rSlash - r/Bestof I'm Divorcing My Hospitalized Wife

Episode Date: December 10, 2025

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When you're flying Emirates business class, sampling our range of vintage wines from the largest selection in the skies, you'll see that your vacation isn't really over until your flight is over. Fly emirates, fly better. Welcome to R-slash Best of Rediter updates, where O.P. files to divorce his wife while she's in the hospital. Our next Reddit post is from R-slash, Am I the Butthole? Am I the Butthole for initiating divorce while my wife is in the hospital? the hospital after a car accident. My wife had two kids before we got married, and they have an actively involved father. We also have two children of our own. My wife is a terrible driver, but she refuses to acknowledge this. She's been in multiple accidents, and even had her license

suspended. Not for a DUI or anything, just because she's a terrible driver. She'll do stuff like reach into the back seat to deal with a kid rather than either pull over or let me or one of the other kids deal with it. She got teaboned in August last year because she took her foot off the break at a red light to pick up my son's soother that had fallen out. She didn't put the car in park. Thankfully, only she was injured. All four kids were in the car. I've had it. I told her that she's welcome to endanger herself and her kids, but that if I'm in the car, or if our children are in the car, then she'll keep her eyes on the road and her hands on the steering wheel. She's finally at the point in her rehab where she can drive again. I reminded her of what I said. I told her that I loved

her. I said that her older kids were important to me and that I loved them too. But I told her that if she ever decided to do stupid stuff while driving, our relationship would be over. And I would make it part of our divorce that she's not allowed to drive with my kids in the car. She started crying and said that she didn't do it on purpose. I asked her how exactly she took her hands off the wheel, took off her seatbelt, took her foot off the brake, and then turned around to pick up the soother by accident. She said that I'm treating her like an idiot. I don't think I am. My children have to be safe. Before you ask, I try to do as much of the driving as I possibly can. I've stopped drinking when we go out. I traded in my car that I loved for an SUV, so there's room for all

of us. I offered to pay for Uber so she didn't have to drive if I wasn't available. She actually likes driving. Her ex and her parents are on my side. Her ex also told her that if she ever thinks about endangering his kids, he would either go for full custody or ask that she be barred from driving with his kids in the car. Her parents have threatened to stop helping her pay her stupid high insurance premiums. She thinks that we're being unfair because she loves her kids and would never intentionally harm them. She just loses concentration when one of the kids needs something and doesn't think to ask for help. Then, two months later, OP posted an update.

My wife was involved in a single vehicle accident. She was seriously injured, but thank goodness no one else was in the car with her. I've spoken to her about her driving habits and I warned her. I went to see her in the hospital and then I went to a lawyer. I'm also going for full custody with only supervised visitation for her. I'm sick to death of her driving habits and I will not wait for her to injure or kill one of our kids with BS. I feel bad for doing this while she was in the hospital and facing charges, but I can't take any more chances on her. Then, one and a half years later, O.P. posted an update. She was in physical rehab

for a while. She then drove into a canal by the mall, because she didn't put the car in park when she was getting paperwork from the back seat. After my ex drove her car into a canal, I was done. I knew that she was going to get my kids injured or worse. Both me and her ex went for full custody of our kids. And part of the divorce settlement in my case was that she was not allowed to drive my children anywhere. Our divorce was rough, and I still loved her. I just couldn't risk my kids.

She got a dog. The dash cam, her insurance, forced her to get, show that the dog was making puke noises in the back seat. She turned around to look at what the dog was doing. She got hit by a semi when she drifted into oncoming traffic. My kids lost their mom. Wait, she died? Wait, hold on what? Lost their mom. Does he mean that literally? Their older siblings lost their mom. I lost a co-parent I still cared about. Her parents lost a daughter. I feel awful, but a few of you have asked for an update. I think I'll be

forgetting about this account forever now. Okay, wait, did she die? This is really unclear. I think she died. She got hit by a semi-truck and died. Yo, this is crazy. It's really telling when two ex-husbands of the same woman actually agree with each other. Typically, the old ex and the new husband hate each other's guts, or in the best case scenario, they're on frosty terms with each other, but the fact they're like, oh yeah, my wife's got a major problem, we both agree 100%, she can't drive with kids, really tells you a lot about how bad this situation is. Also, I'll tell you guys a brief story about my own life. When I was pretty young, I wasn't a great driver.

I was a little bit reckless. Not like drinking and driving or, you know, racing people on the street, but I did speed. And I, you know, that was bad. And I got a lot of tickets. I probably got, I don't know, eight or nine speeding tickets. And then one time while driving at like 3 a.m., I drove through a school zone and was speeding. Now, keep in mind, you know, it was 3 a.m. So it wasn't like there are kids around.

