rSlash - r/Bestof My Wife Cheated with Multiple Guys and is Pregnant!

Episode Date: December 18, 2022

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Welcome to our slash best of redditor updates, where OP walks in on his wife with another man. Our next reddit post comes from our slash marriage. I had a child when I was 16, and I'm not with her father, and quite honestly, I don't know where he is. He wanted nothing to do with our daughter. When my daughter was six, I met my current husband. He promised that he would love her and treat her like his own, and it seemed like he has. We had more kids together. It was my oldest daughter's 16th birthday last week, and she told me that she wanted her stepdad to adopt her. I thought this was a great idea, because for the past 10 years, he's been acting as her father. He said yes, and there were a lot of happy tears, and my younger kids were happy. It was one of the happiest moments of my life.

That night my husband told me we had to talk. He told me that he did love her, but he didn't feel the same and he felt a bit weird adopting her because he felt like it would be a disservice to her to have a dad who didn't love her like his other kids. He told me that he wanted to talk to her about it and say that she could definitely take his last name if she wanted, but that he couldn't adopt her and that he felt bad about it, but it wouldn't be fair to anyone. He said that he knows that we're a package deal and would always treat her well and like part of the family, but he couldn't be her dad. He told me that he was sorry and that he felt guilty and that he would take care of it and I didn't have to.

My heart never hurt more than in that moment, and I genuinely feel like I failed my daughter. I told him that I did not want him to speak to her about it, and that if he doesn't think of her as his kid, then it's my job as a parent to take care of her. I don't know what to do. Do I ask for a divorce? I felt sick, dizzy, and numb all week. How do I tell my daughter? I don't know what to do.

And please don't tell me that step parents don't have to love their stepkids the same, because my daughter doesn't have a father and considers my husband to be your dad. He's helped raise her and discipline her and share her best and worse moments with her. I've never felt so terribly about something in my life. Please help. I think I want a divorce. Um, yeah, I can't really say I blame OP here. If my partner crushed my daughter, the way that this guy is crushing OP's daughter, I just, I don't know if I could ever look at them the same way. What this guy is doing to this 16 year old girl is like a fundamental rejection of that person that's so core to their being.

I don't, I think we have permanently damaged relationships here. I think the stepdad stepdaughter relationship is permanently damaged and I think the wife husband relationship is permanently damaged too. Then, four days later, OP post in an update. I know a lot of people told me divorce, but I'm gonna try to fix things first. I don't want my oldest to feel like it's all her fault. I don't want her younger siblings to resent her. And I'm scared that he wouldn't want to see her anymore.

We're going to marriage counseling. I'm gonna look for a therapist for my daughter. I let my husband talk to her because I felt like I should give them that, and I trusted that he wouldn't be stupid. They went on a drive together. I don't know what was said exactly, but they're both upset. My daughter stopped calling my husband dad, and now calls him Mike, if she even looks at him at all.

He seems upset by that, but I don't know what to tell him. Isn't this what he wanted? My daughter's been very quiet and tired and I told her to stay home from school for a few days but she didn't want to. My other daughter asked us, why is Hannah calling Daddy Mike? Is he not her daddy anymore?

Does that mean she isn't my sister? I corrected her and my husband looked horrified, but I once again didn't know what to say to him. I've been calling her your sister instead of Hannah when I talk about her and I hope that helps. Once again, thank you. I'm exhausted as a mom and as a wife, but I'm the glue right now, and I'm doing

my best to make the marriage work and to be a good mom. And then OP posted another short update. I see that I made the wrong choice. I'm telling my husband that he had better fix it. I'll start getting my stuff in order and looking for lawyers. Yeah, I kind of had a feeling that's where things were going go eventually because I just don't understand how your partner can betray your daughter so Fundamentally, and then you just go on like move on like nothing happens So I don't know about you But I kind of got whiplash between the second and the third update because on the second update She was like I'm the glue that's holding this family together and then on a third update

She's like I made a mistake. I want a divorce. Well, apparently we have some insight into what happened between post two and post three. Because during that time, OP made a post on another subreddit. And we found out a little bit about what happened with the daughter. One day, my daughter didn't come home. And me and my husband were terrified and it turns out she had been looking for her birth dad. It turns out he overdosed years ago. She was devastated all over again.

