rSlash - r/Bestof My Wife is Secretly an OnlyF**s Star

Episode Date: October 9, 2024

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Welcome to r slash best of redditor updates where OP discovers the shocking secret that his wife has been hiding from him Our next reddit post comes from r slash legal advice. My former doctor published a book including anecdotes from my life I saw this doctor for three years for mental health concerns They never diagnosed me citing that they don't believe in diagnosing they believe in treating their patients I switched to another doctor and was diagnosed and I'm doing well. My former doctor published a book which includes anecdotes from our sessions, which I believe to be private. They don't include any information that someone could use to track me down, but my

significant other knew that I saw this doctor in the past and was able to figure out that it was me based on what the doctor wrote. Honestly, I just feel violated. I'm not sure if I can do anything. The book is already published, so it's not like I can ask them to please not include me, right? Is there anything I can do here? I just feel like they should have asked for my consent before publishing or something.

Then one month later, OP posted an update. I called the doctor. She said that I signed something on my very first appointment giving me permission for her to do this. I am upset by that. Even if I did sign it, I spent my first session crying and begging for help so that I wouldn't hurt myself. It was the wrong time for me to be agreeing to anything and frankly, if I'd been in

the right state of mind, I would have never signed it and would have left and found someone new. I just want to wipe my hands of this. My significant other dumped me over something that he learned because my baggage was just too much. I just want to move on with my life. Then three months later OP posted an update. I had to provide a doctor's note for missing a week of work.

My boss looked up that doctor online and keeps telling my coworkers, Be gentle with OP. She's unstable. And OP is delicate. Please be careful with her. My boss has directly told two of them that I missed work because I'm mentally fragile and that I see a doctor for it. I know she meant well,

but I feel so violated. My coworkers shouldn't know that I'm seeing someone for my mental health, but now they do. There's no HR at my place of employment. Is there anything I can do other than just looking for a new job? I haven't had a chance to bring this up with my current doctor, but I will at my next appointment. Then, 8 months after the original post, OP posted an update. I can't go into details for privacy reasons, but I'm definitely hammered and celebrating. Well, my boyfriend, my ex-boyfriend, knew that she was the one that I'd been seeing, so he picked up a copy of her book and started spreading details of my past to our mutual friends after reading it. I ended up having to move to get away from all the drama. The good news is that the

doctor was arrested and charged with an unrelated crime. If she ever practices again after this allegation, I'm gonna be shocked. I'm just happy and wanted to share. Man, that's brutal. Already a victim once, then she goes to someone for help, and the doctor victimizes her too. I sincerely hope that doctor suffers in jail. Our next Reddit post comes from r slash relationship advice. Me and my wife are both in our 30s and we've been together for 17 years. I am the sole provider for my family of six. Me, my partner and four kids. We also have 2 dogs. I work 5 days a week and sometimes work on weekends if we need a little bit more cash. My partner is a stay-at-home

mom and hasn't worked since our oldest was born, by her own choice. I wake up at 5am to take the dogs out, to prepare the kids lunches and snacks, ensure all school essentials such as bags are at the front door and then head to work in a physically demanding job. My wife picks up the kids from school and daycare at 7. They stay that late due to after school activities. I come home at 7 and most nights I make dinner. I help with homework, I give my wife time off for the little ones, I do dishes, take the dogs out for a longer walk again, put the little ones to

bed, and if the house is a mess, I will, of course, clean it. I pay for everything, mortgage, bills, insurance, groceries, clothes, toys, technology, after school activities, dates, and a woman to deep clean the house once a month. My partner wants to go on a two week long vacation with her friends, which will overlap with the weekend away that I had planned with my brother, whom I rarely get to see because we live so far away. She wants me to cancel MY trip because she's tired and needs a break. We got into an argument over this, in which unkind things were said on both sides,

but I'm unwilling to budge on this. How do I get through to her that I need some rest? In the comments, OP adds some clarifying details. My children are between 16 and 6. My wife doesn't take them to their clubs or activities. My kids are of course able to eat breakfast at home, but they often enjoy eating with their friends before school starts at 8. My wife doesn't walk the dogs because she doesn't like to and frankly, they don't like her.

I enjoy my time walking the dogs because it allows me some time to think. And as for the people asking what my wife does all day, honestly, she's not isolated. She often tells me of things that she does with her friends, sister, mother, etc. She goes to the gym, she has hobbies such as embroidery, knitting, and jewelry design. She changes what she likes to do, saying that it keeps things fresh. Housework wise, she does the laundry, she'll feed and water the dogs and do enrichment with them. You all have given me a lot to think about. Then three weeks later, OP posted an update. So, as one of you suggested, I took a day

off work. I genuinely wasn't feeling that great either, but I intended to speak to my wife about the situation while the kids were at school. The kids all left for school by 7am. My wife came downstairs at 11.45 and seemed very shocked to see me. She asked what I was doing at home and I explained that I took a sick day because I wasn't feeling well. The first words out of her mouth were, But we need the money.