But still, because I was in a school zone that, like, put me in a special category of tickets. and I had to go to court and actually faced a jail time. But the judge let me off, lucky me. And that was a real eye-opening experience for me. And ever since that moment, I was like, okay, I got to just stop speeding. I got to just drive the speed limit and drive safely. And since that moment, it's been like, I don't even know, 15 years, I've never gotten a single ticket. So if you're getting a lot of tickets out there, if you're getting a lot of accidents,

it really is up to you to fix it. You have the power to stop getting tickets and accidents. Now, granted, you know, someone could just drive into your lane and hit you. That's obviously out of your control. But if you just drive safely and practice defensive driving, it will completely transform how safe you are on the road. Am I the butthole for not wanting a relationship with my parents now that they've cut me off? I'm a student. My parents make enough money that when I went through student finance to get my maintenance loan, I was told that I could only get the minimum, because finance is calculated from what your parents earn, and there's an assumption that your parents will help you out.

I'm on a high-intensity course, and I wasn't sure how I'd be able to balance studying and schooling. So when I found out that I was going to get the minimum, I told my parents I wanted to either take the coming year to save up and then go to my first-choice university a year later than planned or go to my second-choice school now because I wouldn't be able to afford to live in the city that my first choice is in. My parents then said that they would pay my rent

if I went to my first school on schedule. They set me up in a studio flat, so all I had to do was get a part-time job to cover the cost of food and bills. So, on my 20th birthday, my parents called me and said that I was relying on them too much, and I needed to find out what the real world was like by earning my own money. So they would only cover my rent and phone for that month. And after that, I was on my own. Then they said that they were still my parents, and they loved me, and they wanted me to stay in touch, just learned some independence while doing this.

I begged them to reconsider, but they ended the call. So I had 11 days notice that I would have no flat or phone. I begged my university for emergency housing, but they said that I had no proof I'd been cut off so they couldn't do anything. I emailed my parents, asking them to write a letter stating they'd cut me off so I could sort my student finance and emergency housing, but they said no. I asked work if I could take on more.

hours and was told that due to my contract, I can't do any more than I'm already doing, so I'm now looking for a second job. I'm sleeping on a friend's sofa until a place that I can afford opens up, and as I still don't have proof that I've been cut off for student finance, I'll probably have to drop out this summer. I got a Facebook message from my parents today telling me they were disappointed I didn't call on my mom's birthday a couple of days ago, and that I haven't given them my new phone number yet. I responded telling them the position I'm currently in and that I no longer want a relationship with them. I've gotten a bunch of messages from them and my brothers asking me to reconsider. My friend says I shouldn't feel bad, but I feel incredibly guilty and like a spoiled brat

because I don't love my family for their money. I love them because they're my family. But at the same time, they've really screwed me over here. Am I the butthole for not wanting a relationship with them? Then the next day, O.P. posted an update. I messaged my parents asking why they cut me off, saying the least they could do was explain why they're fine leaving me homeless. They responded by saying that my friend, whom I'm currently staying with, is an out and proud lesbian. There are maybe two posts on my friend's social media, one being a group shot of us and some people that we were studying within the library with me and her sat together. And another from a couple of days before my birthday where she posted a photo of me when we went to lunch because we weren't planning on seeing

each other on my actual birthday. And in the caption, she refers to me as princess in a clearly joking way. My brothers then showed our parents and told them I was a lesbian and she's my girlfriend. So now I have proof that they cut me off, proof they're homophobic, and confirmation that they can and will switch on me at the drop of a hat, as well as proof of my brothers, who are older than me, and still living with our parents, being jealous douchebacks. They didn't tell me this on the phone because they hoped that I'd figured it out, which is tricky. Apparently, there's enough affection still there for them to expect a call on my mom's birthday,

but not enough to refrain from totally screwing me over. So, yeah, never talking to them again, any of them. Then, 15 days later, OP posted an update. I'm still living with my friend. She got me a job at her workplace, but refuses to take it. any rent off me, so I've been repaying her by sneakily buying food and cooking her dinner as I get home before her. We have plans to move in together this summer ready for next year. My parents have done a complete 180, and now want me to forgive them so badly that they're still refusing to sign a letter

showing they've cut me off, so I'm still screwed with student finance. My parents have also offered me my truck back, so me, my roommate, and two more friends will be going to my parents' house sometime soon to collect my truck and some things from my room. My tutor has written a letter for me for student finance, which they might accept, but I'm waiting to hear back. My course changes were approved, so now I'm doing what I want, not what my parents want, and it looks like I got my work placement, so I'll be either working and studying part-time for two years, or working all next year and finishing studies the year after. I'll also be booking a session with the on-campus mental health professional because this has really shown a light on just how messed up my family is.

