rSlash - r/Bestof I'm a YouTube Kid and I Hate My Life

Episode Date: October 21, 2024

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Welcome to r slash best of redditor updates where OP hates her life as an influencer child. Our next reddit post comes from r slash rvliving. My parents decided when I was only around 7 years old, far too young to get an opinion on anything, to pack us up and move us into an RV to travel around the US. My dad works online and my mom makes content online. She's not huge by any means, but big enough that we get recognized sometimes and big enough that I've had a camera shoved in my face for as long as I can remember. I sleep in a tiny bunk bed that I outgrew years ago and the other bunk is the only space that

I have to put anything that I own. I don't even have a room, just a curtain, and thank God I'm an only child, or else I'd have to share the small space that I have already. I was homeschooled for most of my education and then switched to online school at my own insistence for high school. I am an 18-year-old girl and I don't have a single friend in person because the longest I've ever stayed anywhere is a month. I don't have a job and I have no way to get one because of not being stationary unless I find one online which also means I have no way to move out and get away from my parents.

I've had conversations with my parents about this countless times but they're so delusional and genuinely believe that a nomadic existence is the best way to live. So why would I ever need anything else? I hate them for treating me like some pet that they can just drag along in their plans rather than their child. I hate traveling. I don't like heat. I hate dealing with bugs.

And I am so sick of hiking. I can't wait for the day that I can finally figure out a way to get away from them with their morning hikes and cameras in my face. I have traveled around the US, yeah, but god forbid I want to have a normal life, go to college or maybe even make some friends. That's asking too much. Hey OP, just a quick piece of advice here from a YouTuber who understands this space pretty well.

If you're in these videos, you have a ton of control over them. You can file claims with YouTube and have those videos taken down. I'm not exactly sure about other platforms like Instagram, how they work, but I'm pretty sure they have similar policies as well. So if you so choose, you can pretty much nuke your mom's business whenever you want to. So you have a lot of leverage here. Then, 9 days later, OP posted an update.

Despite it being such a short time since I posted, a lot has changed for me since then. Some advice that stood out to me was people asking if I had any family that I could stay with, to which I had to respond, not that I know of, because I don't have anyone on my dad's side of the family and my mom is strictly no Contact with her family I didn't even know if they were alive if they cut her off or if she cut them off or even any details about them And my mom never wanted to talk about it What information I did have was my mom's maiden name which is pretty uncommon where she was born

Which in terms of trying to find family can actually get you surprisingly far I've come to realize. I've always had a slight hatred for the internet because I never had any choice of my life being public knowledge, and I know that once something is out there, it's out there, but for the first time I'm actually really grateful for the internet. I was able to find some information on my mother's side of the family and specifically was able to find my grandmother's Facebook account, though it did take me some effort. After a lot of stressing on how to approach messaging her or even if I should, as well as potential outcomes, I messaged her explaining my mom's life, who I was and my situation. I won't go into details about why my grandma and my mom are no contact because it's not

my story to share, but my grandmother was appalled that she had a granddaughter that she didn't even know about and even more so the way in which her daughter raised me. I found out that I have an aunt and an uncle, both of which my grandma told them about me and my situation. I've been in pretty much constant contact with all of them since learning about each other. They all want to help me get out of this living situation with my parents, and luckily, since I'm 18, it's now actually possible. Again, I don't feel entirely comfortable going into details, but I have arrangements to go stay

with my aunt who lives in a big city on the west coast that has a lot of potential opportunities for me to start college or whatever I see fit. And I do plan on figuring out college, I'm happy to announce. My uncle has kids, but my aunt lives on her own and has a spare bedroom which she has no problem letting me stay in for as long as necessary. I have a train ticket scheduled which was purchased by my aunt and enough money to get to the station. I'm talking with my family which feels weird to even type and I'm trying to plan out the

details like if or how I'm going to tell my parents. My mom doesn't know where any of her family lives so even if I were to tell my parents who I'm going to live with they wouldn't know where I was specifically. Someone pointed out that if I did leave without telling them, I should leave a note or some sort of proof that I left willingly, so if I do opt out of a conversation, I'm planning on either leaving a note or filming a video explaining my plans and why I'm leaving, which would be kind of ironic, wouldn't it? Regarding my mom filming, I've been very quiet around my parents and just refusing to talk when the camera is on, but neither one of them has mentioned it yet so far, luckily.

