rSlash - r/Bestof My Boyfriend Tried to Drown Me for Fun

Episode Date: October 25, 2025

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When you're with Amex Platinum, you get access to exclusive dining experiences and an annual travel credit. So the best tapas in town might be in a new town altogether. That's the powerful backing of Amex. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more at Amex.ca. welcome to r slash best of redditor updates where opi's boyfriend tries to drown her in the bathtub our next reddit post comes from r slash relationship advice i'm a 19 year old girl and i've been with my boyfriend who's 23 for over a year

now we come from different countries and religions but we've made it work i have to mention this my boyfriend loves turning everything into a competition we both go to the gym and he's always like who can this better. Even at home, he's always asking who can cook better, clean faster, you name it. A week ago, we were relaxing in the bathtub together. He asked who I thought could hold the other underwater the longest. I found it weird and just brushed it off as one of his usual questions. Just two to three minutes later, he got up as if to get out of the bathtub and suddenly pushed me underwater. He kept me under for what felt like more than 20 seconds. When he finally let go, he started laughing. I'm generally healthy, but I have a heart condition that requires

daily medication to keep my heart rate normal. Without meds, my heart rate can go up to 140 to 150 beats per minute. Even with meds, sudden situations like this can make my heart rate spike to 140 and stay between 110 to 120 for the next few days. He knows this. He brought up what happened today and said he apologized, which he didn't, and that I should get over it. I'm trying. He said he was trying to prove a point that I need to work on myself more. What? It doesn't make sense to me because he's naturally stronger than me no matter how much I work out. I can't defend myself against everything successfully. I can't talk to my sister or mother about it.

They would just ask what I'm doing in a bathtub with a guy in the first place. And I still don't have friends here. It's only him and me. We've talked about it more than once. And he said if I did this to him, he would have found it funny. I don't know if I just need to loosen up more, but I don't understand how holding me underwater for that long was even funny in his head. Then, one month later, O.P. posted an update. I just wanted to let you know that I'm away and safe. I'm currently staying with a woman who used to be one of my neighbors before I moved in with him a few months ago. She's the only person I could think of calling for help, and she didn't hesitate to come right away to help pack some things and leave.

She also encouraged me to call my family. I called my mom two days later. She promised to not tell my siblings or my father. My parents are divorced. I told her everything and she asked how she could help, which was something I wasn't actually expecting. As for my ex, he apologized, said that he meant nothing by what he did and promised he would never do it again. But just three days after leaving him, he tricked me into meeting him through one of his friends. The friend said that he packed the rest of my things and asked her to give them back to me. I went to meet her in a public place, and he was with her. We didn't talk because I left right away before I even made it to the table. I blocked him the day that I left. My neighbor called him and let him know that she has no problem helping me get a restraining order if he ever tries anything. That's all. I'm safe, and I know now that I did the right thing. I'm glad I called her.

I found a place with two roommates that I'll be moving into next week. Although, my friend said that I could stay as long as I want, but she's already done so much for me, and I don't want to feel like I'm taking advantage of her kindness. Originally reading the story, I almost stumbled over the line. He wanted to know who could hold the other person underwater the longest because I assumed he would have said, hold their breath the longest.

Because that's like a more, you know, normal, human, not murderous thing to say. And instead he proceeds to just waterboard O.P. And, you know, okay, let's keep in mind, waterboarding is specifically a used and effective torture method. And the reason why it's so effective, you know, based on my understanding, I never waterboarded or been waterboarded myself, is that it triggers the just inherent innate instinct to not drown, which overrides all logic and reasoning. So even though you know the torturers aren't going to kill you, it just doesn't matter because your brain goes into fight or flight mode and it's torture. So, yeah, I think it's safe to dump the guy who's either torturing you at best or trying to murder you at worst. Our next Reddit posts is from R slash relationships.

I just want to start by saying that I realize I might be totally wrong and insecure in this situation. I just really want another perspective or something because I just can't help the fact that this bothers me and I'm admittedly feeling jealousy. I've been with my boyfriend for six months at this point. He has four siblings, three brothers and one sister, and we're the shortest relationship in the family. Three of his siblings are married and another is in a very long-term relationship. I think the shortest relationship in the bunch is five and a half years, so I'll admit that I'm a bit intimidated and insecure there.

For Christmas this year, my boyfriend's sister-in-law made him a homemade plushy of this little blue baby dinosaur-looking character from his favorite game, Guild Wars. The plushy is amazing quality, and he absolutely loved it. But she didn't make one for any of the other boys who also loved the game just as much, not even her husband. In fact, she went out of her way to give it to him without his other brothers around except for her husband. Her husband was just as excited for her to give his brother the gift as she was. But it felt a little off to me, and I haven't been able to stop thinking about it.

