rSlash - r/Bestof My Brain Injury Made Me Chaat

Episode Date: October 22, 2025

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Long-Bandie Twizzlers candy keeps the fun going. Welcome to R-slash-Britter updates, where we have a truly bizarre story with some unexpected twists and turns that I can't really summarize in an intro. Our next Reddit post is from R-slash co-worker stories. I'm a 35-year-old man, and I've been married to Lisa, who's 28 for three years, together for seven. A year ago, I fell deeply in love with Amy, who's 24, and I've been planning to end my marriage for her. I know it's terrible and not what my wife deserves, but we were the real thing. Two weeks ago, my affair partner had an allergic reaction when we were getting food after work, but she used her EpiPen and seemed mostly okay afterwards.

She usually gets checked at the hospital after a reaction, but I asked if I could take her home and she could get her friend to drive her there because my wife was expecting me back. All I know is that Amy had a secondary reaction that evening and died. I didn't even find out about it until the following Monday through a work email. It's been eating me up ever since and I'll never forgive myself for not sacrificing an hour of my time to possibly save her. I sent some childish messages to Amy when I didn't hear from her over the weekend because I thought that she was angry that I didn't take her to the hospital. I'm thankful that she never saw them and ashamed that I assumed the worst. Our relationship was great and the highs far outweighed the lows, but I've always hated being ignored and I lose my cool when it happens. It's not a regular occurrence and I would have more than made it up to her.

Yesterday at work, HR and legal were in the CEO's office all day, and my manager ended up canceling our project meeting because he was with them all afternoon. I was on edge, but an affair isn't exactly a corporate crisis, and I thought something would have already happened if anyone knew. I'm now 99% certain that that meeting was about me. A few hours ago, I received a message from Amy's phone, which said, this is Amy's brother, Tom. I want you to to know that it was me, as in Tom was the person who reported O.P. to the company for the affair. I tried to call, but it went straight to voicemail, and none of my messages have been delivered. I tried to call my manager more times than I should have, and he sent a message saying,

Please don't contact me until Monday morning. I can't discuss anything with you right now. So it looks like my universe is going to collapse. I'm going to be fired, and my wife will definitely find out why. do is hope that Amy's brother only showed them the messages from that weekend, and they were bad enough. I have no family except my wife and daughter, and no, oh God, he's got a daughter too, and nowhere to go. All of my friends are either people I've met through my wife or my colleagues. On Monday, everything I've spent over a decade working towards disappears. I can't stop it. I can't talk to anyone about it. So here I am. I know cheaters are the devil, so I'm not expected

sympathy. But this is making my chest hurt, and I need to get it out there. Then one week later, O.P. Posted an update. I was suspended from work on Monday, and I'll probably be fired sooner than I thought. I'd hoped to be able to save money as HR built their case, but it looks like Amy's brother basically performed the entire investigation for them. After an excruciating three-hour run-through of everything they had, I spoke to the founder, and he recommended. amended the solicitor that I'm now using. The issue is that the company has to come down hard to protect themselves. Because even though Amy's family doesn't have much chance of a claim, any suggestion of a cover-up could cause damage regardless. The founder still thinks that my offer

to pay them back will keep it out of court, and some more information has come to light. So it's not certain that I won't be prosecuted, but I'm quite hopeful. Huh? Prosecuted for what? Look, hold on, Okay, O.P. is clearly like a douchebag. He's a cheater, and that sucks. But what? Where are... Is this in the UK, because O.P. called it a solicitor instead of a lawyer? Prosecuted for what? For cheating? Is that a prosecutable offense over there? I can't afford to keep the solicitor if this goes much further, especially with a divorce on the horizon. Things are not good with my wife. I'm still committed to making this as easy as possible for her.

