rSlash - r/Bestof I Hate My Son's Guts

Episode Date: August 14, 2024

0:00 Intro 0:07 Cheater gets justice 8:43 Comments 11:16 Family relations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mom, Dad, I humbly suggest you save some money and shop Amazon for back to school. It's for my growth, meaning my body's growing at an alarming rate. And clothes you buy me this year will be very small very soon. Plus, the clothes I love today will be out of style tomorrow. But at least your wallet doesn't have to be my fashion victim if you shop low prices for school at Amazon. Hopefully this is helpful. Amazon. Spend less, smile more.

Welcome to r slash best of redditor updates where OP gets some hilarious karmic justice. On this next post, OP likes to post an r slash cake eater which is a sub for cake eaters. Not chocolate cake or cheesecake or any regular sort of cake, but people who want to have their cake and eat it too. As in, they're in a happy marriage and not planning on leaving, but they still have an affair just because. He makes his first post in rslashadultery. The woman that I'm having an affair partner got served divorce papers out of nowhere two

days ago at work. Her husband knows about us and me. It's only a matter of nowhere two days ago at work. Her husband knows about us and me. It's only a matter of time before my wife finds out. I don't know if I have days or hours before the world as I know it is gone. I took some time off work to spend some time with my wife and two daughters. My body is in turmoil, but strangely, my mind is clear. It reminds me of the days leading up to my dad passing away. Time has slowed down and I'm aware of all the things surrounding me. It's a nice feeling.

My day today was filled with observation of details and appreciation. My wife's smell and the clothes she wore. My daughter's laughter, the color of the kitchen tiles, the dog, the yard. I feel blessed to have a healthy and beautiful family. What will my daughters think of me? I look at my wife that I love with all my heart, and I see a woman who stood by me no matter what. We've had our fair share of ups and downs like most couples, but I never imagined a life without her. How do I justify a SIX YEAR affair? Is that even forgivable? I don't know what the future holds. All

I know is that the storm is coming and I'm here basking in the sun until the clouds come rolling in. I plan to confess over the weekend. Even if I know the outcome, I pray that she doesn't leave me. This was so effing not worth it. Any suggestions on how to confess? How do you start? What do I tell my daughters? I've already made an appointment with a therapist. What else can I do? Down in the comments, people are calling out OP's saying that he doesn't really love his wife because he did cheat on her for 6 years, and he responds,

I'm not confused. I never was. I don't have a problem separating love from intercourse. My heart is loyal to my woman woman and she's it for me. There are also so many responses about how I don't value my affair partner. Well, since I'm on a roll pouring out my heart, let me tell you about my affair partner. She's a gorgeous and smart woman who's funny and open to different experiences. She's younger than me and my wife. Fit, seductive, sexy as hell. But she's not my wife and doesn't even

compare. Six years on and off with her is a long time to invest. As I see it, she's an adult woman who made decisions to cheat with a married man on her husband for whatever reasons. Do I care for her? Yes. Six years is a long time. Do I love her? No. Did I say I loved her? Yeah, of course I did, but I lied just as I lied to my wife. Did I use her? Yes, I did. Did she use me? Of course she did.

We both knew that we were playing with fire. The reason I strayed has nothing to do with my wife. We have a good love life in general, but I do have some kings that she's not into at life in general, but I do have some kinks that she's not into at all. My affair partner was into the same kinks. That's how we met and that's why the affair was ongoing for six years. What led to me starting the affair was my wife being in an accident that took a toll on her body. Intercourse was off the table for a year. I gave into temptation and when I discovered the affair partner shared my kink,

I was hooked. So to be clear, my wife and I are very intimate. Having intercourse with my wife is making love. But intercourse with my affair partner is just intercourse. My wife meets 90% of all my needs. My affair partner meets the other 10%. Then OP posts to r slash cake eater. I was prepared for all scenarios, but not this one. D-Day did not come in the shape that I was expecting. My affair partner ended up convincing her husband to not spill the beans to my wife in exchange for a smooth divorce. I thought that I was in the clear. Yesterday, my affair partner sent me a blurry photo of my wife in the car with another man. My affair partner claimed that they had walked hand in hand to his car from a store in a nearby town to ours. She got a shot at their license plates too. After some digging, I now know

that she's having an affair. I don't know how long for sure, but at least 6 months. He's a single dad who's our age and is telling her to leave the marriage. She's telling him that she loves him. I'm afraid to confront her. I feel numb at the moment. I took a day off work. Any advice? I love her and I want to stay married. OP, I also did not see that plot twist coming and I am HOOKED. Down in the comments OP adds some more details. Apparently he got a hold of his wife's phone while she was in the sauna and confirmed their affair over WhatsApp. He writes,

