rSlash - r/Bestof My Ex-GF is a PSYCHO!

Episode Date: September 3, 2024

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I have two small children, ages 4 and 6. After getting divorced, I'm now remarried to a wonderful woman, Donna. My ex will not stop harassing me. I have to communicate with her for the kids. But it's so contentious that the court finally ordered all communication go through an online site. And I had to change my phone number and move. It was that bad. I had my kids this weekend. Things were great and I went and saw my family. No incidents. We had a great time. When the weekend was over, I returned my kids to their mother. Then I got this email. Your children report that they were in a traffic accident with you this weekend in the truck. They both report that the loud, obscene exchange between their father and the towing truck

driver scared them. They both report that they were bitten by a dog during their visit at your folks house this weekend. This is the second dog they've both reported biting them. I have also posted their reports that they've been bitten by a large dog named Betsy at your in-laws house. They have traumatic memories of metal being scraped out of your leg. What?

I hope that you recover and get back to your job quickly. I hope that Donna is okay. They report that you have trouble walking. This is consistent with behavior I've observed at drop off on Sunday night. You didn't get out of your car and it appeared very awkward for you to unbuckle their booster seats from the driver's seat. I need to know about these things, please! Dog bites are notoriously dirty and prone to infections. Just because our children didn't appear to be as seriously injured as you were in the truck accident doesn't mean they couldn't be

stiff and sore and possibly have internal injuries for which I need to be observing. At least I need to understand why they were stiff and sore and acting more fearful than usual when they came home. Their mild to moderate bruising and scrapes and the chunks of skin missing from their hands and fingers are consistent with the reports of the accident and the dog bites. I will take our children to the pediatrician walk-in clinic to rule out any unseen injuries and infections. It would be nice if you would call or email the doctor's office and tell them what you can about the accident and the dog bites. It could help rule out tests and treatment that might not be necessary.

It would also be nice if you would pay your half of their medical expenses, especially because the accident and the dog bites happened when they were with you. Today is your daughter's first day of school. I could have taken them to the doctor two days ago if you had shared that they were bitten and in a traffic accident that was bad enough that required a tow truck for the truck and medical care for you. If you want to drive the kids to Santa Barbara and back in a weekend,

expose them to animals that aren't safe for children, and fight with tow truck drivers in front of them, I cannot prevent that. But what happens to their little growing bodies and the events that are being imprinted on their sweet innocent minds is very much my business. Please share all the information regarding what happened to our children in the truck accident. Please share all the information regarding the bites from the dogs. As a mother, it is very worrisome to hear that my preschooler and my first grader recount the dangerous things that are happening to them. But it is even more worrisome that my co-parent withholds vital information about their health. Our children deserve to know their parents are working together to take care of them. After the email, OP continues his post. I don't even know where to begin. The dog that was at my family's house had no teeth and didn't

bite them. And it couldn't have even if it wanted to. My… my in-laws dog is dead. Also, I was never in a car accident. There was no tow truck. All of this is false. I can't even think of a shred of a real event that could have gotten twisted. This comes on the heels of four days ago, her trying to corner me into signing away 30% of my custody agreement and refusing to let me even look at the details of the paperwork. I am so frazzled by all this that at times I think about signing away my parental rights just to not have the stress, but I don't want my kids thinking that I don't care for them and abandon them.

How do you reason with this level of crazy? In the comments someone asks, why are you so cowed by your ex-wife that her telling you to sign something you don't want to sign causes you stress? It shouldn't be that hard to say no. OP replies, this is a brief snapshot. When it's every day or every other day, it gets stressful. I never know what accusation is going to be lobbed at me next. Also, they divorced two years ago and OP says,

Yeah, I already spent almost all of my savings to get the custody agreement that I have now. Dropping another $20,000 would be tough. To pay for that, I'd have to pick up another job, which would then not allow me to access the custody that I currently want. Anyways, four months later, OP posted an update. Actually, this is not an update. This is a unrelated post from the same account.