So, long story short, I have set plans to leave as well as a safe place to go with my aunt once I do and very much appreciate the people willing to help me. If you had told me not even two weeks ago that not only would I have a plan to move away from my parents, but also contact family members that I didn't even know existed, I wouldn't have believed it. I'm not planning on making another post, but I just wanted to update people in case you were concerned about me, so don't worry. And genuinely, thank you. You know, it's honestly surprising to me that considering how popular content creation has gotten,

there aren't any laws protecting kids in content creator families. There are laws protecting kids in Hollywood, so if a kid goes on to a movie or a TV show, they get money, but if a kid goes on to a YouTube channel, then there's no guarantee they get money, but if a kid goes onto a YouTube channel, then there's no guarantee they get money. Which is completely unfair to the kids and is almost guaranteed to create exploitable situations. Our next reddit post comes from r slash amithabuthole. Am I the butthole for implying that my friends are being cheap over my wedding?

I'm a 38 year old woman and I'm marrying my 38 year old fiance next year. I'm the last of my friends to get married and honestly, I had made my peace with being single and getting a dog until I met my fiance. I am part of a group of six girlfriends who have all known each other since college. We've been through everything together, breakups, holidays, weddings, babies, promotions. When I told them I got engaged, they seemed happy and sent me congratulations messages. But when everyone else got engaged, they threw them parties or went out for dinner to celebrate. They didn't do this in my case.

I gave them nearly a year's notice on my bachelorette party, which I'm keeping low key because I don't want a big thing. We're going for dinner and drinks at one of my favorite restaurants in our city. However, slowly, all of my friends have been dropping out, saying they can't get a babysitter, or they have to work late, or they're on a work trip. I've obviously invited them all to the wedding as well, which again is a small affair, and one has already messaged the group chat saying that she's not sure if she can get a babysitter for that day. My wedding is two months away and I'm finding it really hard to believe that she knows that far in advance. Two others have also said they're not going to stay for the reception because they'll be

tired by then. Here's where I might be the butthole. The straw that broke the camel's back was when I sent the link to my registry. My fiance and I already own a house together, so we're asking for mostly small things. Nothing above 50 bucks, and we're delighted with anything that anyone chooses to buy us. They sent a message in the group chat saying they were going to band together to get me an air fryer as a group gift. It cost 40 bucks, so I was a bit surprised that they seemed to be chipping in $8 each. Over the years, I must have spent thousands of dollars on their weddings, two of which were overseas.

I've attended dinners and brunches to celebrate their job promotions and bought gifts for their babies, all the while feeling terrible about myself watching my friends celebrate the happiness that I never thought that I would get. I sent a message asking for clarification if they were all buying that together. And one of them replied asking if I was calling them cheap and there's been dead silence since. That wasn't really my intention, but it really feels like because I'm last, they're just over having to do these events and it's really feeding into my insecurity at getting married so late. But they do have legitimate reasons for these things. They all have lives and kids and maybe not as much money as when we were a bit younger. And maybe I'm just letting my insecurities get in

the way. So Reddit, am I the butthole? Then one day later OP posted an update. Reading the comments was like having cold water thrown over me. I've never considered myself the outsider friend, but a lot of people suggested that I was and it really threw me and I got really overwhelmed. I didn't send any message to the group chat, even though lots of commenters gave me really good suggestions about what to write. And I withdrew into myself until my fiance prized it out of me what was wrong. I showed him this post and he got super quiet and really, really angry. I've never seen him this

angry over anything ever. He asked if I had spoken to them about this and I said no. He started to call them individually and read them the riot act. He called them $8 buttholes and said that he would be sending them an itemized list of the thousands of dollars that I had spent on them over the years. He called BS on the one who said she couldn't get a babysitter and she indeed said that she was sick of having to go to the same boring wedding over and over and yours won't be any different. And he lost it at her. I hate the idea of him fighting my battles for me, so I asked him to stop after the third call. I sent a message to the group chat asking if we could all speak as a group. And the three people that my fiance called sent voice messages saying that my

fiance was a psycho and they wouldn't speak to me anymore. I just felt really tired and defeated, so I sent a message saying that if they didn't want to be friends anymore, that was fine and to consider their invitations withdrawn to the bachelorette and wedding. No one's replied, so I guess we're done. I suppose I'm better off, but I don't feel that way. I just feel numb and sad. They've been such a big part of my life for so long and I really feel the loss and