You don't look that bad. I made a face and she quickly asked what was wrong and asked if she could get me anything. I asked for a water and we sat on the couch, but soon her phone rang and she went off to the kitchen to talk. She came back a while later and asked if I wanted to get something to eat and I said that we could make something from the kitchen. She said that she wanted to go out and I said that we could order takeout but I wasn't in the mood to go out. The dogs had been sitting by the pantry waiting for their lunchtime enrichment for 10 minutes now and I asked if she was going to feed them. She flopped down onto the couch and asked me to do it.

I said no so she asked again and I said no again. She glared at me but eventually got up and gave it to the dogs. She asked me to take her out again several times and I kept saying no. I was starting to get a migraine which I told her but she kept asking, suggesting we could go shopping, that she could get her nails done and we could enjoy the day together. I refused and said that we had something to talk about and she said that we would then went upstairs. She came back down 40 minutes later all dressed up and said if I wasn't going to take her

out she'd go herself. I tried to get her to sit down so we could talk but she blew me a kiss at the door and rushed outside without even locking it. While she was out, I took some of your advice and cancelled the cleaning lady we have. My wife returned home at 8 PM, Jesus that's like being out for 8 hours, and immediately asked where dinner was. I told her the kids and I had already ate. She asked where her dinner was and I told her she'd have to make something for herself. She said she'd just order something and I told her no. This gave her pause and she looked at me as if I just told her that she had to starve. She said that she couldn't cook and I told her that I know she's perfectly capable of making something. We have plenty of food in the house.

It's not like she has to be Gordon Ramsay to stick a tin of soup or something on the stove. She left again and returned 30 minutes later with McDonald's just for herself, which of course set off the younger kids. Yes, they'd already eaten, but she walked in the door finishing her burger and drank with an empty bag and McFlurry tub. Our youngest asked why she didn't bring her any ice cream and my wife said, Daddy said that I wasn't allowed to.

I did not say this. And I swear it took more strength than I'd like to admit not to yell at her in front of our daughter. When the kids were in bed, I asked her to sit and talk about the situation regarding our trips. She asked me if I had rescheduled with my brother and I firmly told her that no, I wouldn't be. I tried to have a conversation. I explained that I felt our duties were incredibly uneven and that I'd like for her to take on more responsibilities with the kids and the house. She argued that she does enough and I asked her to make a list. She

wrote down laundry, feeding the dogs, making doctor's appointments and grocery shopping. I brought my own list and by the way, I make the dog meals, she simply has to give it to them. I also fold and distribute the laundry. And I'm the one who takes the kids to doctor's appointments and as for groceries, they're ordered through an app on her phone, delivered to the house and I put them away. She then got up and I asked what she was doing and she said she was going upstairs. I didn't argue. I didn't want it to turn into an argument and wake the kids up. She was visibly shaking with anger. A while later I went upstairs as well. She was on the phone to someone and when I entered the room she demanded I leave and go sleep on the couch.

I refused and climbed into bed. She hung up the phone and demanded again that I sleep on the couch and again I refused. She grabbed me and physically tried to drag me out. This resulted in a fight and I ended up sleeping on the couch because she was going to wake up the kids again. The following days were much of the same. I've stopped folding and putting away her laundry. I do it for myself and the younger kids, and my two oldest take their piles and put them

away themselves. I still cook for the kids, but I've told my wife that she has to make her own meals. Petty, I know. I think my eldest heard us arguing because he asked if he could take the dogs out for a couple of walks with his friends during the week. Thursday night, my wife asked if we could have a drink because I had to leave on Friday to see my brother. I had one drink, but honestly it went right to my head and I just wanted to sleep.

She kept trying to initiate, but I wasn't in the mood. I woke up Friday morning, and my wife was gone. So was her suitcase. I've texted and called, but there's been no answer, other than a text telling me that we'd talk about it when she's back. She ignored me and went on her trip regardless, and I'm furious. Yo, hold on, you guys think she drugged OP? Falling asleep after just one drink?

Alright, that's a little suspicious. I left her some cash in the bank account that she has a card to, but I removed everything else into my own account. I had to call my brother and explain why I wouldn't be coming to see him, and he arrived here on Saturday with my nephew and two nieces. The house is very full, but honestly it feels more open than it has in a long, long time. The kids seem more relaxed and so do the dogs. I don't know what will happen with my wife, but I am done. I can't afford a lawyer right

now and unfortunately I don't know anyone who could give me a deal or do me a favor, but this marriage is over. It should have been over a long time ago. In the comments, there are a couple of people trying to defend OP's wife, and OP clarifies that he hasn't seen his brother since before the pandemic, so it's been like, I don't know, 4 years at this point. Meanwhile, his wife gets to visit her mom, her friends, her sister almost every single day. Then 6 hours later OP posted an update.

