I told her about how I used to think that she was the one for me, even through nights of arguing, and that she left me more hurt than if she had just threw me away. And I told her that, in some weird way, I'm thankful to her. Her death changed me for the better, and I wouldn't be the man I am today if it wasn't for her." I then texted, having said that, I will not accept your apology. It's a shallow attempt to free your guilty conscience before you get married. If you were really sorry, you would have said something sooner. You would have apologized sooner or you wouldn't have done it at all. You took the coward's way out and I do not forgive cowards."

She said she understood, but hoped that one day I could move past the hurt she caused me and find it in my heart to forgive her. I took screenshots of the whole conversation and sent it to her fiance. I don't know if he knows the story between me and her, but now he can have enough of an idea that they can start the conversation. I hope they figure out how to move past it. After all, they look very happy together, and the mistakes of a teenager shouldn't affect her current life. However, I'd be lying if I said there wasn't a part of me hoping it crashes and burns.

I know this isn't the update some of you guys wanted. Some of you really wanted me to bully my way through the conversation or play mind games to mess with her. But that's not who I am, nor is it who I want to be. On the bright side, I can now truly move on from the relationship that costed me 8 years of my life and put the whole story of North behind me. Okay, let's be super clear. She didn't just fake her own death to OP. She also blamed OP in part for the death. The line was, North's sister told me that she took her own life because the bullying was getting too much and that I wasn't there for her

when she needed me. What? Why add that line in? If you're gonna fake your own death, you already have a get out of jail free card for the relationship. Why also blame OP for the cause of the death? That is psychopathic behavior. OP, I'd say you dodged a huge, huge bullet. North by herself is bad enough. Considering your sister helped, it seems like her whole family is awful. Move on, don't look back, live your life and... man, she sucks. Our next Reddit post is from rslashlegaladvice. I work in a large office setting in Alabama. It's not a call center but has a similar environment.

Officially, there isn't a uniform and you can wear whatever as long as it isn't against the dress code. But several of my managers are religious and very southern judgy ladies who harass certain people in the office over the way they look, either with inappropriate unwanted compliments or overly judgmental comments. southern judgy ladies who harass certain people in the office over the way they look, either with inappropriate unwanted compliments or overly judgmental comments. I am a very tall guy who works out, and I've gotten both sides of it. The latter because I have long hair and they call me a hippie. I know a lot of female co-workers who have gotten much worse because of very conservative

clothing, and in the time that I've worked here, I've seen multiple complaints to the HR about comments made to them which have ended in them being fired in the next week. Being harassed over clothing and body stuff is a big topic among my coworkers and it's made for a terrible office environment. On the Glassdoor for our company, 75% of the reviews specifically reference this aspect of working here. A few days prior to Halloween, I found out my work was doing a costume contest. I had a somewhat high effort costume that I was reusing from a comic convention and

I decided to wear it again, not really expecting to win. My workplace has over 100 employees and the top prize for winning included $500 in cash and several gift cards. It's worth noting that the costume is not in any way sexual or inappropriate for work or more specifically from our dress code. If you're curious, the character I dressed up as was Ganta Gokuhura and if you Google him there's nothing inappropriate about his design or against our dress code save for being barefoot. And I broke character for that by wearing sandals. I looked up this ganta dude.

It's literally just a guy in a suit with, I don't know, like a purse or something. Looks kind of like a bug catching box. It is extremely safe for work. Oh, here we go. The most inappropriate thing I can think of is that there were fake bug toys in the bug box. Virtually no one in our office dressed up, which I wasn't expecting, but it made sense. It was me, one new girl who wore a kitty ear headband and a set of cheap fairy wings, and

several of my female managers, all of whom went all out. Everyone in my office has strong resentment for our managers for reasons mentioned above, and I ended up winning the vote because of it. The headband girl won second. I was told that I'd be sent my prize via direct deposit yesterday. I didn't and instead got an email explaining that I was being terminated for abuse of office dress code.

When I called my manager for clarification, she said that my costume clearly violated dress code. After I asked what rule it was that I broke, she told me, You know what it was, and she hung up on me. I'm young and I've honestly never dealt with the level of blatant unprofessionalism in the workplace on this level before, and I really don't know what to do. Do I have rights on this? They can't seriously do that, right? Then two days later, OP posted an update. But before I read this update, I have to wonder

if the managers just fired him because they want to keep the gift cards and the 500 bucks for themselves. Let's see if I am right. Well, my problem essentially ended up closing itself out within a day. Our office does have a defined and written dress code, but it's very lax, at least on paper. Things are specifically listed in what we can and cannot wear, and the latter category is made up of very few things, beyond sexually explicit stuff. As I said, I don't work in a call center, just a similar environment. Specifically, it's an audio transcriptionist service. We listen to audio calls and type them out, and we use foot pedals the entire time, where taking off your shoes at your desk is strongly encouraged to make it easy. Because of this, many people wear sandals regularly,

