rSlash - r/Bestof My Boyfriend is OBSESSED with His Ex

Episode Date: May 18, 2025

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Service fees, exclusions, and terms apply. Instacart. Groceries that over-deliver. Welcome to r slash best of Redditor updates, where OP is plagued by a mysterious buzzing sound. Our next Reddit post comes from r slash rbi which stands for the Reddit Bureau of Investigation which is basically like, please help me investigate this issue Reddit. I'm not going crazy but there's a vibrating in my room that I hear from time to time and it's making me paranoid. Just a quick short vibration

about half a second. It's not my iPhone because when I hear it, I'm actively using my phone and it's not my phone. It's not regular. It doesn't happen in intervals. It's completely random. Sometimes I hear it often. Sometimes days go by. It's too quiet to hear when I'm watching TV. Almost always when there's no other sound. Sometimes it sounds like it's coming from under my bed. Sometimes it sounds like it's coming from the ceiling. I can't for the life of me figure out what it is! I live pretty basic. I have a light mounted on the ceiling, a carbon monoxide detector and an iPhone charger in my room. And that's all the electric things in my room. Could it be coming from inside the drywall?

Plumbing maybe? I'm not crazy, this is a real sound, but it happens so infrequently, I can't pinpoint it at all. Then two years later, OP posted an update. I posted about a strange buzzing in my house over a year ago, and I never was able to figure out what it was.

I hear it so infrequently and irregularly that it was almost impossible to figure out what it was. Every time I'd hear it, I'd immediately stop what I was doing and go real silent, waiting with bated breath. Oh, sorry. I peeked ahead. I know what it is and it's kind of funny. And hoping that it would buzz again.

Almost like a cruel joke, it would only buzz after I gave up waiting and went back to whatever else I was doing. Even up to the last week, I would still hear it. Sometimes multiple times a day. Sometimes weeks would go by without hearing it. I'm pretty sure I figured it out and it's comically stupid what it was. So I was sleeping in the middle of the night, like 3 a.m. and I woke up and I was in a semi-sleep daze,

kinda drifting. The world was quiet and it was a deep silence and I heard the buzz. But for the first time, it almost immediately repeated and it kept repeating in frequency, almost like a rhythm. I was 100% sure that it was my phone ringing on vibrate, so I started groping around the bed to find my phone because the buzzing sounded exactly like my phone buzzing every two seconds for about half a second. Once I found my phone, the buzzing continued, but I couldn't quite place where it was coming

from. This is going to sound crazy, and I'm amazed this is the source, but eventually my alertness and physical movements woke up my dog, and the buzzing immediately ceased with a woof. The buzzing was my stupid German Shepherd's exhales. Like his every exhale, or possibly inhale, I'm not sure, was buzzing exactly like a phone buzz. I'm decently confident that this is the same buzzing that I've been hearing for years.

And it's also the reason that I've been unable to source it because every time I hear it, I get super alert and tense, which immediately wakes up my dog as he's super in tune to my behavior, and then his breath buzzing stops. Then when I relax and give up the search, he goes back to sleep and the situation starts over again. That's when I hear it again, and he again wakes up to see what's got me agitated. I also only ever hear it during moments of calm when I'm lounging, never when I'm active and moving about the house. So this would make sense as it's only ever when my boy's sleeping.

I'm pretty satisfied with this answer and as I haven't heard it since that night, when I do hear it again, I'll be on the lookout to see if it's the dog nose next time as well. What's so funny to me about this is I had a German Shepherd and if you're familiar with that breed, you know that they're super dutiful. They're very much like guard dog type animals. So I'm just imagining OP gets alert and the dog is like, huh, what are we looking for? Let's go find it. I'm ready.

Whatever it is, I'll kill it. Our next Reddit post is from trueoffmychest. So, I'm a 30 year old woman and I've been happily married for a few years now. My husband, who's 31, is honestly a gem. Kind, patient, hilarious, loyal. Basically everything you'd want. Which, after having an ex cheat on me with his best friend, is kind of a big deal. That relationship wrecked me for a while, but I worked hard not to drag the wreckage into something new.