Why would she work so hard on something for my boyfriend and no one else? And it just felt like such a personal gift that I could never match, and I just feel like she totally took away from what I gave him. I did try talking to my boyfriend about it and how I thought that it was weird. He didn't think it was weird at all because she's always been closer to him than the other brothers. Well, shouldn't she be closer to her husband than him? He didn't get one. I don't know. I asked him if he would give it back to her saying he can't accept it. And he refused and said that I'm being ridiculous. I just feel like a woman doesn't make such a personal gift for a guy unless they see them as something more. It was just how I was raised and I hate feeling this way about something like this. I talk to my mom and sister. and they both agreed that it wasn't right, and that this was most likely the beginning of her trying to push me out.

I just can't help but feel like she was trying to make him like her more than me because he said that she's never given him anything before, and this is our first Christmas together. I just don't know what to think. Or if I'm overthinking this completely. Before I get to the update, I want to point out something kind of subtle that surprised me about O.P. psychology. She said that she was feeling intimidated and insecure

because her relationship was the shortest out of all the siblings. But to me, if I started dating a girl and the girl had three other siblings who all had long, long-term relationships like five plus years, that would actually give me security because I would think, okay, this family values long-term committed monogamous relationships. So the fact that she had a negative response to that kind of tells you she's just inherently a really competitive and jealous person who wants to be the best in the friend group, I think.

Then, one month later, Opie posted an update. I went a few weeks without saying anything else about the subject because everyone on here seemed to disagree with my side of things. Then, last Saturday, my boyfriend told me he was going to be spending the day at his brothers just to hang out. We generally make plans on Saturdays, but I hadn't had the chance to make plans official with him yet. I just figured it was implied at this point.

So I asked him if I would be allowed to go over there with him. That's when he told me that it was just going to be a day with him and his brother. So I reminded him that since it was his brother's house, then most likely his wife would be present too. So I didn't really see how that was fair. Ultimately, it blew up and I told him everything. I brought up the gift again and just how I feel intimidated by everyone. And I feel like his sister-in-law is on some pedestal or something because she gets to be there and I don't. Girl, it's literally her house!

I also mentioned how I just felt like I was being pushed out by her and that the gift made me uneasy. He felt frustrated and told me that he was going to his brothers and that he would talk to me later. So I spent all morning Saturday on edge and just completely jealous. Then, around 1 p.m., his sister-in-law called me. I guess he gave her my number and asked me if I was free to meet her for coffee. I was confused, but agreed to have coffee with her.

I expected it to be awkward. At the coffee shop, she wasted no time to tell me that my boyfriend had told her everything. She said she wanted to meet me for coffee because she wanted me to see her face and see that she was genuine in everything she had to say. She went on to explain that she had no feelings for my brother in the way that I was implying to him, and she had no intention of pushing me out. She said that her original plan was to make a plushy for all the boys since they all play the game.

But it took her way too much time to make one, so she wanted to get to get her. give it to her favorite brother-in-law. I questioned, why not her husband? And she said that she lives with him, and he knew that she was making it in the first place. And she could make him one anytime, and just wanted this one to be a surprise Christmas present. I told her, I still kind of thought that it was inappropriate, since he was in a relationship now. And she just paused and didn't say anything for a few seconds. Then she asked me if there was anything else that was bothering me. I used today as an example and said it bothered me that he went over to her house and told me I couldn't come because it was a day with his brother, even though she would obviously

be there. She told me that it's a day with his brother, and just because she lives in the house doesn't change that. She said she kept to herself doing her own things while the boys played video games with each other, and that my boyfriend came to her when she was in the kitchen to talk to her about me briefly. I didn't say anything. I still felt a bit jealous, but I just didn't know what to say. She then asked me if I had anything else I wanted to get out, and I declined. She didn't want to part ways without giving me some advice. She went on to say that she thinks that I'm a very nice girl,

and that the entire family feels that way, and wanted to remind me that all the spouses and significant others were new to the family at one point in time. She went on about how it takes time to feel a closeness with everyone, and that she went through that too. She then said that she didn't want to come across the wrong way, but that I needed to work hard on my insecurities or I'd lose my boyfriend. She just went on and on, saying how I'm so nice and that I'm ruining a good thing by letting

myself overthink these things and by being so insecure. She told me to really think about how I'm acting over his own sister-in-law interacting with him. That's when my stupid brain made me say, well, if you were to get a divorce, then you wouldn't be his sister-in-law. You would just be another woman in his life. That was the moment it finally hit me just how crazy I was being. She gave me this look and said, Well, we aren't getting a divorce, so...