I'm so sad that I won't see their kids anymore. Some of their kids refer to me as Auntie and it's making me cry that I won't see them grow up. That's a sad story OP, but calling people $8 buttholes is a pretty good burn. Our next reddit post is from r slash amithebutthole. Am I the butthole for wanting to go through with a divorce after my wife requests one but then changed her mind? After my wife returned from a month long trip to Florida with her friends, she decided to tell me how unhappy she was and wanted to talk

about divorce. She also mentioned to one of our kids that she was going to retire early and return to Florida and live on the beach. I can't retire for another 13 years and she knows this. She's always been secretive with her phone. She sleeps with it under her pillow and carries it with her everywhere in the house. She started to take three hour long walks where she would shower, change clothes, and put on perfume before going. She's had regular discussions with me about how we should divide everything in the divorce.

During these discussions, I would also get a reminder of how unhappy she is. As negotiations continued, it was decided that I would keep the house so that she could keep all of her retirement for her future beach life. She also made two return trips to Florida in a one-month span. Supposedly by herself, but she was very cryptic about these trips. On the most recent one, she didn't tell the kids about the trip and she didn't communicate to them for the whole 5 days. The final red flag is when she accidentally sent a text to our daughter with a sexually

explicit message that I assume was meant for her boyfriend or her affair partner. Now that it's time for her to move out, she doesn't want to get a divorce. Am I the butthole for wanting to follow through with it? Then the next day OP posted an update. Yeah, I did confront her about all this, but she still denies it. She claims the message was meant for me. However, I never received the message other than the screenshot from my daughter when I was informed about it.

I asked her why she doesn't just go live with this person unless he's married too. I also told her that I'm not a placeholder until she can move in with this guy or find a new one if he bailed. I already spoke to a lawyer earlier this week when she was all in on the divorce. I feel there's no going back after this and I want to see the divorce through to the end. She started the cold feet routine soon after meeting with the attorneys. All of her actions made me angry and I wasn't ignoring them.

Oh geez, sounds like the wife had two affair partners. One guy down in Florida and another within walking distance because why else would she shower and put on perfume? Our next Reddit post is from Quality Proof. I was eating at a diner with some friends at 3am. The guy in the booth next to us started coughing and gagging. I realized he was choking and went to help him. I had Heimlich training in my place of work. I'm a safety manager for my floor. The guy managed to get the food out and it flew across the booth. He looked really pissed, paid his bill and left. I felt like a little hero for the rest of dinner and then just kind of forgot about

it. That was two weeks ago. Today, I got a letter from a law firm that I'm getting sued for battery. They said that I bruised a rib and I have no clue how this guy figured out who I am. I thought I helped this guy seeing as he probably would have choked without help. How did he figure out who I am? I never actually spoke to him. Is this a real letter? Do I need a lawyer for this? Then OP posted an update. Well, I took y'all's advice and went to a restaurant. I spent about an hour and a half waiting and then spoke with the shift manager who called

the general manager who called the owner. And they all swore up and down that no one had come to ask for a tape or anything of the sort. Then I started looking for defense attorneys but I wasn't sure exactly how to proceed. Honestly, this week I've been mortified and really on edge. Finally, when I told my friends about everything, one of them fessed up to the fact that it was actually them and they made it up as some kind of prank. Pretty twisted joke.

I was not laughing. I am pretty pissed, and seriously reconsidering my relationship with him. That was r slash best of redditor updates, and if you liked this content, be sure to follow my podcast, because I put out new reddit podcast episodes every single day.