rSlash - r/Bestof OOPS! My Boss Accidentally Got Me Preggers

Episode Date: July 11, 2025

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My girlfriend and I were together for seven years. She passed away two years ago. She lived with me for five of the seven years that we were together. I bought my home one year into our relationship. I was the only one on the mortgage, and now I own the home. I came into full ownership of the home after my girlfriend passed, meaning I completely paid off the mortgage.

My name is also the only one on all the bills. My girlfriend did not pay rent. My girlfriend's mother has contacted me and informed me that she intends to sue me for equity in the home, claiming that she has proof that my girlfriend invested in the home and that she paid to have renovations done on the house. We did renovate one of the bathrooms and a bedroom, but I paid all the costs related to that. My ex-girlfriend's mom did this via her family attorney, who I looked up and I don't believe

works in this type of law. He appears to do wills and estate planning. She's saying that I owe my girlfriend's estate $100,000. I have no idea where she could have even come up with this number. For what it's worth, my girlfriend's mother has never liked me and been particularly vicious towards me, including an accusation that I was responsible for my girlfriend's death. She died of natural causes. I haven't spoken to her since this outburst, which was shortly after my girlfriend's funeral. Her

mother was the executor of my girlfriend's estate. My girlfriend's family, including her father and siblings, have always supported me and have denounced her. Basically, I'm wondering if I need to actually worry about this and what questions I need to ask when I meet with an attorney on Monday. My name is on everything and I can't even find any receipts or anything that even has her name on it. The letter coming from an actual attorney does have me spooked a bit. I received the notice yesterday. Then four days later, OP posted an update. I ended up meeting with three different lawyers, two free consultations and one paid.

I went with all the documentation I had and all three of them pretty much told me the same thing. Unless they had something I didn't, they didn't see a case where her mother had any sort of claim to try to get anything from me. We even went over cash app and Venmo transfers, and while she did send me money through those, the money I sent to my girlfriend was more than what she sent me. The attorney that I paid for the consultation for offered to write a legal response to the

letter on my behalf at no additional cost, but with the understanding that should she move forward with a lawsuit, that I would have to begin making payments towards their service if I wanted to use them. I agreed to that. They allowed me to read their response and broke down the legal terms for me that I didn't understand before sending it. I agreed and they sent it. This was yesterday morning. Earlier this afternoon, I got a phone call from my attorney's office stating they'd received a response. The attorney then got on the phone with me personally to let me know that the response they received from the mom's attorney

said that they would not pursue any further and consider this matter closed. Yeah, that's kind of what I figured. I think the mom just tried to convince the family friend to write a lawyer to essentially intimidate OP into paying up, probably not the full 100k, but just, oh, I'm scared, please don't sue me, here's 10k to make it go away, and you know, that's a free 10,000 bucks. Our next Reddit post comes from r slash ask a manager. I went back to university in my late 20s to do my PhD, and I shared an office with a few other students for many years.

One of the students, Jacob, completed his thesis and was moving back to his home country, so we all went out for congratulatory-slash-farewell drinks. One thing led to another and Jacob and I spent the night together. A few weeks later I realized I was pregnant and I had no way to contact Jacob. His university email and mobile number had been deactivated since he'd left the university and the country. I didn't need anything from him and was fine to raise the child alone, but I thought that he had a right to know. I googled him a few times over the years but never found him. This last week, our department had emailed everyone to introduce and welcome our new manager, Jacob. With a photo and a blurb about his education and work history, so I know for sure it's

him. The night we spent together changed my life because it made me a parent. So I've thought about Jacob from time to time when my daughter asks about her dad, or I notice a genetic trait that she didn't get from me. However, I doubt Jacob has given that night a second thought. I have no idea whether he'll have any concerns about being my manager given our history, or whether I'm making a bigger deal of this than I should. For what it's worth, in my years of sharing an office with Jacob, he seemed easygoing and practical.

It's common for everyone in the department to reply all to these introduction emails and introduce themselves, welcome the newcomer aboard, and explain how their role will interact with theirs. I'm not sure if my email should note that Jacob and I studied together years ago as a way to get that out in the open, or maybe I should email him individually and offer to have a discussion about keeping our history out of the workplace if he thinks it's needed. I'd appreciate any suggestions for language that indicates I'm not concerned and will be completely professional. Then OP posted in an edit. For the commenters who are curious, understandably, I really did try to find them when I first found out that I was pregnant.