And my husband, thankfully, my husband's never given me reason to question him. Until now, maybe, I don't know. My husband and I have a great relationship, and we're pretty social and often hang out with each other's friends. I get along with almost all of my husband's friend group, and they've honestly made me feel welcome. Except for her. His childhood best friend, Claire.

Claire's always been cold to me. Not outright rude, just subtle enough to make me feel crazy for noticing. You know the kind of vibe? Every time we've been in the same room, she'd manage to talk around me, not to me. I tried, I really did. I've smiled, made conversation, been nothing but warm, even when she's given me nothing to work with. She doesn't show up to group hangouts, but she'll invite my husband over.

And he always tells me to his credit. He never goes over without mentioning it, and he's never weird or secretive about her, but it still rubs me the wrong way. I've tried being friendly, I've tried small talk, hell, I invited her to our birthdays, barbecues, engagement dinner, she bailed on all. She skipped our wedding too, and she only ever seems to reach out to him, usually when she's just been dumped and needs to talk. When I've brought it up, my husband says I'm overthinking it, that Claire is just

a little odd socially, and maybe she is. Then a few weeks ago out of nowhere, she messaged me. She asked me if I would model for her project, totally unexpected, and I was caught off guard enough to say yes. Part of me thought maybe this is her trying to connect. Maybe this was her olive branch. I even felt a little hopeful. God, I was naive. So I agreed. My husband offered to come with me since he hadn't seen her in a while and thought that it would be fun to catch up after. When we got there, her family was also involved. And from the second I walked in, it was like

stepping into some passive aggressive twilight zone. Her mom and sister kept calling my husband our son-in-law. I laughed awkwardly. I think I must have misheard. It only got worse. During the shoot came more of the snarky comments, jokes about the one that got away and some bonds never fade. Her mom at one point literally said, We always thought Claire would end up with him. But life has its detours, I guess. Claire's always imagined walking down the aisle with him. And then, It's sweet for OP to fill in though. Oh come on, I wish I was exaggerating. And Claire, she just kept snapping pictures, smiling, saying nothing. No, hey, cut it out. No awkward laugh.

No redirect. Nothing. My husband, clearly uncomfortable. I watched him fidget through the whole thing. Claire is through it a few times. He tried to change the subject or come nearby me during the shooting. He didn't say much either, just went kind of quiet. I stuck it out for an hour, let her take her photos, smiled, posed, whatever. But the whole time,

I felt like I was part of a social experiment, and everyone else was in on the joke but me. When we got in the car, my husband was silent for a while. Then finally said, silent for a while, then finally said, sorry about all that. That was weird, right? And honestly, I didn't even know what to say because yeah, it was weird. It was borderline disrespectful. And the fact that he was there, saw all of it, clearly felt it too, and still didn't step in or pull the plug, it makes me feel kind of alone in this. I'm just tired, tired of pretending this woman is

harmless or just awkward. She knows exactly what she's doing. I don't want to start a huge fight, but I'm at the point where I don't want her in our lives. Not as a friend, not as a ghost in the corner of our marriage. No more bending over backwards to be the cool wife. I'm not interested in earning points with someone who clearly doesnARLY doesn't want me around." Then the next day, OP posted an update, and really quickly she clarifies that her husband and Claire never dated, and OP doesn't think that her husband has ever cheated on her. I got a message from my sister-in-law, Madeline. I'm really close with Madeline.

She's also part of the wider social circle that Claire floats around in. They're friendly, but not close. She sent me a screen recording from Claire's close friend's story with a simple, What the hell? It was a clip of me posing during the shoot with no music. But in the background, you could clearly hear Claire's sister say, Claire should have been the one to marry him. I lost it!

