rSlash - r/Bestof I'm Marrying a Man I Met on P-Hub

Episode Date: May 4, 2024

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Welcome to r slash best of redditor updates where an adult video star decides to marry one of her fans that she met on The Hub. Our next reddit post comes from r slash marriage. I've been together with my wife for 12 years, married for seven. She's leaving me for someone that she's known for three months. A slight preface, my wife and her brother were very close when young. He got very into alcohol, went to prison for 10 years, went immediately back to drinking, then died in front of her. My wife is 30 and I'm 33. We started going to the gym together. We were loving the results of the fitness. It made passionate hugging even better and we couldn't keep our hands off each other. We felt as happy and as

close as ever. Three weeks after my wife's brother died, this random guy chats up my wife at the gym and she immediately clicks with him. I was wary, but I trusted my wife. She's a sweetheart and I never imagined her having the ability to have an affair. Last weekend, we had one of the most romantic days and evenings that we've had in a while. This week, she decided that she can't go on without finding out why she developed such a quick connection with this random guy. Me and my wife own a house together and three pets. Her family and everyone we know are devastated by

this news and blown away, but she's dead serious. The woman that my wife was last month is basically gone. This is a living nightmare that I just want to wake up from. We did couples counseling three times, but she's completely made up her mind and seems to have rapidly fell out of love with me. My life as I knew it is over. Then a bunch of people asked OP questions, so I'm going to go through some of his answers. I am in daily communication with her parents. We're very close.

They are as heartbroken as I am and praying that she snaps out of it before irreparable damage is done. Unfortunately, that time is very close if it hasn't passed already and they understand that. Then people ask OP if she's been diagnosed with any like mental issues. OP says she hasn't been diagnosed, but her dad is bipolar and her grandpa is also bipolar. Both of their disorders allegedly kicked in when they were 30.

Then people asked if anything physical happened and OP replied, about a month ago he went into where she works, a library, and kissed her. Right after that she snapped out of the fog, realized this is crazy, and told him he needs to keep to himself and that this wasn't okay. Then things went back to normal for like three weeks and then she just snapped right back into it. She swears that that one kiss is the only physical contact they've had though. I'm extremely dubious, but who knows. I was her first everything and she's pretty shy sexually.

Then eight months later OP posted an update. My wife filed for divorce a month after moving out. During this time, I did the whole online dating thing which is way worse than I could have ever expected. I kept myself busy working out, building up my confidence and hanging out with my friends. In general, it was horrible, but I was trying to keep my head up. Mid-December, my wife calls me, crying, asking if she can stay in the guest bedroom because she has nowhere to go. I say yes, even though she hurt me so badly, I did still love her. So apparently, things with the guy at the gym turned very toxic, very fast.

I know the word narcissist gets thrown around a lot these days. This guy though. It's hard to believe these sub-human pieces of trash actually exist. So she stayed in the guest bedroom for a week, then went to stay with her parents for a month. She had a nervous breakdown and was able to get a medical leave of absence from her work. Mid-January comes around and she's back at the house but still in a very frantic and erratic state. It was sort of like she was in withdrawal from hard drugs. I had no idea about the addictive nature of toxic relationships. She's clear to me that she's too messed up in the head to be in a

relationship and it's going to work on herself. I gave her the time and space she requested. She goes all in on learning about the psychology of all this stuff. It was in her child work, how the nervous system reacts and attracts you to toxic people if you grew up in a toxic household. Anxious and avoidant attachment styles. There's this book called How to Stay Married where the wife had an affair and it turns out the root of the issue was her unresolved childhood trauma. So long story short, the same thing happened here.

It hurts, but I can forgive her. She's my best friend and we're insanely compatible in a lot of ways. She's really been returning to herself these past months. She's the happiest I've seen her in a year and last week we both filed the paperwork to dismiss the divorce. We're both in individual counseling, and soon we're going to start couples therapy. I'm sure a lot of people will think that I'm making a mistake in reconciling, but I'm happy. I do trust her now that she has

the knowledge to not let this happen again, and she has the drive to become the best person that she can be. Oh, well, OP, as long as you're happy, I guess all's well that ends well, but I wouldn't exactly consider myself confident in this marriage. Man, grief, bipolar disorder, unresolved childhood issues, if any of those or all those issues cause my wife to cheat, then, I mean, it's out. It's done. It's over.

End of the relationship. There's no coming back from that, man. So, good luck, I guess, OP. Our next Reddit post comes from r slash offmychest. So I'm a 24 year old woman and I started making adult content in 2018. To be honest, it was purely because of my low self-esteem and depression. I just wanted to feel validated, so I started posting there and later moved on to Snapchat too. I was talking and sexting with hundreds of men and I was living for the attention. Honestly, I enjoyed the conversations more than the sexting.

