rSlash - r/Bestof My Best Friend's Daughter Keeps Hitting On Me!

Episode Date: March 18, 2026

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My friend's 18-year-old daughter keeps trying it on with me, and I don't know whether to tell him or keep ignoring it. The past year or so, she started messaging me privately on Facebook and Instagram. I never post on either account. I just used them to watch videos of camper vans and woodworking. At first, it was just innocent enough, asking me to look at a friend's car for her and what she should get her dad for his birthday, etc. Then one night, her and her friends were out clubbing and went back to someone's house to party, and it was a bit more than they could deal with.

She saw that I was online on Facebook and message saying that she doesn't dare tell her dad where she is and can I come get them. I said yes and set off, but when I got there, she came out with her friends and said that it was okay now. The people causing trouble had gone. I stayed to talk to her and her friend for 10 minutes to make sure, and then left, but I told her I'll stay up if she changes her mind, ring me. I went home and made a cup of tea, and then she messaged me. It was a revealing picture of her and her friend that I'd just spoken to.

I messaged her back and said I don't appreciate that. She apologized and said she got the wrong person. I ignored it, and then don't hear from her for a couple of weeks, until another Saturday night when she sent another photo and said, This was meant for you. I ignored it, and she replied the next morning saying that it was a drunken dare, and she's sorry. This started a pattern where it seemed like whenever she was drunk, she would send photos, and then the next day she would apologize.

That was until last summer when her parents threw a barbecue. I went upstairs to use the toilet, and when I came out, she was on the landing, and she said that she had closed the baby gate at the bottom of the stairs. so we would hear if someone opened it. I said no and I went to move past her, but she put her hands on the wall and said she's not letting me past. Eventually she did, but she found it funny,

and since then she's ramped up the messages. It's not just when she's drunk, she's offering adult acts for lifts and fixing cars. The other week, she even turned up at my house, and I told her I'm going to speak to her dad. And she said I can't now because it's gone on too long. And she's right. I don't know what to do.

I never reply anymore, but she keeps on sending them, and then if it's about fixing her car, she'll get her dad to ask me so I can't say no. Before anyone suggests, I do not want to sleep with her. I've known her since the day she was born. Some people are criticizing O.P. For not telling the friend about the party that he went to, like to pick her up.

And I really want to defend O.P. here, because if young adults and teenagers have a trusted adult who can come get them out of a scary situation and cannot rat them out to their parents, then that makes the young adult slash teenager more likely to reach out to that trusted adult. But if OP immediately turns around and says, hey, your daughter was in a really scary situation at a party, then the next time she's in a scary situation, she's not likely to reach out, which means she might stay in that scary situation. So for that incident, I don't blame O.P. in the slightest. I think O.P. was very justified there. Then the next day, O.P. posted an update. I rang her dad yesterday and asked if I could see him and his wife.

I got there, and I didn't beat around the bush. I just said that for nearly a year, Emily's been trying it on with me, and sending me inappropriate messages and pictures. And I have screenshots of every messages, but I deleted the pictures. There are plenty of messages from her, though, referencing the pictures. I showed them everything, and her dad stopped reading after a couple of messages. And her mom just said that it's something young women do, and we're both adults, so it's up to us what we do. I said that I didn't want to do anything. I want her to stop harassing me. Her mom just completely brushed it off and said, it's not harassment, it's just a young woman in heat, which made her sound like a dog, and that she was the same at that age. We sat and talked about it for a bit, and I told them why I didn't say anything, and the dad said,

She was never going to give in. She's like her mom. Then they just said that they'll talk to her, but her mom told me to relax and not take it so seriously. My friend walked out to my car with me, and he said that he'll talk to his daughter when she's home, and he's sorry, and now he knows why I've been blowing him off about doing the brakes on her car. I left feeling relieved that they knew, but a bit pissed off with the mom's reaction. Later on last night, my friend messaged me because he wanted to check her phone to see if there was other men. But his wife, he was wife said no because she's 19 and they had no right. Emily did message me to apologize last night, but then she spoke to her mom and the offer is always there if I want it. The way the mom is reacting in this story indicates to me that the mom already knows and she has known for quite a long time. The mom seems to think that the only relevant detail is that the daughter is 19 so she can do whatever she wants. And yeah, that is true technically. Adults can do whatever they want. But the issue isn't age exactly, it's that the things she's trying to do is inappropriate. For one, because O.P. shut it down repeatedly, and for two, because O.P. is effectively her uncle. Our next Reddit post comes from