And I just felt completely embarrassed and apologized. She then very nicely told me that on second thought, she thinks I might not be ready for a relationship at all, and that I really need to work on myself. That was pretty much the end of it, and we parted ways. I spent the rest of the weekend crying and hating myself. my boyfriend didn't call me or text me at all. Finally, on Monday, my boyfriend asked me if he could come over. So he came over and asked how it went with the sister-in-law. And I figured he knew everything,

but he said that all she said was that he needed to talk to me. Turns out, he didn't talk to me all weekend because he was angry with how I acted about him going to his brother's house, then bringing up the gift again. And he just needed some space. He told me he wasn't going to put up with this type of behavior and that it's putting way too much unnecessary drama into his life. As I'm sure you're probably guessing, he broke up with me. He told me he really cared about me, but he just can't imagine how bad it'll get in the future if I'm already acting like this with people who are his family. I begged him not to leave and that I would do everything to change and he just wouldn't budge. I haven't hurt from him since, and I feel like I had my heart

ripped out and stomped on it. It hurts so bad. And I know that. I know that. this is all my fault. I have my mom and sister telling me how it's good riddance and how he broke up with me so that he wouldn't have anything holding him back from his sister-in-law, and that just broke me. I'm so done with my family and the way they put these toxic ideas in my head. I'm just done. So yeah, not a happy update. From here, I'm planning on working on myself and hope to someday maybe convince him to give me another chance. So on the surface, this is a crazy story about an extremely, extremely jealous girlfriend. But I think when you look deeper, it's actually an interesting example of someone who's raised in a very healthy family, O.P.'s boyfriend, and someone who's

raised in a very unhealthy family, O.P., and how those two backgrounds can create some very obvious conflicts. Our next Reddit post comes from our slash relationship advice. I'm a 25-year-old woman and I begged for an open relationship. Eight months ago, I asked my partner, a 28-year-old guy, for an open relationship as I got bored with him. Nothing wrong with him, but he just didn't excite me much. He agreed, but he told me that there's a catch. If he catches feelings for a partner, he's going to leave me for her.

And that's exactly what happened, and I want him back in my arms. He left me for his new partner. What can I do to win the love of my life back? Then three days later, O.P. posted an update. I was kicked out of his house last Sunday. That's six days now, and I excruciatingly miss him. I'll do anything to get him to return to me. But he looks happy on social media with his new partner that I'm pretty sure he was cheating on me with.

How's that possible? You were in an open relationship. Anyways, I tried calling him no answer. I saw him in public, and he pretended to not even know who the FI was. He won't acknowledge my existence, so I went to our former place just to talk and things got hostile. His new girlfriend hates me. For some reason, I didn't even know her, and she proceeded to try to attack me. For some reason, I didn't even know her, and she proceeded to try to attack me. Meanwhile, he tried to split us up and get me out the door.

When he had his back turned, she maced me. And now he's trying to file a restraining order on me. WTF did I do wrong. She attacked me and pepper sprayed me. Let's be super clear. O.P. went to the guy's house uninvited, and it sounds like she went inside when he was trying to get her out, so she's lucky she was only maced.

Then one week later, O.P. posted an update. The restraining order has been filed, and I'm not allowed within a hundred feet of my ex and his new girlfriend, Jess. I'm planning on moving back to my home in Arizona and start over. They're happy. I just want to find peace with myself. Thanks for everyone's advice and opinions.

Yes, I was already in therapy, and I'm still in therapy. Then, two years later, OP posted an update. It's been two years. I've tried to stay offline and live my life, but my ex and his now wife find new ways to live in my head rent-free. I wanted an open relationship. So what? You don't just string me along for eight months,

get some new girl who you met through me, and then marry her. This isn't fair. She's living in my home. home with something that should be my husband. And he's been renewing the restraining order ever since it first expired. And I know he's going to keep doing it. Because for reasons beyond my knowledge, the man hates me. F my life. Yo, two years is a long time to calm down, take a deep breath, gain some clarity, reflect on your past actions and be like, you know what, I messed up. We all make mistakes in life. Sometimes they're pretty embarrassing.

I handled that breakup really badly, but, you know, I'm a better person now. Nope, O.P. is still out here blaming him, thinking of herself as the victim. Yeah, and the ex and the ex's new wife hate her for some reason. Big shrug. I've got no idea why. Okay. I didn't catch this detail until someone pointed it out in the comments. The last update was posted in R-slash surviving infidelity. So she considers herself cheated on here.

Now, I know technically it is possible to cheat on your partner in an open relationship. You know, if you set a boundary and then your partner crosses that boundary, then that would qualify as cheating. But the boyfriend straight up said, hey, if I catch feelings, I'm out of here. So that's not cheating. That's just breaking up. I'm also looking through the comments of R slash surviving infidelity. So keep in mind, these people are primed to sympathize with the people posting here because it's kind of like a support type thing. But OP is getting blasted in the comments.

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