I'm in Southern California. I don't know what to do here. I am the non-custodial parents. I have the kids for one week during Christmas break. Due to the high conflict nature of my ex, we've been assigned a co-parenting person to help mediate. On the 30th, we were supposed to exchange the kids back to her care. I showed up 15 minutes early to the drop-off location and we waited one hour and seven

minutes before giving up and leaving. She's been claiming that she was also there waiting for over 35 minutes. After that, I got a slew of messages calling me all sorts of names and claiming that she was also there waiting for over 35 minutes. After that, I got a slew of messages calling me all sorts of names and claiming that she had just showed up but that I had left. She said that we could meet anywhere, just to let her know where. This time, I called her bluff and picked a location two miles from my home and I told her the kids are hungry and tired of waiting. I said that I'm taking them to my house and when

you arrive at the location, text me and let me know and I'll bring them right over. I sent her this location five times in text and twice via email. Four and a half hours later, nothing. I then told her that we could meet at the agreed upon location at 11 the next day for the exchange, just one day later than planned. When I woke up in the morning, she demanded that I drive them one hour farther to a new location because she had a 103 degree fever and couldn't drive. Of course, there was back and forth about her ability to care for kids if she was too sick to drive. Ultimately, she failed to arrive at that location as well at 11am.

At 5pm, I got a doctor's note stating that she only had a cold and was fine to care for the children, which I didn't ask for. I then called her and we had a heated back and forth, but ultimately I relented and told her that I would bring them to a location that she chose. She chose a location that was one hour away from me and only one mile from her house. Before leaving, I sent an email confirming the location and time. What happened next was so frustrating. No response to any text was ever given. Every time I would send a text, I would get back an email. Every single email said the same thing, that she would not leave her house until I

verified my location. I sent her six different responses to her emails telling her where I was. All I would get in response were more messages asking me to confirm my location. I even made a phone call telling her where I was and unfortunately at this point I was in such disbelief that I did yell at her and tell her to get her butt down here. Not my finest hour. One and a half hours later, with our kids having high anxiety and crying that their mom had forgotten them again, we left and drove the hour back home. I am now getting messages accusing me of child abduction. I don't know what to do.

I am not subjecting my kids to this again. I can't bear to watch them look for every car and get excited. I think I see her over and over again for hours while she plays these games. My worry is that the cops are going to come knock down my door when I've done everything I can to make these exchanges work. Is this enough to have my lawyers file an emergency hearing to get primary custody? Then six months later OP posted an update. I'm in the process of a 730 evaluation for primary custody of my kids.

I have two kids, ages 7 and 5, and today was another doozy of an exchange and I'm fearful for the kids. My ex was 53 minutes late to the exchange today. At 424, she sent me a text stating that she was exiting the freeway 2 miles away from the meeting spot. She didn't show up until 29 minutes later which was already 53 minutes late. The exchange went okay, but I knew something was coming. Because if she's ever in the wrong, she has to lash out and blame someone else or invent a scenario where she's the victim. I had to wait all of four minutes. I got a text stating,

I just drove by your car and the backseat was empty. Where are the kids? I said, it wasn't my car. I have two kids. Then, knowing where this was going, I sent a picture of my kids in the car. When did you have time to take that picture? Because I had plenty of time to look at the stoplight and you were alone. It's okay if your wife has them. It's totally legal. It's just weird to hide it. So then I called her. After we exchanged hellos, I asked the kids to say hi. I then asked the kids, where are we kids? At this point, she started saying, hello?

Hello? Is anyone there? I then got a... Okay. All right. Opie, I get it. I'm starting to get frustrated too. I then get a text saying,