My husband hates her calling him Mike, but I'm not sure what to tell him. I think I'm going to ask him to leave for a few weeks so my daughter has time to heal and doesn't have to see him every day. Oh man, that's so bad. This poor girl has lost both of her fathers in like a one week period. She lost her stepdad because her stepdad said, Listen sweetie, I like you, I just don't love you. So go find your real dad or something.

Then she finds out that her biological dad is dead. So she has literally no male figures in her life that she can look up to. Our next reddit post comes from R-slash, just no family. Well, I'm furious. This morning, my 16-year-old grandson showed up on my doorstep with a bag, looking like he just had the stuffing knocked out of him.

He lives two states away and traveled by bus to get here. Why? Because my daughter decided the best way to handle him coming out to her was to toss him out into the cold. I am so angry with her that I don't want to type out things that I'll one day regret. But Jesus, I thought that I raised her better than that. My grandson is currently sleeping in his new bedroom, and I'm at a bit of a loss as to how to proceed from here.

This poor child has just had his entire world turned upside down, but what do I say and do to make things right for him? He doesn't want to go back. My daughter doesn't want him back, and I'm absolutely fine with having him stay with me, but there's a lot that needs doing. More importantly, what channels would I need to go through to make sure that my daughter gets her just desserts? I love her, and I'll likely always love her,

but I raise them all to be accountable for their actions, and nobody hurts my grandbabies. Then, two weeks later, O.P. Posts an update. My grandson is in therapy and has been enrolled at school. He's been placed in my custody while CPS proceeds. My lawyer is handling all necessary paperwork and believes we have absolutely nothing to worry about. Our case worker has echoed this. My daughter is facing criminal charges for her actions. Child abandonment is a very serious crime. Her actions reflect very poorly on her as a whole. Upon realizing that her income was being cut off and that she had committed a fair

number of crimes, she instantly began to plead that she hadn't meant to, and it had been a heat of the moment decision that she regretted. Considering she had already thrown out all of my grandson's clothing and worldly possessions, this defense did not hold up to scrutiny. My grandson is as well as can be expected. He's made friends with my neighbor kids, they're around his age. We've redecorated his room, and he had a good time being allowed to pick out his own furniture and paint. He got a PS4, which has become his escape.

He personally has made the choice to not join a group and I won't force him to do so. We're talking about getting a puppy because he loves dogs, but his mother never allowed him one. We're doing well. Thank you all again for your support when this began. Then, two months later, O.P. Posted an update. My grandson is doing well.

He's made a few friends in the neighborhood and he's bonded with his dog quite nicely. The two are almost inseparable, safe for when he's in school. He's begun meeting with a counselor that offers online sessions. My daughter has been granted a plea deal, which she's accepted to avoid the full extent of what the courts would have otherwise given her. My lawyer told me that this is pretty common because it speeds things along and helps a child get what he needs. The charges against my daughter were dropped in accordance with this deal, and she's been stripped of her parental rights.

Due to much of what came to light during proceedings, a restraining order was granted to keep her away from my grandson until he reaches his majority. We're moving forward with life. Now that court and other proceedings are winding down, I'm once more considering moving. Even with my grandson here, the house is just too big for us, and the weather isn't as kind to my bones as it was when I was younger. My grandson is open to the idea and views it as a fresh start. This situation has allowed me to glean things about my family that I find very useful.

The relatives who sided with my daughter and told her that it was her right to do what she did as a God-fearing woman have been removed from my life. Unfortunately, one of those people is another one of my children. The relatives who took my grandson's side have shown themselves to be the good people that I knew them to be. The wheat has separated itself from the chaff. Our next reddit post comes from our slash relationship advice. My wife and I have been married for three beautiful years. The problem is, she doesn't enjoy my hobbies as much as I do. My wife used to

happily join me on adventures such as camping or fishing. Now, she won't so much as going a simple hike with me. We have a seven year old kid, and ever since we had the kid, these adventures have been a little tough to plan and follow through with, which I understand, but that can be hard on me. I'd like to get out at least once a week to clear the mind, but now that's been reduced to around once a month. She's upset every time I leave to go outside because I'm not helping enough with the kid.