But I had to draw a line when it came to my daughter. When I got home from being unceremoniously escorted out of my office, she already had a backpacked for me. She wouldn't let me wait at the house until my daughter was back. She wouldn't let me check that I had everything I needed. She wouldn't let me take the car, and she didn't care that I had nowhere to go. I spent two nights in a hotel, then went back when she refused to let me see my little girl. She tried to stop me, but we owned the house jointly, and it was my only option. My wife has families she could stay with, but she won't.

leave our daughter here and she's absolutely not taking her, so we're at a stalemate right now. I'm keeping out of her way as best as I can, which I appreciate is the least that I can do. The Amy situation is quite difficult to talk about, and a lot hasn't sunk in yet. It turns out that she didn't love me as much as I loved her, if at all. Her brother sent me images of her talking to her friends about me, and it's hard to believe they came from the person I loved, but they're real. Sorry to those who were heavily invested in me being a predatory abuser, but she and her friends had a good laugh about her manipulating me for money and a promotion. The role came with a big pay raise, and it looks like her plan was to treat it

as free cash. Then go work with one of her friends when it fell through. She knew that I would come under scrutiny whenever she messed up, and assumed that I'd keep stepping in to save her, she was right. Obviously, I'm completely humiliated. I was planning to give up everything to build a life with her. And she was treating me like a joke the whole time. My feelings are complicated, so please don't feel entitled to any expansion on this, but I no longer feel guilt over her death. Reddit acted like I kept her hostage while she was begging for help. What actually happened was that I asked if she could ask her friend to take her to the hospital because I had to go home. said that was fine because she needed to get some clothes back from her anyway, and I dropped her off as normal. Ultimately, she was an adult who had a better understanding of her medical needs than I did. I still don't know what happened between us saying goodbye and her death, but whatever it was, it had nothing to do with me. I'm sorry for her family's loss, but I bear no responsibility for her passing. After Amy's messages to her friends were passed around, a few people

quietly reached out with words of supports. I assumed everyone would write me off like Reddit did, as an abuser and a predator. Now it's clear that Amy was using me. They see me as a fool who had, then lost it all. It's beyond humiliating, but I've learned I'd rather be pitied than despised, and it improves my legal position with work. They're small mercies, but I'll take what I can get. I remain filled with regrets, and I will have learned many lessons. by the time I get through this. I may have been deceived, but I'm a grown man who made my choices, and I'll take full responsibility for them.

Then, 15 minutes later, we have another post, but this is not from OP. It's from a co-worker of OP who followed this story on Reddit. I only joined Reddit quite recently, but I was aware of the post a few weeks after it was made because it was passed around the office and gave us all a ton of information, which made a lot of things suddenly make sense.

We were all extremely invested at the time, and weirdly, the story you all saw set off a series of events which basically led to an entire division of the company quitting. One thing I do need to mention is that O.P. from the original posts has a brain injury he didn't disclose in his posts. I can't speculate too much on that, and I'm not saying it makes his actions forgivable, but it would be crazy to pretend that it's not a factor. He lives independently, but from what I'm aware, his brother helps him a lot. The rest of the update is kind of a Q&A, so I'll read the most interesting questions and answers. Someone asks, what happened to everyone? And this guy says, the wife and daughter are fine. She kept the house

and is in another relationship. Tom cost their family her death benefits, then turned up at one of O.P.'s colleagues' houses, trashed her car and got arrested. Someone asks, had your coworker not gotten the brain injury, do you think he still would have done what he did? And this guy says, I wasn't particularly close to O.P., but the common take is that he wouldn't have given his affair partner the time of day before his injury. She was really unpleasant. By all accounts, he was a really devoted husband and father. He definitely wasn't a saint, but he calmed down a lot when his daughter was born, and he talked about her all the time. Commenters ask more questions about the brain injury, and this guy replies, to be honest, O.P.