Logically, yes, we're both getting our itches scratched. So what's the big deal? I'm not ruled by logic at this moment. Maybe later I will be, but now my emotions are overpowering all my logic. Never in my life have I experienced this type of emotional and physical distress. I can't even think straight. I never thought that I was gonna bawl my eyes out and throw up on the carpet. I'm desperate to talk this out, to know why this happened, and how invested she really is in this piece of garbage. If she's doing this out of revenge, then maybe I have a chance, because if so, she

does feel something for me at least. I can't imagine her being emotionless, throwing away over 20 years. I know this woman like I know myself. Deep down, she's hurt, but also very stubborn and proud. I just want to know, if she knew about my affair, then why the hell didn't she confront me? I would have chosen her over my affair partner in a nanosecond. And what the hell is she hoping to find with this dude?

He's no better than me, sleeping with a married woman. Ah man, I'm trying to respect her wish to have some space, but I'm desperate desperate desperate to just talk to her. Yeah, I don't know how I feel about being on the other side of this. I never had fantasies about my wife screwing other men. We had a good sex life, mine is my kink that she wasn't aware of. I'm thinking, what do I have to lose? There can only be two outcomes. She loves him and she leaves, or she loves me and she stays.

I'm hoping that it's just a fling and nothing serious." Then, OP posts an update to r slash Cake Eater. My marriage seems to be over. I confronted my wife this past weekend. I sat her down without warning and told her that I knew that she was having an affair and with whom. I asked her if she loved him and what her plan was. She was caught off guard.

She went to the bathroom for 10 minutes. When she came out, she looked me straight in the eyes and said, I know about your affair too. I've known for some time. I love him and I want a divorce. The next days were a blur. I tried to talk to her but she just shut me down. She's moved into the spare bedroom and is making appointments with law firms. She's told

our two girls. I've signed up for emergency therapy. I'm on meds dealing with anxiety and lack of sleep. This is surreal. I heard her talk to him last night so I cut the internet cord. That's kind of crazy because I need internet for work and she just switched to her phone. Oh, man. So many emotions are running through me. I made love to her just a week ago and today she's a total stranger. How did this happen? How can she not feel any f***ing emotion over 20 years gone?

All the love, friendship, partnership, intimacy, jokes, memories, plans for our future, gone. Just like that, no looking back. I feel so blindsided and the only person I can talk to is my brother who lives across the country. I'm sorry to vent to you fine people on r slash cake eaters. I just need to get this out. Down in the comments and keep in mind this is a subreddit for cheaters. He's still getting trashed on.

One user comments, so you made love to her last week and ask how does she not feel any emotion? It's simple. She learned how to separate love and intercourse. She has intercourse with you but she loves her affair partner. You taught her well. down in the comments OP is getting dragged over the coals. Startham Muirt writes, thought, even though the affair lasted six years and it was during a time where my wife went through a horrible accident and all I cared about was getting my dick wet." Him finding out about his wife's affair partner.

Oh my feelings, she was the love of my life, how could she do such a thing? And then Gilgamesh Distance writes, Me sowing. Haha yeah, fuck yeah. Me reaping. Well this sucks, what the hell. Also down in the comments we have a pretty interesting story from Shy Bookworm. This guy reminds me of a male acquaintance that I used to know when I was younger. He was a prolific cheater.

Always bragged to his friends about his chubby mousy girlfriend would never leave him because of his supposed monster dick and that no guy would ever have her. She cooked, cleaned, was great in bed. A freak is how he described her, was smart and held down a great job at some venture capital firm making big bucks. Anyways, he thought that he had it made in the shade. Until he comes home after a long weekend trip with some other girl and found their place cleaned out except for his clothes and his belongings. She took everything. She left him a letter detailing that she knew about all the women that he had slept with.

She stayed because she thought that he was the best she could do because she didn't have the best self-image. But apparently, someone close to her passed away. And that death woke her up to the fact that she only had one life, so she decided that she wasn't going to waste it anymore on their relationship. She not only moved out of their place, but also moved out of state to a new job. She got a new cell phone, a new email, knew everything. All of her friends and family members protected her new location. This dude basically had a nervous breakdown. Like I'm not even joking.