You know, obviously I'm pretty mad at the parents here. These are scummy parents and scummy brothers, but I'm also pretty pissed off at the university. Because what they're basically saying is, hey, we don't believe you. We will only believe your abusers. So please message your abusers and have them write a letter explaining that they're abusing you. That we're willing to accept. What? Our next Reddit post comes from R-slash relationships. I'm a single father who's 38 with a 17-year-old daughter, and I discovered that she has a large amount of cash, and I'm suspicious. My wife passed away when my daughter was very young. I was still in college, but with the help of my parents, I managed to finish college and graduate school while raising her. I've dated a few times

since the death of my wife, but I haven't been able to maintain a serious relationship due to my career and the responsibilities of raising my daughter. My relationship with my daughter, Sarah, has always been very good. Sarah shared my love of the outdoors, so we used to go hiking, kayaking, and camping together quite often. In the last year or so, she seemed to become interested in other activities at school, so she hasn't spent as much time with me. I'm perfectly okay with that. She's growing up and coming into her own. Financially, we're very secure. I've been fortunate to make a nice living in a career that I enjoy, and the hours are pretty manageable. Despite that, I've tried not to spoil my daughter and make sure she understands the importance of work.

In exchange for an allowance and gas money, she has to complete chores around the house as well as help our elderly neighbor who's 90. She helps the neighbor with things like taking out the trash, getting groceries, etc. She's an A student, participates well in school activities, and used to be a Girl Scout until she was 14. Honestly, I've always been very proud of her. She was out with her friend Saturday to watch a movie. I had a contractor come over to replace a couple of windows in the house while she was out. Now, I've always respected her space, and she knew about this beforehand. I ended up having to move around some of the furniture in her room,

and discovered a small box behind her drawers. Curiosity got the best of me, and I opened it after the contractor was done, and there was about $3,000 cash inside. That was way too much money for her to have. After the discovery, I snooped around her room for a bit and found some expensive brand name clothing in her closet that I've never seen her wear before. Some were a bit too mature for my taste, but that's a discussion for another day. Since then, I've double-checked my accounts to see if she had secretly taken money from my accounts, but no. I never carry much cash on me, so she couldn't have stolen it from me.

I don't think she's selling drugs, because I never found a stash in her room. She's not dating anybody as far as I know, so it couldn't be a boyfriend's money either. I haven't discussed the discovery with her yet, but I intend to do it tonight. Any advice on how I approach this subject with her? $3,000 is a lot of money for her age. And I imagine she's spent more, so we could be talking about 5 to 6K here. I don't want to be too confrontational, and I would like a way to bring up the subject so she feels safe enough to be completely honest with me. I'm so worried.

hoping she isn't caught up in something illegal that could jeopardize her future. Maybe I overlooked some signs. I'm freaking out and looking for help here. O.P. also clarifies that his daughter does not have a part-time job. Then three days later, O.P. posted an update. I had a long talk with my daughter, Sarah, that night. I sat her down and described the circumstances of the discovery. I explained that I was worried because it's a large sum of money, and I didn't want her savings to be stolen. Well, turns out, the elderly neighbor, Anne, has been giving her cash for the better part of a year now. Anne wanted my daughter to have the money to help with college expenses and told Sarah to keep it a secret for me because I've always refused to accept money from her. Sarah also told me that part of the money was her own.

She'd been saving up for my birthday present and didn't want to put it in a savings account because, well, she'd have to ask me and it wouldn't be a surprise anymore. Later in the conversation, I brought up the expensive clothing. Those were throwaways from her friend's mother. Her friend is really tall, so the friend couldn't wear them and gave them to Sarah instead. They needed some slight alteration, so she hasn't worn them yet. I apologize for snooping and explained that as a father, I was obviously concerned for her well-being. I also assured her that we're financially stable, and I put aside enough money for college expenses. I told her to keep an eye out for Anne to make sure that her welfare isn't affected by the money she's paying Sarah. Also, I asked her to write a thank you card to her friend's mom and to include a present for her at Christmas this year.

After the revelation, I wanted to reward Sarah for her saving habit, so I offered a start a checking account for her, and we looked into the online options. Turns out, the bank I use offers a junior checking which I can co-sign for her. It turns into her own personal account at 18. Sarah seemed to reflect well to our talk. She took the opportunity to her. reveal that she had been in a relationship for a couple of months. I've actually met her girlfriend a few times before. They go to the same school, and I just thought that they were good friends, so that was a surprise. So, yeah, she came out of the closet to me. Being a dad, I still verified the clothing story with her friend's mom. Overall, I'm happy it was just me dramatically

overreacting. However, I do feel rather guilty for the minor panic attack I had. As a parent, it's astonishing sometimes how quickly your child grows up. Just another part of the learning process, I guess. This story was unexpectedly wholesome. Sweet dad, sweet daughter, sweet neighbor, even a sweet friend's mom. That was our slash best of redditor updates. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.