I've told her numerous times they should both come along, but she never agrees to that because she no longer enjoys those types of things. Should I give up on the sites that I love to see and adventures that I can't help but indulge in? I do want to be there for my family, but I can't cut these things out of my life forever, but that's what she expects of me. Then in the comments, people asked OP if his wife ever gets time off without the kid. OP replies, she has girl weekends and girls night out just about every week.

She just doesn't like camping anymore and she definitely doesn't like me camping either. She for sure does most of the hard work with our kid because I have a job and I greatly appreciate her for it. When she goes out with the ladies, I'm there for our child. And if she needs a break, there I am. It's no problem. I just want to camp more as all.

Then one month later, OP posted an update. My wife cheated on me and says that it's not her fault. This past weekend, my kid and I went on a two day camping trip for some father-son bonding time. My wife doesn't like camping herself at all anymore, and doesn't even appreciate our kid and I going. This is a big hobby for me, and I wanted to share it with my son. Usually, we argue a lot about my trips, especially if I request to bring our child, but this

time, she was oddly cooperative about the whole thing, but she still insisted that she wouldn't join us. I was surprised, but didn't question anything, because I was so excited that she was finally allowing us to go, and I didn't want her to change her mind. I thought that we had finally found a common ground, and that the arguments were ending. I was wrong. My son and I had a great trip, and returned back on Monday. We expected to come home to an empty house because my wife should have been at her office

for a few more hours. I walked the kid up to his room because he was exhausted and ready for an app. After I walked into our bedroom to find a naked man in my bed. I recognized him as my wife's coworker whom I've met numerous times at our work functions. At first, I was in disbelief and even wondered if I had the right house. Then, my wife walked out of our bathroom, also naked, and I had no more doubts. I have never been so angry. I yelled at the dude to get out of my house so I could speak to my wife. He grabbed his clothes and left.

Then we started arguing. I never yell at my wife. We always want to keep things civil for our son, but I was so hurt that I was screaming. Then my wife decided to get defensive, saying that it's not her fault that I'm barely around and that I camp so much. Even though I hardly go on trips anymore because she doesn't like it. She said, that's what drove me to do this, yearning neglect to this family. I was in tears at that point. I just don't understand how her cheating could be my fault. When I turned around to leave, my son was standing in the doorway, and I felt terrible for yelling. I quickly consoled him, but my wife snapped at me again,

telling me to get my hands off of him. Now she won't speak to me and says that I can't see my child until I apologize, but apologize for what? She said that we could go in this trip, she planned to cheat and that kills me. It makes me wonder if she has done this before. I'm stuck staying with my parents right now. I don't know what to do. I want to see my son. I'm worried that I really scared my child, and of course I want to apologize to him. Just not my wife.

But I don't know. Maybe it is my fault. Then about one week later, O.P. posted an update. For the past week, I've been working with a lawyer to initiate the process of divorce and gaining full custody of my son with the exception of visitation for now until more is resolved. Things were awkward and tense for the first few days of me being back home, so my wife decided to leave to stay with the guy that I found her naked with. I am disappointed at the example she's setting for our son, but this makes my decision to divorce even more concrete.

Then half a month later O.P. Post another update. My now ex-wife revealed that she's pregnant with a man that she cheated with and no longer wants to see our child. Last week I received several texts from my ex saying that she's pregnant with an unknown man's child. Obviously meaning that she cheated with multiple other people before the one that I found out about. She said that she plans to keep the baby and start a family with her coworker, the one that I found naked. She also mentioned that she wouldn't be

fighting me for the custody of our son. I told her I'd be willing to split custody or at least keep visitation rights for the sake of the kid, but she insisted that she didn't care about that anymore. I'm honestly in awe. I'm shocked that she's given up the family that we had, but I'm most hurt for my son. At the end of the day, she isn't worth wasting any more of my energy on. I've been spending every moment I can with my kid and I'll continue to do so. I'm starting to feel more like myself again and I can't wait to get back into adventures and nature.

Oh my god. Okay, um, so this woman's obviously a train wreck. But outside of that, what I find really confusing is how is the co-worker settling down with this woman? She's cheating on her husband, she's pregnant with some random guy's child, and she abandoned her other child and he's like, yup, this is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. Why don't you move in with me, sweetie? Like how many red flags is this guy ignoring? That was our slash best of redditor updates, and if you liked this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new reddit podcast episodes every single day.

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