He really honestly thought that she would never leave him. The sad thing is in the letter she said that she didn't wish him any ill will. She just wanted to be loved by someone for whom she was enough. It's been like 15 years since that happened. Last I checked on that guy 5 years ago, he was still single. He was still talking about her and had tried really hard to find her. But it's like she just dropped off the face of the earth. Oh god, don't you just love stories like these?

The sweet, karmic, poetic, justice. There's just nothing better. Our next reddit post comes from r slash amithabudhole. Am I the butthole because I, a 38 year old woman, don't want to take my stepson, who's 9, on vacation? My husband and I have been married for 5 years. We have two kids of our own, both girls aged 5 and 2. I also have a 10 year old son from a previous marriage, but I was widowed.

My husband's ex is barely involved in my stepson's life at all. They got divorced when my stepson was two, and his ex wanted a fresh start. So my husband did the decent, selfless thing and had complete custody of their son, even though he wanted shared custody. I got a bonus at work, and I really want to go on vacation with just MY family just once. We've been on family vacations altogether lots of times, but just once I want to spend MY money going on vacation where I'm not looking after someone else's kid. I want my stepson to stay with his mom while we go on vacation.

My husband sees my point of view and is okay with it. I don't think that I'm being at all unreasonable. My mom found out what I was planning and says that I'm being at all unreasonable. My mom found out what I was planning and says that I'm being a complete butthole. My mom says that if my stepson's mom isn't properly involved in his life, then I should be even more involved in his life to compensate. I think that this is a completely unfair expectation. She also says that I'm being a hypocrite taking my son, but I think that's totally different because my son doesn't have another parent. I'm all he's got.

My stepson's mom won't take him just once, so obviously he'll come on vacation with us. But I don't think that I'm the butthole to ask if I can have a vacation with my own family just one time. It's not like I hate my stepson or something. He's a nice kid. He's just not mine. Am I the butthole?

So, as you might expect, OP is getting trashed pretty hard in the comments and the general verdict is that yes, she is the butthole, which I agree with. Then one day later, OP posted an update. We definitely won't be going on vacation without my stepson. After a couple hours of replies, I decided to show this to my husband. We sat down and had a really long talk about it. He told me that he's never been comfortable with my attitude towards my stepson, but he didn't know how to say it to me before.

I don't want to be a bad person, I just never thought of stepchildren as being yours. I don't think that it would be easy for anyone to accept this level of criticism, but your replies have shown me that I have a lot of work to do. As many of you suggested, and so did my husband, I intend to see a therapist to help with that. As I said, I don't hate my stepson in any way, I've never been deliberately cruel to him, I've just always thought of him as my husband's child. But I realize my mindset needs to change. Then one year later OP posted an update.

I booked a therapy appointment the following week and started working through my issues. My own father died when I was less than a year old. I don't even remember him. My mother married another man when I was 7, but he left when I was 11 and I never saw him again. That hurt me in a way that I'd never processed before. I loved him, he had been my dad, and suddenly he was just gone. That taught me that step relatives weren't part of your family.

They weren't forever. I always thought that I was doing better than my ex-stepdad because I provided for my stepson and I stayed in his life. But I made my stepson feel the way that my ex-stepdad made me feel when he left me and I regret it so much. A little while after I started therapy, we started family therapy too. The therapist helped me explain to my stepson the way that I felt about step relatives and why I had always behaved the way that I did.

He cried and said that he was afraid that I just didn't like him and we had the first proper talk that we'd ever had. I told him that wasn't true and I had just been a bad step parent like my ex-stepdad had been to me. My relationship with my stepson is so much better now. We spend time together, just the two of us, and except for this post, I never call him or think of him as my stepson. He's my son. I accept now that he'll always be my son. That unlike my ex stepdad, he's forever. Even if something happens between me and his dad, he'll still be my son.

Most of all, he's always called me by my first name, but last Thanksgiving he asked to start calling me mom. It made me so happy. I told him that I loved him and he said that he loved me too. Since then, he always just calls me mom. A lot of people also talked about the way that my husband needs to improve, to be more assertive and protective of his kids. He knows that. It's very easy to see the problems when they're presented to you all at once in a Reddit post, but when things happen day to day, it's a lot harder to realize how issues are building up. But we're working hard, we both are, to try to make our family the happiest it can

be. OP, I'm proud of you. Breaking the cycle of abuse is difficult, but sounds like you're doing it. That was our slash best of Redditor updates, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my is difficult, but sounds like you're doing it.