Thank you for the phone call, but there was no sound. I responded, I'm turning off my phone now. These accusations are bizarre. I got back, not as bizarre as pretending to pick up our kids. Just tell me who has them. I called again. Immediately she starts going, hello? Hello? I knew for sure that it was a game at that point and I just ended the call. She responded, you can't just keep ending conversations because you don't want to deal with the facts. If this turns into another 49-hour abduction like New Year's, I will definitely file a

report. This is next level insane. I'm terrified for the kids. This is like raising to the level that she needs to be committed. Yo OP, I'm gonna be real with you for a second. Back when you said that you were tempted to just sign over custody and give up, for a second in my head I was thinking that maybe you're the problem here because if you really loved your kids then you wouldn't be willing to let a crazy person have

full custody. But now I'm starting to get it. Like I can kind of see how this would drive someone to the point of that level of frustration. I'm glad you didn't. I definitely wouldn't throw in the towel either but I can understand why you'd be tempted. Anyways, two and a half years later, OP posted an update. This update is really confusing and kinda hard to follow, so I'll just summarize it for you. Basically, just after Christmas, OP was supposed to pick up his kids from their mom's house. However, the ex-wife does the typical misdirect, lie, cheat, steal, gaslight for like three days straight and pretends to be snowed in when really, she's just spending time with her mom. At the end of the update, OP explains that over the past two years, he's spent $12,000

fighting his ex-wife in court. Okay, now onto the 4.5 update. I took all the advice on here to heart and implemented several things right away. I became a gray rock and started documenting my butt off. I consulted my lawyers and they advised several steps. The first of which was a 730 evaluation. This is an evaluation done by a psychologist. That process took a really long time as the evaluator got very sick halfway through.

The whole process took 10 months. At the end, the report essentially read that my ex-wife is volatile and disorganized and that the kid's dad's home would be a more stable home for the children. However, there is hope that mom is starting to improve, so if things are still bad in one year, then it would be appropriate to change custody to dad. That was a tough pill to swallow. Things were not better. It's just the chaos is intermittent.

So I just kept documenting doing my thing. Eventually, I started getting a lot of emails from teachers that Jill in particular was often not bathed, never had her homework done, didn't have school supplies and that she was falling way behind in her studies. We applied for a trial to review custody and asked for primary custody to be swapped to us. That was at the end of 2019 and the trial was set for May 2020. As you can imagine, once COVID hit, everything got delayed. There was a large amount of events in 2020. COVID shut everything down, my wife and I had a child, Rebecca, and my ex started denying

visitation to our kids. Every two weeks, I would drive down and wait in front of the house. No kids would emerge. Sometimes I would have the cops come, not to force anything, but to get the documentation in terms of the case number. This went on for four months before I was able to start getting visitation again. Eventually, the trial was set for the summer of 2021 and went for three days and I had over 500 pages of documentation. Day one was entirely testimony from the co-parenting therapist that we had been seeing for five years.

She testified that my ex was the most difficult client she had ever worked with in her career. That my ex never followed a single agreement in session and that she was a pathological liar. The last day of testimony was my ex, where she was caught lying on the stand and was presented with evidence that she had been secretly taking the children to a medical professional for two years that I had explicitly not agreed to. So starting August 2021, the judge ordered the kids come live with me, that I get primary custody and limiting my ex to four days a month.

It's now been three years. When I first got Jill, she was in fifth grade and had a 26% in math and 40% in English. But for the past three years, she's maintained a 4.0 grade every single year and will be starting high school in honors geometry, honors english and AP biology. My son has also been doing well and just finished his first year of middle school with a 4.0 GPA and is loving his coding and robotics elective. They have new clothes and have learned new skills and responsibilities. My new wife has been crucial in setting up patterns to help with success in school. Their rooms are both immaculate and

they're the ones doing it with very little direction from us. They're happy and finally involved in activities and sports. If anyone is reading this who initially sent me advice, thank you. When you're in the thick of it, it's tough to not feel like it's impossible and that you'll never be able to overcome it. I needed an outside perspective. Man, that was an infuriating read. I was starting to feel my blood boil just reading it. I can't imagine what it would be like to live with this woman and her gaslighting and lies and manipulation and games

every single day. Oh my God, that would have to be exhausting. Also, the craziest thing to me is the psychologist said, Yo, this woman is pretty crazy. She's kinda getting better, but she's still crazy overall. So let's give her another year. Wha-what? How does that make sense? Just give the kids to the dad! Well, man, geez, I'm glad things finally worked out in the end. That was our slash best of Redditor updates. and if you like this content, be sure to follow

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