seemed sharper in the post than he does in real life. But we're all very aware of his issues, so we maybe treated him with kid gloves more than was necessary. In terms of the affair, I think it's as simple as her showing interest. He was a bit pervy after the accident, not even remotely the case before. He never said anything over the line, but he'd stare a bit, and his facial expressions were sometimes like if a 12-year-old boy walked in on you changing. Some of the messages that came out after the fact painted the picture. Also, this coworker gives a snippet of what the messages that O.P. sent to the mistress were like. Hello? Hello? Why aren't you answering? I know you've seen this. Why are you ignoring me? Are you

mad with me? I should be mad with you. This could be make or break for the company. You're not committed to the company. I always knew you were useless. Everyone thinks it. Are you there? Why aren't you answering me. We're going to lose this client if you don't get back to me today. Hello, hello, are you okay? This co-worker says that basically he was a great guy and he could be really intelligent, but he had issues with regulating himself. People ask about Amy and the coworker says, I'm going to speak ill of the dead. She was horrible. Lazy, judgmental, mean, and arrogant. When she was promoted into project management, she didn't bother learning the core tech, so her decisions were consistently poor, which forced us to go around her all the time to get to

reasonable outcomes. She once told me I would never get a husband, then burst into tears and complained to HR when I asked her where the line of men wanting to put a ring on her finger was. She would pick at the weaker members of the team and was a general bully. I was pretty nasty to her too, so my hands aren't exactly clean, but I had a great relationship with everyone else, so I do thinks she was the problem. The brother sent a lot of messages in, and the company ended up getting the phone and passcode from him. I'm very light on the details on this one, but whatever was on there was damning enough for them to cancel her death and service benefits. The brother sent some threatening messages and managed to find out where the HR head lived. I don't know exactly what he

did to her car, but it was a write-off and he was arrested for it. We got a big email saying that legal action was pending, and that any comps from him needed to be forwarded straight to the dedicated email address. I left while all that was pending, so I never heard a follow-up. But I doubt it went very far, given how sticky the whole situation was.

Also, the co-worker specified that the reason why a lot of people quit is because the company deals in some sort of technology that's good for defense, as in like, you know, guns and missiles and tanks. And there was some management change that guns and missiles and

tanks. And there was some management change that shifted the company way more towards producing technology designed to kill people, and a lot of people quit because of it. Then there's more questions about OP's personality, and the coworker says, his personality definitely changed significantly. He could hold a conversation, and his knowledge level remained extremely high. But he became quite immature and couldn't deal with anything if he wasn't expecting it. He could provide really insightful feedback about something that we were working on. Then, two minutes later, lose his temper or shut down completely because he'd spilled a drink. He had to step back from dealing with clients because he couldn't be trusted. He would just say yes to whatever they asked for, and it led to a few

nasty surprises. It's tough to explain. If you met him on a good day, you could spend a few hours with him and not realize it. But any more than that, and you'd almost certainly go through, oh, that was a bit odd, to, okay, there's definitely something wrong here. To my knowledge, nobody tried to figure out how aware he was of the brain injury. The key phrase drummed into us when he started coming back to the office a bit was meet him where he is. And he was a really well-respected member of the team, so we were all really sympathetic to the situation. I did hear him make a few comments about his brain being broken, but they were fairly lighthearted and mainly centered around him for getting small things.

Yo, this post is wacky. I started off having very little sympathy to O.P. But man, what can you do about a traumatic brain injury? If it removes the part of your brain that lets you, you know, regulate your emotions, then it's, you know, it's having a disability. I'm not forgiving or excusing him for what he did. I'm just saying, uh, the story really got complicated. towards the end. Oh gosh, another detail that I just caught. This is from the original O.P.'s comments. O.P.'s sister-in-law had a stillbirth, and he missed the memorial to be with his affair partner. It's so scary to think that, you know, I love my wife, she loves me, I love my daughter, my daughter loves me. I could get a bump on the head, and my personality could change

because of brain damage, and then my family could just grow to completely hate me, because my brain doesn't work properly anymore. Yo, this story's crazy. That was our slash best of Redditor updates. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.