R. Slash and my overreacting. I'm a 24-year-old woman, and I've been with my fiancé, who's 27, for almost four years. He has a really well-paying job in tech, and I make pretty average money. We've always split things fairly, and I've never asked him for expensive stuff or trips or anything. I've I honestly thought that money was a non-issue for us. I never was interested in him for his money anyways. We genuinely clicked so well, and I loved his personality. We're into the same nerdy things, and his family seemed to really like me. I never thought I would have to worry about our relationship going south until now. A few days ago, my fiance sat me down, and said that he had something he wanted to tell me, and he was smiling like it was good news. He basically told me that his family's

been secretly testing me for the last 11 months to make sure I wasn't a gold digger. He said they were worried I only liked him for his income and wanted proof before we got married. The test was they all made it seem like he was struggling financially and might lose his job. His mom would casually bring up layoffs, his dad talked about how unstable tech is, and slowly it turned into he might actually lose his job, and you guys might have to really downsize. At one point, his mom even told me I should be prepared to financially help him if it came to that. I never wanted to bring up the possibility of a layoff for him because I didn't want to stress him out. I wanted to be prepared to support him if needed, so I started budgeting, saving money, cutting back on random spending,

skipping stuff I wanted, and just generally trying to prepare for the worst. I constantly reassured my fiance, encouraged him, told him we'd be fine, and I didn't care about money, that I just wanted us. But this whole thing was fainter. His job was never in danger. His income never changed. There were no layoffs. His family literally planned this whole thing together. They kept it going for almost a year. Subtle comments made in passing to manipulate me and test me. Apparently, this all started because his older brother went through a really messy divorce. His brother now pays a ton in child support and his ex-wife got a lot of money in the divorce, and his family fully blames her and thinks she was a gold digger. So now they're super

paranoid about any woman who dates one of their sons. The thing is, I've actually met his brother's ex-wife before. She was dropping off the kids at a family night, and she seemed really nice and normal. I never once got gold digger vibes from her, and honestly, it makes me uncomfortable how much they demonize her. My fiancee said his parents finally told him that I passed, and that they felt comfortable with him marrying me now. He said he wanted to tell me because he thought that I'd be relieved to know he actually isn't struggling financially and that it shows how much his family cares about protecting him. Then he tells me that to celebrate, he's upgraded our honeymoon to a nice luxury resort in Hawaii. I mentioned this resort when initially honeymoon planning, but

deemed it too expensive, so I settled for a more modest option. But I feel weird about it. I don't want to be rewarded for being manipulated really well. Like, good job, we tricked you and you were so gullible you believed it. Here's a nicer vacation. I told him I felt manipulated, embarrassed, and honestly humiliated that his whole family was watching my reactions and judging my character behind my back for almost a year. He said I'm looking at it wrong and that I proved I'm not with him for his money and that this should make me feel more secure in our relationship. His family had become my family. That's what makes this even harder. His family is acting like this is totally normal

and that I should be proud of myself. His mom literally said, Most girls wouldn't have handled that so gracefully. I told him I need space and I'm seriously considering calling off the engagement but I honestly don't know what to do. I love him and this is so out of left field. Now everyone is acting like I'm blowing this out of proportion

and being dramatic. Part of me wonders if I am But another part of me feels like my trust is completely broken. Then the next day, Opie posted an update. She starts by saying that she's still living with her fiancé, and things are tense, and that he seems pretty remorseful. Then she says, This morning, I asked him if he knew about it the whole time,

and he told me that his parents started making the comments without his knowledge. And after he overheard a comment they made to me while over at his parents' house, he asked them privately why they said that. And they explained they were testing me. He decided to let them continue just to see what I would do. From past interactions with his parents, I also know that he has a hard time standing up to them or disagreeing with them. So it honestly makes sense that he didn't call them out and just started going along with it. They told him they were offended when I suggested an expensive resort for the honeymoon

and that I made a comment insinuating that his parents would be paying for it. They got it in their head that I just expected them to shoulder the cost of an expensive resort without question, which isn't true. I happily accepted a more modest option when they suggested it because I didn't want to seem pushy or entitled. Plus, typically the groom's family pays for the honeymoon, so I didn't know they were offended by that. Maybe I really did come off as entitled, but that was honestly never my intention. Regardless, I don't think that justifies testing me like this. So my fiancé wasn't the mastermind, but he never stopped them and didn't see why it was wrong or manipulative until I told him how upset I was. A part of me wonders if he was manipulated by his parents to think this was acceptable.

I'm torn between calling it off or having a conversation with him and asking him to go to couples counseling and set serious boundaries with his parents. Then one day later, Opie posted an update. Well, my fiancee found this post. He came to me yesterday with the post and I was super afraid that he would be angry, but he was actually very understanding. He said that reading the comments was super eye-opening for him on just how men messed up this situation was. He feels bad that he ever even tried to spin this in a positive light.

We had a pretty deep conversation, and he came to realize that he had been manipulated very heavily by his parents and family. When his parents justify something, even if it's bad, his brain will immediately try to justify it too, because differing opinions were not allowed in his household growing up. This whole situation has started the realization for him that he grew up in a manipulative and emotionally abusive household. But, he was never given space to realize it because they had an extreme, us versus them mentality. So when an extremely normal and well-intentioned person comes into the family, like me or his brother's ex, they'll do anything they can to invalidate their character

because they're uncomfortable with outsiders. That being said, even though my fiancee was very remorseful and apologetic, I told him I want to call off our wedding and take a break from our relationship. We both have issues we need to work on by ourselves before we can or joining in marriage. I want to figure out who I am without someone to lean on, as painful as that may be. And he needs to seriously evaluate his relationship with his family and how they've affected him. I told him that if in the future we find ourselves emotionally healthy and the timing works out, maybe we can be together again. But for right now, that's not the case. So we need to go our separate ways. That was our slash best of Redditor updates. And if you like this content,

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