Either way, this only lasted up until mid-2019 when I got too depressed to make content. I stopped answering people and everything died down. I didn't delete anything since it was still making revenue. One day around December 2019, a dude texted me on Snapchat. Unlike the majority of dudes, it wasn't a picture of his thing, it was pictures of his cats. I have a soft spot for animals, so I had to answer. Then I realized that he had texted me months before when I stopped.

I told him that I didn't sext anymore so he could stop texting me, but he said that he didn't care and he just wanted to talk. Apparently he found my page on The Hub and went to shoot a shot on Snapchat. I was very lonely at the time, so I enjoyed the talking. We started talking almost 24-7. He was funny, cute, and kind. Later in 2020, we started dating long distance. I was falling for him so hard.

It's crazy now that I think about it. Up to that point, I hadn't told any of my friends and family about him. I eventually told my family that I was in a long distance relationship. I lied and said that we met on Reddit, and since most of my friends and family don't know a lot about Reddit, they believed it. We eventually met in person at the end of 2021, and I got the confirmation I needed that I was fully in love with him. He was so handsome and so good with my family and friends.

Also, even if you don't believe me, we were both virgins. I was just a horny virgin who wanted attention. We were each other's first time. He had to go back to his country and I realized how crazy attached I was to him. He later proposed mid-2022 and we're getting married in December this year. I still can't believe that I found the one during the worst time of my life. We were both depressed and lonely and desperate for attention and eventually found each other in adult content. Now we're both

better and so happy, but I can't tell anyone our stories so I just thought I'd tell strangers here. Yo, I can't believe it. This dude shot his shot and managed to land a P star who was also a virgin. In the world of horny virgins, that's like winning the lottery. Then 18 months later, OP posted an update. I know some of you were worried about me and his intentions or thought that this might end up bad since we didn't know each other for very long. But I'm here to let you know that I've never been happier in my life and this was truly one of the best decisions

I could have ever made. We got married in December 2022. We had a small but beautiful wedding and he moved to my country. I'm not gonna lie, it was amazing seeing how he was so willing to leave his country behind to be with me. Lots of you warned me that he could be a passport bro trying to get a third world country wife to go back to his country to serve him, but quite the opposite. He left his very comfortable life back home to live with me in my little third world country,

but man we're happy. As of now, we're just enjoying life here, living the best and happiest moments we both could have wished for. I won't lie, I still struggle with things about our pasts, but we work them together and it's never actually affected us. All of this to say, there's hope for everyone. My whole life I thought that I was someone who couldn't be liked by anyone. Because I was always the fugly one in the group and my mental health was hell.

But at the end of the day I can say, it gets so much better. So thanks for everyone who heard my story back then and cheered me on. I really appreciate it. Our next reddit post comes from r slash amirong. I'm a 27 year old guy and I've been engaged to my fiance, Amy, who's 26 for a year. And I was in a relationship with her for five years. We were due to be married this August. Now I'm also friends with Kylie, a 26 year old woman.

We've been friends for a very long time, pretty much since we were babies, and we're almost like siblings at this point, because her mother and my mother were best friends since they were in high school. Anyways, Kylie is part of the same tightly knit friend group as Amy. I always try to ask Kylie what Amy says about me, because I know that women like to discuss their boyfriends with her friend group. Kylie is usually tight lipped, but if she does say something, she always says how Amy loves me a lot and how Amy is so excited about our marriage. Last month, I hung out with Kylie and her boyfriend

at their house. Amy and I usually hang out with them for dinners, but Amy had gone out of town for a couple of days. Anyways, we all got pretty drunk and were laughing a lot, so I was begging Kylie to tell me one bad thing that Amy has told me to her friends. After a lot of pleading, Kylie finally said the one thing Amy had joked about was how she had had better intercourse before and I wasn't the greatest at it, but that she was with me for the complete package because she doesn't care about passionate hugging that much. I was drunk then so I laughed it off, but I felt somewhat stung then. with me for the complete package because she doesn't care about passionate hugging that much.

I was drunk then so I laughed it off, but I felt somewhat stung then. The next day, when I was sober, it really stung. I thought about it, and when Amy came back from her vacation, I asked her about it casually. She initially denied it and said that we always have amazing intercourse and she's always satisfied. I told her it really wouldn't hurt me if she told me the truth and marriage was built on honesty so I asked her again a couple of times. Amy finally admitted that she did in fact say that I was not the best at intercourse

to her friend group but she was just joking about it because I had so many other great qualities that she wanted to highlight. I laughed it off initially but that stung me even more. I couldn't hide my mood the next couple of days. I felt sad and I felt awful. Amy apologized a lot and said that she didn't mean what she said. A couple days later, I told Amy that I could no longer be with her and that what she told her friend group hurt me too much. I told everyone over the next week that I was calling off the wedding. Amy was distraught and tried to convince me multiple times and apologized a lot, but I was too mentally downtrodden. Then the next day OP posted an update.

