rSlash - r/Bestof My Kids Spent $600,000 On Parties

Episode Date: February 8, 2023

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24 and 21. A few years ago their mother passed away and left each of them a very large inheritance. Over 300 pounds each evenly distributed among them. So for context, 300,000000 is worth about $371,000. Prior to her passing, she made it clear to them that this money was not to be wasted. It was to be used to pay off debt, use for further education, and to put towards buying a house in the future. My 28 year old son and 24 year old daughter

have completely squandered this money in just a couple of years. My daughter spent it all traveling across the world carefree, staying in nice hotels and eating fancy dinners. I completely understand going on vacation, but to blow all of it on travel against her mother's wishes, bloody shameful. My son is even worse. He has literally spent it all on drugs, alcohol, and escorts over this time. None of it has gone towards self-improvement like their mother wanted, so I continued to hound them over this time and time again until, as expected, it was all wasted.

Once this happened, I decided to cut them both out of my will, because I don't want my hard earned money being squandered so my kids can live a hedonistic lifestyle for a couple of years. I told this to their siblings in confidence so that they would be prepared to deal with the fallout when I eventually pass. One of them, I'm not sure who spilled the beans, and now my other kids have gone out the deep end and proclaimed that I'm dead to them and that they don't have a dad. I don't want to go into a long, bitter feud with my kids, but I'll be damned if I'm dead to them and that they don't have a dad. I don't want to go into a long, bitter feud with my kids, but I'll be damned if I'm going to have my life savings

wasted by them also. Any advice on how to fix this? Okay, $300,000 on travel is pretty nuts, though, that's pretty extravagant. But 300K on drugs and escorts? That must have been a hell of a good time. Then five days later, O.P. posted an update. So I took the advice of the previous thread, which was overwhelmingly to consider setting

up a trust for my two problem kids. Before I even invited the two of them over to talk the issue over, my son called me to apologize for how he was acting. He seemed genuinely ashamed of the things he said and admitted that it was wrong of him to waste his mother savings like that. Anyway, I invited the two of them over to tell them my plans. My son seemed very apologetic, while my daughter was clearly still upset with me. I told them that I would reinstate their inheritance, but since they've demonstrated extremely poor money management

that I'll only do so through a trust, I said that I would talk with a proper lawyer and financial expert on setting them up, and they'd be designed to provide for them and any future kids that they might have for many years after I was gone. I said that them blowing through the money in a few years was simply not an option. My son took the news very well and said that he wouldn't trust himself with that money anyways. I'm not sure what caused such a sudden change of heart in my son, but it seemed genuine. He also offered to go to therapy for his passionate hugging and drug addiction if I helped pay, which I agreed to.

I'll make sure the therapist actually exists, don't worry. My daughter did not take it well. Christ! Far worse than I expected. Here I am willing to give them a second chance, and she just blows up about how it's not fair that it's only them that don't get the money outright. I explained that their siblings had demonstrated that they were responsible with money, and hence, why I would leave it to them outright.

Nope, not good enough for her. She doubled down that spending all of her mother's 300,000 pounds on travel was justified. She had the gall to again call me several extremely upsetting names and accused me of being emotionally abusive. So I told my daughter that since I'm retiring soon, perhaps I should experience the joys of travel also. Perhaps I should spend her inheritance that I've worked for my entire life on travel myself. She stormed out and hasn't contacted me since.

I'm really proud of how my son has taken the news, and I'm extremely disappointed in my daughter. I'm genuinely considering spending her part of the inheritance on travel myself at this point. Okay OP, so with this story, I actually don't really disagree with your kids. They got 300K. If they want to spend that money on travel, then it's their money, so if they want to waste it that way, they can waste it that way.

I mean, I don't agree with it. I don't think it's a wise way to spend 300,000 pounds, but you know, it's their money at the end of the day. Using that same logic though, your money is your money, and if you don't want to give it to your kids because you don't like the way they're going to spend it, then that's 100% your rights. I do actually agree with your kind of final idea that you should have fun because, you know, you've worked hard, you lost your wife, you're alone in life, why not just spend your golden years, you know, traveling worked hard, you lost your wife, you're alone in life, why not just spend your golden years traveling the world, having some fun?