I asked the other people we shared an office with, but no one had any information. We were students who shared an office and sometimes went to the university bar together. We never spent any time together outside a university. I asked Jacob's thesis supervisor, but it was Christmas slash Australian summer here, so he was on leave for two months. When he got back, he gave me the address on Jacob's file, which was, of course, the Australian address that he didn't live at anymore. The university had a next-of-kin Australian contact number on file for his aunt, but no one ever answered it when I rang. Jacob is Chinese, with a very common surname. And Jacob is just the name

he used in my country. I don't know his actual given name. So attempts to find the correct Mr. Wong in a country where they don't use Google or Facebook went nowhere. I searched for recent publications about Jacob's thesis topic and found a paper with Jacob Wong as one of the authors. I contacted the corresponding author and asked for Jacob's email, but they never responded. By this point, I had to give up because I was so sick with hyperamesis gravidarium that I needed to focus on my baby's health.

This condition is... is this morning sickness? It's extreme vomiting during pregnancy. No, it is more severe than morning sickness. So it's like super morning sickness. Then eight months later, OP posted an update. You guys were right, it was a really big deal. I was viewing the Jacob as my manager problem from his perspective. Until I told him otherwise it was just a simple one-night stand over a decade ago and it didn't seem like a huge problem. I hated and appreciated the reality check. A lot

happened in a short space of time. Thankfully, I already had a therapist. First, I spoke to my union rep who said, Say nothing, but call us if HR tries to set up a meeting with you. Me staying silent and having Jacob independently declare the prior relationship when he arrived would have been problematic because I'd still end up in the same position and I would have lied by omission. Our HR team can be gossipy and they know the age of my half-Chinese daughter, so I needed to have as much control as possible over the disclosure. I spoke to an employment

lawyer who reviewed our policies and at his suggestion, I wrote an email to HR declaring a prior relationship with Jacob. And then I was immediately pushed out. Even if you have all the legal support in the world, you can't prevent someone from doing something illegal. You just have recourse afterwards. In a meeting with my lawyer, the union rep, HR, and a member of the senior management team, I was asked to resign. When I said no, they insisted on a statutory declaration about the relationship with Jacob

stating what happened, when it happened, how many times it happened, and who initiated it. I also said no to that. We ended the meeting with each side agreeing to think about possible solutions. The company's solution was to start messing with my pay, my benefits, my swipe card access to my office, my computer login, and my email and calendar account. They spread rumors about me, and I heard coworkers whispering that I'd had an affair with a manager.

They sent me for a random drug test at a time when I was scheduled for an important meeting with clients. They canceled accommodation that had been booked for upcoming travel, which I only found out about because I was getting paranoid and called the hotel. I can't describe how awful it feels to know that someone with this kind of power over your job is devoting their time and energy to thinking over ways to screw you. Every day I was going into work wondering what was waiting for me and it was wearing me down fast.

The advice from the union rep was to go back over the events and follow their first piece of advice, or just keep documenting everything as we prepared to take legal action. The lawyer estimated that it would take at least a year to get any kind of resolution and I didn't even want the job anymore. By this point I wasn't sleeping much and I had cried a few times at work. I was beginning to crack and we were only just getting started. So I resigned. I wish I had held up better under the pressure, but it was all just too much with the looming

deadline of Jacob's start date at our office, and whatever way HR was going to drag him into this. I'm lucky that I can take my time looking for a new job, so I have some space to process everything. Outside of the work stuff, I spoke with a family lawyer who outlined all the possible ways the situation could go and what the most likely outcomes were. Basically, my daughter is old enough that what she wants would get heavily weighed by a court if it came to that. I've spoken to my daughter many times about her father. I told her what I knew about him and that I tried to contact him.

I've offered for her to see a therapist if she ever wanted to talk about it with someone who wasn't me, and she's always said, thanks but no thanks. The family lawyer helped me write a letter, which I left for Jacob. I told him about his daughter, said that I wasn't trying to get anything from him, and I gave him the contact details of my lawyer. After a few weeks of me freaking out that HR had somehow intercepted the letter, Jacob emailed my lawyer. He was the easygoing, practical Jacob I remembered. He was still processing it, but said that he wasn't going to take any legal steps. He offered us his family medical history.

He apologized if I resigned because of him, and he said that he would like to meet our daughter if she's interested. Turns out she also has some half-siblings on her dad's side. I told my daughter all this, and she said she's happy that she has her father's contact info, but doesn't want to meet him right now. She's of the view that having him in our lives would cause unwanted disruption, and she doesn't even know about the work mess. Then, one year after

that, OP posted an update. My daughter changed her mind and has been in contact with Jacob. It's still a bit awkward between them, but they do have some hobbies in common, which they bonded over. My daughter also seems very excited to have some siblings who adore their cool new big sister. I know some people were wondering why my old company reacted the way they did. For reasons I can't go into, my work gets scrutinized by outside authorities, and my manager's role is primarily a quality control one. Any suggestion that my manager had not checked my work impartially enough due to a personal relationship could have

been career ending for both of us. Well, I suppose all's well that ends well. It does kinda suck that OP got harassed and fired, but I guess there's not much you can do about it, especially if OP isn't gonna sue for some reason. That was our slash best of Redditor updates, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.