I understand that I'm insecure. I'm not hiding the fact that I'm insecure. I just wish my fiancee didn't tell her friends about my love life, especially to Kylie. If Amy had only told me and not her friends, I would have still definitely felt hurt, but at least then it would have only been between us. I definitely wouldn't have broken up with her in that situation and we could have tried to improve our love life. I always ask Kylie what Amy thought about me because yeah, I'm insecure and I want to fix my flaws before marriage.

But now I'm too ashamed to face her friends, especially Kylie. Kylie has reached out to me many times, but I'm too embarrassed to even text her now. I understand how my actions have had a lot of unintended cascading effects. I know that Amy is hurting really bad now because she was really excited about our marriage and future. My family is hurting really bad, her family is hurting too. Kylie and Amy are no longer on speaking terms. I heard from one of my friends that Kylie also broke up with her boyfriend, but I'm not sure if that's related to this incident.

I've already asked my company for a transfer to a different state, and I'm going to be moving to a different state in two months. I've not only lost my fiancé, but also my best friend, who I've known my entire life. Yeah, I'm not in the best of places now mentally, but I'll try to start fresh in two months. Yo buddy, you gotta calm down. You gotta take a deep breath. Relax. I agree that what your fiancé said was mean, but you lost your best friend, your fiancé, and you're moving out of state because of one random sentence that your fiance said? You couldn't have just worked through it together? Had your wife build you up in front of the friend group or something? It's mean what

she said, but is it relationship ending? Is it worth blowing up your entire life over? Probably not. Our next Reddit post comes from rslashassistance. A customer bounced a $400 check to my small business and then told me to suck my dick when I called him about it. I can't afford to go to small claims. Please offer advice, I'm desperate. As the title says, a real jerk came into my flower store. He very rudely ordered 12 custom flower bowls be made for him. I made him his order and he picked it up. At the time of the pick up, he was very hesitant to write me the check. He said he wanted to order more and then come back with one big check. I said no,

check now please. He signed his name and tossed it to me. I had to write in the dollar amount. Currently, the check is bouncing. I've been to his bank every day for two weeks to attempt a cashier's check, but he doesn't have the funds in the account. I think he uses this checkbook for this exact reason. The check was number 003 from his checkbook. Does anyone have any advice? I'm crying myself to sleep thinking about this. I can't afford to open a court case.

I don't know what to do. Put up a sign next to my store that says, Joe Blow writes bad checks. Call his employer maybe? Also, through a Google search, I saw that he was awarded $20,000 in paycheck protection loans two years ago. Can I do anything with that? Then OP posted an update. The police just left my greenhouse. They collected the paperwork that I have.

When the officer looked at the name of the guy, he said, Then OP posted an update. The police just left my greenhouse. They collected the paperwork that I have. When the officer looked at the name of the guy, he said, Oh no, please don't drop the charges on this one. I want to see it go through. Then he sat in his squad car for a few minutes and made a bunch of phone calls. I guess that's a good sign? Okay real quick, there's still more story, but if there's any cops out there, I just gotta ask.

What do you think this cop was calling about in his squad car? Would this have been like just routine normal phone calls that he makes after, I don't know, investigating a crime? Or would he have been like, guys, you won't believe this. I finally got a lead on that douchebag Joe Blow. Because that's kind of what it sounds like here. And I'm just kind of curious. Anyways, two days later, OP posted an update.

Thank you to everyone who encouraged me to fight for my money. I filed a police report. The cop came out to my store, and when I handed him the information I had on the guy, he chuckled and said, Oh, this guy. If you want to open a report, that's fine, and he deserves it, but he always comes running when we call him. And sure enough, he showed up an hour after the police had left a message.

He said that I had no right involving the cops and that it was so far out of line that I need to appease him somehow with a discount on more flowers. He then demanded that I call the officer while he was there so he could see me drop the report. I told him our business is done and I stood my ground. It was great. He left and honestly, it felt like it was the first time that he hadn't gotten his way in a long time. Then after people encouraged OP to put up a sign, OP said,

I told the cop that I'd been planning to put a Joe Blowwrights Bad Checks on my street sign. The cop laughed and said even after the guy pays, I should still put that on my sign because it's still true. Made me feel good. So what do you guys think the odds are that that $20,000 in personal paycheck loans or whatever actually went to his employees and didn't just go into Joe Blow's pockets? That was r slash best of redditor updates and if you like this content, be sure to follow