I waited until my husband got home from work, sat him down, and showed him the video. He watched it once, then again. His whole face changed. He finally looked pissed. I couldn't help but think, why didn't he have the same reaction there? So I laid it all out. I told him everything. Every snide comment, every time Claire made me feel small, how I'd always tried

to be civil, how I never asked him to choose between us, but I was done being polite with someone consistently disrespecting me. I told him, if this doesn't bother you enough to act, we've got a bigger problem. I'm not going to be in a marriage where I have to beg to be defended. I need a partner who stands up for me, and if that's not you, then I need to rethink this." He didn't argue, didn't get defensive, and I know that he feels sorry. Then I showed him the Reddit post. He tried to read every comment.

Some of them made him tear up. When he finished, he looked at me and said that he feels like the worst husband. He let this happen right in front of him. He's so sorry. And he asked me, what do you need from me now? I told him straight up, this isn't just about her anymore. It's about whether or not you're willing to protect this marriage. But I'm not going to feel like I'm second place in my own relationship. So it's either me or her. So we called Claire. She picked up all cheerful, acting like nothing had happened.

We brought up the video. She immediately got defensive. Oh come on, it was just a joke. Are you really mad over that? Seriously? And that's when my husband stepped in. This isn't just about the video, it's the constant disrespect towards my wife. I didn't say anything before because I didn't want to lose your friendship and I convinced myself you didn't mean it. She laughed, literally laughed and said, You know why I held onto this friendship for so long. If you can't respect my wife, you don't respect me."

She laughed, literally laughed and said, Wow, you're really cutting me off over that girl? Oh my god, I was ready to fight. But my husband called me down. He said to Claire, If choosing between you and my wife ever felt like a hard decision, I wouldn't deserve her. We're not kids anymore. You need to grow up.

I simply don't want to be your friend anymore. I have nothing else to say. But yeah, we blocked her and her entire family. Since then, he's been checking in with me. Not trying to fix things, just showing up. Listening, understanding. He finally sees what I've been dealing with. We've still got some healing to do, but now I know where he stands and that changes

everything for me. It sounds to me like OP and her husband are both kind of pushovers. And I'm not trying to be too critical of them here because it sounds like they're finally finding their spine, which is a relief. Sometimes I think that in modern culture, we're so focused on being polite and, you know, not being a bad person that we just let bad people get away with doing whatever they want. Our next reddit post is from r slash relationships. I'm a 22 year old woman and I met my boyfriend who's 24 three years ago through some mutual friends.

He was pretty guarded and I was the one that pursued him. We were long distance. I was living in Oregon, he was living in Washington, until I moved in with him last year. My boyfriend has only had one other relationship and a hookup before me. He stopped talking to the hookup a long time ago because she was crazy, but he kept in touch with his ex until she cut contact with him around two years ago. They dated when he was 15 and it lasted for around two years, and then she dumped him because he had no self-respect. Apparently, she's the reason why my boyfriend is so guarded now.

I'll admit that I was really jealous of her and was glad when she cut contact with him because she's beautiful and my boyfriend talked about her as if she had all of life's answers. This past January, I woke up in the middle of the night and I heard my boyfriend crying quietly. I could tell that he was looking at his phone and I wasn't sure whether or not to say anything since I wasn't sure if he just wanted a private moment or not. After a while, he got up to go to the bathroom, so I took a peek at his phone.

He was on Facebook looking at his ex's profile. She had gotten engaged and there were pictures of the ring and everything. It's been two months now and my boyfriend has been breaking down out of nowhere. I keep asking him to talk to me about it but he won't. I told him to talk to a therapist and he got really insulted and said he doesn't believe in therapy. I am unsure of what to do since this happens at least twice a week. I love him but he's always seemed a bit distant to me and obviously this woman is the reason why. Should I contact her and ask her if she has any insight?

I am starting to think that she must have said something to upset him like this because he didn't seem that bothered when his ex was dating other people. Guys I gotta point out some math here that feels super relevant is OP's boyfriend started dating his ex when they were 15 and they dated for two years, which means they broke up when he was about 17. OP's boyfriend is now 24. That's seven years later. That's a long time to be hung up over a girl you dated in high school.