Hell, you could even invite your kids along with you and pay for some extravagant vacation for the 6-EV to go out, have fun, experience the world, I mean why not OP, it's your money you've earned it. Also OP clarified in a comment that he didn't ever own a business. He just worked a normal job but he saved and invested every dollar that he could. So the fact that he and his wife had, let me see, 300,000 pounds times five kids is 1.5 million pounds. So we're just gonna guess that OP made that much as well. So that's 3 million pounds between him and his wife. That's an insane amount of money for people working normal middle-class jobs. So OP, really, you deserve this, you deserve some time off.

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So, we ripped up all the old-click laminate. In the hallways and family room, we found the original 1970s vinyl underneath. We got the tile up in the kitchen and we're left with an absolute mess of thin sets. As a quick aside here, thin set is like the stuff in between the floor and the tile on top of the floor, so it's like mortar that kind of binds it together, I think. So I googled the easiest way to get up thin sets. I found a video on YouTube showing how to use a grinder with a shop-back attachment and diamond grinding wheel. So I tried that, and it worked great, and I was super proud of how well it came out. Here's where the story

goes south. Two days later, my dad came over to check the progress we made. I was showing him the kitchen, explaining the process I used to quickly take the thin set off. My father looked at the floor and asked what was the material on it. I said it's concrete, and he said no, it's not. He grabbed a utility knife and cut a small square of material off the floor where I had ground down the thin set. It was a paper like material that was brittle. He said that it looked to be the paper backing that came with old vinyl sheet flooring. He looked over at the family room, saw the old sheet flooring, and told me that I had to get out of the house and get the materials tested.

So, I packed up the wife and kids and went to my parents' house for the weekend. Oh no! Yesterday, the testing company came out and took samples from all over the house. Today, we received the results, both the vinyl and the family room and the paper that was below the thinset tested positive for asbestos. The paper soft below the thinset tested positive for 15% white crystalline asbestos. The story gets worse! I ground down a spot on Wednesday night and I did a little bit more on Thursday night. We live in South Florida, so we ran the air conditioning overnight, both nights. I then continued to finish the job on Friday because I pulverized the asbestos into a fine

powder and even though I was running the shop vac pulling up the material as I went, I don't have a hepophilter. And I just had a regular collection bag, so therefore, the asbestos through the help of my AC has contaminated my entire home. I expose my family to a toxic cancer-causing element and effectively ruin my home because I didn't know what I was doing. Something so innocent as just wanting to lay floors has turned into an absolute nightmare. I consider myself lucky because if it wasn't for my father, we would have continued to lay the floor and just cleaned up and never had a second thought about it and just lived in it. I asked the Asbestos tester that based on her experience was a

common for homeowner to do exactly what I did and never know about it. She said that probably about 90% of people who do DIY do not test it and don't know they've contaminated their home. She told me that some contractors are even worse because they've done so many homes. They're often working with unskilled labor who don't know or don't care and just rip it up, contaminate the area and leave. Anyways, sorry for the wall of text, but I literally feel sick about what happened.

We have no access to anything in the home. We'll likely have to trash clothes, sheets, basically any fabrics in the home. We're in a position where we can afford to fix the problem, but honestly, it's clearing us out. Let my mistake be a lesson. Be safe. And then OP posted an update. Well, it was bad. As bad as I thought that it would be. I received four quotes for the decontamination and the removal of the rest of the asbestos

containing floors which range from $17,000 all the way up to $38,000. All contractors I spoke with told me essentially the same thing that all poorest material had to be disposed of and that my fiberglass AC ductwork also had to go. The contractor we went with ended up costing us $22,000 for the abatement and another $7,000 for the sealing repairs and refinishing. Then OP writes a long paragraph where he explains that the contractor says that he's never seen someone grind up the asbestos like this and as a result, the air samples are terrible. Then he continues. By the end of it, we lost all of our couches, mattresses, clothing, towels, sheets, pretty

much anything that had fabric on it. This ceilings had to be ripped apart to pull the AC duct work out without contaminating the attic, as well as my air handler, having to be completely disassembled and cleaned. I cannot stress this enough. If you're in an old house

and you're going to be performing your own demo work on anything that could even remotely contain asbestos. Spend $20 on a DIY test kit and wait a week for the results. I cannot stress enough how much of a pain in the butt it is to get rid of asbestos once it's in the air. Man, OP, you'll be lucky if that $30,000 repair bill is the only consequent you face for this action. Man, I don't want to pile on the misery here, but I hope you said that he has kids in