I know a lot of you have suggested that I message her telling her that I'm going to divorce her, but I think that I'm going to play it cool and act like I've accepted her decision so she's not on guard. I know that she said something to my son, but he won't tell me what it is and I feel like if I push him, he might not ever tell me. I'm not a lightweight. I can drink, but I've been exhausted and I mean very exhausted for some time now. And I think that maybe that's why I passed out after having one drink. But I'd be lying to myself and to you if I said that I wasn't suspicious about that.

I'm suspicious about a lot now. Then OP has a long paragraph where he basically talks about how he's thinking about getting DNA tests for his kids, but he's not sure. My brother has read my posts and he spent the last days telling me everything he hates about my wife. Obviously not in front of the kids. He's pretty funny and I feel like I haven't been able to laugh like this in a long time. Writing this update has opened my eyes further. I see how the timing of me wanting her to go back to work almost always ends up with her pregnant.

But when this happens years apart and you're concentrating on supporting your family and your brain sometimes pushes these thoughts away until something triggers them again and boom! You're slapped in the face with the realization that your entire relationship is potentially built on a mountain of lies. She has her phone and her iPad with her right now so I can't check any of that. But I am going to be going through her stuff. Is this an invasion of privacy? Likely. Do I care right now? No. I feel like I've wasted the majority of my life, the good years, and that feels horrible

to say when I have four kids. I promise I don't mean that my kids are a waste. Then a month and a half later OP posted an update. It's taken me a long time to update because as most of you already predicted, some of my kids aren't mine. My oldest son is mine. My three daughters are not. I found out not long after my first update, and while I thought that I could handle the

news, clearly my body couldn't and I had a heart attack. Thankfully, my brother was with me and called an ambulance. I'm recovering, but Jesus Christ, it scared me and my family. As some of you may remember, when my ex left for vacation, I took the majority of the money out of the account that she had access to, but I left some because I didn't want to leave her stranded. That money of about 500 or so was gone in a few days. She used her own money that she's been making from OnlyFans to fund her trip. Yes, I'm serious, she has an OnlyFans to fund her trip. Yes, I'm serious.

She has an OnlyFans account. My son had offered to take the dogs out for me and walked in on his mother making content. In the living room. She told me that I wasn't making enough money for the family to survive and that she had to do OnlyFans to support us. She told him that I was ashamed and embarrassed and that I would be very unhappy and hurt if he mentioned it. She told him that doing so could ruin our marriage and could lead us to divorce. My in-laws know everything, as my brother

had to call them to help watch the kids while I was in the hospital. My father-in-law is furious and my mother-in-law is just devastated. She keeps apologizing to me like she's the one who betrayed me. My ex moved out. She tried to make me leave so she could stay in the house with the kids, but after a conversation with her father, she's renting a place. My oldest daughter and my son know that the girls aren't mine. My ex told them that after they said they didn't want to go live with her at her new place. aren't mine. My ex told them that after they said they didn't want to go live with her at her new

place. My mother-in-law was with them at the time and, according to my daughter, began screaming at my wife for her behavior. My youngest two don't know it yet, but they will. This isn't something that I can keep from them forever. They already know that something is up. I've cut my hours back at work and I've been able to work from home. It's obviously a desk job for now, but I'm thankful to my boss for working with me on

this. I came home to find out that my mother-in-law and one of my sister-in-laws had cleared out my wife's hobby space and made it an office slashed in for me. I am very grateful for their support during this. I know it can't be easy to take the side of your daughter and your sister's ex-partner during a breakup, but I appreciate them. While things aren't great by any stretch of the imagination, I feel strange.

Things seem calmer without my ex in the house. There seems to be more laughter about the place. Even the dogs appear to be more at ease. But I am so, so angry. Which obviously isn't good for my heart, but I've wasted a huge chunk of my life raising kids that aren't mine in a marriage that was screwed from the beginning. Now please, don't take what I said as me saying that I regret my girls. I don't at all. They're smart, beautiful, cheeky little weirdos that I love with all my heart. But the

betrayal stings. The fact that I've been all my heart. But the betrayal stings. The fact that I've been working my butt off for years and she's been making thousands on OnlyFans and been keeping it to herself stings. I'm ashamed, humiliated, embarrassed, angry, relieved. It's a mess of emotions in my head. But I know that I'll get through it. Hopefully. I need to for my kids and my dogs.

Ugh, that was a brutal read. It just got worse and worse. Not only did this woman ruin OP's life, but she also ruined her kids' life. That was r slash best of redditor updates, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.