Then two days later, OP posted an update. These last two days have been really emotional. My boyfriend was gone all day yesterday. He was gone when I woke up. That's fine. I assumed that he went to work early. But he still wasn't home when I went to bed. I texted him once when I woke up to say good morning and twice at night. One asking if he was coming home for dinner and another asking if he was alright. I tried calling his cell but he didn't pick up. I thought that I deserved some answers, so I decided to snoop. Something I've done once before when I was feeling insecure about his relationship with

his ex. Well, on his laptop, hidden in a bunch of subfolders was a document with his ex's name. I read it and I'm assuming that he just saved the last conversation that he had with her right before she cut contact with him. It started out normally but then he asked how her relationship with her now-fiance at the time boyfriend was going. She said that it was good and that she was happy and then it got weird because he said something like, really? Are you sure?

She said yes and that it was a weird question and he said, I don't know, I don't believe that you're that happy. I don't remember everything exactly because my head was spinning, but he basically told her that her boyfriend will never treat her as well as he did, and that they've known each other X number of years and managed to stay friends after their breakup, that they've helped each other grow as people and that she should really give him another chance. He said that he's waited for her all these years and that he loves her and always believed that they would wind up together. He said

this while he was with me. She called him a butthole and told him that he had a lot of balls to say all that to her when she told him a long time ago that they're only ever going to be friends, and that he's an even bigger butthole for doing this while they're both in relationships. She told him to go to hell and to break up with me for my sake because I deserve better. But that's not even the worst part. My boyfriend woke me up this morning by calling my cell and telling me to come to the kitchen. He said that he made breakfast. So I go to the kitchen getting ready for a fight. And he made what honestly looked like an amazing breakfast with a rang box in the middle of the table. He told me to open it and I did. He said something like,

These last three years with you has been an adventure and I hope to keep making new adventures with you. I guess around this time I snap out of whatever haze I'd been in and I exploded. I demanded to know where he was all day yesterday, why he wouldn't contact me, why he's been crying over his ex for the last three months, everything. He got mad at me for being mad. He told me that I should be happy because he was proposing, and wasn't that what I wanted? I asked him why when it's so obvious that he'd rather be with his ex. He told me that she's obviously moved on, so it's time for him to move on too. I've never been so angry in my life.

I've been so incredibly patient with this man, and I've done my best to be understanding of his situation. I've literally given him all that I had. But I'm not going to get married to him just to be his consolation prize. It's so ironic because had he proposed four months earlier, I would have been ecstatic. Now it just broke our relationship. So yeah, I called my dad crying and he's on his way to help me move back in with him and my mom. That's it. I'm a wreck. But I think it's just because everything wrong and twisted in this relationship is hitting me. And it took so long for this to understand. And my ex is just sitting on the couch with his laptop. Then three weeks later, OP posted an update, which is a bit dry,

so I'll just summarize to say that after OP broke up with her boyfriend, he started calling her non-stop. Also, OP's ex messaged a bunch of their mutual friends claiming that OP stole a bunch of stuff when she moved out. Then, two months later, we have this update. First, my ex mailed me the engagement ring that he bought shortly after my last update. I didn't know what to do with it. I wasn't sure if the ring was what he had been claiming that I stole. I also felt weird about mailing it back because

what if he claimed he never got it? So my dad volunteered to personally deliver the ring back to him. I don't know if anything was said when my dad brought it back, and I never asked. Second, I heard from some friends that two weeks ago, my ex bought a ticket and flew to New York City to try to talk to his ex. Somehow he found out the name of the company that she worked for, looked up its location, and waited in front of the building all day. I have no idea what happened, but apparently there aren't any signs of her coming back, so I'm assuming that it didn't go very well.

I can't believe that he did that, and I can't believe that I dated someone that was that crazy for three years. But I suppose it helps every time that I hear something like this, because it reinforces the fact that I did the right thing. That was our slash best of redditor updates, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast, because I put out new reddit podcast episodes every single day.