that house. It's very possible that he has doomed his kids to an early death. Do you guys know how asbestos works? Basically you inhale the fibers because they're very very small. And actually they're so tiny that the fibers physically get inside of cells and damage the cells from the inside which turns the cell cancerous. And then once the asbestos particle is in your body it just lives there forever until you die. Our next Reddit post comes from r-slash-true off my chest. My boyfriend is going

to cry and I don't feel bad about it. In fact I'm excited. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over three years now. I don't even bad about it. In fact, I'm excited. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over three years now. I don't even think there are words to describe how I feel about him. My life changed in an unimaginable way when he entered it. There's no one on the planet that could ever make me feel the love that I feel when I look at him. I never thought that I would find someone who treats me this way, or that I even deserve to partner like him.

He never fails to remind me that he thinks about, loves, and adores me. The other day, he made a passing comment that any experience he's ever had is always so much better if my presence is there. So my boyfriend is a huge fan of Legos, like Massive. He always buys smaller sets from Target and builds them in his free time to relax. Anytime we go to the mall, he always wants to walk around the Lego store just to marvel at the big sets. He can afford them, but he's the type to not spend money on himself. Every time we go in, I always catch him staring at the Star Wars Cantina set.

He always talks about how one day maybe he'll muster up the courage to put 400 bucks down and fulfill his dream. But he won't have to do that because I just ordered it off the Legos website. And because I spent more than 150 bucks I get a small Santa set. So my plan is I'm just going to give him the Santa said and then when we're alone, I'm gonna surprise him with the Cantina He's done so much for me this year and I can't imagine not giving this to him So yeah, he's gonna cry, but I'm excited about it. Thanks for listening and then one month later OPP posted an update one small thing to mention before getting into the update is that I ended up going back to the LEGO store and buying the Boba Fett throne room set to match the cantina because I know that he wanted it and well why not. We did our normal gift giving with my family and I ended up putting the throne room under the tree which he lost his mind when he opened it because he's been talking

about that set for a while. After everyone settled down after gift giving and started to eat and watch Christmas movies, I asked him if he could help me do something upstairs quickly. When we got upstairs, I told him that I'd forgotten to put something under the tree. When I pulled the box out from under my bed, he looked confused, but started to unwrap it slowly. When he pulled the paper back and saw the words most Isely Cantina, he stopped moving for a few seconds because I don't think his brain was even fully registering what was in front of him at the time. His eyes started watering slightly. He kept saying things like, no way before he started grinning and tearing all the paper

away. He started hugging me and kept asking why I would spend so much money on him, and I told him it was because I loved him and I wanted him to be happy. He went through a mixture of jumping and excitement, hugging me and crying for a few minutes. He kept talking about his plans to clear out the shelf behind him and put it on display in his work background. He then ended up surprising me by saying that he had also not put something under the tree because he wanted to have it be an intimate moment between the two of us. He went to the closet and was laughing about how he had put it on the top shelf because he

knew that I wouldn't be able to reach it or see it. I'm very short, Loll. When he came out, he was holding a tiny box, and when I opened it, there was a beautiful diamond necklace inside. Which obviously made me cry like a baby. Oh, this is so sweet! Ahhhhh, this is so sweet! The reason why this guy couldn't afford buying Legos is because he was buying amazing gifts for his girlfriend. Oh! Ah! I mean, I don't know what a diamond necklace would cost because the price can range from like thousands of dollars to tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands so we can only guess here.

But I'm very confident that a diamond necklace would cost more than a Lego set. After he put it on me, we shared a nice moment together kissing and hugging. I told him that I purposely saved the points that I got from buying the set so that he could get fifty bucks off his next Lego set. He told me that he wanted to get me a set so that he could get 50 bucks off his next Lego set. He told me that he wanted to get me a set so that he could spend the duration of building his set while I was building a set next to him. So over the weekend we went to the Lego store and despite me saying that I was happy with a smaller set that I would build slowly so I wouldn't finish before him, he insisted

on getting me a big one and bought me the Bowser because he knows that it's one of my favorite characters. We had a great Christmas and having lots of fun and designated building time together. OP, I'm warning you, get out now while you still can. I bought my first Lego set like 6 months ago and with that exaggeration, I've already dropped $1,000 on Lego sets, probably closer to like, 1,500 I think. So, for the sake of your wallet OP, I hope that you hate building LEGOs, because if you enjoy it, you're in trouble. That was our slash best of redditor updates, and if you like this content, be sure to follow

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