and no footwear is listed at all in the dress code. I did wear sandals as Ganta, but I always wore those at work. If you brought dress shoes or heels to my job and wore them, I actually think it would make it impossible, if not, would give you an injury. Also, my suit actually stood out quite a bit because basically no guys dressed that formally, ever. I did have a butterfly net, but one of my managers had a real looking chainsaw, so I don't think this is valid. I told them my name was Ganta and explained the character a bit, but I don't think my managers or anyone else looked it up and saw Killing Game as several people had guessed. In the email ranking thing I got, I was listed as Happy Bug Scientist so I severely doubt

this is what happened. Very very soon after my initial post, a friend I told about what happened had his father call me, a guy who owns a mid-sized business in another part of town. We spoke for a while about what happened in my prior experiences and he ended up hiring me. It's a much nicer and considerably better well-paying job than my last one and my bosses didn't seem to be crazy, so I'm happy. I was still a bit salty over the 500 bucks, and I'd planned on maybe finding out if there

was a way to report them for holding a fraudulent contest or something, even if I had little recourse on the job. But one of my managers actually ended up passing away after a car accident on Saturday, and another one who was with her was in the hospital under critical condition and apparently suffered some brain damage. Obviously, I wasn't on good terms with my previous managers, but I didn't want that to happen. Pursuing the money at this point seems in bad taste, so I've decided to let it go. The manager with brain damage wasn't nice to me, but hopefully she ends up being as fine as she can be given the circumstances.

This reminds me of the famous Sun Tzu quote, If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by, or potentially receive brain damage. Also down in the comments we have this story from Educational Tangelo. I won a costume contest at work. My prize was my boss hitting on me and his wife firing me. I wasn't even dressed sexy or revealing. Just goth when I normally wore very conservative clothes to work. Kind of funny Opie says she wasn't dressing sexy when for some people goth is like fetish numero uno.

Our next reddit post comes from r slash marriage. My husband is 35 and I'm 34. We've been together for 9 years, married for 5. He was showing me a video on his phone the other day and a text came through from a female name that I didn't recognize. I asked who that was and he said that she's a colleague from a company that his company works closely with. He has text previews turned off, so I couldn't actually see what was said, but my suspicions were raised. I know what's wrong, but when he was in the shower that evening, I looked through his phone to see who this girl is and why she's texting him.

I found out that they've been getting coffee and lunch during the workday. Sometimes to talk about work, sometimes not. Prior to last week, it was maybe once a month communications to plan these. But then she joined a board that he's on last week. So they had a board meeting and then seemed to go out as a group for drinks after until about 11. I did know that he was out with his colleagues during this time and I wasn't concerned. What is concerning is that he texted her that night making sure that she got home safe and telling her how much fun he had, but that he had been hoping to have more

opportunities to talk with her instead of everyone else. The next morning, he texted her good morning and asked her to one on one drinks next week. She agreed and said that he couldn't wait. Of course, I looked her up and she's a very beautiful woman, probably in her mid-20s. I asked again later who she was and what their connection was. He reiterated that she's a colleague and is helping get him connected with exciting opportunities in her organization. More like exciting opportunities inside of her organs. I know he's been really focused on networking

and she has a lot of high-up community connections that it looks like she's introduced him to. He's also a friendly guy who likes to be involved through board work and professional groups. I don't want to go scorched earth and accuse him of anything inappropriate since my insecurity has been a major issue we've had to work through in the past. But I'm terrified he's going to cheat on me. Would this send off alarm bells for you and how would you respond without accusing him and ruining the marriage?" Then, four days later, OP posted an update. Well, you were all correct. I continued to monitor his text without saying anything and he continued to be flirty, texting her good morning, telling her how he couldn't

wait to see her and how happy he was to hear from her throughout the day. They did go out for dinner and drinks the other night. It sounds like it must have gone well since they're now having flat out conversations to set the framework for their affair. They discuss that they want to keep things private and out of work, that she doesn't like that he's married, that they both have mutual feelings and are going to continue and are on the same page about everything. And that she initially didn't want to start this, but has developed feelings that she can't ignore. While my husband told her that he's always had these feelings

and couldn't resist her. I'm not sure if anything physical happened, but I'm assuming it did. I thought I'd be heartbroken, but now I'm just furious. I'm getting my affairs in order to confront him and end the marriage. Thanks for all the feedback and advice." Well, sometimes it sucks to be right. It is kind of amusing though that OP's husband thought that he could secretly hide this affair and they were setting up rules for how to hide it when he got discovered before the affair even started. That was r slash best of redditor updates and if you like this content be sure to follow

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